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The house is falling
This is new… this evening my FIL was extremely distraught that the house was going to fall. He was so insistent there was something wrong with the house. No matter what we said he was sure. We told him we had an inspection and it’s a good solid house. He said that was a long time ago but there was something wrong now. He…
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No place like home
My MIL has been in the same AL/MC since January. We know it is the safest place for her, and she is well taken care of for both the ALZ and other health issues. The problem is that she keeps insisting on going home, and when we tell her she is home she gets frustrated and upset. She doesn't believe that she's been in the…
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SIL argues and resists everything
Moved SIL into AL last Wednesday. Saturday she was admitted to hospital for COVID. Discharged today. Took her to AL and gave her her evening meds plus the new antibiotic for bronchitis. She refused to take any pills, saying that she took them already. I am looking at the discharge papers which are clear about what to take…
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Time sensitive need replies ASAP how much do I tell my 85-year-old mom
My 85-year-old mom lives with me and my husband and has been making our lives hell particularly for me. Things came to a head yesterday Sunday when she started her hostility upon waking which was unusual. With her psychiatrist advice I took her to a mental health facility. They suspected a uti and i worried that they would…
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Need help for living arrangements for parents
Hi, I am looking for help on finding alternate living arrangements for my elderly parents. My mother has late-stage Alzheimer's. My father's health has declined in recent years, but he hasn't wanted to move her to a facility because he promised her that he wouldn't do that. It has become too overwhelming for him, and he is…
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How can I do this anymore?
Long story short. Cousin neighbor up from florida has called area on aging multiple times Because I work during the day and Mom is left alone. Doctor deemed mom safe enough to be left alone during the day. Fast forward to last Friday. Ambulance was called by said cousin and mom was taking to ER ALONE. Cousin called area on…
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Poop issue
Looking for ideas!! I have found "dignity" gowns/jumpsuits but the shipping will take 2-3 weeks and I need something now. (they are also ridiculously expensive) My aunt with late stage alz, on hospice, and bedridden gets in to her diaper. I have found her with a handfull of poop and smeared on her face several times Any…
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When the time grows near
My Dad's situation was so much different than most of your LO's, as he was in his 90's when diagnosed. He was home with my mother 2 years until he had a heart event. After hospitalization of 10 days he went directly to MC facility, where he stayed for one month before dying. While he had the usual issues with loss of…
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Palliative care vs. hospice info? Or nursing home?
Would anyone have any recommendations/links to good info on the differences between palliative & hospice care, or perhaps benefits vs. nursing home/skilled nursing facilities? Long story for some background, and I just realized I originally posted this in the partner/spouse forum instead of here while I was in a rush. My…
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Need advice for Husband that suddenly hates our dog
Our adult son is moving back in with us (for various reasons, and we've been looking forward to having him). Last night, my husband said, out of the blue, that our son's dog can't come with him. He doesn't want her on the sofa, or peeing on the grass and turning it yellow. These are things we can deal with. The dog is the…
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Getting worse...(1)
My father has dementia, my mother is the sole caretaker for him. They live on the east coast, I live on the west coast. I get updates on occasion from my family relaying to me what's been going on with my father and his illness. The other day he left the house in his underwear and was found walking on a busy highway. I am…
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Starting up Hospice care at home for my probable end stage dementia mom
Hi all. My mom is 91, as mentioned. We brought her home from the memory unit at commercial assisted living facility. She had been there three years, at first truly enjoying the activities geared to people like her. She was the highest functioning one in the unit. Always picked when no one else knew the song title , or…
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Selling dad's furniture (Illinois)
I apologize if this isn't allowed. I didn't see anything against it in the community guidelines. I will remove it, if I am told it's against guidelines. I am selling some of my dads furniture: his medical bed, his lift chair, a walker. If you know anyone in the northwest suburbs of Chicago who is looking for this kind of…
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Insensitive comments on mom - vent?
