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What legal documents are needed
A couple of weeks ago someone mentioned in the middle of a thread that you need 5 legal documents. I have 3 (DPOA, will, living will) and wondering what the other 2 are. Getting ready to have the talk about getting affairs in order with DH and need to be specific with him because of his paranoia. Can anyone recall what the…
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The National Alliance for Caregiving Calls on White House to Prioritize Family Caregivers When Devel
https://finance.yahoo.com/news/national-alliance-caregiving-calls-white-120000644.html
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feeling the chronic stress
Really reacting this week to the grinding, one-sided nature of our interactions. There is much that needs doing around here, but my energy is zilch. It takes everything I've got just to keep us in the road. This morning it was merely taking the dog to the groomer, and I'm already exhausted by the time we get back just…
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Any advice about managing catastrophic reactions?
At least I recognize this for what it is, but I'm not sure what to do about it. Triggered yesterday by yet another confrontation about driving. Got pretty heated. The adrenaline helps her focus, so I got pretty detailed about why she shouldn't, including that it's in her medical record. The risk of getting sued, the risk…
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Caretaker Yes or No
My DW is late mid stage with a high stroke risk due to CAA in addition to VD. She is active physically and can fool people quite well on her good days ( sometimes even me ). I have used care-helpers at different times over the last 10 months. The most recent issues have come in the mornings before I leave for work @ 6:00…
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Just need to talk to my friends (146)
Hi, Thought I'd go ahead and get started with an empty cottonsack tonight. Guess I'll never forget how that felt. Those of you who are new to our thread may not know what I mean by that - when I was growing up we picked cotton or pulled bolls. We put it in a long cotton sack with a green cotton boll tied in one corner at…
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Mask Dilemma
DW refuses to wear a mask. In our state she doesn't need one if she's fully vaccinated. In order to enter the place for vaccination she has to wear a mask. Go figure.
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Husband had panic attack, I think
I originally posted this a couple of days ago, mostly to vent, but I guess I was also hoping someone would comment on it., I may have put it in the wrong place. I think my DH had a panic attack. We were watching the met game. I watched it with him for a while, but then decided I wanted to go and watch something I liked. I…
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Luxury Nursing home for French people in Tunisia
A friend who visited my partner during his respite stay him suggested me to have a look at the nursing home that opened in Tunisia for French people. She head about it in a TV show. Even if it is in French, you can have a look. https://www.carthagea.fr/ Due to terrorism, Tunisian tourism has declined a lot. So they have…
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Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Interventio
On June 23, 2021 from 2-3 p.m. ET, please join the National Alzheimer’s and Dementia Resource Center for the webinar, Elder Abuse in People Living with Dementia: Considerations for Prevention, Detection and Intervention. A description of the webinar and registration information follows. Elder mistreatment is a common…
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Cozaar (Losartan Potassium)
My husband was just put on Losartan Potassium for high blood pressure. He was diagnosed last year with MCI. (My feeling is that it was a result of his high blood pressure — that he has had for years.) I did some research on Losartan and saw where studies have shown it to improve or reverse dementia. Has any of your loved…
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Back from the 19-day respite stay
Monday was the checkout of my partner’s respite stay in a memory care. Reminder : the first days he called me in the night complaining because the place was very sad. To everyone visiting him he told that I hadn’t told him I will let him there (we visited together, consulted a psychologist twice on this topic). He was…
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My DH thinks there are four of me living in our home.
DH is convinced there is a group of us (his wife and her imposters) living in our house. Do any of you have a partner/spouse/LO who suffers from "imposter syndrome" or Capgras Syndrome? I am new to the world of dementia/Alzheimer's. I don't even know if what my DH has is dementia or Alzheimer's. What I do know is that my…
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VENT: This is NOT a 24 hour diner
This is a very petty vent. I am over-reacting I know. My annoyance is real and I am going to feel it, until I am done feeling it. DH is up at 4:30 am. I get up at 5 and make him coffee. He wants his meds and I oblige. I make him oatmeal at 7 am. I fancy it up with cinnamon and cranberries. At 10:30 am he is hungry again. I…
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betrayal?
