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Caregiver Engagement
I am fairly new to this forum and I am very happy there is such a community with so much support and understanding. My mother has vascular dementia. She is an active 86 years old. I am very big on natural, organic lifestyle composed of exercise, whole foods, good sleep and no stress as her protocol. Mom is also not the…
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Giving this a try
Hi there, I’m new here and haven’t used any support group or forum before, but I would love to see if it will help. I’m 22, living with my parents and my mom (53) is deteriorating. She was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment but I think my parents most likely played down her symptoms to the doctors because it seems…
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disabled 62 yo DH with some sort of dementia (and depression and severe anger issues)
My DH has drank all of our marriage, and has probably had alcoholism for about 35 of our 37 year marriage. In 2018, he was hospitalized on our 35th wedding anniversary for pancreatitis, and I almost lost him. He spent 100 days in a nursing facility after that, and stayed dry for several months. Then in 2019 he was…
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Handling His Phone Calls: Dad's First Week in AL
Sorry for the really long post in advance. I can be wordy and this is my first post! My 82 year old dad does not have an official dementia diagnosis, because he resists seeing doctors of any kind. My brother and I each lived 3-4 hours away from him until last weekend, when my brother FINALLY managed to get him moved from…
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Moving Mother again...Another Facility....Anyone else have this issue
Memory care. So difficult to find a place that fulfills their obligations and actually provides care. Not group care. But care. This will be the 4th place.
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GPS watches? For someone who loves to walk!
Hello, I'm wondering if anyone knows of any good GPS tracking watches for someone with who loves to walk? I've checked Amazon - and Verizon, but it's hard to know what would be good. My mom recently moved into an ALF, it's out in the country of NH, and service is a wee bit spotty. Some folks can seem to get a signal - I…
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New here!(4)
Hey everyone, my name is Cecilia. I'm from Argentina, but I'm currently living in Barcelona. I've decided to join this group cause I came to visit my family, and even though they've already warned me about my dad's dementia, it's the first time I've seen it. I haven't been able to visit him with all the COVID situation, so…
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Bathroom suggestions
Hi, my wife is in the moderate stage of ALZ and I would be grateful for any techniques or suggestions to keep her clean after going to the bathroom.
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Finding activities for caregivers to do with husband
Hi I’m new to this group. My husband has Alzheimer’s. He enjoys still going out. He receives 16 hours of home health care a week through the VA. I’m trying to find things for them to do with him. They go bowling, to the senior center and shopping. I have tried to researching ideas and have not come up with a good fit. Any…
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When they want to go home question
We were able to move our LO close to us. It was tough getting her here (1500 miles) and we weren’t able to move much of her stuff because she kept getting furious when we would try to pack her things but she’s here. We have moved her, FIL and SIL into a house next to ours. Now that she’s here she goes between being mad…
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Not so new here
Hi all, I've changed my name, but the pic may be familiar. I appreciate everyone here and will more free to share my experiences with the new name. I am sandwiching between my elderly dad and in-laws, spouse with dementia, and my grown son living with us.
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How to respond to frequent calls?
My Mom is almost 98. Alzheimers started a couple years ago but rapidly deteriorated after loss of spouse of 76 years. I call Mom daily sometimes more than once. I Have included myself on a regular schedule of visits between caregivers. recently I have changed that to drop in as I can. I am emotionally exhausted. sometines…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 7/27/21
STICKY NOTE 7/27/47 * I will love, honor, praise and worship the Lord with all my heart. * Isaiah 29:13 New King James Version "Therefore the Lord said: “Inasmuch as these people draw near with their mouths And honor Me with their lips, But have removed their hearts far from Me, And their fear toward Me is taught by the…
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Disturbing visit with mom at Geriatric Psych unit
My mom was sent from her memory care to the ER and Geriatric Psych at the hospital for aggressive behavior, hitting and kicking. She's going on her 3 week now. I've tried to visit for 30 minutes (all they allow) twice a week. Yesterday's visit was very uncomfortable. I don't know if mom was actually confusing me with my…
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Mother doesn't recognize me or her home
My soon to be 93 year old mom wants to go home almost every evening she ask me to call her son Jimmy to please come get her. I am Jimmy and she has been living in this house since it was built 60 years ago. I quit work at 57 because she was not safe at home alone that was 6 years ago. She is bladder incontinent with…
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Guardianship versus POA
Hi, first time poster here and a newbie at being a caregiver. A little background: my father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s a few years ago but hid his diagnosis from his family. He also has moderate dementia, and we suspect has been declining for a long time. We have known for years something was wrong (both physically…
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End is in sight so why is this worse?
