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Looking for Work From Home Opportunities
Hello, I thought this would be a good place to ask since other people might have the same or a similar struggle. I stopped working in July after I abruptly decided to come care for my Grandmother who is level 5 LBD. I have since depleted my savings and I am not getting paid for her caregiving. Although I have applied for…
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Feeling so Sad
Hi there - DH was diagnosed with MCI due to AD in July. He's 66; I'm 58. I posted last month and many of your responses to me were so helpful. I'm meeting with a counselor for my newfound anxiety. I'm anxious about his/our future. Although he's doing so well and he's in the early stages, daily I'm witnessing his…
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What type of longterm facility/community takes LO with Suicidal Ideations & Alzheimer’s?
null Dad is 87 diagnosed with mild-moderate Alzheimer’s a year ago and has been taken twice (to two different) Geri-psych units, went willingly with paramedics, for suicide ideations but refuses medication. He even wrote a goodbye letter. He sees no future, no purpose in living, at times. The Geri-psych unit did not…
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Medical alert watch band
My dad has Stage 5 ALZ and it is time to make sure he has a medical alert band - problem is he won’t wear a bracelet or necklace but he wears a watch - daily. Any ideas for a new watch band or add-on that acts as a medical alert? Thx.
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New Caregiver Advice Needed
Hello - I'm new to this caregiving role and am navigating these responsibilities on top of raising 2 young kids, looking for a new job, and all the other things. Where are the best places to start in seeking help and locating resources? My mother currently has a pseudodementia diagnosis and I'm wondering if anyone else has…
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Just trying to stay alive through this nightmare
I haven’t been active here, where I do need to be because I just got out of the hospital. I was unable to eat for 4 days and lost another 10 pounds from vomiting, diarrhea, and dry heaving. I’m now at 75 pounds. I see my primary tomorrow. DH has been so mean and cruel. I am broken and grieving the loss of 54 years of…
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concerned
My dad is in a MC. He is probably stage 6 but I don't know for sure. When the aide took him to his room to clean him and change him(he is totally incontinent) he tried to choke her. He has not shown any violence before. She said she was squatted down at the time so I wonder if he thought she was some sort of animal. He…
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Medicare Question
Hi everyone, My mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's (mild) state. She currently has Medicare under an Advantage Plan - United Healthcare. Because of her new diagnosis, we are considering moving her back to Original Medicare in order to have more options for care. Does anyone have advice about this (i.e. having Original…
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In hospital and medicine
In the hospital they have him on serquel in day and Ativan at night he is on Ativan, at night He keeps trying to get out of bed but is too groggy. He is very upset and keeps saying he wants to come home. But more aware, sort of. How can I calm him or should I leave him alone for now?
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Does anyone have someone their caring for have any interest in what they have
just curious if anyone taking care of loved ones if they ever ask about this illness and what it’s all about and out come
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Talking and doing things together
My DH with Alz often says he misses me . Even though we've been tosh all day. Especially if we've had a particularly quiet day without too much communication between us. I try to think of things to do together, but not every day. We live by the beach and do take walks together most days. He has given up most of his…
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Coconut Oil
I just heard about using coconut oil at one of the caregiver's groups. They said 1and 1/2 tsp per day. Has anyone used this and did they see an improvement?
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It’s finally happening. Placing hubby in MC
this week he gets TB screening required and I get medical forms filled out. Date can be as soon as next week. Telling him we are checking out a new building for brain fog care. He calls what he has brainfog. I’ll work out with place to take him somewhere and then I’ll get suitcase from car and leave with them. Any other…
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Finding his way around the kitchen
My parents live together in an independent living apartment that is part of a community that has multiple levels of care. My brother lives near by and helps them with urgent issues. I live about 2.5 hrs away. My father has been recently diagnosed with ALZ and is becoming stressed because he's having trouble finding things…
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Finding help for teeth grinding
My mother has cerebral amyloid angiopathy (CAA) and the dementia that also comes with it. She has had two strokes, cannot communicate, cannot follow directions, requests, or commands, and her awareness of her surroundings varies strongly by the day. If we gently work at it, we can get her to open her teeth a small bit, but…
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Hospice at home?
