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Caring For a Spouse or Partner

Where do I get simple help for meds and eating
My mom is still at home. She is doing physically very well. She is active in the community, volunteers, plays bridge, goes to church and drives. However, she has meds for diabetes, memory and high blo…
Started by Ann PB
Most recent by Emily 123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
161
Dec 21, 2024
1
4
Eating less & sleeping more
I guess this is “normal” progression, but my DH has been eating half as much for a while and has been sleeping a few extra hours a day for a couple of months now. I put him somewhere in stage 6. Today…
Started by AlzWife2023
Most recent by Carl46
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
236
Dec 21, 2024
6
10
Hi - I really need input about end of life
My sweet husband is nearing the end. I feel so alone. We’ve been married for 24 years. No kids. What family he has walked away when he got diagnosed 6 years ago. He resides in a memory care facility i…
Started by sixcats
Most recent by SDianeL
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
539
Dec 21, 2024
9
17
Zoom or online chats
Is there place to go to be on a live support group chat or zoom call? The posts can be helpful it would be nice to talk to people in real time. I don't have the energy to go through all the posts. Tha…
Started by Ann PB
Most recent by SDianeL
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
109
Dec 21, 2024
0
4
sensitivity extremes
Does anyone experience LO being overly sensitive to things like light, noise,temperature? My DH complains when I get a pan out of cupboard that I am making too much noise. He gets upset when lawn guy …
Started by NYCheryl
Most recent by NYCheryl
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
243
Dec 21, 2024
2
13
Approaching stage 8
My DH, who has been on hospice in a nursing home for a month, had a big downturn last night. He can no longer swallow and is aspirating on his saliva. Hospice has discontinued all food and drink, and …
Started by clarinetist
Most recent by eaglemom
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
287
Dec 20, 2024
13
26
This is fantastic! 5 day course from Dr. Natalie Edmonds
A few years ago I took a 5 day course from Dr. Natalie Edmonds. I was told I could share it. This was supposed to not be available anymore, but I was cleaning out my emails tonight, and decided to try…
Started by Ed1937
Most recent by Emily 123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
976
Dec 20, 2024
14
12
Am I being overly concerned?
My husband is in the mid stage Alzheimer. He showers 3 times a week. On the days he doesn't, he will get dressed before he comes out of our room. I am usually up hours before him. He will put his clot…
Asking for Help
In-Home Care
Living with Dementia
Started by DAT50
Most recent by Biggles
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
399
Dec 20, 2024
3
14
Memory Care Activities
My wife has ALZ Stage 4-5. One of my big problems in caring for her is finding things for her to do. She has lost interest in many things and depends on me to fill in her time. We go to our Senior Cen…
Started by Karl38
Most recent by Biggles
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
254
Dec 20, 2024
1
9
Help Please
Hello everyone - I am hoping you can help direct me on next steps. We just got back from an appointment with my husbands general practitioner. I spoke with the Dr outside of the exam room about my con…
Started by Dmarcotte
Most recent by jfkoc
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
488
Dec 19, 2024
6
16
Hearing aid use and dementia
Another paper found to be wrong. I just read an article about hearing aids aiding in the fight about staving off dementia. I posted a link, but I received a message that their robot would not allow th…
Started by Ed1937
Most recent by Dunc1129
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
488
Dec 19, 2024
1
16
How long does separation anxiety last?
I’m a longtime lurker who’s been on the dementia train with my husband for about six years. He’s probably in the beginning of stage six. For the past few years, he’s had separation anxiety whenever I’…
Started by clarinetist
Most recent by Kat63
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
492
Dec 18, 2024
1
14
Sundowners
Could this be sundowning? My DH was married to his first wife for 23 years. We have been married 32 years. This last week, in the evening only, he keeps telling me that he knows he divorced his first …
Started by jsps139_
Most recent by Kat63
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
234
Dec 18, 2024
0
5
Packing up to go home
I just put my DH in memory care yesterday. This morning the nurse said he had everything packed up to go home. She said he didn’t sleep all night and wouldn’t even take his clothes off last night. Now…
Started by tryingtodurvive
Most recent by sandwichone123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
421
Dec 18, 2024
4
12
Stages
Hi all. I'm new here. Caring for my Husband who was diagnosed about 4 years ago with early onset ALZ . I've been reading the messages and see some of you talking about stages. I'm not sure how do I de…
Started by sslabrador
Most recent by WIGO23
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
281
Dec 17, 2024
1
6
Shaving solution
I switched DH over to a battery operated electric shaver awhile back and found that if I leave it on the kitchen table he automatically picks it up and uses it while I am preparing the meal. At 3 time…
Started by Whyzit2
Most recent by Whyzit2
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
166
Dec 17, 2024
8
6
Major Sundowner
My poor DW has had a few minor sundowning events, but wowzers, did she go all in last night. We ended up dressed and standing on the front porch, ready to “go home” at 9pm with pouring rain and flood …
