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The Estate Sale
Before mom was diagnosed her living situation was not good. Her granddaughter and her three kids lived with her a took advantage of her. Mom was overwhelmed by the mess an unable to cope. To clean the house she would get a box and dump everything from the coffee tables and really every surface into the box. Then stuff the…
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The slow goodbye to my hero
Not sure where to begin or if this forum will be helpful, but I've got to try. New here, my dad was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimers about a year and a half ago. He was forced into early retirement as the job became too much. Watching my dad, who's way to young, slowly get worse is the hardest thing ever. I've been…
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Dementia and Muscle Weakness
My mom has been diagnosed with Dementia / Alzheimer's for about 2 years now. This past year i have been staying at my parents house as the adls for my mom are getting more difficult for my dad to care for her alone. We would like to keep her in her home as long as we are able to still care for her.💓 My mom's left side of…
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New to the group-Understanding LOs hallucinations
Good afternoon-My name is Jennifer, I am new here. Within the past year, my moms behavior has changed significantly. Hallucinations are becoming more common. I have read a decent amount about this and have determined that supporting and going along with the the situation is best method? I have two sisters, so, this is all…
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Mother in law
Hi, new to this. My mother in law is 85 and is fit as a fiddle sharp in mind etc up until end of summer, she’s lost a lot of weight, her personality has changed so much, she’s very stressed and anxious about things that would definitely not have affected her previously. She’s loosing interest in going out to socialise l,…
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Need help
My treasure of an MIL has middle stage Alzheimer’s & lives at home with my FIL. They argue constantly, he is miserable, but he knows she needs more help than he can give. There was an incident & she ran to her neighbor’s home (through the woods) in her nightgown. We are not sure what exactly happened. She was taken to an…
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Mother causing herself ulcers yelling at my dad every day
My mom is at the stage where she is having delusions of my father cheating on her. The only new memories she seems to hold onto these days are the ones she's made up or if something happened that made her angry. He is her primary caregiver and all she does is screen at him all day that he's a horrible husband and doesn't…
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When is memory care needed
My dad has EO, he is turning 65 next week, so super young. He lived with my husband and I for 3 yrs. And we moved him into assisted living in Jan. We are currently sitting in the hospital going on day 3 here. They are finding quite a bit going on. He is no longer swallowing properly and now needs all of his liquids…
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Not asking for any help
I had an initial consultation with elder law. Lots of paperwork and mom doesn't want lawyer to know about her finances. I asked mom about Medicaid planning and asset protection but showed no concern. I told her about her losing everything if she and dad need to be placed in a home and can't afford it in the long run. She…
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NPH and dementia unspecified
Happy Sunday all caregivers. Just wondering if anyone else has NPH diagnosis for their loved one. My mom has this ( I’ve posted a lot about it on the Caring for a Parent forum.). I finally scheduled shunt surgery and she refused. It’s the ONLY treatment available for what she has. The Neurosurgery physician assistant…
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Scared
Hi everybody. My loved one with Alzheimer's Disease is my dear mama and I am her main caretaker. I've posted a few times already in here and the support that I receive means more than any of you could possibly know. Todays discussion is just me talking about how scared I am about off this. I mean, when I was a kid and I…
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Head feels "weird" or "funny"
Has anyone heard of this? My mom will often say her "head feels funny". It doesn;t hurt and she says she can't describe it but that it feels "weird". I can't find anything on google, but just a couple of people reporting it too. Any insight would be welcome. She is physically totally healthy. Thank you!
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What do these abbreviations mean?
Hello All. I'm new here. What are the common abbreviations used here? What do they mean? Thank you 😊
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Fixing Others People’s Problems
Since when is it okay to interfere, offer unsolicited suggestions, services under the pretext of “helping”. Is it really helping the other person or helping yourself attain attention, praise etc. How can someone not know the difference and fine line between helping and intrusion? Really…I want to know. 🫥
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Distance Aunts, Uncle - #Busybodies#Meddlers
Mom comes from large family. There are (4) live siblings in other states who only offer lip service and are intrusive and intentionally go against mom's wishes (call police for wellness checks, call the church to inform mom's in hospital or rehab, call elder protective services, etc.) They harass and violate her right to…
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Paranoid delusions
My mother believes that one of my half brothers drove here from two and a half hours away to steal her phone. The oldest half brother died of cancer in January 2021. Between then and the interment this past spring, she was convinced that the youngest half brother was stealing his brother’s ashes several times. It’s painful…
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So many things to do
Finally got a free 15min phone consultation with elder law this coming Monday. Mom gave me her car so I have to drive her everywhere. I have been getting info on several AL facilities around town. Mom is admitting she needs my help more and more. I see my parents 3-4 days a week now. She is starting to trust me and sharing…
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Narcissists & Dementia/Alz
My mom is using me as a scapegoat. She said she tells people things, they don’t listen but what I observe is different. Talking to her is useless…she says she doesn’t want to talk to gossiping sister but when she calls it’s heyyy 😃 while 👀 at me. She’s one of them in fact as the oldest the leader who says one thing and…
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memory loss
DH, diagnosed ES ALZ in June has been losing words for some time now, and that seems to be accelerating. This week he lost memory of two of his life events, one the wedding of our 2nd daughter some years ago. Yesterday, he asked me what I was listening to (bible in a year with Fr. Mike). His comment: "that sounds…
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Take me home, I want to go home
I’ve dreaded this day for so long. I brought my mom to a memory care facility today. I told her it was temporary while my dad and I were out of town but she could tell by looking around what was going on. She said - this is not right, I want to go home, take me home I try to tell myself this is safer for her. But I’m just…
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Hallucinations Delusions that won’t stop
Hi My Mother in Law was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 6 years ago and has been experiencing auditory hallucinations for the last 2 years. In the past 6 months they’ve turned into full on delusions that are continuous and is afraid. She asked to be with us for the last 2 weeks because “they” (an 85 yo upstairs neighbor)…
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First Visit MC - traumatized
Moved mom in 10 days ago to MC unit close to my home from an AL further away. I’ve had no communication with her since the director advised me not too. (Had her cell phone at first but she called the cops when we weren’t answering.) Director told us it would be okay to visit today bc it’s grandparents day and they are…
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Aggressiveness & Depression
My father is 90, still very mobile but has frequent episodes of anger and depression. He also at times still thinks he is only 50. His memory is getting worse daily and I am concerned that he will even forget who my Mom is and perhaps become violent. Are there medications that can calm him?
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New diagnosis- she won’t accept it
Stepmom just got a diagnosis of moderate dementia, likely due to Alzheimer’s. Dad has Parkinson’s but is still able to do most things independently and is still pretty sharp mentally. We saw stepmom starting to shift mentally (memory, behavior, moods) 2 years ago but explained it away for some time, and she has been in…