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Accurate diagnosis: Have I overturned every stone?
Hello, Before my 76 year old, otherwise healthy mom gets slapped with an Alzheimer's or dementia diagnosis, I want to be sure we have ruled out every single other possibility. Here are her symptoms and what we are doing to investigate. Please tell me if you think there is anything else at all that we should be looking into…
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Neurologist Necessary Or Not..
I've been helping a friend visit and interview ALF's for her parents. Long story short they were not ‘getting’ bad, it was a lot worse than weekly telephone calls revealed. Mom and Dad had not been to their doctors in at least 2 years. Mom has active sun-downing; Dad was diagnosed with the onset of dementia 4 years ago for…
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need advice on longterm care for my mother in law
My mother in law just recently went into the hospital in Oct for high blood sugar and a UTI, she was exhibiting dementia like symptoms with that, however when that cleared up, she still had those symptoms, hallucinations, illusions, paranoia. I was hoping that would clear up but here we are in Dec and she is still having…
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Here to vent. I feel inadequate.
Hi everyone, I've posted once before and feel the need to vent again. Mom is 76 and in addition to being stage 4ish Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia, she has pancreatic cancer and is on home hospice. She has been living with my husband and me since March this year. I am her primary caregiver. The hospice nurse and I…
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dementia caused diabetes tips and tricks request
Hi everyone, Its been a while since I've been on the boards, as always looks like everyone is super busy. Recently my mothers PCP informed us she has developed diabetes. She has been pre-diabetic for a while now, but finally crossed over. The doc seems to think its two things, she is on a new antiphychotic that can spike…
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Bedridden
I anticipate my dad being bedridden within the next 6 months. My prediction is that by April he will be pretty well unable to walk.He is already so weak and struggling to walk. We're keeping him as active and up on his feet as we can, but inevitably he will not be walking soon. Are there any sorts of tools or products I…
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Basic Hygiene I can’t get her to Bathe
Please help!! My mom won’t bathe, brush her teeth, or take meds!! My brother and I trying take care of her but she just won’t cooperate. We simply can’t put her in assisted living it costs 8,000 a month!! Any suggestions we are at the end of our ropes!
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Learning To Turn The Tide On Nursing Homes
https://www.yahoo.com/finance/m/85a6b777-9610-3e0c-9953-a9b6482434a9/did-we-learn-anything-from.html J.
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Selling Mother's Car: 1) Fiblet or not? 2) Involve her in decision?
Hello fellow caregivers! My mother has stage "4.5" Alzheimer's. Her short term memory is gone, but her long-term memory is still quite good. Her judgment... so so. In short, we have taken her keys (doctor's orders), let her license expire, and will be selling her car very soon. She has forgotten that she gave up her keys…
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When an Alzheimer's patient losses a loved one
Hi All, My mother who is Stage 4 and advancing quickly lost her only sister a couple days ago. Emotionally, she is doing ok, but this event seems to have accelerated her Alzheimer's. She continues to forget about her sister's death, the arrangements, etc. Her long term memory is good, but her short term memory is gone,…
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New and needing advice
Hello, I’m sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I’m new to the site. I can’t seem to find how to add a discussion… Anyway, I have a mother-in-law who is what I believe is the onset of Alzheimer’s. She has an appointment 12/15. 2 questions: 1. How do I convince her to move in with us? She lives with my husband…
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Thanksgiving guilt
Happy Thanksgiving all you dementia warriors! Today we aren’t doing much. I’ll go with my mother and a few other family members to a restaurant later today and hope for the best. Sunday my family is having the big meal day and I’m not planning to bring mom along. Here’s my defense: It’ll be very difficult to get her into…
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I've been thinking about this for awhile
One of things my sister and I talk about a lot is the fact that she feels like others often treat her like she's not worthy of respect and they dismiss her. I tend to do my best to counter those messages. Just because she has Alzheimer's doesn't mean she's "less than." So in light of that, I've decided to post a photo of…
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Can anyone recommend a simple Digital Picture Frame without WiFi?
