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How do I not become the punching bag
My mom is struggling with understanding that she has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She doesn't believe the doctor. I struggle with not trying to reason with her when the things she says out of anger are so hurtful. She has a new boyfriend, and to her, there is no one that cares for her more and she is willing to sell…
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Delusion/Fixation with Aphasia
My dad has some sort of dementia/Alzheimer's and also has pretty significant aphasia. Within this past week he's gotten fixated on going to Lowe's. Thinks he has something there "on hold" to pick up, but can't tell us what it is. We've tried everything we can think of... We've taken him to Lowe's twice in the hopes that we…
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Word Salad
If you or your LO strings words together that make no sense, it might be aphasia. Aphasia can be caused by a stroke or other brain trauma that damages the communication part of the brain. Recovery is possible for aphasia that is caused by things like stroke, head injury, explosion, etc. Recovery is not possible from…
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Speech question
Does any one else’s loved one refer to themselves in the third person? For example, he rolled himself into a corner and I asked if he was stuck and he said, “No, he can get out if he wants”. He’s doing this more and more. Just curious.
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Not sure what to hope for
DH has been in the hospital for a week due to an ankle broken in 2 places. I went to the ER via anbulance this week due to dehydration and anxiety. My nephew and his wife drove 4 hrs to visit. I can tell DH has regressed as when we visited he said he would meet us in the lobby. He knew who I was but had NO IDEA why he is…
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Refusing MC/borderline
I have been doing everything for my mom (79) ALZ for the past 2 1/2 years. She just had a knee replacement a month ago and we got her in memory care by telling her she needs to stay in this place for rehab/therapy. The nurse from MC assessed her as borderline. I asked her what that meant. She explained that it means that…
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Responding to violence
Painful to write this post. My mother was diagnosed in April ( early to moderate). We took the path of diagnoses because of the rageful anger my mom has towards my dad. ( I experience this at times too, but my dad is the main target). My parents live together and I live about 2 miles away. My mom becomes very angry with my…
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Weight loss(3)
My wife has always been a bit on the heavy side. When she retired in January 2017, because of Alzheimer’s, she weighed about 190. By February 2020, she weighed about 200. She started losing weight and now she’s about 130. I understand that this is not unusual. However, her PCP thinks I should be giving her Ensure. I don’t…
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Once again be careful what you sign
https://www.elderlawanswers.com/can-a-nursing-home-hold-friends-or-family-members-responsible-for-a-residents-care-18969?
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On Hospice and making final plans.
My mom was admitted to hospice last week ater a fall and fracture. She has been on a downward spiral since then and we are making end of life plans. My mom has had dementia for quite some time (>10 years) and she is over 80. She has lost many of her siblings and friends at this point. She hasn't seen most of her extended…
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Follow up to rocking/crashing and med question
So, following up from my post here: https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147561119 So no UTI, no constipation. His agitation and the rocking, crashing, spinning and trying to climb out of bed is worse and is non stop. He is looking more and more peaked, exhausted, and nurse is hearing an irregular…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 8/5/22
FEAR NO EVIL GOD THOUGHT: Psalm 23:4 “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” VICTORY THOUGHT: In our broken world, I look to the Good Shepherd for confidence and comfort. POWER PRAYER: God of Comfort, whenever darkness overshadows…
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Its sad as I wasted so much time with them
Good afternoon, I WOULD FIRST LIKE TO APPOLOGIZE IF FOR SOME RESON YOU ARE GETTING THIS A SECOND TIME. But I was going of multiple email list and you sure cannot trust a person with dementia to do it right. I wanted to ensure that I had reached out to all that I have spoken to in the past about DAA. Please share with all…
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My mom has dementia and needs care and her twin sister is blocking our attempts to get her care
My 86 year old mother has dementia and she is also bipolar. She is an identical twin and her twin sister has been looking after her until now, picking her up in the morning and dropping her back to her house in the afternoon. My mom is leaving her house at night and it’s a safety risk. My aunt now has dementia too and she…
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Lewy Body Dementia(1)
