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Swimming- Public Pool
My father is the primary caregiver for my mother who is in middle stage of Alzheimer's. I am very frustrated since I do not have control over her care. I am questioning if my father has his own cognitive issues and in my opinion is making poor decisions. When I went to visit with my parents this weekend, my mother couldn't…
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Test show no brain problems
Went to neurologist last week. On the way my partner had one of his verbal attack episodes to the point I cried the whole way there. They went over the eeg test, mri, and blood work. They said the test showed no problems with his brain and only thing showing up in blood work was thyroid problem. So my partner said he…
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Moving parents to MC from their home
Both of my parents are being treated for dementia. Mom longer than dad. Mom has no short term memory. Dad is catching up with her. Dad and I discussed making move to AL/MC to keep mom safe. He asked me to find an "apartment" for them. Visited many in the area. Found the one I thought was best. Put down deposit. Visited the…
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It’s the dreaded … MCI diagnosis
So today was interesting, sad and aggravating all at the same time. It was the neurologist appointment that my mom has dreaded for weeks. When I called to tell her I’d be there shortly, she didn’t want to go. Big surprise. We had the typical difficulties with transporting the walker, walking to the actual office etc. The…
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Pending Federal Nursing Home Overhaul Bill
https://www.yahoo.com/news/nursing-home-overhaul-bill-boost-170022034.html
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Sexual contact in MC
Yesterday, my mother's MC called to tell me that a caregiver found my mom in another male resident's room with his pants down and my mom was touching him. The incident had happened late the prior day, and neither party remembered it the next day (my mom is like stage 6 dementia now). MC reported the incident to social…
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MIL wakes up asking for dead husband
This is my first post and we are looking for some help. My MIL who has an unspecified dementia frequently wakes up and asks for her husband who's need dead for 15 years. We've tried to give her vague answers, like he's home while you're visiting us, don't seem to help. She wants specifics. And unfortunately she's sharp…
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Evening agitation
My DH who has AZ is beginning to display quite a bit of agitation in late afternoon into the evening. This is new stage for us. Does anyone have suggestions how or what I can do lessen the agitation? Thank you. karenhag
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Remembering things that never happened.
Wife diagnosed with MCI, but not Alzheimer's, at least not yet. Her short-term memory is shot, but we just deal with it, and she does pretty well at caring for herself when I can't be with her (I still work part-time). But there is a recurring phenomenon arising out of this for which I'm hoping to find an explanation, and…
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A warning about food poisoning!
This is embarrassing because I do know better, but I believe I must warn you who are caregiving your parent or other relative who lives alone. The other night, I had an episode of vomiting and decided it was due to food poisoning. I checked what I had eaten and a bottle of yogurt smoothie had a best by date of 7/20/21. I…
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Choking and drinking
Hello, I am at my wits end in helping my mom drink. She’s in the later stages of Alzheimer’s and bed bound. We have been giving her a drink from a straw with thickener in it for over a year , however just recently she seems to choke on every single drink and it’s scaring the hell out of me. Hospice is no help all they say…
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At the ER
Mom was hitting and kicking the MC staff who were trying to help her bathroom. Continued to hit and kick so they called the EMT's. I got here and she is back at baseline. Why chest xray for for paranoid delusions/aggression? She has Parkinson's dementia.
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Any advice on what to do with troublesome relatives?
Hello. My mother was diagnosed with MCI around 2017. I live with her. She and I have not always gotten along. Her mother had Alzheimer's, so, I know what can happen. Where we are now is she unintentionally let some bills go unpaid. My whole issue is that she is EXTREMELY resistant to any form of help, unless she…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 8/6/21
TAKE UP MY CROSS GOD THOUGHT: Matthew 16:24 NIV “Then Jesus said to his disciples, ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.’” VICTORY GOAL: I am Jesus’ disciple, spreading the good news about Him and caring for those who are in need. POWER PRAYER: Spirit of Jesus, enable…
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Trips to town and time management
Hi - wondering if there’s any suggestions on how to minimize trips to town? MIL has Alzheimer and she wants to go into town sometimes multiple times a day. It’s been a lot for my FIL. She usually wants to go right away and will just go and wait in the car and will not take no for an answer. I suggested making a calendar…
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Guilt, Second-Guessing, as Long Distance (not primary) Caregiver
Only my second post here. I'm NOT the primary caregiver for my Dad as I live 3 hours away. My brother and SIL live 10 minutes from Dad's facility. Anyway, Dad was moved to MC about two weeks ago, after being in AL in the same facility for about 4 days (was going into other's rooms and using their restroom, eating their…
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Change in POA
Hi, I've been the POA for HC and Finance for my 93 yr old mother who was diagnosed with Alz. almost 3 years ago. I needed to move her from her home in a nearby state to be near me while in MC. I had to change facilities twice to find one that provides adequate care which my mother can afford for a few more years. I have…
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Simple Solutions using Duck Tape & a Rubber Band
DH just finished post hospital discharge occupational therapy (OT). One really helpful tip we learned and implemented was using colored contrasting tape on our steps, to help DH differentiate one step from another. I alternated red and neon yellow using Duck brand tape which seems textured enough. I have attached a…
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alternative to cell phone?