Started by CindyBum
Most recent by Bailey's Mom
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
314
Dec 16, 2024
3
13
She has gone to heaven
I cry as I write this. My wife passed yesterday at 2AM. Now I am suffering in stage eight. I don’t know what to do in order to feel better. So I thought I would write my awe full feelings down and sen…
Started by F&E
Most recent by Jazzma
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
461
Dec 16, 2024
23
26
Autoimmune dementia
Hello Everyone, I have just read some articles about Autoimmune dementia. I was wondering if anyone had heard of this / pursued diagnosis of this / sought treatment for this? Thank you.
Started by coloradobear
Most recent by debriesea
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
197
Dec 16, 2024
0
2
Everyone is his Friend
My SO who is 45 EOA thinks he knows everyone when we go out to the store or in public. Most people are receptive and understanding. I feel that since he doesn't go to the store as much as he used to a…
Started by MarDel0917
Most recent by scott48foster
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
308
Dec 16, 2024
3
12
May God bless you all
l am thankful for this forum that has so many kind and wise members. Thank you all for the sound advice, good comments and overall generous support. They are very helpful.
Started by F&E
Most recent by LJCHR
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
134
Dec 16, 2024
7
4
Softening the Bedrails to Prevent Injury
Hello Everyone, this is my first post here, although I have been following many discussions over time as I care for my sweet husband who was diagnosed with mid- stage mixed vascular dementia two years…
Started by Rksk67
Most recent by ImMaggieMae
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
153
Dec 15, 2024
2
7
LO threatening to get kicked out of MC so he can live on his own.
My dad has been in MC for about 6-8 months. He was previously in two assisted living facilities, but got kicked out because he was wandering outside and getting lost (I got calls from police to pick h…
Communication
Memory Care
Started by elisa0314
Most recent by sandwichone123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
283
Dec 15, 2024
2
11
Socializing for Caregivers May Be Overrated
I read an interesting article that indicated that not everyone needs a social network of friends. In fact, some of us do quite well alone without the inevitable dramas that friends bring into our live…
Started by WIGO23
Most recent by jsps139_
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
335
Dec 14, 2024
13
8
Those eyes!! 👀
I totally get it! I get why DH NEEDS to have me within eye sight at all times. I’m his safety I’m his security. I’m coming to terms with the fact that he was never home, always a meeting to go to and …
Started by JC5
Most recent by White Crane
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
257
Dec 14, 2024
3
9
Losing my patience as another holiday is ruined!
On thanksgiving I miss my mother (dead for along time, now) and other family members who I never get to see anymore & friends who I also don't get to spend time with. DH has already ruined the day wit…
Started by Bailey's Mom
Most recent by greenolive
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
930
Dec 14, 2024
16
31
Have I totally lost it?
My DH has been in MC for 2 months. I have an absolute obsession to redecorate (paint and flooring) our living area and bedroom. I have felt like I have been in a prison so my surrounding are a constan…
Started by Denise1847
Most recent by Denise1847
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
272
Dec 13, 2024
8
10
Spouse Wants to start arguing
1st time to post. My spouse has mild mix dementia. I am basically her only support. She can go couple of days fine but the sundown gets really hold of her. Spouse wants to argue about almost everythin…
Started by Billysue
Most recent by AlzWife2023
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
179
Dec 13, 2024
0
4
Have no where to go with my feelings so
Very long post. I have been wanting to write this message for a long time but always get stuck with wondering how best to describe my situation. Saying up front, there is no answer for my issues with …
Started by 4MY❤️
Most recent by Denise1847
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
810
Dec 12, 2024
7
22
I moved my DW to memory care today
The move in went ok. I told her I needed surgery on my leg and rehab after. She understood but I could tell she was suspicious that it was a permanent move. We have been together since I was 20 years …
Started by midge333
Most recent by Denise1847
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
412
Dec 12, 2024
14
16

Commonly Used Abbreviations

DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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Caring For a Spouse or Partner

Caring For a Spouse or Partner

Where do I get simple help for meds and eating

Eating less & sleeping more

Hi - I really need input about end of life

Zoom or online chats

sensitivity extremes

Approaching stage 8

This is fantastic! 5 day course from Dr. Natalie Edmonds

Am I being overly concerned?

Memory Care Activities

Help Please

Hearing aid use and dementia

How long does separation anxiety last?

Sundowners

Packing up to go home

Stages

Shaving solution

Major Sundowner

She has gone to heaven

Autoimmune dementia

Everyone is his Friend

May God bless you all

Softening the Bedrails to Prevent Injury

LO threatening to get kicked out of MC so he can live on his own.

Socializing for Caregivers May Be Overrated

Those eyes!! 👀

Losing my patience as another holiday is ruined!

Have I totally lost it?

Spouse Wants to start arguing

Have no where to go with my feelings so

I moved my DW to memory care today

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