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“Fiblets”
I am having a very difficult time lying to my husband who has dementia! I have always been that person who people could trust and know I would be honest! But now I find I am being dishonest and lying to my husband. I just want to tell him he is not allowed to drive anymore and it’s not safe and that his beloved truck is in…
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Crying out of nowhere.
It’s funny how certain things will trigger our emotions. My DW and I were sitting comfortably in our recliners last night listening to Christmas music. We were both enjoying the time and then came an Elvis Christmas song “Santa bring my baby back to me”. Out of nowhere I just lost it and started weeping.
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At peace
My DH is at peace. I held his hand as he took his last breaths listening to Chopin and the Lords Prayer at 3am this morning in bed at home. I am grateful that I was awake to say “I love you” as he took his final breaths. The end came quickly after he lost his ability to swallow any liquid three days ago. His last words to…
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DH is going to MC and I am not OK
I’ve been quiet for a while and my DH has gotten much worse in the past 6 months after having back surgery and spine injections without any pain relief. Naturally, this along with the pain pills have caused him to go downhill. He is solidly in stage 6 of vascular dementia (eight years into this journey). Our grown kids had…
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Hospital to Rehap = Late Stage of Alzheimer's
My DH was taken to the hospital where he was discovered to have fluid in his lungs. While being treated for 5 days he caught the flu there. He walked into the hospital and could clearly be understood. After spending 3 weeks there and losing 22 pounds he was transferred to rehap. Now he does not walk, can barely speak and…
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Minor illnesses
I’m finding it challenging when I get a bad cold, flu etc and don’t feel like doing all the meals and other household duties. I get very upset because I just can’t do it all when I’m sick. Luckily it’s not very often.
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Hospice for Alzheimer's
I think I have read here about people who have had their loved one receive hospice care paid by Medicaid even if they were not judged with less than 6 months to live. Did I read correctly? As Medicaid is a federal program, I don't understand that "exceptions" would be made, so how is this handled? Does the doctor lead the…
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I've been sick. Now depressed and worried.
Right before Thanksgiving, a virus was going around DH MC and he got it. So did I. We both got pneumonia. This is the second time I have gotten pneumonia this year and it is really taking me down. My energy and strength are low and I am still coughing. On top of that, I have been having trouble with my legs. They tingle…
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Speech returned/skilled nursing question
DH I think is stage 7. He was hospitalized and has been on geti/psych for 5 weeks. Before going to Geri/psych he was down to just a few words. Now he talks non stop! Some words I understand but the stories I don’t. He has behavior problems and now can’t walk (was walking prior to Geri/psych), but lack of him cooperating…
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FTD Any signals that the Mood is changing?
My husband has a diagnosis of FTD, but we haven’t seen many symptoms until recently. For you experts, are you aware of any signals that the FTD patient is experiencing a mood swing? I just observed my DH go from happy, loving to cranky. I noticed that he was sitting alone in the bedroom, looking at his feet. I wanted to…
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Grief
·onpstordSei2 f40m :M5 mtfA29m1s01mg3m5m77ittg3actA9u0i5u3at · Jim Carrey once said: Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided. In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never…
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Hope or Cope?
We finally got an "official" diagnosis on Monday - "amnestic MCI with concern for Alzheimer's." DH's next steps are a PET Scan, bloodwork, and another MRI. Now, I just keep swaying between hope for a "cure" (improvement) and acceptance of the diagnosis. Do we fight the disease or do we learn how to live with it? I…
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PPA Semantic variant Swallowing issues
DH has been diagnosed with FTD/ Primary Progressive Aphasia/Semantic variant. He has had 2 tests so far due to trouble swallowing. They have determined it is caused by the muscles in his throat not working in the way they should to move food down during swallowing. I know this is a possible complication as the disease…
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Asking for tips on how to get LO to drink lots of water for radiation
My LO w/dementia is about to start radiation for prostate cancer. He remembers that he had surgery 5 years ago, so doesn't understand why he needs radiation now. He will need to drink 25 oz of water in 10 minutes before radiation, and it's a struggle to get him to drink that much in an entire day. I got the okay for him to…
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donepezil
My HWD has been taking donepezil for over a year…he refused to take it over the weekend because he said that his dr told him to stop (not true) and that I didn't know what I was talking about and was trying to poison him. I messaged our doctor (unfortunat
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In Home care
I had in home care through an agency three days a week while I was at work but our caregiver left to work somewhere else so the agency lined us with a new one after a few no shows. Anyway, it was not a good fit. Resulted in the police being called, my DH was aggressive towards her and left the house walking towards the…
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Concern about potential surgery
My DW has a condition that may require a hysterectomy or other type of surgery to correct a pelvic prolapse. I'm terrified that the surgery may accelerate her decline. To this point, nearly 5 years, she has done very well. We are still having a good life and she is happy as am I, although I live every day if fear of the…
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A series of changes and more isolation for me as sole caregiver
This is just me expressing feelings the only way I can right now. This week has been challenging. My husband's Medicaid application was approved, but the part that funds home and community based services is still pending. I applied in August, and I was told that it will probably be February before we actually get any…
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I'm a widow now
My DH passed away 12/10/25 at a hospice house. Thank you to everyone on this message board for your advice and caring support.