My wife of 41 years, Wanda, is in stage 6 ALZ. All of you know what this is like. In addition to the heartrending decisions involved, we know about the incontinence, the wandering, the stubbornness, the devastating silence from one who can no longer speak in complete sentences, the ache from watching a once vital person…
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New Evaluation Guide for DFA Communities
Dementia Friendly America is pleased to share the newly released Dementia-Friendly Community Evaluation Guide. The Evaluation Guide, developed with funding from AARP, is geared toward local dementia-friendly community leaders and partners to help evaluate the impact of their DFA efforts. Measuring common outcomes of…
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Tiny losses
Every day now there are tiny losses in my DH's memory. Yesterday we went to our favorite restaurant with our son, for Mother's Day. My DH ordered, and when the food came DH slid his order toward our son. "This is your order, Dad." "It is?" And he accepted it, and we went on. I also notice that when he enters the…
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A most difficult day
DH will soon be 91 and I am 81. He is moderate stage Alzheimer's and was diagnosed 5 yrs ago. 3 yrs ago had brain surgery for subdural hematomas. ( 24 Holes in his head for brain bleeds ) He has no short term memory. He had surgery today for basal cell cancer on his nose. That appt including travel was close to 6 hrs.When…
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He is gone(1)
My husband died February 1st. It’s been so hard. I miss him. I miss my vibrant, intelligent, beautiful sweet husband. I can’t believe he’s gone. I wanted to say how helpful this site has been for me. Thank you all for sharing your hearts on this forum. In January, hospice advised me to keep my husband in bed, as he was…
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Scarey new behavior
DH has started leaving the house when he gets upset or angry about something. It started on Easter Sunday when I said something that upset him and he got up and walked out the front door. I wrote about that in another post. When I caught up to him, he was about to cross a busy street. It took forty five minutes to get him…
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Perplexed
We are in year four of this dementia and I remain confused about the changes in DW behavior. The original diagnosis was MCI of the Alzheimer's type. It was done by a PP and a psychologist. This is about as much dx we are going to get for one , my DW doesn't feel that there is any problem. I too have taken over many of the…
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Almost Said Uncle
My DW has been dealing with losing for 5 years now. Only 61 she has very good muscle memory and anything related to primitive memory is strong most days. When the loop of fear or obsessions over facial features take over Nothing can distract or redirect. She has been on seroquel for the past 9 months and it helps but the…
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Disability lawyer recommendations New York
Hi - looking for personal recommendations for attorneys who have successfully handled long term disability insurance claims for clients with MCI/early onset who have had to give up work. Attorneys qualified in New York and practicing in New York City preferred. Many thanks
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Fun afternoon
I tried to give us a fun afternoon yesterday, without much success. Both of us have enjoyed interesting and fun automobiles our whole lives. We’ve been on various clubs and enjoyed outings and shows with our collector vehicles. Yesterday was a group drive of Triumphs and MGs sponsored by our Triumph group. We both were…
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WEF - CEOi - DAC Virtual Lausanne Dialogue
During our time together, you’ll hear from leaders in AD research, advocacy, policy and industry explore the socioeconomic impact of Alzheimer’s disease and new opportunities for the global community to stop this growing pandemic. Held on the eve of the World Health Assembly, this dialogue will shine a spotlight on why…
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Aricept(3)
My husband has been on Aricept for 5 years. His memory has all but gone so I was wondering if it was helping anymore. Well I forgot to put it in his pills for 5 days and he became very confused by day 5. I assumed he was starting a downhill slide until I realized he had not gotten his aricept. He has now had two doses and…
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not sure what happened
We were having a great evening. My husband tries so hard to be "normal". We are going to a wedding next weekend and all of a sudden he wants to meet a cousin he never met and supposedly lives in the same town the wedding is in. We are in MA. The wedding is in NJ and so is the long lost cousin. We have been in NJ so many…
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Last night a beautiful thing happened
I had gone to bed alone again as my husband has been either sleeping in the guest room or on the couch the last few weeks. It was hot and I was having a hard time sleeping when around 12:30 I heard the bedroom door open and he came in. I asked if he would like to come to bed and he crawled in. He asked me if he could hold…
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Birthday party(2)
DW is 69 We will try to have a little party today. Just me and the daughters with her. She has no idea who we are but I did make key lime pie for her.She looks lovely as ever. I recall the 20th birthday party we had for her. Students in our coed Dorm. She was the smartest and everyone knew it. Rule was "only gag gifts" I…
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Comparisons Between Alzheimer's Treatments
It is hard to make exact comparisons between Alzheimer's treatments. Each starts with a different baseline, different numbers of participants, and different trial protocols. Nevertheless, one can somewhat glean what seems to largely stabilize the disease and what only slows it down a bit. Here are some numbers (note for…