There's this one woman at my church who I would consider a friend of mine but I am slowly rethinking on how close we are. A couple of times when we've talked, she'd first tell me her opinion on how mom is. "She looks worse," is what she says. I'm at a loss on how to respond to that, especially right out of the gate for a…
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Memory care(7)
Hi, this is my first post. Mom is 87 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2019 but we believe she had it much earlier. Dad’s health was getting worse so I retired from my job, sold my house and moved from the West Coast to the East Coast to care for my parents. Dad passed 6 months later and mom moved in with me and my…
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Hospice recert
Hospice came out for a recert evaluation, according to the NP, looks like he will be kept on another 6 months. I honestly was a little nervous about being dropped because my FIL eats so well, but increased agitation, worsening ability to stand, falling, and losing the ability to feed himself came into play in the decision.…
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New to this. Need help
My 85 year old mom lives with my husband and I. She is very hostile toward me and is delusional. She will have an assessment in a month but she seems to be deteriorating quickly. She is likely stage 4 to 5. Went to a seminar and my caregiver stress lever is super high. Life in this household is becoming unbearable. I don't…
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Might be getting in-home care!
Yesterday my older sister was talking to my younger sister and I about getting in contact with someone to see about getting in-home care for mom. I'm super excited that it might become a possible reality at some point, trying to not get my hopes up in case it doesn't become a reality for a while. At the start of this…
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Living Transition Time
Due to increased care needs and behavior challenges me and my siblings are working to prepare to move Mom (83) to either a MC or Adult Family Home setting. She was diagnosed AZ many years ago and has been living in AL for 4 1/2 years after Dad passed. We have been managing her healthcare and finances since then. While a…
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abc123(2)
Just wanted to let you know you're on my mind, Hope things are going okay for you.
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Found Travel Door Lock
When we visit family and friends, my wife tries to open the door and walk away. I found a portable device to put between the door and the frame that keeps her from doing so. I still keep an eye on her, but at least I don’t have to constantly keep her from leaving. The device consists of a metal strip with a tab that fits…
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Gasp- I thought I saw a walking square!
A comment from my LO earlier.
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Is this a hallucination?
For the past month or so, when he is agitated, my FIL is calling out for his dad (deceased many years ago). Sometimes, he calls for his mom and rarely for his late wife and other friends, but daily for his dad. I follow it with a fiblet. Sometimes, I am not sure if he thinks my DH is his dad. He calls me by his daughter’s…
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Behavior change, no UTI (?), feeling defeated
I'm a bit depressed this morning because Mom's UTI culture came back "no significant growth" even though the urinalysis shows mild-moderate abnormalities. The doctor hasn't commented on the culture yet (it wasn't ready yet, and now it's the weekend), but she didn't see much cause for concern based on the CBD and…
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New here: Brother, Sister-in-Law, and I are at a loss
My mother is undiagnosed but is showing all the signs of some sort of dementia. She has forgotten most of our cousins who she would visit with and send cards every year. She asks the same questions over and over requiring that we give the same explanation which she forgets. She has what we call her "bat sh-- crazy" times…
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Stepdad failing my mom who has dementia - and now he's become belligerent
My stepdad has been in denial about my mom's progressing dementia since my sister and I both started having concerns 5 years ago. Since that time, after considerable effort by my sister and I in the face of his obstruction (while we aimed to show nothing but support and compassion), we got her diagnosed, we got him to sign…
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more on aromatherapy
I was hoping the new book "Alzheimer's, Aromatherapy, and the Sense of Smell" was going to provide many examples of the benefits of aromatherapy for people with Alzheimer's disease as it prepublicity promised, but instead it just provided ths one: "Once whe I was giving a food massage to a women in her nineties, who hadn't…
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New and need advice(1)
My mom was diagnosed with cognitive impairment back in October. She lives in her own home with my dad. She usually doesn't remember my name, never remembers my husband, thinks the grandchildren are her children (by name, though understands on some level she doesn't care for them). She has always denied anything is wrong…
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Disastrous first day in assisted living
Last November we moved DH’s sister from Tulsa to Houston in order to assist with finances and get her to dr appts and order meds. She was no longer able to call on phone for appointments, pay bills, drive, go to appointments, open and handle mail. Moved her to independent living that she picked from short list. DH has full…
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New links for Teepa
I believe I sent links before but are now inactive because we were using them during the editing process. Here are the active links for our two sessions with Teepa. https://youtu.be/fLZHrsDERyY https://youtu.be/Eh4hN90cO7E