mom has Alzheimer’s, stage four or five. Her husband of 71 years is now going into hospice. We are debating on whether to bring him home so she can spend time with him or placing him in a hospice facility. My fear is that my mom will not remember what is going on and having him here will be harder on her than if we had to…
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Want to do the best for my Mom
Hello all This is my first post but I have been reading the discussions (parent caregiving) and see what a great community this is. Background- my 96 yr old mother was diagnosed with mixed dementia (vascular /alz) Oct 2023. I’m also wondering if she has LATE dementia due to the age at diagnosis. She was hospitalized Nov…
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Tips for husbands
I mentioned these in a reply a few days ago but thought they might be worth repeating in a post. For those husbands caring for DWs here's a few things I've picked up along the way: bra straps for bra straps. Yes, they make these small straps that go in the back that connect the two that go over the shoulder if your wife…
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Mom caring for adult child with memory loss
My first post. I'm 84 and my adult child was diagnosed with moderate cognitive decline 4 months ago. Has been on doctor prescribed vitamin /depression /antipsychotic protocol since then. Has anyone else got this issue?
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Should I move my mom?
Hello, My mom is in a memory unit of an assisted living facility. She is nearly 98 years old, wheelchair bound, and can still have basic conversations. The details are below but to make a long story short, they sent my mom to the ER without an aid and without informing me. The details: The other morning I got a call from…
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'Word Salad'
Good evening, Returned from a week-long visit to my hometown. Went with my Mom to see my Dad (PWD) in the memory care unit 3 times while I was there. I was very happy to see he is doing better after having spent time in the hospital for medication management. He had been sleep deprived, depressed, anxious, agitated; then…
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help with legal and other issues
I have a friend whose housemate has very significant memory loss, but no diagnosis. The friend has asked for some input from me since I have a little experience in general. I have tried to search some of the discussions about the legal, financial and interpersonal challenges, but haven't hit on exactly what I'm looking…
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Hubby Moving to MC Wednesday
These knots in my stomach come and go. It’s awful thinking about leaving him there without him knowing. I have always been as honest as I could. Getting there 11:30 then noon is lunch when they will transition him. I have to find out what will we be doing for 30 minutes. I keep thinking what if he won’t transition. I was…
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Just Sad
I think this is the saddest and lowest I have felt for a while. It has just struck me how quiet it is in the house if I’m not talking or prattling on or the radio isn’t turned on. My darling DH with Aphasia, VD, now bent over most of the time and creeping silently around the house, it’s quite awful. I’m getting tired, the…
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Tips for getting LO to listen to my advice
My DH with EO is starting to do things that are potentially destructive. Beginning a couple months ago, my LO began getting concerned with the car oil level and has been checking and adding oil. Yesterday, my LO added oil to the car. And the car leaked a lot of oil and smelled like something was burning. My LO got it…
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If and how to tell others about the dementia
Need some advice about telling others about my DH's dementia. We play pickleball and while he can play pretty well, he forgets (and will never remember) some of the basic rules. The other players at the facility are just acquaintances or sometimes strangers if we have not played with them before. With pickleball you're…
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Alzheimer/Dementia and the Emergency Room
This was posted in the support after loss forum but was suggested to also be posted here> I just wanted to offer up a watchout regarding taking a loved one with AD to the emergency room. I have now experienced this personally and heard similar reports from others. The medical community does wonderful things to treat health…
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Friend wants to learn about ALZ
We have a friend who we haven’t seen in years who reconnected with us a few months back. He is flying up for 4 days to help with DH (in early stage 5) during our move to a new house. I am so grateful by his generosity. He stated that he knows very little about ALZ and wants to read up about it. What websites, etc, would…
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Frustrated and conflicted
My husband is 77, had several strokes, VD and other serious health issues and does not acknowledge he has serious problems, including dementia. He does not want to go to any more drs appts but his sleep has been seriously disrupted for over 6 yrs. He's on trazadone 150 mg which has decreased up/downs to about 5-7 x per…
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Mom with dementia
My mom has dementia and she forget and can't remember things she does things that I don't know how to stop example she uses toilet water to clean herself with tp and she goes through alot if tp