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One is the loneliest number
Years ago 3 Dog Night put out a song called One. They had obviously never lived with a person with dementia. In dementia land Two is the loneliest number. I would be so much less lonely by myself. I have to do everything around the house because my husband can’t help except fold laundry and unload the dishwasher. I find…
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Two small wins
Two very small wins this week but they feel big: 1) We needed to run errands yesterday to a town we don't usually visit and she didn't argue with me about my driving; 2) She let ME call a window cleaner I had used before to set up to get the windows washed (there are a lot) and she didn't argue and didn't fuss when we got…
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DH had a very bad reaction when he noticed the ammo was missing
Sometime in the last 8 months, I had my brother remove the ammo I found in the house. In hopes of avoiding a catastrophic reaction, I neither asked, nor told my DH that I had the ammo removed. Earlier this week, DH discovered the ammo was gone and life has been miserable since. * DH feels betrayed. * DH has lost ALL trust…
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All’s well that ends well
The day isn’t over yet, but I’m declaring it a good day. It didn’t go completely as planned, but what day does? I needed to take my truck in for an oil change, and planned to drive it to the shop while my wife was still asleep, and walk home. Well, the wife that I usually have to drag out of bed at noon was up at 5:30 AM.…
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Thinking of you Ed1937
Hello Ed. You have been on my mind and I am reaching out to say hello. I hope all is well with you. -LT
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Random Act of Kindness(1)
Not sure if this appropriate for this forum but I'll take a chance. Yesterday I took my DW to lunch at one of favorite local restaurants before the summer tourist arrive here in Maine. As we sat on the patio and enjoyed our lunch I noticed only one other table with 2 young ladies enjoying the warm sunshine. After they left…
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https://www.studyfinds.org/tool-predict-alzheimers-4-years/
Added a web site that provides information on a tool that can be used to predict Alzheimer. This may help those who are found to have a positive testing to prepare and investigate all resources that would be useful to them.
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can't see food on his plate
Last night my husband was eating dinner but the food on the left side of his plate fell off the plate onto the table. I guess it was pushed off by mistake. This has happened alot lately. I told him but he could not see it. I went over and pointed to it but he still couldn't see it or my hand. I pushed it back to the middle…
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Can't 'get used to' what's happening.
Dear Alzconnected friends: How do you all do this? Somehow I didn't expect this at all. How naive I have been. Our HVAC is broken. For 59 years my DH fixed everything in our houses immediately, I mean obsessively immediately. All I had to do was say "the faucet leaks' 'the car sounds funny'...and DH was on it. Here in our…
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OT super flower blood moon eclipse
I, for one, missed it. https://www.space.com/super-flower-blood-moon-2021-webcasts
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asking for help
Why am I having so much trouble asking for help. I know I need help. My LO is in early stage 6, at home, etc. . My mind is in a bad place, and I am too exhausted to care, most days. And the long loneliness stretches ahead endlessly, hopelessly. But, today I woke up determined to reach into the outside world, hence my…
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Time for hospice(1)
DH has been deteriorating the past few weeks. He was no longer able to ambulate or even transfer from wheelchair to recliner with my assist. A few near miss falls were frightening. I’m sad because he so wanted to just go down the one step to our screened in porch and see the ducks and geese in our yard. His appetite was…
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Changes(1)
Today my DH slept quite a bit in his chair, which is unusual. He did okay this morning, heating up his blueberry muffin in the microwave and making a sandwich for lunch. Tonight he was using the microwave and I said to set the time for 45 seconds. I checked and he had set it on 4 minutes and 50 seconds. Oh dear! Also, he…
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How to deal?
Hi there, I have been reading posts here for awhile now but have not felt that I need to post my own until tonight. My LOWD, who is just 56 has a combination of FTD and EOAD, late stage 5 early stage 6. His biggest stressor at the moment is not having his drivers license, he hasn''t driven for the past 2 1/2 years. He…
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I have a question about getting a dog.
