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Last Days?
Well, mom has been in an assisted living/memory care facility for four months and was put on Hospice three weeks ago. She is now refusing to eat and when they do get food in her mouth (liquified because she can't swallow well), she spits the food at them. Does this mean we are close to the end? How long can a body go…
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Melatonin to help sleep
I was wondering if anyone has any experience in giving their LO Melatonin so they can get a more restful sleep. My 95 year old Grandma's who has dementia and has caregivers helping her, does experience sun-downing and some restlessness at night and this was something her physician suggested that might help her. I am open…
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Mom didn’t know me
I’ve always known it would happen. There have been times when I wondered if she knew who I was, but wasn’t quite sure. Today she point blank asked me if we were related. I hugged her, kissed on the head and said yes. She was so excited to have discovered a connection, she asked me if “she” - my sister - knew we were…
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New member/caring for my mom with memory loss
I just found this forum and have a feeling it's going to be very helpful for info and support! My mother (widowed) is 80 years old and was assessed by her doctor in 2019 with "severe short term memory loss". Her father had AD, but it progressed fairly quickly, compared to how her cognitive decline has slowly progressed the…
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Lying to person with memory issues
I have always been open and truthful, so I find it morally distressing to lie, even though I know it is for the best. My never married aunt lived alone for 60 years in a 5 story walk-up apartment in big city far from me. My cousins & I are her remaining relatives. She had a fall on the street & ended up in nursing home…
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diagnosis(5)
Hi, all - my mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's based on short-term memory loss and a questionnaire/quiz administered by her family doctor. Is this enough for a correct diagnosis?
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Carousel Slidling Bath Bench - Easy To Use
Just saw this item; it sure does look much more user friendly than the "usual" bath bench that slides into a tub or shower that has a rise. It supports up to 330 pounds. While it appears to be really a good item, it is indeed pricey. The price does vary depending on the vendor. but it will be over $200. Yet . . . . . if…
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I need to find a local counselor
Does anyone know if the 24/7 helpline can help me navigate to find an in person support group or counselor? I feel like I keep clicking links to no avail. My mom has alzheimers, and my dad as her primary caregiver is really suffering. I need to do something to help him right away. Thanks in advance. Donna
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Question about assisted living facilities
I am asking about my 89 yo neighbor. She has had a couple of bad falls and wants to enter an assisted living facility. She is ambulatory but is afraid to walk without someone right by her for her to lean on. She refuses to use a walker. She has no dementia. Would an AL facility escort her personally to meals and wherever…
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My Stepfather
He he is acute, instage. I don't know anymore because it's like pulling teeth to get his family to help my mother with their father's medical upkeep. Anyway, my stepdad usually is in a good way. But lately, he has been baggering my mother critizing her in home work ethic and saying that he's fine he's in good shape, but my…
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New phase of journey after father's fall
Hi, My dad fell at home last Sunday. He was not injured but they have kept him in observation. It's been deemed he's an unsafe discharge as My mom feels she cant take care of him at home any longer due to his anxiety and depression and need for attention or his perseveration on needing his oxygen checked frequently and…
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How fast is this disease
On Monday July 19 my LO walked from a parking garage into a hospital for his 6-month check up with his Dr. On Thursday July 22 his knees buckled under him and he's been in a wheelchair since that day. He was running a slight fever and retaining urine, so, we took him to ER to check for infection on Friday July 23 and after…
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What is this vagueness from care givers?
Hello all, My mom is really perky now when I call her. This has never been her trademark, I don't recognize this animation, she has never been like this. It's like being in a fun house with mirrors. Who is my mom now? I asked the staff if she was put on meds for her depression, and they said no. It's very frustrating being…
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Waking EVERY DAY with pain and yelling
Anyone else experience this with their LO? It's about an hour to 90 minutes daily to get my EO son up for the day. He instantly starts yelling and raging the moment I give his meds. I get a straw to his lips while he is still pretending to sleep, then comes the dose cup of meds and he immediately takes them and swallows.…
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At Home Care - How to Find?
How do I find at-home care for my parents? One has VD and the other hasn't been formally diagnosed but definitely has cognitive issues.I live a few states away and it makes me uneasy to hire someone and not be there to oversee. Not to mention that my parents don't think they need any help and don't want strangers in their…
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Books for PWD?