Hi All, My mother who has stage 4 Alzheimer's which is progressing quickly loves to reminisce over pictures. We thought having a digital picture frame full of pictures in her room would be very welcome by her. It would have to be incredibly simple. Turn it on and turn it off; even an auto off function would be welcome. No…
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Guilt(17)
So I am working on placing my mother. She is 86, has good days and bad with her dementia. Her awareness comes in and out throughout the day. Many years ago, the doctor suggested knee replacement surgery, a friend of Mom’s told her it would hurt a lot! So mom opted not to have the surgery. It’s too late now, but her knees…
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Open enrollment - change prescription plan
I need a little reassurance. Scenario: I got my mom’s online account back active with her Medicare part D provider (prescription coverage). . As you know, my parents moved from one state to another October 2019. I have never changed the plan in regards to that I did send them the new address in late 2019. The plan has…
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Anesthesia Haze
How long after surgery does the anesthesia haze last?
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Blue Cross Blue Shield
Mom has medical bill and my brother insists that I not process the claim with Medcare. He says Blue Cross will cover more of the costs, Problem is we don't have any info regarding her policy. No ID# policy # nothing. Last time I tried to talk to someone the would not talk to me without her sayso and she would not say YES…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/29/21
GOD’S WONDERFUL LIGHT GOD THOUGHT: 1 Peter 2:9 NIV “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” VICTORY THOUGHT: Jesus called me out of the darkness of sin into the light of His…
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How to respond to someone who has an incorrect belief about something
Hello; my first post here. A little background. I live in Europe, and my father, who has dementia, lives in Australia, so our relationship is long distance. According to other family members he has formed the belief that I am in the process of returning to Australia permanently, which I am not. In previous conversations…
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Telehealth Contact for Dementia & ALZ Incompetence Evaluation?
I have both parents declining significantly at the same time. Very overwhelming. Trying to get them evaluated virtually if possible. Too complicated to get them anywhere these days. Does anyone have a good recommendation for telehealth doc for evaluation?
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Dental Issues: how much do I push
My mother, 86, now living with us, has had MCI for about 10 years. After my father died, it was clear her executive function was gone and she needed to live with us to keep track of her finances, doctor appts, medications, meals, etc. She has extensive dental issues. She has about 5 teeth on top and on the bottom is down…
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Tony Bennett and Lady Gaga
Will be on TV this coming Sunday CBS.
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Just can’t take it
So here I am again. At my wits end with my middle dementia 73 year old mother. I work a full time job and never get enough sleep. Why you ask?! Because If I don’t force my mother into bed, she stays up all night. Sometimes watching tv which would be FINE but it’s the nights where every light in the house is on. In and out…
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Caregiver Identification: Strategies for Advancing Person-Centered Dementia Care Across Settings
https://umn.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_KF5PxiYoRJWxkFq2Go82ug
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POA and Financial Management/Obligation
Hello All, First off thank you in advance for any assistance or advice anyone can provide. My heart truly goes out to all caregivers and their loved ones. Sorry, this post is a bit long. In January of this year my mom started displaying alarming behaviors that called for myself and family members to seek medical advice…
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Desperate for help and advice
My dad was diagnosed with beginning stage of Alzheimer’s about 6 years ago. 3 months ago we lost my mom suddenly. My family has always been very close. I have one sister. I have 2 sons and she has a daughter and 2 grandchildren. We were one big happy family. We never had conflict. Our husbands just got right in and love…
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For caregivers of people late stage who yell
So, how do you handle it when your LO goes hours yelling, crying and agitated? When you can't "do anything" more because you've tried all the distractions and done all the ways you've heard that can help calm someone? We've tried these. Has been going on for 6 days straight now, following a grand mal seizure. Check for…
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Guilt - please help
My DH is nearing the end. He has been bedridden since May. I would get him up when I had assistance. He has developed horrible bedsores. When we get one under control another one starts. I cannot let go f the guilt that I should have been doing more so they did not get this bad. Is it inevitable that this will happen? The…
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Saga Continues
Update form my How? posting... So my sister is a bit better mentally, some of her issue may have been the surgery. Still, even if she gets back to where she was (her normal confused state), we can't expect her to take care of our mother. At this point I do all their extra stuff: handle both of their doctors appts; am their…