My DW is 71 and in the early stages of ALZ. She is highly functional and only a few of our friends notice it because they have experience with it. She works everyday selling travel in our home based agency with my supervision. Covid has made the situation possible as very few people are traveling. I work with her and we…
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46th wedding anniversary
This week is the 46th anniversary of our wedding. I have fully accepted that our marriage partnership has been over for almost three years. I brought her cake for the week on Saturday. The sadness is overwhelming. 1971 I knew her , she was occasionally dating my roommate. DW turned 19 1981 She was a Physician We were…
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Suggestions/help with things to occupy DH
My DH has NOTHING to occupy him. He shadows me constantly. He is driving me nuts! His only hobbies prior to his diagnosis were reading and going to the gym. He can no longer work out, and cannot cognitively follow anything requiring reading. He's no longer interested in news or any TV programs, sports, gardening activities…
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webnar this week
Dementia Alliance International https://mail.aol.com/webmail-std/en-us/basic#
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Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly reside
Alzheimer’s Foundation of America unveils “The Apartment,” full-scale model dementia-friendly residence (Alzheimer's Foundation of America (custom credit) | Alzheimer's Foundation of America) By KOLD News 13 Staff Published: May. 22, 2021 at 12:50 AM EDT|Updated: 8 hours ago TUCSON, Ariz. (KOLD News 13) - The Alzheimer’s…
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Is this my problem or his?
I know I've posted about this before, but DH just won't sit still. I don't care if he's busy doing something, but it almost always requires my help. Example: salt shaker isn't in the exact spot it should be. So he brings it to me and asks what he should do with it. I say put it next to the pepper shaker. He asks where that…
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So.MUCH. Toilet paper (??)
There are much much worse things others are dealing with now, but this has perplexed me, so I wanted to ask for any ideas.... We have had toilets clogged to the point that plumbers were coming every couple weeks, for several months. I had drains snaked, checked, etc etc, nothing wrong with pipes, and no objects found. I…
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I don’t know day to day
Some days I maintain hope things will stabilize and we will be able to continue our unsettled but no small life. And then the next day I feel as if I will barely survive the day the constant need of reassurance or trying to communicate with what equates to an eight-year-old I even forget myself that my discussions with her…
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Sudden changes
My DH was diagnosed with Moderate Major Neurocognitive Decline due to possible AD in December of last year. Outside of the short term memory issue, he's been relatively under control. The last few weeks he's shown dramatic downturns; nightly panic attacks, auditory hallucinations, near psychotic episodes during night…
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noticeable changes after the Moderna Vaccine
DH and I had our 2nd Moderna vaccine yesterday morning. Today, I feel fluish and fatigued. This is in line with the literature I reviewed prior to the vaccine. DH is off balance, confused and his tremors are noticeably more pronounced. In addition, DH is having hallucinations which is a completely new behavior for him.…
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Losing my best friend and afraid
My husband has not been diagnosed but is having symptoms of memory loss, confusion, rage, and intense paranoia. He has limited insight and believes I am his enemy most of the time. He has made physical, financial, and divorce threats. He is a moving target, and other times he is rational and apologetic. He was a Division 1…
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An update from WL
Last February I brought my DW home from memory care as I discussed here. I just feel led to give you an update on the outcome of that decision in hopes it might help others making this difficult choice. When she first came home there was some confusion on her part but she soon settled in as if she had never left and she…
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Please let me know?
Please let me know if I am adding to much information to this site. I do a lot of reading and these are things I feel are import to share here. That is only bout a 5th of what I read. If it to much please let me know. Thanks
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Moving(1)
I am new to this site and it is usually not in my nature to seek out help as I am a strong person who handles it all but I really need at this time some direction and advise from people who have done this before me. My DH was diagnosed 4 years ago with CBD (corticobasal degeneration). At the beginning of the pandemic I was…
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Come on Pfizer and Moderna
Why don't we still know the number of people at risk for clotting from the coronavirus vaccines and why don't we know who is at risk for these adverse side effects. Here is part of the answer: Pfizer and Moderna executives declined the offer [from Johnson and Johnson to investigate clotting events], saying their vaccines…
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On a leash
Sorry for the short rant but today is one of the days I feel like I am on a leash I can’t be more than 5 feet away before the frantic paging starts trying to get the weekend started with the upkeep of catching up the laundry that includes items that have been missed placed not sure whether they have been used or not so we…