Hello, First time poster here. My mom has "mild to moderate dementia" (presumed ALZ after tests) and wants me to send her books about Alzheimers. I'm not confident she will be able to comprehend them as she can read aloud, but doesn't seem to understand what she has read. Are there any that are fairly easy to read? I've…
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Where do I start?(7)
Hi everyone, I'm a newbie here. My mom has dementia, and while it's not officially been diagnosed as Alzheimer's, I'm not sure how it's not. Anyway, my father is her primary caregiver. I live two hours away, so I see her rather often. She's still at home, although she is getting worse. But I am really at a loss as to how…
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Hello Peeps!
Just a check in to introduce yourself and meet fellow peeps. Despite any differences we have, we are all sharing the same experience and it bonds us in ways that people do not understand and can never understand unless they experience it themselves. My name is Liz. I found this place a couple of years ago and without it, I…
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Farewell Ms. Fran
My mom passed today on her 87th birthday. Finally, we are both released from this Alzheimer’s prison. Thank you all for your support. I feel a bit shell-shocked and sad, but am so happy that she is soaring in heaven now. Take care. Sandy (SjoDry)
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Mom does not like sitting
My mom is 76 and was dx with Alz 4 years ago. For the last two years or so, we've noticed (and she's even noticed) that she doesn't like to sit. She stands as much as she can. She walks into the kitchen to eat, she almost always stands at the table and eats when we make her some food. She walks into the living room to talk…
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My Dad crashing?
My dad had, what I feel, two significant events in the past week or so. First is at Wal-Mart greeter's stand yelling I was trying to steal his money and call the police. I brought him there to pay his electric bill. Of course, people are staring me down as though I'm some thug trying to hurt this elderly man. Second event…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 8/2/21
8/2/21 CHEER UP! * Psalm 5:11-12 Good News Translation “But all who find safety in you will rejoice; they can always sing for joy. Protect those who love you; because of you they are truly happy. 12 You bless those who obey you, Lord; your love protects them like a shield.” * The Lord loves and protects me; I find my true…
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In the blink of an eye...
We all know how fast our PWD LOs can get into mischief, or have a brain shift in what seems like a split second. What are some of your (hopefully harmless) adventures? - DH got up from the sofa about an hour ago, headed for bed. Not 5 minutes later, he was back, dressed in a long sleeved shirt, briefcase in hand. Says his…
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APS? How do we get mom to memory care?
I spent July 4th in the hospital with my mom and dad. My mom left AMA before having an MRI (CT was clear for stroke, etc). We don’t know exactly what is wrong with her, but I am willing to bet that she has Alzheimer’s. My mom continues to deny that there is a problem. We managed to have a home-health evaluation (disguised…
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Thinking about you abc
Abc123, hope your week with your mom is going okay. Will be interested to hear an update when you can.
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Stressful Move to AL/MC
Hi Everyone, I'm new to the board and so thankful for the advice I've read browsing through the different posts. I don't really have a specific question; just looking for support during my parent's stressful transition to AL/MC. My 82-yo mom was diagnosed with mild unspecified dementia a year ago and since then, it has…
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Help! Selfish Family Members
I'm 60 year old who is retired and the youngest, brother is 65 and sister 62. I get both work and have jobs, but they hide behind that to avoid caring for my 93 year old middle stage dementia dad who is in middle stages (still not professionally assessed) As it is now, I'm there daily to ensure he eats breakfast and had…
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I'm sure mom wishes she had not asked me to take care of things
Hi, my mom was diagnosed about 3 years ago with parkinsons and now it is lewy body and vascular dementia, with doctor notes she should be in memory care. I have POA and am told daily "I don't have anything" and I am made to feel I am a bully for making her stay where she is. She is in skilled nursing awaiting the…
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First time respite
My mother was diagnosed with AD one month prior to the pandemic but there was obvious memory loss for years that I had reported to the GP. About three months into the pandemic the diagnosis changed when a Geri Psych explained it was mixed dementia based on imaging. There are no risk factors like diabetes or heart disease.…
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COMPLAINT
Id like to know why the "unsubscribe" button has been disabled in the constant begging emails I get from Alz.org.