My sister and I have made the difficult but necessary decision to move my dad to a memory care unit. I have been full-time with him for 4 months since his stroke, it's clear that he can't live alone and his GF is effectively breaking up w him, though she has not said it and he can't see it. Over these 4 mos, I have had 2…
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New Here & Feeling Overwhelmed
Hello everyone. I'm Lori and I've reached my tipping point and I've finally decided to join this group. I'm part of the sandwich generation caring for some of my kids who still live at home and more recently, my elderly mother who moved in with us right before the COVID pandemic hit the U.S. last year. As you can imagine,…
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Recovering from crisis week - everything feels hazy
I'm finally home after a week of being the primary caregiver for my mother (EO, mostly non-verbal). I mentioned in my last post that my step-dad is the primary caregiver and POA, and he has done nothing to set up assistance. He was bound and determined to be the sole pillar of support...and then he had a knee replacement…
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nursing home elopement
Dad has alzheimers and is in an assisted living memory care facility. This morning we got a call saying they couldn't find Dad. After about an hour they called us back saying they found him. He had wandered into a room that is usually locked, locked the door behind him, and fell asleep. Needless to say, we were very…
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Question about Seroquel
Hi All I've been searching through all the posts and haven't really found a direct answer on this. My gram was taken off Depakote and is now on Seroquel. Sleeping a lot. But so far it's been a week and she's improved. One of the neurologists indicated it would take a couple of weeks to work but her NPRN indicated it's…
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OT--Olympic swimsuits
I notice that for some of the swim meets the women wore regular one piece swimsuits. But for other meets they wore knee length unitard-type swimsuits. Can anyone explain why the change of suits? Iris
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Minnesota Facility Licensing changes
Hi everyone, it's been a good long time since I last posted/read. I finally got my mom moved to a memory care facility near my home in December of 2019 and she settled in pretty well. 2020 wasn't fun (was it for anyone?) but she made it through the year without getting sick and her facility had 0 deaths and very few cases.…
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Need Break From Mom 4 More Than a Weekend
I'm mentally, physically drained and a few hours or periodic days break is not enough. When I leave I want to keep going and never come back. I heard there are various types of 'Respite' paid by Medicare/Hospice or Medicaid Waiver program (Home & Community Based Services (HCBS) and Frail Elder Waiver (FEW)). She has them…
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Mom develops new ALZ manifestation
Several months ago my mom was evaluated in the geriatric clinic of a major medical center and the conclusion was that she was in Stage 5 with a few elements of Stage 6, namely incontinence. She can still dress herself impeccably well, take care of her hair and makeup, take care of hygiene, and feed herself by going down to…
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Non dementia Parent causing havoc
Yesterday I had a minor meltdown and told my Mom that I’d had enough of their complaining about their ASL facility. It’s as if they think they should have a personal servant dedicated to only their room 24/7. So today I get a call that Dad wants to use the ATM to get cash out. He can never figure out how. I told them I’d…
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Need Insight--Sudden Progressive Dementia Symptoms
Hi Everyone, I am new to this message board have been reading all the posts for the last couple days. My family has been suddenly thrust into the dementia world with my grandmother. My grandmother has a history of mini-strokes, or TIAs. In the last 12 months, she has had at least 3 TIA episodes. Over the last couple years,…
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Frequent reader, new poster
First of all, thank you to everyone who shares their stories and information in this forum. I've been reading here for at least a year, but this is my first time posting. My mother was diagnoses with mild dementia/cognitive impairment several months before the pandemic, and has been quite steadily declining since then. I…
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shopping with caregivers
Hi everyone, Looking for some quick ideas on a mini problem I've been having. My mother has a new, very nice caregiver that likes to take her out for walks in the neighborhood. My parents live in a fairly urban environment so there are lots of shops and restaurants, and the caregiver has been purchasing my mother food with…
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Stage of Vascular Dementia and Depokote
Hi All I have posted here although infrequently. My 95 year old GMA has vascular dementia and mom and I and a small team of caregivers care for her in an apt she shares with my uncle at a senior living community. She gets the best care we can provide to her. Grams mobility is limited. She can walk with assistance, no…