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DW probably needs surgery
I have posted before about this but, I am terrified about my DW having surgery. She's probably about mid stage 4 and still doing pretty well. It appears that she may need a surgery. There are two options. One would require about a 4 hour surgery and the other likely more like 2 hours. I'm so concerened about how this might…
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Any Advice for Stopping MCI Progression
What advise do you have for stopping MCI progression to Alzheimer’s? Has anyone on this site found anything that keeps this from progressing? My husband’s MCI is stable at this point, and we want to keep it that way. We are using Brain HQ online games, are on a plant based diet, exercise, and are doing everything else that…
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What do you say to LO who is experiencing Hallucinations/delusions?
When my DH has hallucinations, talks about the people sitting around our house (just he and I live here) what should I do? What should I say. I mean, I've said to him that this is "our" home and no one is here but us. He gets mad and tells me that I'm trying to say he's crazy and that I'm planning on putting him in a…
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Preventing outbursts
Greetings, I am in need of ideas to prevent outbursts and/or stopping them. My DH has been prone to outbursts prior to this terrible disease. I am feeling more like he is the hammer and I am the nail. It is just the two of us and our 2 sweet dogs. Thank you in advance.
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Christmas gratuities
I am wondering if anyone feels they should give a Christmas gift or gratuity to any of your caregivers? We have a person who has been with us over a year, and comes weekly for 4 hours. She brings us cookies— but I'm not sure I should reciprocate. She is well paid for her time.
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Hospice opinions
I put my DW on hospice about 5 o 6 weeks ago. I’m glad I did but I’m curious about people’s experiences. I’m a retired engineer so I know I can be a pain. But I feel like my primary nurse, although knowledgeable, is a little all over the place sometimes. I also have a hard time with the doctor, who will never meet my wife,…
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Stage 5
My DH is now stage 5 cognitively and memory wise. He is still able to attend to his personal care. Our specialist said this stage can last 6 years….can you share your experience in terms length of time and behaviors? DH has had a couple of angry outbursts where he kicks us out the house, no recognition of me for over 6…
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How will I get through this
Hubby 78 diagnosed in august with amnestic mild cognitive impairment. Memory not good with paying bills or remembering what day it is. Asks all day long what’s today. He still drives and driving is fine. Goes to gym every day. Reads. Doesn’t follow tv shows so good and irritable. So irritating I want to leave. Im still…
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Dementia and Personality Disorders
I know there are many of us here who deal w persons w difficult personalities and dementia. I saw this Dr. Natalie video and wanted to share. My DH doesn't have a diagnosed PD or diagnosed dementia but he sure does "quack like a duck." 😁 Im sorry it isnt hyperlinked. I never seem to be able to get it pasted that way!…
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Awkward and Embarrassing
I am asking folks on this platform for advice on how to handle a spouse who no longer speaks with a filter, seems unable to "read the room", and says embarrassing things in public. I understand that my spouse is no longer the woman I married almost 50 years ago, and she is not to blame for the disease that controls her…
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Very interesting book
I almost hesitate to put this out there but decided to do so as I see improvements in my DH since starting him on this program. “Alzheimer’s Disease What if there is a Cure?” by Mary T Newport, MD is a very interesting read. I started following her suggestions with coconut oil and MCT oil on November 11th and have…