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What To Except During Medicaid Health Needs Assessment
Hi. I signed my mom up for Medicaid with our local Office of Aging and finally got the financial assessment done yesterday. The in-home health needs assessment is in a few weeks. Can anyone enlighten me on what to expect? Are they pretty perceptive at knowing when someone with MD is "masking" and making it seem a lot…
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How To Get Mom To Take Baths
Hi Everyone, I’m having the hardest time getting my mother to take baths. She’s alway been a very clean person and used to love taking a relaxing bath. However since her Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia has progressed it’s getting harder to get her to cooperate. And of course, she reminds me that I’m the child and she’s…
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Early behaviors, pre diagnosis behaviors
I keep thinking about DH’s weird behaviors that took place 5-7 years before diagnosis that caused so many fights and so much frustration, anger, and unhappiness for me which seem, in retrospect, to have been dementia symptoms. Here’s a partial list: Obsessions: no matter how many times we’d talk about a project around the…
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New Group for Middle Aged Caregivers
Please join! Support Group for Middle Aged Spouse Caregivers Go to the GROUPS tab on the home page or copy & paste this link (sorry that I can’t get the hyperlink to stick!) https://alzconnected.org/group/43-middle-aged-caregivers-support-group
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New Group for Middle Aged Caregivers
Please join! Go to the GROUPS tab on the home page or copy & paste this link (sorry that I can’t get the hyperlink to stick!) https://alzconnected.org/group/43-middle-aged-caregivers-support-group
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Frustrated with finding Geriatric care
Three days ago, I called the memory clinic to inquire about practitioner that was scheduled with DH today. The receptionist said there was only 1 geriatric doctor and she only works one day a week. She said the practitioner was very good and could prescribed medications. She would give my DH a short test…. So I decided to…
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New Here - Looking for help for brother
Hello, I've been lurking and reading discussions for a few months now. Our family became concerned last fall. The ball got rolling after I scheduled the PCP appointment my brother had been procrastinating. That was in Feb. A few weeks later we got in to see the neurologist. He scored 22 out of 30 on the assessment that was…
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Just venting
I am just dumbfounded by what the CG is telling me about my MIL. We left her for two week as we have been trying to move out of State to be closer to our Grands and family since earlier this year. She was mad at us for disabling her stove. DH got hold of her next door neighbor and got the stove back on. The same day,…
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memory care
What is exactly memory care? How do you know when it is time? When they don't recognize you anymore? hard to handle?
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Picking up the pieces
where do you start when you don’t know how or where to start? My husband has been my life for 30 years. I just don’t know what to do with myself. I had to place in a MC facility & I just can’t believe it’s been 3 months and I still haven’t left my house except to go visit him everyday.
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Hygiene issues because he hates being wet
For a while, I could get my DH to shower every few days and he had no trouble doing so on his own. I just needed to remind him to use soap and shampoo. A few months ago, he just absolutely refused to go into the shower. He said he didn't need that anymore, it was too small, stuff like that. So I bought some microfiber…
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Anniversary #47
It's our wedding anniversary today. I'm just really sad because nothing about our marriage turned out the way I thought it would. As background, we found out after we placed my DH in MC that he had (seemingly) been unfaithful, was deeply into porn, and even had pictures that may have been illegal (or borderline). Even…
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Feeling like a terrible person!
Yikes do I feel like an idiot! DH 4 years into VD and his short term memory going downhill quickly! I should know I should be aware but duh! I started a new BP med and apparently by mid after my pressure falls. Today it was 70/50 I was feeling drained and told DH I wasn’t feeling well and going to lay down . He came up to…
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Just checking ...
