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Memory Care Activities
My wife has ALZ Stage 4-5. One of my big problems in caring for her is finding things for her to do. She has lost interest in many things and depends on me to fill in her time. We go to our Senior Center often, go for walks and have lunch out at shopping malls. In the evenings we watch TV together. While she is at home now…
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Unplugging Cord for Fear of Fire
My mother is in memory care and has been diagnosed with moderate dementia. Lately, and especially when she is staying with one of us children, we find her unplugging everything in her room at the assisted living before she leaves and in her bedroom at our houses when she goes to bed because she’s afraid she’s going to…
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Help Please
Hello everyone - I am hoping you can help direct me on next steps. We just got back from an appointment with my husbands general practitioner. I spoke with the Dr outside of the exam room about my concerns about my husbands change in behavior and attitude. While I didn't expect him to fix it at this appointment I was…
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My brother
I'm new here. My brother has early onset dementia. He lives a few states away from me. He is married to a wonderful person. He is very angry at her. He claims there is too much clutter in the house and wants it all removed by a certain date or he is leaving and moving up by me. I love my brother and we are very close. I am…
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Parent in denial
Hello, I am new to this forum and am seeking some assistance in how to best navigate getting someone to be seen for concerns of dementia/alzheimers? My mother has been exhibiting symptoms for a few years and her memory and ability to convey her thoughts clearly are greatly diminishing. She refuses to acknowledge this…
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Hearing aid use and dementia
Another paper found to be wrong. I just read an article about hearing aids aiding in the fight about staving off dementia. I posted a link, but I received a message that their robot would not allow the link. First time I've seen that. I'm sure you could find it with a search. the original paper, “Association between…
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Cameras indoor
Hi, does anyone have a suggestion on indoor cameras? My mother is living alone for now and I put a camera in kitchen & one by her favorite chair & on patio. These cameras follow movement and also have a red light and she notices them and unplugs them. I’m not sure if they make a camera without the red light coming on or…
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New to the group: Mom won’t stop shopping online
Hi there, My mother has been suffering from memory decline for a few years and was just officially diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, in the early enough stages we’re talking about Lecanemab and I’m sure I’ll be back asking questions about that! One thing we’re dealing with that I feel like others have also struggled with is that…
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New to the group: Dad diagnosed with MCI, what now?
First time posting here, glad to have found this group! My dad is a widower and lives alone. In the past few months, his memory and cognitive skills have noticeably declined. Primary care doctor referred us to a neurologist and my dad scored 20 on the MOCA. My dad was very agitated by the appointment, said he didn’t trust…
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Mom is at peace
Mom passed away early this afternoon. My son and I were with her. I hadn’t been there very long. The change between last night and noon today was a lot. She’s at peace now. I’m continuing to feel numb - but l do feel relief.
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How to convince a loved one to move into an assisted living facility
hello. I am a caregiver for my father. He currently lives alone. I live very close to him. His Alzheimer’s has progressed and I’m concerned about him living alone. I’ve had some things in place the last few years that have allowed him to remain home but his behaviors, especially late in the day, are concerning me. The…
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Thanksgiving MC
I don’t know what to do about thanksgiving. My mom is in MC. Has been since August. She keeps bringing up Thanksgiving and my sister who usually hosts. My sister and I were hoping that bringing our families together at the MC’s Thanksgiving holiday buffet celebration would help but it hasn’t. She’s fixated on Thanksgiving…
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Dad with early stage, worsening
Hi, My sweet dad, 84, is declining and he knows it. It’s utterly heartbreaking. He has begun saying he lives in another house that is exactly like his. Most days, he falls asleep in his chair in the afternoon. I also have to make sure he eats because he won’t think to or he gets overwhelmed thinking about it. Until one day…
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I'm new to all of this!
I'm the daughter Of A newly diagnosed Vascular dementia patient , my 86 yr old dad. Our situation is pretty unique. He's living alone For the 1st time in his entire life. The love of his life And my mom died in 2012 After 5 year battle With cancer in which my dad took care of her at home. He moved in with my brother After…
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Daughter helping care of DW
I searched all over for comments about my daughter helping me care for my DW. Most of what I saw were complaints/concerns about lack of help. So is it reasonable for me to think that we can do it? And for how long? DW was diagnosed MCI in 2016 and AD 2018. Age 73. Behaviors don't perfectly fit a stage, but it is probably…
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How long does separation anxiety last?
