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Question Re:incontinence
I realize that incontinence is extremely likely as dementia progresses. My DH is not there yet but his bathroom habits have started to change. He flushes the toilet many times while urinating and/or having a bowel movement. When I casually mentioned this he said that he is worried about overflowing/plugging the toilet. I…
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So True
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Guy cooking -simple blueberry pie.
Woke up feeling very discouraged so I am using pie therapy. I am making both a blueberry and a turkey pot pie. I have developed a simple reliable blueberry pie recipe You need 1) Frozen pie shell (deep dish) 2) Refrigerator pie crust (this is flat and comes in a roll) 3) can of blueberry pie filling 4) Pint of fresh or…
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Just need to talk to my friends (148)
Hi, Thought it was time to begin #148 since we've gotten to page 5 and posts might be beginning to disappear. It's been raining, heavily, here since before 4. That's when thunder awakened me. So, that's over four hours. We're under a flash flood watch and roads west of here are closed. I can only imagine what the county…
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Who determines when 24-hour supervision is necessary?
This may be a double-edged sword. My husband sleeps much of the day and does not get into trouble. When he is awake, he does not attempt to cook, does not wander, basically does not get into trouble. But he does leave the front door wide open, let pets out, leaves the tap running, leaves the fridge open, etc. I get away…
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What should I say?
My DH has been in a Long Term Care facility for about 30 days, he spent about two weeks prior in the hospital. He is feeling that I put him there since I am the one who took him to the emergency room. Whenever I call to try to talk to him he insist on knowing "when are you coming to get me?" I am not sure how I should…
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As a caregiver, what time of day seems to be most challenging
There had been a delay in the post hospital discharge home health care. I hope the issue is resolved soon. I wonder if its because the discharge was from a psych hospital and not say, a post surgery discharge from a medical hospital. The things I currently need help with are not DH's mental state, they are general physical…
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My husband doesn’t want to get rid of the guns in the house.
Have been to this site off and on these past few years. Very seldom post but just reading the questions and replies have been most helpful. My husband has dementia consistent with Alzheimer. His last visit with senior health six months ago he tested 19/30 on the MoCA test. Not sure what stage he is in but I’m thinking he…
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I’m learning.....one thing at a time.
My bride of 46 years gets restless and keeps moving from her chair to her rollator every few minutes. This has been going on for quite some time. She has no explanation for it when I ask. This evening I got upset (not vocally) because I was watching a tv show I was really interested in and DW needed a foot massage. How…
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Hope(1)
I am suppose to take wife to airport to meet our son and return to South Carolina. She is already balking. This crap started in 2012 and this will be my first respit of more than a few hours. She is suppose to be there for a week. I am betting 3 days and hoping for two weeks.
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a post from 3collies
This was posted in an existing thread: "I need to install a safety device on our stove and would like recommendations for a good one. My main concern is gas stove top, but microwave and electric oven are also of concern. Want to have device in home before I have electrician out for install."
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Day care volunteer
DH is going to start day care 2 days a week in July. I told him he signed up to be a volunteer before Covid shut everything down (fiblet). Now he wants to know if he will be getting training. Tonight after dinner at our son’s home he asked if I was proud of him because he didn’t talk about his new “job”. He decided to wait…
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lots of goo info/correct site
https://www.pbs.org/video/revolutionizing-dementia-care-vjv5m6/
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Happy Fathers Day!
I am Wishing all you fathers out there a day of blessings and bliss. As I have gotten older, I appreciate more and more, the values my father has passed along to me. He is an amazing man. I no longer take him for granted. I am grateful to have him in my life. I frequently tell him so. God bless you all.
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New Here(14)
Hello. I'm new to this space. The message board, and the world of living with this ugly disease. My 58 year old husband started acting "out of character" a couple years ago, and progressed to the point of me being ready for a new life. My best friend convinced me that perhaps he needed some medical help. Several months of…
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Post Surgical Delirium?
Hi Friends - I'm reaching out for some guidance and direction. My DH, diagnosed with mild dementia about 8 yrs ago, had extensive spinal surgery on 5/17, was under anesthesia for 5 hours and was given hydrocodone, muscle relaxants and early on, percoset and dilaudid (the latter 2 briefly) for pain. He experienced…
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I made the decision & I am taking a leap of faith
I have listened to trusted individuals and professionals. I have considered the options. I have visited nursing facilities. I have consulted with our PCP. I have prayed about this situation. Contrary to the wise, objective, and logic based advice I have received from the majority of responders here, I am bringing my DH…
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DH is in denial
He says nothing wrong with me. He says he has no AD.
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GPS Tracking(1)
Can anyone advise as to what type of GPS tracking they are or have used on their DH. He has left the house on a few occasions without me knowing. Each time he was returned home safely. I have an ID bracelet but he manages to take it off. Please any advice will be appreciated.
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Wife with dementia, travel, public restrooms
My wife is in the moderate range of dementia. She sometimes gets disoriented in unfamiliar places. We want to take about a three or four hour trip to visit her relatives. I’m sure she will need to make a pit stop somewhere along the way. I’m not comfortable with her going into restrooms by herself as she may get confused…
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DH insists on buying toys
does anyone have experience with fending off the "I wants"? Technically he can afford, but huge waste of money, and of course he doesn't think through that he'll need assistance to use these things. Latest is a kayak. How do we transport? Where will it be stored? Of course, he doesn't care, he just wants. The wants rarely…
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small memory project
We are seeing a lot of TV commercials about travel, and Paul said "We've been a lot of places. Help me remember where we've been." There was a recent comment about going to a certain wildlife place together, but I'd not been there. I started a list. We've been married 22 years, not our first marriages. I listed all I could…
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lot's of good info
I just watched this; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlPbYKSlvXIv
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I think I’m loosing it!
DH seems to be doing better, mild cognitive impairment, memory issues are getting worse, however, meds seem to be helping. He is less attentive towards me, contributes little to our conversations, and falls asleep very very early. I miss having a stimulating conversation. Otherwise, he’s doing fairly well overall. It’s me!…
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funeral trip
I grew up in a different state, and most of my relatives still live there. My brother died suddenly. Paul was back and forth as to whether he wanted to go along on the trip. On one hand he wanted to see my family, and didn't want to be separated from me. On the other, he didn't like the thought of a 12-hour car trip or…
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Difficult weekend
Seriously horrible weekend. Saturday morning at 6:20 AM, my (92 year old) father calls and says he can't walk, he wants me to take him urgent care. No problem, I will get there as soon as I can. (it's a 2 hour drive) My brother who lives less than 10 miles away, was out of town this weekend. Normally he would call him. We…
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Lady Texan, thinking about you
I know the hospital had set today for tentative discharge, am hoping that didn't happen. Hope you are okay.
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Link: How To Manage Your Anger When Caring For Someone With Dementia
I came upon the following link quite by accident and found it is an excellent writing on how to manage one's own anger when caring for a LO with dementia. Worth reading: https://www.iona.org/manage-anger-caring-dementia/ J.
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emails and internet connectivity
My DH is in early stages of early onset A . He has been put on sick leave but still thinks he can administer work. I can't keep on top of his connectivity to the internet. - I can't take his phone away or his lap top. He answering emails from 2017 for example or replies to one person what should be said to another. I am…
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Our final trip together
Today was our final trip together. I took the urn with her ashes to her niche in the cemetary, our pastor met us there for prayers, the cover was secured and I returned home. She died at home on Mother's Day, her funeral was very beautiful then the herse returned her to the mortuary for cremation. I picked up the urn last…