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Obsession with his cat
My DH was diagnosed with Alz a year ago, but I was seeing symptoms for at least 3 years prior. He still comes across "ok" to others. Just not able to come up with words alot of the time, but I see much more than this of course. We have two cats and DH is particularly attached to one. He now seems rather obsessed with it.…
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Guilt and Grief
My wife of 47 years died from Alzheimer’s in July 2025 on her 75th birthday. I was her only caregiver for the past 10 years. During the last 12 months or more of her life I prayed and asked others to pray for me to have more patience and understanding of her affliction. I knew at times I was being impatient and knew it was…
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Thank you all for advise and steps to take
i appreciate every ones input and allowing me to vent a little I have no one to talk to.
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Upcoming Events
Here are some upcoming events that Michael Ellenbogen shared with me: Updates, Announcements & Upcoming Events GUIDE Affinity Group Biweekly Sessions Join the ADC Program for one hour of real-world insights, best practices on GUIDE-related topics, and open Q&A on every other Wednesday, 8:00–9:00 AM PT / 11 - 12 Eastern.…
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Insomnia
hello…me again..so my mother has been tried on Mirtazipine and Celexa and Melatonin and she is not sleeping at night with anything given to her. Her doctor is trying to find a medication that will work, I really would like to keep my mother at home because she always told us that she did not want to be put in a nursing…
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Kinsua then Leqembi ??
I am 77, newly diagnosed with MCI and my doctor is recommending Leqembi. Would like to know if anyone has experience with starting on Kinsua and then moving onto Leqembi ?? Thanks
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bedtime ritual
Anytime we lay down on the bed, whether for a nap, but especially at bedtime my DW is constantly up and down. She's at that stage where she continually paces and jabbers so I suppose this is an extension. But the bed thing - I can tell she's exhausted but she will spend an hour up and down up and down, in and out. Very…
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in a dilemna re ALZ/divorce...any lawyers or people having had this experience?
My wife and I amicably separated at 65 years with no intention or desire to reconcile. It should have no bearing but to avoid judgement from y'all I will share that I tried FOR YEARS everything I could to address the lack of intimacy (emotional, physical - not talking just sex) and SHE refused and gave me an ultimatum:…
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From NYT: Is It Healthy to Grief Before a Loss
A piece on anticipatory grief. https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/17/well/anticipatory-grief.html?unlocked_article_code=1.uU8.ctMJ.nGw1BRIf_CY5&smid=url-share
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How get a reputable medical alert bracelet
Do you need to have patient permission to get one ? My mom won’t do this for herself. Dad too. Mom has moderate Alzheimer’s and still drives. When I Google there are way too many choices. Obviously mom isn’t going to ask docktor and her doctor probably doesn’t care to mention to her. That’s why she needs a new doctor too
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Living with my grandmother as a 30 year, how do I make my own life?
Hello, I am 30 years old and live with and care for my 90-year-old grandmother full-time while working as a high school counselor. Long story short, my mom is a narcissist and comes up with 100 excuses on why she can't help me. She lives about an hour away and visits 1-2x a week and only takes her out to lunch, never…
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DW not urinating enough
Lately, my DW is down to one urination in the morning and that's it. I don't believe her fluid intake is any less than usual. I have always known her to have a pretty strong bladder (i.e. not needing to go very often) but this has me worried. I have antibiotics that I give her from time to time but I really don't think…
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🤯😠😩😤🤬 Lost it today 😢
oh boy! Never thought I'd not recognize myself but today after my rant and I mean all day rant I had no idea who I was! He crossed the line, broke my back, went beyond what I could handle. Not just today but building for days maybe weeks and I just lost it! Patience, understanding, etc etc. just done today! Yelling at me…
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Short Term Memory
Just a question…my DH short term memory is almost completely gone. He can do something or ask a question and within one minute have no memory of anything. Here's the question…He can still drive into town and run to the store with no issue. How can his memory be so bad but yet he can navigate into town driving in the car…
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Nurse daughter long distance to mom with moderate Alzheimer’s
Mom is 78 and lives with dad 4 hours away. Sisters in town but I’m supposed to help with the medical stuff. Problem is mom still drives ( I know) she has always been dads caretaker although he is only with slight memory loss and gets around but distant with diagnosis. Mom says she’s fine. We want to get her a neurologist…
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92 Year Old Grandmother (Dementia due to aging) & 63 Year Old Uncle (Frontotemporal Dementia)
My wife and I were recently appointed guardianship of her grandmother as her son whom has lived with her his entire life , he had epilepsy and had a right frontal lobotomy 20 years ago, she is suffering with extreme anosognosia of nothing being wrong with her (CHF,Fibroids, had 1 minor stroke and 2 heart attacks) and that…
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Couldn’t Find the Toilet
I’m thankful that I have had two nights of sleep and could cope with this. In the middle of the night it instantly reminded me of an old joke “he thought it was the WC but it was the cupboard” I didn’t hear my darling DH get up to go to the WC but I woke when I heard the tinkling and he was urinating into our puppy’s…
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New here.Very stressed and heartbroken
My mom was diagnosed over 3yrs ago but is declining more each day. I went to see her and she took all the family pictures off the walls and moved all her clothes I had to put them back on walls and rehang the clothes. She didn't remember my brother's name and was saying my little sister almost got hit by a car, she often…
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New Here
Hello. I am new here. I am assisting my father with taking care of my mother who is 87 years old. She’s having a lot of insomnia lately and stays awake all day and night for two days. She’s been prescribed medication but that doesn’t seem to help. Any suggestions?
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Zoom Meetings
If any of you want to join our zoom meetings, let me know.
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Is there a zoom where folks are regularly meeting?
Hi there. I am new here - I am have intermittently active on the Mayo Clinic online platform for online support. I have been part-time caregiving for my mom the last few years now. In the last two years - the caregiving has pretty much become full-time. I am temporarily living back home with my parents to help my dad with…
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I can't believe this life
My husband is going into late stage alzheimer this has been going on 10 years now. I feel like a robot most of the time devoid of emotion because the days and nights both keep me from having a normal thought. It has been nearly two weeks since I been out of the house, The ambulance brought him home from a 5 day stay in the…
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Sharing Glen Campbell’s dementia film again
https://m.imdb.com/title/tt2049586/
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Memory Care Day 1
Today I took my DH to MC. Such a hard decision to make and a hard, hard thing to actually do. The staff was wonderfully welcoming, giving him big hugs, making him feel valued. I got an update this afternoon that he was doing well, had a good lunch, checked out every inch of the place, walked the path outside, enjoyed…
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caregiver for my dad who is 89 and has dementia
My dad had been living with a lady friend for 2 years then she felt she couldn't take care of him anymore which i understand. He lives with me now but goes to visit her everyday. My question is how do i deal with the fact that when its time for him to come home she isn't very helpful . I have to be the bad person all the…
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Days with more sleep
My DH is in late stage 6 AD, and been under Hospice care for 16 months. The past 10 days he sits most of the day, as opposed to waking around the house moving items from place to place. I know this is progression and not that unusual, however, every three days he is sleeping most of the day. A normal day he will go to bed…
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overwhelmed and need guidance
Hello I am a caregiver to my father. He has been diagnosed with severe alzheimer. He is 73 and he is slipping away and being lost to this disease. Each day is a blessing but so hard to see him decline. I am holding off as long as I am able to care for him at home. I need some advice on what activities or what other…
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caregiver lonleyness
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CBD & Alzheimer’s
an FYI https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/cbd-help-treat-reduce-inflammation-alzheimers-disease