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Its Our Turn. Preparing to say farewell...
Unbelievably, though we knew it was coming in the not too distant future, DH is transitioning right before my eyes. He rallied in the last 2 weeks, and now suddenly we are walking through the steps fo…
Started by ButterflyWings
Most recent by White Crane
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
2069
Dec 1, 2024
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Driving
Hi all My OH is currently being assessed at a memory clinic. We have not had a formal diagnosis, we visited the memory clinic, late October, and this is the first time we have met the consultant, or i…
Started by Empyrean
Most recent by WIGO23
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
262
Nov 30, 2024
2
7
Feeling Very Thankful
I just want to express my sincere appreciation to all of you who show up on this site. The shared experiences, rants and raves, insights, advice and love and shared vulnerabilities have made a real di…
Started by Karen711
Most recent by Beachfan
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
188
Nov 29, 2024
5
13
Holidays without him.
Last year 11/23/23 was the last holiday I spent with my DH Lonny. I have no pictures of that day. Shortly thereafter I was diagnosed with aggressive cancer & had no choice but to place him immediately…
Started by SDianeL
Most recent by White Crane
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
260
Nov 29, 2024
16
10
How to help Grands understand??
My DH this afternoon just snapped and yelled at our grand-daughter for not speaking to him when she came in. Cussing and saying he was not taking that damn sh*t no more from her🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️…. She is 12 …
Started by DWTired
Most recent by Biggles
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
287
Nov 29, 2024
3
11
This really set me back !!
my wife and trouble signing her name I think she had trouble with our last name. This really hit me. I guess more to come.
Started by charley0419
Most recent by charley0419
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
230
Nov 28, 2024
4
4
Being able to sleep with him again
I've read so many comments here that reflect my own feeling of loss at no longer being able to sleep with my DH. It is such a simple yet intimate and comforting thing to do. He's been in a memory care…
Started by Jazzma
Most recent by Joe C.
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
478
Nov 28, 2024
11
13
Nuedexta
My DH physician has prescribed Nuedexta to help manage some of the symptoms associated with FTD such as angry ,combative and obsessive behaviours. This medication is a combination of Dextromethorphan …
Started by marier
Most recent by jeannemarie8
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
285
Nov 28, 2024
0
7
Home
A fitting description of what LOs seeking "home" must feel… “Someday, I would like to go home. The exact location of this place, I don't know, but someday I would like to go. There would be a pleasing…
Started by Chammer
Most recent by trottingalong
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
151
Nov 28, 2024
8
5
Visit from family
Today, my daughter, SIL and grandson are coming to visit. DH is totally confused and agitated, thinking that his sister is coming to visit instead and seems to be under stress because of the visit. Re…
Started by Anna2022
Most recent by Anna2022
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
200
Nov 27, 2024
5
9
Hallucinations
I’m new here. My spouse has been diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. He is fairly independent; needs some supervision. Started Zyprexa and Aricept. Problem is with hallucinations. I really don’t…
Started by ladysylvia
Most recent by harshedbuzz
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
142
Nov 27, 2024
0
3
A very little holiday
Maybe I have done something stupid but after hearing ‘friends’ talking about their cruising on boats and various holidays I decided that for our birthdays which fall on the 8th and 9th and the reason …
Started by Biggles
Most recent by Denise1847
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
729
Nov 27, 2024
9
27
I cry every day. I don't know if I can go on like this. Too tired to seek help.
My DH is probably Stage 6. He gets agitated, angry, cursing at least a few times a day. Otherwise, he lies there watching TV. He wants to get out and then he doesn't. I'm taking care of him on my own.…
Started by OhDear
Most recent by DWTired
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
871
Nov 26, 2024
7
20
Just need to talk to my friends (200)
Well, we made it to 200. Took a while. Still chilly here. Had to find some fleece to wear. Time to change out summer gowns and dresses for fleece and flannel. I don't change clothes in closet, just th…
Started by Lorita
Most recent by Lorita
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
12735
Nov 26, 2024
1
735
Man on the Inside
This post kind of off topic. We watched a 8 episode series on Netflix last night and today with Ted Danson called “Man on the Inside” which we enjoyed. It was about a retired professor who lost his wi…
Started by ImMaggieMae
Most recent by Dio
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
395
Nov 26, 2024
4
12
Alone and missing friends. What to do?
My DH is Stage 6 and is very agitated and even aggressive to anyone new coming into the house. DH's friends have passed or no longer able to understand how to deal with him. I barely do myself. He's a…
Started by OhDear
Most recent by OhDear
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
289
Nov 26, 2024
4
9
wants to be massaged for hours
