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2 Years in MC
Hi my friends. I've been away for a while, reading here now and again, but trying to find a way to continue through this life. Sometimes being here is just overwhelming. Sometimes it's just what I need. Yesterday DH "celebrated" 2 years in his MC facility, just a few weeks after he turned 60. He no long has any awareness…
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New here
Hi, my name is Debbie and my husband, Bill, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2019.The signs were there sooner but I didn't recognize it. His mom died with Alzheimer's at age74. We've only been married for 10 years. This a second marriage for both of us after being single for over 20 years. Bill is 81 and me 70 in April.…
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DH placed this week-ups and downs
My DH went to memory care on Monday-my daughter and I brought him in. He was fairly confused about what was happening when we left, but seemed okay. Monday night the memory care staff called me, and said he was agitated and had barricaded the door to the kitchen. I got on the phone with him and was able to calm him down.…
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PET results
I’d love input on my DH PET results. My DH is 53 and we’ve been trying to figure out what is going on with him for more than a year. We finally got an appt at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville last month, which was great. The doc had him do an MRI, ECG, EEG, extensive blood panels, and a PET MRI. I haven’t been able to get a…
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MC Journey - Nightmare
I'm not going into all the details. Placed H on 9/1. He has continued to physically grab staff when being redirected away from a female resident he is fixated on. Medical group that provides service at the facility upped one medication and added another. Then increased both again. In January Facility Director and MC…
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Picked her up for the afternoon
When I walked in she wasn't in the common areas like normal so I checked her room. She was lying in bed but not asleep. When I walked in she was so happy to see me she started crying. We hugged and kissed and then I took her out of MC for the afternoon. She was so happy to be with me. We got hamburgers and a chocolate…
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DH now cannot walk
Home health care nurse told me that DH must be supervised all the time. With just the two of us, prior to his latest decline, he could at least go with me to the store, Mass errands - the beach etc. I sm trying to keep him safely at home, but how will I run basic errands? Walk the dog etc and keep Him safe. The problem is…
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Can he move back home from Memory Care?
My husband went to a memory care facility 10 days ago after a health crisis pushed him over the edge mentally. He was so agitated and delusional that I couldn't take care of him. He never slept, often wandered the house with his eyes half-open talking nonsense syllables. I visited him for the first time yesterday and he is…
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Of all things I didn't need (for a chagrined chuckle)
Sheesh. If my life weren't complicated enough, today i discovered that I have a new but unwanted farm resident: a beaver!!! He or she (or both) is cutting trees by our farm pond and attempting to dam the spillway. Unfortunately there's no such thing as a humane beaver trap, and he's picked a very inopportune place to set…
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personhood
My DW has lately become obsessed with what I'll call "personhood". We have different last names, so no "Mr. and Mrs. ...". Mail (to use one example) get addressed to us using each of our names. She interprets many simple things as though they're failures to recognize her as an individual. Examples: We got a mailing from…
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Driving is set to rest! Finally!
So, part of this is an update, part of it, is I am hoping maybe my story will help someone else. Driving is such a huge subject for all of us. My DH has no insight into his disease, like many others. He is not difficult, but he does like to be independent ( or he thinks he does). Anyway, I asked a few of my close friends…
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Adjusting to the new normal
Today is day 3 of placement in mc for my beloved. On day 1, we brought him in and sat for a while, and when he was escorted out to look around, my son and I left. On day 2, both sons and I went to see him and bring a few more items. It was brutal. He sat in an almost catatonic state. But when I sat next to him, he put his…
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Thank You.