Has anyone heard that quizzing a PWD helps their brain stay active? The friends who are visiting my mom this week have been plying her with multiple choice questions, trying to get her to remember things. They provide cues, and she answers correctly much of the time. I have overheard them saying things like "this bird is a…
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When to start considering meds
I know this is a question for the professionals but wanted to get some insight from caregivers on this. At what point should meds be considered? What kind of behaviors are most helped by them? I’m having a more difficult time with DH lately as he progresses but I think it’s more my behavior or reaction that causes the…
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LO wanting snacks late at night
Hello everyone, recently moved my dad in with us who has high blood pressure and borderline diabetic and have finally started his blood pressure and cholesterol meds as he was forgetting to take them. He lived alone and would eat out. When he would Remeber to eat. I have started to alter his diet now that he is here. But…
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Medication Difficulties
Hello everyone. I can’t say I’m very new here, but this is my first post. I’ve been (what my husband would say is “lurking”) in the background - reading and learning from all of you who have travelled this path before me. Thank you so much for your comments and candor, it’s already made my life better by knowing you’re…
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Early Alzheimer’s dementia
Hi everyone. My father informed me today that my mom (who is 72) was just diagnosed with early Alzheimer’s dementia. I noticed she would forget things a little more recently, ask the same question a few times, and misplace her phone, keys, etc. my father pulled me aside and told me about the diagnosis after the pet-scan.…
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New Drug Treatment , Sarasota Fl
I am looking for the new drug treatment in Sarasota Florida for early onset Alzheimers for my wife when we arrive in Florida in October
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Just had to share … LOL
My DH just said … something just ran past the chair into the other room. (He has hallucinations quite often, but the Seroquel keeps him calm during the episodes.) Anyway, I responded as usual … maybe it was just my shadow you saw when I walked in the kitchen. He said, “No, something ran in there.” (I got up and…
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Alz & Down Syndrome
My son was diagnosed with Alz in March of this year. He is non-verbal and incontinent. He lives in a facility with round the clock care but I'm concerned that because he is now down to 1 word, yes that he may be misunderstood. I get him bi-weekly & bring him home but he doesn't do much anymore and has no interest in the…
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Alz & Down Syndrome
my son was recently diagnosed and he is now non-verbal. He lives in a home with 24 hr care but I'm concerned his lack of communication which is only "yes" will be misunderstood. This is all new to me as his decline was sudden & fast. I need help as well emotionally because I cry all the time knowing my son no longer does…
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Tips for the dreaded move to memory care
I’ve finally made the decision to move my beloved husband to a memory care center. I’m so overwhelmed with grief and just getting through the actual process. Can anyone offer me advice for how you actually get your spouse to the facility and what to tell them. My husband still loves me dearly even though most of the time…
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Blame!
I don’t know if other caregivers have this issue but I am having a tough time handling it. DH with ALZ has mild cognitive impairment with very short memory. Every single time he makes a mistake, he blames me. He recognizes the mistake but seems compelled to make it my fault. I don’t chastise him for his mistakes so, I…
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More intensive home care or a nursing home?
Wondering what people's experiences have been around deciding to move a parent into a home versus doing care at home. My mum's dementia seems to be progressing rapidly. She has around 20 hours a week of care at home at the moment which we are going to be keep scaling up but we are going to start looking at homes too. It…
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Impatience
Feeling like a monster, I have no patience today. It’s a rare day with no appointments for DH or crucial business to take care of and I want to do literally nothing for at least a few hours. Feeling guilty and being snippy with DH’s forgetfulness. I want him to just go do his own thing but I know he sees my impatience and…
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Gabapentin mimics dementia symptoms
Just wanted to let everyone know if you take Gabapentin for nerve pain, etc. it causes symptoms that mimics Alzheimer's. So much so, that I was 99% sure I had it (also have family history with the disease). Been off Gabapentin for three months now and am feeling much better. If you need help with nerve pain, maybe your…
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suggestions for incontinence underwear
I know it's been discussed elsewhere, but in my overwhelm I am not finding it. Can someone recommend a brand of women's incontinence underwear that Mom will think are real underwear? Soft, thin but absorbent feel like fabric not paper? And, then of course… where is the place to buy them? Thank you so much!