My wife with mid-stage Alz enjoys walking our dog in the neighborhood. However, she sometimes gets lost if she takes an unfamiliar route. I have been adamant about her taking along her "pouch", which includes a flip phone and a GPS tracker. The GPS has been wonderful and gotten her out of trouble several times. However,…
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What to DO! Help!
Met with Adult Protective Services lady yesterday at my dad's house. Thankfully she finds my dad capable of living in the house by himself for now. Problem I have is an ongoing family dispute with my sister who has done many things behind my back with my mother, she lives at my sisters without dad. It started in April 2021…
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Duet
Watch /listen to Tony Bennett and Lady GaGa sing a song from their new album. This month Bennett is doing his last public performances in NYC. https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/youll-cry-watching-lady-gagas-164307334.html
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WKS (Wernicke-Korsakoff Syndrome) Journey
I apologize in advance for the long, rambling post. My primary purpose is to vent but I know I will get support and I'm also hoping this aids others who are experiencing a similar life. My wife (we've been together 30 years, married 20) gradually increased her drinking (primarily beer) from being an occasional social…
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Feeling Major Guilt
I'm sure I shouldn't, but feeling major guilt because I contacted Adult Protective Service and they are I'm meeting them at my dad's house today. After phone conversation yesterday, she did state there isn't going to be a choice that Guardianship will have to be established and dad moved out. I know my dad is going to…
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Adamant about Not Moving
My parents live in different state from their kids. One was diagnosed with VD. No one has told us a stage. The other parent hasn't been diagnosed but clearly has cognitive issues. Both think nothing is wrong and they can continue living in their current home until they die. But that can't happen for their own safety. I…
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To tell or not to tell(1)
I'm sure some of you were able to try and explain to LO they have dementia, if so, any tips. Also, my dad doesn't know it, but his doctor already did the paperwork to have his license remove; he has no business on the road anymore. I know if I try to tell him and why, it will be a major blow up since he keeps bringing up…
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The struggle
I guess I am just writing so that someone else hears me on this, as I can see clearly that this is a supportive forum. My grandmother has VD and I'm very involved with her care. The process of trying to get her into MC is absolutely killing me. I am feeling guilty all the time not only about the fact that she needs to get…
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How to combat LO's insistence on leaving every evening?
Hi all, This is my first post as I just discovered you today! My question: what wisdom/experience can you share to combat your LO's insistence on leaving every evening? Mom has only been doing this for 1-2 months now. I guess this is a "sundowner moment"? I've tried using logic (NOT recommended), changing the subject,…
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Clothing Choices
DH is having some challenges with getting dressed especially with buttons, belts, underwear. Does anyone have suggestions where to buy clothing for easier self dressing. He is in the early stages of moderate stage of Alzheimers. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Vaccination Mandate For NH Staff Under Fire and Debate
Nursing homes are beginning to see an upsurge in patients becoming positive for the COVID mutated Delta virus. This is seen even in patients who have been vaccinated. In several NHs fully, vaccinated patients have contracted the Delta virus and have died. The single place the exposure came from appears to be from…
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Throw into the deep end!
This is a bit of a rambling rant with some questions maybe peppered in it. I previously did my first post about being concerned about moving my mother, who is 70 with dementia, and father who is 80 and mentally and physically fine. Since that post a moth or two ago, my brother and I decided we would fly to their home for…