Last night at 11:50PM my husband passed into the hands of God. He had been completely unresponsive to the nurses and to me all day. I talked to him all day about our lives together, about how I had loved him every day for 38 years and had been IN LOVE with him every day for 38 years, even through our darkest times. We had…
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It feels like my world is falling apart
DH has been in MC since January 23rd and I miss him terribly. The house is so lonely and nothing feels the same. I finally had my appointment with the elderlaw attorney yesterday and felt so much better and optimistic afterward. That didn't last long though. Reality isn't always easy and it isn't always pretty. She…
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Adult Day Programs
This is a related to the discussion about MC vs home care, but thought I'd start a new thread. I'm considering a day program once or twice a week for my husband so I have a chance to go to the dentist/doctor and complete some tasks around the house/yard. We will visit a program this week and am now really worried about how…
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Not sure if I can keep DH safe
i would love to hear how others handle- DH was already shuffling , gait imbalance. Etc. after two days in the hospital er her is severely weakened. Not eligible for a rehab facility, the case worker ordered a bed for the first floor of our townhouse and ordered in home physical therapy. My question is is this does the home…
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Lkrielow99
Please don't take this as a means to ridicule you. It is not. I understand that this is one of the hardest things to handle with the disease. But in your best interest, that of your husband and that of the public, you really have to get him off the road. He is way past the point where he shouldn't be driving at all. Not…
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Swallowing Issues
DH has had occasional issues with swallowing for years, but since his Alz diagnosis the difficulties are much more often. He has learned to chew slowly, eat very small bites, and it takes him twice the time to finish a meal than it does me. Last night I had been to a meting and came home, he had an episode while I was…
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So conflicted and grieving at the prospect of mc for dh
One of the things that keeps resonating with me is the statement that many caregivers realize that they have waited too long to place their LO in memory care. I don't want to make that mistake. My DH spends most of the day sleeping, and when he is not sleeping he is staring at the floor. His language skills are…
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You Won't Believe this Update.
First, I want to thank everyone who so kindly and thoughtfully offered me support yesterday when I truly thought I would collapse from pain over my husband's situation. I believe you all carried me through to today. Thank you again so much. Here's what happened today. My husband made it through the night. When I arrived at…
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Caregiver Weight Gain
I am wondering if any of you caregivers have fallen into a pattern of overeating. I know I have and gained 25 pounds this past year! I try and try to stop giving in to my cravings but nothing works. It worries me because not only am I displeased with how I look but it will likely affect my health. I am not asking for…
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Regarding remternetug
Has anyone been approached to participate in a clinical trial for this new drug? Iris
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New diagnosis in middle of major life changes.
Hello all, my husband was diagnosed last week with Alzheimer’s …The signs have been there for about 2 years, I believe my husband is in the mild stage still. Our neurologist didn’t provide a lot of information. I am struggling with some major life changes we started making a year ago. We planned to move from Michigan to…
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How do you know you LO is in the dying phase?
I just left him in the hospital for observation - impacted colon anyway he is so weak. Now can barely walk , sleeps slot. Keeps saying he is dying and I will be ok, i say” Michael- we can get busy living or we can get busy dying’ He will say I want yo get busy living When I left him tonight I felt so sad Maybe I sm not…
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MC journey off to a very rough start
After 3 nights secret work in late hours preparing for moving DW age 59 into MC, I thought I was going to get a break on move-in day (last Friday 3/1). DW has had a lot of agitation and they reassured me they are used to dealing with this. We arrived at 10am, the team assembled in her room, collected meds, signed off on…
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Ruba-dub-dub
Had a thought the other day. How willing is my wife going to be to have - insert name ( ME, Her DAD, the guy that seems to be around all the time when her husband is gone, the guy who always takes her to school, brings her home late at night, takes her food shopping etc:) help her change clothes, help her clean up after an…
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Things Changed Again..am broken.
My last post was a positive one in that my DH (Stage 6.5) turned out to be in a better position, health-wise, than was claimed by an on-call Hospice nurse. My DH's regular nurse came the next day and said my DH was not on the verge of dying, based on all his vitals, etc. Over the last week my husband stopped eating and…
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Not even sure I should post this, even though it's on topic.
I was having breakfast at a restaurant this morning, when I received a scholarship essay my granddaughter wrote. I was eating, with tears running down my cheeks. After all, it's about my granddaughter and my wife. "The key that unlocks doors, education is the most valuable asset one can have in life. Education brings…
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Need Advice for Mobility Issues
My DH was diagnosed 2 1/2 years ago. I'm not sure what stage he's in, but he's really slowing down physically. He has to get up a couple of times a night to pee, and it has become very hard for him. He sits up on the side of the bed and rocks back and forth until he gets enough momentum to stand up. I try to help but…
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Please don't take this as a means to ridicule you. I understand that this is one of the hardest things to handle with the disease. But in your best interest, that of your husband and that of the public, you rea@Lkrielow99lly have to get him off the road. He is way past the point where he shouldn't be driving at all. Not to…