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Only child of an only child
Hi! I’m new to this and initially resisted a support group. I think because I’ve just been overwhelmed. My dad lived in Florida and I seen him a few times a year, a week at a time. He would say to me “I’m sure you can see the old man’s mind is starting to fail”. I wasn’t with him enough to realize this was more than normal…
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New member, need support/advice
Hello! I am new here and I am looking for any advice and support, as my 70yr dad just got diagnosed with Alzheimers. We lost my mother last August to Lewy Body Dementia and I am pretty much the primary care person left for dad. I have his POA, but still struggle with how to handle him and the things that need to happen…
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Memory Care
Well the AL facility gave my LO less than a month to get acclimated to her new surroundings. They are suggesting she be moved into MC. She's going to MC during the day and back to AL at night because they have no room for her. I think they're wrong! I think this will kill her!!! But my brother thinks it's the right thing…
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Don't Know What to Do
I have been caring for my dad in his home in CA since December (Live in NC). I have left my family, home, job, friends-LIFE. I'm struggling with the idea of being here "forever." My dad cannot be alone, cook, eat properly, drive, conduct personal hygiene properly, etc. I have full POA (financially & healthcare). He spends…
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My Parent Has Become Aggressive
Immediate need for advice! My parent suffering from dementia has progressed to the point of needing care at a facility full time. My stepparent is doing all possible to provide my parent with the best possible care. My parent has been to three different facilities in the last six months. My parent left the first facility…
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Resentful/Jealous of Friendships
How do you get past feeling guilty about having friends and a social life when caregiving for someone with dementia? My mom is 90 and is in the moderate stage. She doesn't have many friends; her two best friends live out of state. She has never understood the work it takes to make/maintain friendships. She resents that I…
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Dad refuses to move from AL to EC
Hello, my dad has Alzheimer’s/Dementia and has been in assisted living a year. He needs more care for his diabetes and heart condition and we need to move him to Enhanced Care. He is not ready yet for Memory Care. I would put his current stage as “middle”. He absolutely refuses to make the move from one side of the…
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Seeing Mom again by myself
Hello, so this is the second week that I have seen my mom alone again. It was tough before I saw her today, so I took some CBD oil. I don't know if it helped. Nevertheless, I remembered what a couple of members said to me last week. I cannot control if my Mother passes away or not. So now I focus on the things I can…
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Help and Advice Needed
Hello all I am new to this forum and could use some advice. I have been taking care of my mother who is 85 with moderate stage dementia for a year and half now. I have noticed over the past month her behavior has changed quite a bit. Recently I've noticed she has become more aggressive with my Father and I. She has had…
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Stuck with what to do
This is my first post ever, on any forum whatsoever! The process of trying to care for and protect my parents (one with Alz and the other with vascular dementia- both in total denial) has opened me up to all kinds of new and unpleasant experiences. At least this one feels positive. I don’t know where to go from here- my…
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Literally the Last Thing I Needed
Hi everybody, hope you’re all doing well. Bit of backstory to this predicament; my mom (60 diagnosed with ALZ) was a single parent to me (25) and my younger sibling (20). My sibling and I have separate fathers, mine passed when I was 7 and theirs is alive but not active in our lives. He was an abusive man to us and my…
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The feeling of Guilt
Hi everyone, my mom was diagnosed several months ago with Alzheimer’s. She lives with my dad but my father has been having a really hard time copping with this and refuses to learn anything about the disease. My mom always took care of my dad , she did everything. Now things have changed and he just doesn’t know what to…
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Won’t take Meds
Hello, I take care of my mom who has Alzheimer’s. She was diagnosed in 2019 and is in the late stages I believe. We have many many issues these days. She is pretty much nonverbal or her language is a mixed up string of words. She needs help with all daily routines, hygiene, toileting, showering, completely. She needs 24/7…
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Dad was caught driving!
My mom told me a neighbor saw my dad driving at intersection of the apartment complex going the wrong way! He got confused and stopped in the middle of it. I warned my mom not to leave the key fob easily accessible to dad but she thought that dad has enough sense to not drive. Ha! Anyway, thank goodness they have watchful…
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New here, need advice
Hello everyone, Im new here. I was recommended this site after I posted for help on reddit. My mother is going to be diagnosed tomorrow with Alzheimer's. I've seen the signs in her for a while now, but have been putting off the inevitable. Alzheimer's runs in our family. Her mother passed from it, her brother is starting…
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Mood cycles
Hi everyone I am new here. I have been taking care of my mom by myself now for several years. She showed slight memory issues, as we all do, before the Covid outbreak, but when the world shutdown and me being in Healthcare, I wasn't visiting much, and she didn't have much outside the house activities. This is when the…
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Newly Diagnosed - Infusion Therapy?