I’m a longtime lurker who’s been on the dementia train with my husband for about six years. He’s probably in the beginning of stage six. For the past few years, he’s had separation anxiety whenever I’m not in the same room. He attended adult day care for 2 years, but was fairly anxious the whole time. Often the day care…
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Sundowners
Could this be sundowning? My DH was married to his first wife for 23 years. We have been married 32 years. This last week, in the evening only, he keeps telling me that he knows he divorced his first wife, but then asks me - did I ever remarry or do I have girlfriends? I’m wondering if this is part of sundowning because it…
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Packing up to go home
I just put my DH in memory care yesterday. This morning the nurse said he had everything packed up to go home. She said he didn’t sleep all night and wouldn’t even take his clothes off last night. Now he’s crying today saying he doesn’t understand why he had to be there. I’ve been told not to go visit for at least a week.…
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Stages
Hi all. I'm new here. Caring for my Husband who was diagnosed about 4 years ago with early onset ALZ . I've been reading the messages and see some of you talking about stages. I'm not sure how do I determine what stage my husband is in? Thank you in advance for your help.
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Shaving solution
I switched DH over to a battery operated electric shaver awhile back and found that if I leave it on the kitchen table he automatically picks it up and uses it while I am preparing the meal. At 3 times a day he is doing a pretty decent job and I don’t have to say anything. All I do is clean it under the kitchen faucet and…
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Probiotiques
Bonjour, quels sont les Probiotiques qui sont adaptés à une personne atteinte d'alzheimer ? Merci d'avance pour vos aides Cordialement
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New to group. Married father moved in with us. Undiagnosed
In August we brought my very confused father to live with us, released in family care. Wife is from the Philippines and works 24/7. In the 3 months he has been here he's had 21.4 hours of facetime with her. My father is getting hyper focused on things that last 1-2 weeks. I have tried to involve her in his care but she…
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Major Sundowner
My poor DW has had a few minor sundowning events, but wowzers, did she go all in last night. We ended up dressed and standing on the front porch, ready to “go home” at 9pm with pouring rain and flood warnings. Good thing she didn’t want to get wet, despite the two baseball caps she had put on, and I was able to get her to…
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Starting a new business at 80
Hello all, I’m new as well to the group. With all that cognitive changes I have noticed with my dad, the biggest concern is talks of starting a business with no prior business experience as well as assuming his sister will co-sign on a loan. There are a lot of financial risks that I believe his brain is not logically…
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She has gone to heaven
I cry as I write this. My wife passed yesterday at 2AM. Now I am suffering in stage eight. I don’t know what to do in order to feel better. So I thought I would write my awe full feelings down and send them away. I know others have gone threw this. I am nervous and restless. I am very sad I miss my wife so much. I feel…
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Wife memory disappearing and won't see a doctor
My wife of 53 years has been in memory decline for over a year and it is getting worse. She will ask the same question dozens of time a day. She doesn't want to see a doctor because her mother told her most doctors do nothing useful. For a while I was confronting her with the memory loss information but she always denies…
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Dad won’t stop correcting my mother
Hi I am new to the group. My mom is in early stages. My dad is has not accepted the dementia and still thinks he can “fix” it. He constantly corrects her when she says something that isnt right. How can I get across to him that it isnt good for her?
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Autoimmune dementia
Hello Everyone, I have just read some articles about Autoimmune dementia. I was wondering if anyone had heard of this / pursued diagnosis of this / sought treatment for this? Thank you.
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Everyone is his Friend
My SO who is 45 EOA thinks he knows everyone when we go out to the store or in public. Most people are receptive and understanding. I feel that since he doesn't go to the store as much as he used to and isn't exposed to the public this is a reaction? However I have also read that this is a part of the disease. He has also…
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May God bless you all
l am thankful for this forum that has so many kind and wise members. Thank you all for the sound advice, good comments and overall generous support. They are very helpful.