Hello. I am new to this message board. The doctors believe my LO most likely has Lewy Body Dementia. Does anyone else have any experience with this? I am looking for activity ideas to help fill my LO day with purpose. Currently, we enjoy walks, cooking, folding towels, playing board games and throwing laundry into the…
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Transient Global Amnesia - Mayo Clinic
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/transient-global-amnesia/symptoms-causes/syc-20378531
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Ground zero
My mom is in an assisted living memory unit 30 miles from me so I am able to get there pretty easily but it seems like there’s so much I need to do!!! Mom’s sisters are somewhat helpful but live 300+ miles from us. My youngest aunt is poa financial and medical but again I am the one doing every locally Last week I sent an…
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Rearranging living arrangements
So, when we brought my FIL back home after his fall and surgery DH and I decided we would just do what comes next and figure out the next steps from there. So we set up an area in our bedroom with a curtain between us, and it has been okay but not ideal. At the time we set all this up, we thought he might be able to be…
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Asking Other Family Members For Assistance
Hello - My father and I are the primary caregivers for my mother, 81, who has dementia (she is also blind and has cardiac issues). I am a full-time executive, who fortunately, can work remotely...so this allows me to be there for my mom and dad as much as possible. I have a sister who lives about an hour away, as well as…
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Need help(10)
Hi there I have an aunt that is in a caregiver home and she is becoming very violent. They call us at home when she’s having an episode. We are not sure what we should do and if we can find out from the doctor if she can be given a sedative. I am assuming things are going to get worse with her and what is the protocol that…
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Providers with Agendas / Vulnerability
If anyone has some feedback they think may be helpful to my situation, I will appreciate it. My mom has dementia. She (92 yo) and my Dad (95 yo) live in assisted living. This facility has notified my two siblings (neither of whom work any longer, but do NOTHING to help) and me they no longer feel they can provide the level…
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I just need to vent, thank you for letting me!
I'm 61, my LO is 87 with supposedly beginning stage dementia, but it's beyond that. She's been a narc all of her life - ALWAYS has to be about her. I'm her only child - she's all I have left, I'm all she has left, although we each have a cousin that we no longer hear from. Today was another fight, and another day of being…
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How to handle the daily hallucinations
The hallucinations my DW has been experiencing the last 4 weeks have become more frequent. The occasional “hearing & seeing” a girl calling out her name are occurring every day. She says the girl is coming into our house in the late evening- about 11:00- & my DW needs to be with her to keep her safe & play together. DW…
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Self advocation through an app
I have an idea for an app for hired (or non-primary) caregivers that I'd love some feedback on. I do not know how to create an app. My software development background is outdated. So, if this is a good idea, I'd love to work with someone who knows how to create an app. I'd like it to be available for free use. Leaving my…
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2 trips to the ER
DH ..92...for the first time wandered out of the apartment and tried to open up the car doors.We live in independent living and a neighbor noticed him and helped him lay down on the grass and they knocked on my door ( I had been napping as I have fibro and CFS )and we called EMS. DH had brain surgery 4 yrs ago and was…
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New here - Advice on how to make this situation any easier?
Hey guys Was just looking for any advice you might have to help me and my boyfriend and his dad who seems to have dementia. We don't have a diagnosis yet, we're waiting for an appointment at a memory clinic after being referred from the GP. We're in the UK but there are big waiting times, though we have just found out his…
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Abc123(3)
Just thinking about you this morning. Hoping you and your dad, and the rest of the family are hanging in there.
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What are your thoughts?
Someone said I was the Bulldozer of the dementia arena. Is that a good thing or bad?
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Glucerna and Others Recalled For Contamination
https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/glucerna-oatly-drinks-among-53-203923957.html
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A safe & peaceful passage.
My momma died yesterday morning at 8:34. It was incredibly peaceful and beautiful. I was holding her hand. The nurse was here with us. She came on at 8am. I had checked on Mom at 4 am, her breathing had changed but it wasn’t alarming, just different. The new nighttime caregiver was hard asleep. I purposely made noise to…