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Glorious moment of joy!
I posted on Saturday because I was having a bad case of the blues. I also spoke of finding moments of joy in this terrible journey and yesterday I had the greatest one yet. My sons play a silly little game amongst themselves of keeping score whenever they tell their Dad "I love you" and get one back. As of yesterday the…
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Trouble facing dad with AD after recent loss of mom with AD
My mom passed two months ago after a hard 4 year battle with mixed dementia and other health problems, including two below-knee amputations from vascular disease. She passed after about two weeks on hospice at home. I have been living down the block from my parents for two years and am so lucky to have in-home caregivers…
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How much water to drink?
I have been doing research. But I found all kinds of information online. From 2.7 liter for women to 1.7 for elderly. Some just say each person is different. Also not sure if the number includes the fruit, soup from lunch/diner. Please share your knowledge related this topic. thanks!
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LO finally says she needs care
After a very long time, almost a year, my LO says they realize they need care. This is finally after being in a home where during covid I could not go visit, was not told the entire story of what was going on. They had fallen and ambulance came, put in hospital and moved to skilled nursing near me, until weeks ago LO still…
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Loved one seeks reassurance for every action
My LO seems to think that she either needs permission or forgiveness for every action she takes. I get multiple phone calls a day. ‘ we used the credit card at the store- is that ok? We went to a restaurant to eat- should we have? ( the director at the ASL is now saying stores and uncrowded restaurants are ok to go do - no…
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input needed - full time caregivers questions
Hi everyone! My parents, brother and I take care full time of my grandmother who is 91. We have for about 6 years. She has advancing (more rapidly now it seems) dementia and we need help. She is now fully incontinent and wears adult diapers. She fights my mom when she is wet and we want to change her and clean her up.…
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What type of help for Alzheimers with no physical issues?
I am new to this message board. I don't know what type of help to get for my mom. She is 86, in great physical shape, but has Alzheimer's and her short term memory is going. She will forget important things I said earlier in our conversations, even just 5 minutes prior. She is in Independent Living and still drives. When I…
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Australia National Dementia Helpline
Description The National Dementia Helpline is an Australia-wide telephone information and support service for people with dementia, their carers, families and friends. Health professionals and service providers, community organisations and people concerned about memory loss can also contact the helpline. Services provided…
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Normal
Hi, good morning. Just needing some feedback or see if anyone else deals with your LO'S acting "normal" around certain people. My mom is 92 in good physical health. She is slowing down alot walking is getting more difficult. I would say she is in late mid stage Alzheimer's her short term memory is gone. She has a caregiver…
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Timing Placement
Hi, I am new to this site and so glad I found it. My Father died from dementia in 2015 and my Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in 2016. He was 76 when he died, she is 77 now. We placed my Dad in a nursing home after he became a wandering and fall risk and was combative with in home caregivers. We later realized we…
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New to the board - Need to vent -long read
My mom has come to live with me temporarily until we can find a more permanent solution. We lost my Dad, her husband and my brother within a month of each other. I have another sibling who chooses not to be involved and I am left holding the bag. The original agreement was that we would take mom (who is diagnosed with Lewy…
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Holiday blues(2)
I am not having a good morning even though my DH is still peacefully sleeping. Tomorrow is Easter and I know in my heart it will be the last one I ever have with him. Even with the remote possibility of him still physically with us I envision him in a zombie like state lying in bed. He is very advanced but not yet…
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Dad was sent to psychiatric hospital
Got a call from hospital where they told me Dad hit one of the residents today. They are sending him to psychiatric hospital to adjust his meds. Probably to sedate him. Nursing home said they would take him back if he is better with meds. He is already in 9 seroquil a day. He has never hit anyone in his whole life. I know…
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The doctor said it’s time to call in hospice
It’s been a rough few weeks. My mil has taken a pretty dramatic decline. Waiting on UA results. We saw the dr today. He told me that it’s time to call hospice. We got home and she brought out her favorite dress she keeps in a bag and told me that it’s for when she dies. I was able to video chat with my best friends that…
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My stepmother has alzheimers and my dad seems to be overwhelmed
I'm not sure exactly what year my stepmother was diagnosed with early stage alzheimers. I was in the military, eventually got out and went to work for federal government, so I've only seen my parents on holidays or vacation. I came home one week in 2019 and noticed that she kept telling me the same story every 5 or so…