Anyone else experienced this? My DH wants me to massage his backs, hips, chest for hours on end. Sometimes it's the only thing that will calm him except listening to music. Is the any alternatives? Is…
Started by OhDear
Most recent by OhDear
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
208
Nov 26, 2024
0
5
Burnout
Today I want to rant, I’m tired and exhausted, I really thought I had a handle on all this, I love communicating and writing on this site, it balances me and helps me to understand that I am not alone…
Communication
Stress
Depression
Started by Biggles
Most recent by midge333
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
225
Nov 26, 2024
7
9
What to do? DH paranoid/ fearful away from home but need to visit my dying father
My DH is Stage 6 and has been extremely agitated, anxious and verbally aggressive. He is stabilizing on Seroquel but still doesn't tolerate strangers or new places. I just found out that my father is …
Started by OhDear
Most recent by OhDear
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
174
Nov 26, 2024
7
4
my wife can't stop crying all day
My wife just cries all day long, the reasons change and I don't believe they are the reason. If it's stopped it will start back up when she is asked to do something. Any caregiver with this experience…
Started by sissyhaas
Most recent by Quilting brings calm
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
116
Nov 26, 2024
0
3
How much information to share with DH?
My DH has been showing signs of cognitive decline for a while. We are beginning this journey to get a diagnosis, which (as you all are well aware) will include a lot of testing and doctor appointments…
Started by brupt30
Most recent by HollyBerry
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
302
Nov 26, 2024
3
19
Suggestions for Activities?
My DH was diagnosed about 3 months ago with EOAD, at age 57. His biggest symptom is aphasia/difficulty communicating, as well as loss of executive functioning. He does not have significant memory loss…
Started by m3ghan
Most recent by m3ghan
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
159
Nov 26, 2024
0
5
Turned down for Medicaid
With the help of an Elderlaw Attorney, I filed for Medicaid for my DH on August 19th here in Missouri. It had taken me several months to gather all the necessary information and was such a relief to f…
Started by White Crane
Most recent by White Crane
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
388
Nov 26, 2024
12
10
Food ideas
My SO 46yo with EOA was a good eater. To the point that after eating a big meal and hour later he would be snacking on something. He was also a BIG Mt. Dew drinker. In the last month or so he hasn't d…
Started by MarDel0917
Most recent by Carl46
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
80
Nov 26, 2024
1
2
Adult Children
We have 2 beautiful adult children 43 and 40. My DH has VD combined with very bad APHASIA. Our daughter lives near us so she is very familiar with the mental and physical decline but our son lives 150…
Started by Biggles
Most recent by Biggles
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
279
Nov 26, 2024
5
10
Not diagnosed
My DH has not been diagnosed but is showing many symptoms. He is in denial and blames all his problems on me. It’s been a struggle the past year. I feel like a parent instead of a wife. His mouth can …
Started by rayland
Most recent by Biggles
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
152
Nov 26, 2024
4
7
Do I s*ck at caregiving?
Started by sbcspin
Most recent by CampCarol
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
350
Nov 26, 2024
0
23
Thought we were going to lose her
She was unresponsive this morning when I arrived at the MC. She stayed that way so I alerted family and friends. Hospice nurse said she is beginning to transition but she snapped back this afternoon a…
Started by ghphotog
Most recent by CampCarol
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
258
Nov 26, 2024
10
11
Daycare
I’ll be visiting a day program on Wednesday for my DH with stage 6. I have no idea if I’ll like it or if it will work out. It’s a PACE program & it’s an hour away which is really the part that makes i…
Started by AlzWife2023
Most recent by AlzWife2023
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
189
Nov 25, 2024
0
11
Early onset at age 60
Hello, my husband was recently diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's at age 60. We live in the Erie, PA area. The support groups in the area don't seem to fit our demographic. Although we do enjoy th…
Early Stage (Mild)
Started by pollyvonr
Most recent by Leender
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
243
Nov 25, 2024
1
10

Commonly Used Abbreviations

DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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Caring For a Spouse or Partner

Caring For a Spouse or Partner

Its Our Turn. Preparing to say farewell...

Driving

Feeling Very Thankful

Holidays without him.

How to help Grands understand??

This really set me back !!

Being able to sleep with him again

Nuedexta

Home

Visit from family

Hallucinations

A very little holiday

I cry every day. I don't know if I can go on like this. Too tired to seek help.

Just need to talk to my friends (200)

Man on the Inside

Alone and missing friends. What to do?

wants to be massaged for hours

Burnout

What to do? DH paranoid/ fearful away from home but need to visit my dying father

my wife can't stop crying all day

How much information to share with DH?

Suggestions for Activities?

Turned down for Medicaid

Food ideas

Adult Children

Not diagnosed

Do I s*ck at caregiving?

Thought we were going to lose her

Daycare

Early onset at age 60

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