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He said our friend came to see me.
DH and I have been married 54 years and have both been true to each other. Never has there been any doubt on either side about this...until now. We have a friend who has been helping us out with groceries since the pandemic started. When he goes to the store, he texts to see if we need anything. Usually I ask for milk and…
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latest covid numbers and please no magic dog turds
I ran the Covid numbers from yesterday 7 day average deaths 277 7 day average cases from 21 days before 15,393 Known infection Fatality Ratio 1.8 % Average covid Infections last 7 days 56.689 assuming all factors stay the same projected average deaths in 21 days 1000+ per day These people are already infected Virtually al…
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What happens to loved one if caregiver has emergency?
For all you folks who are caregiver 24/7 for your loved one, what steps have you taken if for some reason it is you who has the medical emergency? If your LO cannot get you emergency help? How is LO to be cared for if you are off to ER or hospitalization? The reason I ask is that my 96 yr old mother is 24/7 caregiver for…
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This is definitely a learning curve!
My husband and I just went away for a week in the North Carolina Mountains. We will receive his MRI results on Tuesday, but he failed the memory tests and is exhibiting some serious memory issues. The doctor has told me it is likely early stage Alzheimer's. I wanted us to have a special week together before that doctor's…
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My wife hates me now
My wife (62) was diagnosed with EO Alzheimers about six years ago. She was an accountant, and she noticed that she couldn't do her job effectively anymore. I noticed she was more forgetful and constantly losing her phone, but it wasn't too bad for the first few years. After about three years and a slow & decline, she asked…
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Another sign of spiraling down
My DW, as of three days ago has shown new signs of spiraling down in this awful disease of Alzheimer’s. She wants to go home. She told two granddaughters they were lying when they told her she was already home. She asked me to take her home. I took her for a ride in our neighborhood and came back to our home. I told her…
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Separate Beds
Good morning! I have not posted in awhile, but I have read alot of the frustrations this disease does to the ones who have it and the ones who are taking care of them!! I admire each and everyone of you who are doing this job!!! I hate we all have to be here!! I wanted to start out with kinds words, because I am sure some…
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Coconut oil and mct oil
I recently learnt that coconut oil added to food -2 tablespoons daily helps with Alzheimer’s. Mct oil helps with Alzheimer’s and seizures. That’s wonderful news! I plan to try it on my DH whose daily activities with memory are gradually getting worse. I will get his heart dr ok too before proceeding. What do u think…
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Anyone with Colostomy bag experience?
My 78 year old DH just had an ileostomy surgery and now has a colostomy bag which needs emptying every 2-3 hours around the clock. And he has been showing more and more signs of the Alzheimer’s he was diagnosed with about 4 years ago. This seems like a freight train coming straight at us. Has anyone had this situation? Any…
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Female hygiene
Sorry for this kind of question. Ok, so how do I go about getting DW clean down below when she's had a nasty mess in her Depends. With the female anatomy being the way it is, I'm pretty sure some of the nastiness is probably getting in there. I realize a shower will clean the best, and I do that when I can. But when…
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Risperidone prescribed for severe angry episodes, any experience with this drug welcome!