Hi all, I am new to this group and am excited to learn from everyone! My Mom is 85 and recently diagnosed with "early stage" alz. The Neurologist is wanting an updated MRI, but feels that she is a good candidate for infusion therapy. Has anyone has experience with this?? She does very well (still drives and volunteers at…
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Expectations of hospice
Hi, My mom has been in hospice for 6weeks and they recently increased her anti-agitation/anxiety meds by quite a bit and are not letting me as poa have say in if it is too much or not. I want to be respectful of staff at her facility and make sure they are safe providing cares but also do not want her to be overly…
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Change Meds
hello everyone my mom been on Seroquel 50mg but it has not help her at al as a matter of fact she seems to be getting worse , the dr stop it and now wants her to take olanzapine once a day at nighttime . My question is anyone here giving this meds to a love one and if so what is your thought on it and if you are seeing…
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Need Guidance Please!!!
Hi everyone This is my first post here. I'm so happy to have found this forum because we're in desperate need of guidance. My sisters and I are so lost. I apologize for the long post in advance. This is a lot to share so l will just give you highlights. My mom has always been high functioning, independent and very driven.…
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New to Forum - Dad has ALZ
Hey guys! New to the forum and glad to have this as a resource. Feeling compelled to find others that are in a similar boat. The last few days have been unusual with my Dad and I'm recognizing that I need an outlet to discuss this others that have gone through similar experiences and can offer insights and support - so,…
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New
Hi everyone!!!! I am new to this site. My mom, I believe, is having some serious decline in her short term memory, and is demonstrating confusion. She does not realize that she has this problem. I need to get her to the Brain MRI, but she refuses. Any suggestions?
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Planning for hospice
I paid a visit to my parents yesterday and spent the night. My dad has been dealing with double incontinence and last night I observed my dad waking my mom in the middle of the night with a bowel accident and my mom had to change him and clean him up. My mom is exhausted and I recommended to my mom to accept hospice care…
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Hurt my back
Yikes! Today I was stooping over my desk and when I straightened up, my lower back snapped and a jolt of pain shot down my back. I took Tylenol but I don't have anything stronger. I'm scared because when my dad hurt his back, he couldn't get out of bed the next day. He had to call 911 to bring him to the ER and found out…
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New Member
Hello, I am a new member and I am happy that such a discussion group exists. My dad was actually diagnosed in 2019 with Alzheimer/Dimentia, but his symptoms go way back. He is getting worse and his agression spurs are now happening more often. He is 76 years old. My mom is the main caregiver. My sister and I try to help.…
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Mom's in Hospice
Hello, so I please need some advice and support. Since we put mom in Hospice, my anxiety level has gone to the roof. I went back to therapy and am feeling better. I am struggling financially with my job, sometimes I make enough money to live comfortably and like now I am broke again and living on a credit card. I want to…
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How To Balance Life
Hi everyone! Hope you and your LO’s are well. I have been having a lot of problems having a proper “work-life balance” for lack of a better term. My mom’s (60) diagnosis and required care takes up all of my energy, thankfully she’s still able to move around and shower herself and use the bathroom on her own, and those were…
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Mom with Dementia constantly leaving home
Hi! I’m new here. I travel for work and bring my mom with me because I am an only child. We’ve been doing this for the last few years. She was doing well for the longest time, but she was just formally diagnosed with Dementia after she left where we’re currently staying and got lost. A neighbor called the police and they…
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Feeling Sick and Confused
My brother and I took our mom to memory care today, and it did not go well. She is very lucid and talkative compared to all of the other people we have met at the memory care place, and even the nurse there said that she was wanting to evaluate her to make sure she wouldn't be better off in AL, and that she would bring her…
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Self care
I really understand how important it is to take care of #1. Yesterday I had a meltdown. I have been dealing with chronic insomnia lately and it was making me stressed out emotionally and physically. I couldn't think clearly and I felt overwhelmed thinking about the next step on how to take care of both mom and dad with…