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Family Problems
My mom has AL and now lives with my family. My dad passed away about 6 yrs ago. I have a brother but he hasn't talked to my mom or I for over a year. My mom is declining and was diagnosed with AL just after my brother stopped talking to her. He doesn't even know what my mom is going through. My mom doesn't want to talk to…
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Sibling of Alzheimer patients
I have two sisters and both of them have been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I'm looking for someone to share how it's been going for them as a sibling. Both of my sisters have loving husbands there to care for them but I feel and know that I have to be careful not to step on their toes. I want to help them but not overstep…
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Recommendation - Cleaning Service in Clearwater
Hi - I'm new to the board and am looking for some recommendations for a local/trusted cleaning service that can clean my parents' home every other week or so. Dad can use some help caring for Mom and as many of you can relate to - they're not convinced they need the help. I am not local to Florida right now and could use a…
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Newly Diagnosed but won’t accept help
I had a feeling that something was wrong with my dad for awhile, but he refused to go to the doctors to get himself checked out which I am seeing is a theme with many patients. Luckily, disability had set up a doctors appointment with a memory care physician which we forced him to go to. The report pointed towards…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/2/21
PRAISE THE LAMB OF GOD! From the shadow of the cross, we Thank You Jesus for Your Great Love and Sacrifice for us. * John 19:30 New International Version * "When he had received the drink, Jesus said, 'It is finished.' With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit." * Let us praise the Lord. Thank Him for loving us…
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dealing with emotions/depression
Hi, I'm Melissa, a divorced 56 year old who takes care of my 92 year old mom who has alzheimers. I do not live with her, she lives with my 91-year-old dad who is amazingly healthy but still very limited in the care he can provide for her. My dad doesn't drive so I have to do a lot for both of them. We have a paid daytime…
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Paranoia(9)
How do you handle it when your loved one has dementia related audio hallucinations? My dad is convinced there are people who want to kill him at the memory care facility he lives at. He can't tell me who they are. He hears discussions that don't exist. And yet seems so much more with it than any of the others that reside…
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Undermining comments within this forum
I'm a little upset. I have come to this forum for support and insight from people going through the same or similar situations to my family several times before and I really appreciate the kind and helpful things people have to say. Yet almost always there is someone that feels the need to tell me that my LO with ES should…
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Delusions(11)
Hi there, I’m new to this forum. My mom does not have a diagnosis as of yet, but we are seeing personality, mood and behaviour changes to name a few.Wondering if anyone has experience with those they care for having delusions. My mom has had a repeated delusion of smelling cigarette smoke. In her previous home and now the…
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Seeking advice from experiences of moving to AL or MC
My able bodied father lives at home to care for my mother in Stage 6 Alzheimer’s...they have lived in this house for 21 years. She is not incontinent, does not wander, and is still mobile but dad is more of a companion versus a caretaker. Her personal hygiene is very neglected, keeping up with medications are a struggle,…
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Miracle or momentary reprieve?
Hello fellow caregivers. This is my first post after reading your stories for several months. Thank you for the wisdom of your experience on this journey we would rather not be on. The noticeable signs began appearing about 1 1/2 to 2 years ago. My DH started having problems writing out checks; keeping track of finances;…
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New Brain Guide
UsAgainstAlzheimer’s has recently launched BrainGuide, a first-of-its-kind platform that empowers people with knowledge and resources to take the best next steps in managing their own or a loved one’s brain health. With more than 60 percent of Alzheimer’s cases in people over 65 years old going unrecognized, there is an…
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Very near death - need to talk to someone experienced!
Our LO is very near death. I’m just feeling so many things right now and want to share with someone who may understand. I want to share here what we are experiencing right now: if anyone in this group has a LO who has died, can you give me any insight to these developments and to what stage we may be in in the dying…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/1/21
THIS IS THE START OF EASTER * Maundy Thursday, The Bread & Wine * Luke 22:16-20 New International Version * "16 For I tell you, I will not eat it again until it finds fulfillment in the kingdom of God.” 17 After taking the cup, he gave thanks and said, “Take this and divide it among you. 18 For I tell you I will not drink…
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How to validate mom's hoarding?
As most of us know some behaviors are almost impossible to navigate through or around, hoarding is one of those behaviors. I've been decluttering paper, clothes, household items to prepare for upcoming property insurance inspection. Mom is irrational when it comes to decluttering (throwing things out or donations) even…