My HWD had another angry episode yesterday but this time instead of ripping his tshirt off and going to bed til it wore off he got angry enough to start damaging the house. He tore the handrail off the stairway in one fell swoop, tried to rip the exterior steel door off its hinges, tried to tear the kitchen counter top off…
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Like the old days
I was giving the kitchen a deep clean and boxed up some stuff that I just don’t use. I put it outside on the curb for the neighbours to go through. My husband was sitting on the porch while this was going on. He suddenly came in and told me some gentleman had fallen while examining the contents of the box. At first I…
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Hello, I am sadly now part of this group
Hello, my DW has been diagnosed with EO at 61 and, by recent testing, she sadly appears to be advanced beyond ES in some areas. She, we, were under a great deal of stress so her doctors focused on that as the cause of memory/speech issues until the continued deterioration made it obvious more was happening. We just told…
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I have a confession to make
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My trip to hell
I just spent a week visiting my 99 year old mother who suffers from anxiety,depression, and a condition called post hospital delirium after a week in what she calls a snake pit. The experience has left my mother with brain fog, memory loss, and panic about the fact this could be permanent. That was the easy part of the…
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im angry all the time
my boyfriend has vd when he started in this journey 3 yrs. ago i wanted to help mainly because i felt it was my responsibility as his girlfriend. he has 3 kids none of which are a help. i am now at the point that i want out but there is no one to take my place. how in the world could i ever pack my belongings and just walk…
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The Second Hell
First I want to thank all the posters who posted real. It helped me me through the first Hell. That is the best I can explain what I went through after my wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. It was a long road from 2012 till she went to Memory Care 3 weeks ago. That was not a good time as I told her we would stay in our…
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FTD and seizures
I wonder if anyone has information regarding the development of seizures in FTD patients.My husband was diagnosed with FTD in 2016; he is 70 years old, physically healthy with the exception of dementia; he has no history of any type of seizures. While riding in an air conditioned car recently, he became suddenly nauseated,…
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Questioning My Caregiving Standards
When I came to terms with DW’s cognitive decline about 7 years ago (pre-diagnosis) I made a promise to myself that I would provide DW the “very best life possible” and would care for her as long as I could. Up until the Covid lockdowns DW & I maintained a fairly active lifestyle traveling, socializing with friends & family…
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Overwhelmed(5)
II have DH w diagnosis of Alzheimers. 6 years later I decided I could not continue trying to keep up with home maintenance and we sold and moved to independent living apartment. Soon after I became extremely depressed. I am on prozak, seeing a counselor and trying to do the things, like walking, to help with depression. I…
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thank you everyone for your input...
I will certainly consider all of the advice given...and I am so glad I found your forum...it will be a big help to me I'm sure...thank you again
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Just need to talk to my friends (151)
Morning, Jo - great minds--- as they say. That was my objective - to start a new part of the thread but things have gotten in the way until now. Had to be sure all the girls were okay - they were moving about and a count was hard to get. Then had to fill the water tank and feed Tom and Jerry - my morning chores. Billy the…
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Who else doesn't use pictures?
I've heard lots about going through pictures with your LO, putting pictures up for them, etc. But I've found that pictures just aren't that useful, and can often make him more anxious because he doesn't recognize the people. Or gets upset when I tell him who the people are in the picture and they don't look like who he…
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Hello Ed.
I’m checking in to see if your ears were ringing at some point today? I was talking about you and your DW with my dad. I hope things are going okay at your house. I made arrangements to bring in hospice here for my mother. I feel at peace with the decision and so does dad.
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covid and cognitive decline
Early and small research presented at Alz Assn meeting in Denver was reported this morning in the Washington Post. Bottom line is it's very worrisome, and the severity of covid disease doesn't correlate with risk, but loss of smell might. Lots more work yet to be done on long-term consequences in both young and old.…
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need to talk
my husband is undiagnosed but has all the symptoms. I don't think he will agree to get tested. besides the dementia or alzheimers he is on dialysis three times a week and other health issues. my husband is 82 and i am 71. I don't know what to feed him he may eat something one day and the next day he doesn't like it. I feel…
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Wants to walk
Last week my husband got lost walking. I gave him another chance and he did fine but the third day he got lost within 6 blocks of our house so walking privileges are gone. I decided to walk with him and for the last three days we have done 5 mile walks. Today we got home and I made him lunch and he announced that he was…
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Taking Medical Trip 5hrs away
My doctor is sending me 5 hours away for medical tests. The tests will take all day. Nurse says there is a possibility that I will be admitted to the hospital for treatment. My friend is pretty much functional but he does some really weird things once in a while, so I can't leave him at home alone. Is there someone who…
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The Switch Flipped - He Says Get Out
Yesterday was fine (all week really). DH woke me up at 3:30a with "How did you get in here?" I sleep in the LR on the couch, where I can monitor the front & back doors. DH is a wandering spirit. He increasingly stays in the bedroom (between episodes of exit-seeking). Won't leave the house otherwise for errands or groceries…
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MC - want to place but how to get there.
I’ve taken a major turn towards Memory Care. It is no longer if but when. I remember the thread we had recently supporting a member making this decision I think it was Ed or Joe. Since then three things have happened . 1. He picked up the small dog by one leg, and has become more worried about them or focused on them in a…