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To be clear - I have joined this group on behalf of my niece who is the caregiver of her 62 year old husband with ALZ. She still works full time (so has little time to do this kind of online research herself) and he is home alone all day. He is now at the point where he shouldn't drive anymore, both because of his current…

I took my DW out shopping for a new pair of sneakers, found a pair she loved. The next day we were going out and she wore the new sneakers and raved about them. When we got home she put them back in the box and placed them on the couch. The next morning I noticed the sneakers were gone from the couch but didn't say…

Had a terrible screaming match with my former partner. Diagnosed with Mci 5 years ago. His treatment is with the VA. I feel he is beyond mci. He no longer lives with me. He is in is own condo. Dresses himself, feeds himself, drives his car, bowls and golfs. Finances are out of control. Not paid or paid twice. We broke up…

My son, always holding hope found this article in the NY Post. I don’t discount the possibility of magic mushrooms providing temporary lucidity. Would love to see your thoughts. https://nypost.com/2026/06/04/health/alzheimers-patient-recovers-speech-continence-and-memory-with-this-drug/

Our local library held its first Memory Cafe yesterday…for caretakers of people with dementia and their partner. My DH is in early Stage 4 and seems "normal" most of the time. There were several people there who were quite advanced in dementia. Although I have read everything about dementia and watched numerous videos, I…

Has anyone had a LO who was diagnosed after 80 and if so do you feel like their age advanced the dementia timeline?

Do any of you have any experience with your LO getting a massage or a facial at a spa? I was gifted an hour massage, followed by an hour facial today. It was heaven and I couldn't help thinking, during the facial, if my mom could have a facial and enjoy it. I'm not sure she ever has had one (professionally). I know that as…

We have a bathroom that’s got two doors, one from the hallway and one from the kitchen. You can literally walk into bathroom from hall, go through it and exit on the kitchen side and walk around back to hallway and complete the circle. Well that’s what my DW with EOAD has been doing literally for the past hour or so. It’s…

So I went to my first Barrows Neurological appointment I think maybe last week or so. It went very rell. The neru I was assigned to was very thorough, companionate and a go getter. He, and two Neuros in traing spend over an hour with me asking me about 1001 questions most of which I had never been asked. All and all a VERY…

He's wanting to wear his glasses and sneakers to bed. The glasses press into his skin and irritate it if he does keep them on in the night. He has very oily skin so it builds up under the glasses as well. The sneakers aren't bothering his skin right now but I do worry that they may contribute to pressure sores in the…

DH just told me that the truck that just drove by us has a picture of me on it! It was a pork truck with a big fat pig on the side! It hurt but I let it go. Looking at my grandsons HS graduation's pictures and DH said wow Look at those bags under your eyes! Cried and walked outside! Do not tell me it’s the dementia he has…

This is just a therapeutic post on my part. My wife and I were married 30 years ago, and we have lived in the same house the entire time. Our 30th anniversary came and went with no fanfare, as she has not understood any significant dates for over a decade. Dementia has destroyed ten and a half years of our marriage. As…

I have two questions: First, almost universally the memory care facilities I have visited say you should place your person sooner rather than later. I wonder what the evidence is for this, or whether it's easier for them to have less impaired people. What I see, almost everywhere, is people who are mostly pretty far along…

My DW of 55 years was diagnosed with AZ, VD, LB in December of 2025. She has a wide range of health issues, which I have helped her handle for our entire marriage, The latest issue that I have struggled to deal with is her diabetic control. She has been a diabetic since she was 12YO. She has had an insulin pump for nearly…

Living with Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia presents significant challenges for both the individual and their loved ones. These conditions progressively impair memory, thinking, and behavior, impacting daily life. Below is a concise guide on managing Alzheimer’s or dementia, tailored to your interest in…

I’m finding it difficult to “do all things with great love”. My DH is really unable to follow through on any request, “put the screwdrivers away” “take out the trash” “put in a new trash bag” “feed the dogs”because he can’t hold onto the thought long enough to complete it. He used to be able to follow a one step direction…

i just rang 0330 053 2617 and got through to a company I believe called Kinly who were simply wonderful and felt I must share with anyone looking after someone with alzheimers. i saw it on the mirror this morning that the supermarket Iceland are involved in something where you can check for free if there’s any extra…

Can anyone share what their Medicare provider covers for in home care and memory care assisted living

To When You Used to Know Me Living in this painful present, My days are overcast. Watching you disappear, Grieving the loss of all that’s passed. I can’t bring back our yesterdays Or share my memory. I can’t take your hand and lead you back to when you used to know me. When I lay you down beside me And think about…

We are moving to NC from CA and must select a new medicare plan. We currently have a MC advantage plan but have heard switching to original medicare at this point, since we are able to switch with the move, might be the right choice. I believe there is no health qualifications to switch during this time. DH has VD with a…

First, thank you to all who generously contribute to this space. I’ve been benefiting from your wisdom for some time even though I’d found it hard to bring myself to post. I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on how to deal with the confusion regarding time. My DH is in the moderate to severe stage. I calculate…

Our long awaited appointment with a Certified Elder Law Attorney is tomorrow. I have not discussed this with my Mom at all. I paid the required deposit for the consultation. She will no doubt balk at the idea - doesn’t need an attorney, too expensive, etc. I think that I will be able to reason with her regarding the will…

i don't know what to do with my overwhelming grief. Today Sunday perfect sunny weather my DH our little Schnoodle and me, coffee in mugs, new wheel chair (that DH wouldn't use) in the car, down to the Marina walkway to wave off three 40’ yachts our friends going out for a day trip to the local island. Then a short walk…

I see a recent thread ("Dad almost totally impossible to communicate with") with a similar question but wanted to extend the conversation. My dad (just turned 88, vascular dementia) has been in assisted living for a few months and at first was calling over and over (both me and other friends and family.) But now not only…

Hello. This is my first discussion as things are changing with my LO. My mom has Alzheimer's and was diagnosed about 5 years ago. After a year in, my daughter moved in with her to help care for her and was there 2 years, then my niece moved in for another 2 years. She has repeatedly vocalized wanting to stay in her home,…

My DH who is 77 has mid stage Alzheimers , tinnitus and severe hearing loss. He qualifies for a cochlear Implant. I was hoping someone has gone through the experience of their loved one getting one. I am concerned about how my DH will handle getting used to it and ability to do so. Any help much appreciated.

Over the past few weeks our cat Squeak hides under the bed when we go to bed. (Probably senses the stress and anxiety) And every night LO spends hours calling Squeak and crawling around the bed trying to get Squeak up. Last night was the same but it turned into a horrible night. LO's frustration over not being able to get…

My DH has severe bilateral knee pain that nothing is helping. His orthopedist thinks it may be referred from his back and ordered an epidural steroid injection. That gave him just a few hours of relief. I wondered if anyone has any insight into adding gabapentin (Neurontin) or duloxetine (Cymbalta) to see if that would…

I had been telling the doctors that something was going with my mom for a year and they finally did test. This year the test confirmed that her memory is fading. I just hate that it took so long. My mom started needing more care now, so I had to put her in a rehab, because I am exhausted. I’ve been taking care of her since…

My DH can’t accept that he has Alzheimer’s. Everyday things are getting harder for him and when I try to help or think of things to make ie easier for him and it doesn’t work I get yelled at and so does God. He refuses medication to help him so I feel like I am at a loss. Thank you for letting me vent.