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Katie bar the door!
Today we had a tree trimmer with the electric company work all day trimming our trees growing into the power lines. The noise was horrible! I took Mom back to her room and we put on her Dolly Parton tunes and I gave her a pedicure. When we were done she wanted to wash her hair. Then we had our first watermelon of the year!…
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Is video truth helpful or hurtful for paranoia?
My mother-in-law (86) has lived alone in a big house for the 40 years since her husband died. She has always been strong and self-reliant. Her granddaughter and I are her only close relatives (not counting her two elderly sisters in Japan). I live 15 minutes away; her granddaughter lives far away in another state. A few…
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My 88 yr old Mother keeps calling the POLICE because she thinks I am an Intruder!
My Mom no longer recognizes me and on Thursday when I was making her a sandwich, she called 911 to report an "intruder." The police came and my mom gave them a big story about the "intruder" breaking in and "beating her up." All not true. It was heart-breaking. I showed them my ID, verified I was her daughter, showed that…
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One Day Notice for 24 hour care assistant while in memory care
Greetings, Yesterday we were informed that my mother was too much a liability for escaping in her facility. We were told she had to be moved to a locked facility and until she was we had to provide 24 care at our expense. We found a place to move her in four days. In the meantime the 24 care fees are $700 a day, with a…
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what should you say?
Hi there, Sometime mom will say something strange. Should I just pretend I understand and agree with her? Or should I try to ask more questions to better understand what she is saying and correct her? Because she just said I know you all think I am crazy. And I do not know what to response. thanks. I am new to this.
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Won't drink enough!
How do you get your LO to drink fluids? I am tired of harping on mom to drink. She will ignore the water,juice, or tea in front of her face and keeps getting UTIs.
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Guardian ad Litem has placed my 73yo sister in a NH
In 2017 my sister was declared incompetent and was appointed a guardian. (I live ~1000 miles away). Until about a month ago, she was living independently in a large elderly apartment building, and was receiving services who would bring her medication/food. This became more difficult with COVID. A few weeks ago, she called…
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How to get a diagnosis when person won't go to a specialist and is it imperitive?
Hi, this is my first time on this site and posting. My mom has been experiencing memory issues for more than a year and recently has starting having delusions about her neighbor and calls me nightly to ask where the kids are. She often thinks she is watching someone's kids or she thinks her adult sons are young and are…
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Advice needed(7)
Hi, My mom was diagnosed two years ago, although I feel like I saw slight shifts to personality and memory years ago. It’s easy to chalk it up to old age although she’s only now 74. My dad was the primary caregiver but he died unexpectedly last June. We moved my mom across country to be close to us. Rough couple of months…
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Can’t do this without you!
To all of you fellow posters and lurkers too It’s been a day of conflicts with my LO and my step-dad and conflicts elsewhere in our virtual lives. I just wanted to tell you how grateful I am that you all lend me your ear when I need to vent and you all type your advice when I need help and am lost and confused. I may not…
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just joined & trying to find connections
Hey everyone, my name is Virginia and I just joined this site. My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in 2017 and she has been through 2 different research and medication trials. Throughout her diagnosis and progression my dad was her partner in everything. But last year, my dad contracted Covid-19 and passed away. She…
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update and proper introdiction
Hello, I posted a few weeks ago that my mom had broken her hip and I was not sure what to do next. I received so many supportive replies, thank you to you all. I wanted to post a proper introduction and an update on my mom. In 2019, I was aware something was wrong. my mom lived alone and I lived about 500 miles away. I…
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how to pee in bed? female
Hi there, I am new to the forum. Mom had a stroke and diagnosed with dementia last month. It is hard to move her out of bed and take her to the bathroom. Just wondering is there anything she can use to pee in the bed at night. Thanks!!
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First time commenting
Hi My name is Vonnie. I am taking care of my mother in law. Lately she has be having both the TV and the radio both up quite loud at the same time. Is this common? The doctors say she has Alzheimer's and all of this is overwhelming. It has been encouraging to read your comments and solutions.
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End of life preparation
My husband died 16 years ago. He has 2 brothers that live in Florida (we r in WV). So Since that time I have cared for their mother. I have known for at least 10yrs something wasn’t right. She gave away at least $30,000 to some scam in Jamaica. I finally had her diagnosed about 5 yrs ago. She lived next door. I fed,…
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Please help, need advice on aggression
My mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s at age 58. She is now 62, and is in the advanced stages. She resides in the memory care unit of an assisted living community, and I was just notified that she cannot stay there. She is refusing medication, so not taking it impacts her behavior, and she’s now become…
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New Magazine Created for People with Dementia-Related Illness
Hello all -- I've been caring for my Aunt who was diagnosed with EOAD in 2016. She had always been a voracious reader and enjoys magazines. I noticed early on in her illness that traditional magazines were becoming too difficult for her to access, but she would carry them around with her anyways. This wasn't an issue, but…
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COVID VascularD Face-touching concnerns / I am at a complete loss
I've been staying with my mother and my grandfather for a few weeks and there are 2 major issues going on for me and I am at a complete loss of what to do. The first is about my grandfather's dementia itself, and the second is about my mother, his caregiver. My Grandpa, 82, has vascular dementia. It is now at the point…
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feeling very guilty admitting mom to nh
my mom has alzheimers, had left the stove on, fallen etc. She was in the hospital after Thanksgiving with an ulcer and had several bad episodes with her alzheimers. they told us she could not longer stay by herself, she moved to live with her sister. She has been in the hospital 3 times and is now having what the doctor…
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Not sundowning, sunUPing
My wife was diagnosed 4½ years ago. Sometimes she displays the symptoms of sundowning, except that she does so in the morning, not the evening. She will start out the day confused, then exhibit clarity as the morning progresses. Sometimes she displays a strange form of shadowing. Instead of following me, she walks in front…
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First Time Posting(1)
Hello, my name is Kim. My mother was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's when I was 10. I have been a primary caregiver to her for half of my life now. My parents are immigrants from Germany, so the only people that take care of her are my father, my older brother and myself. However, her relationship with my brother…
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Kind of hurt my feelings when...
my mom forgot who I was (yes, she mixes my adult daughter and I up all the time) but this time, when my Mom looked at me puzzled, after I reminded her that I wasn't my daughter and happened to ask her "who am I." My mother answered that I was her niece. She didn't say which niece but categorized myself as one and she has…
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Alarm vs baby monitor
My father was just diagnosed with a severe heart block, and has been starting with dizziness and hallucinations he reacts to. He's been confined to a wheelchair because he falls when he walks away from his walker, which he does a lot now, and he's getting up at night on his own, mostly, I think, to go to the bathroom. I'm…
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Melatonin?
Anyone supplement their LO meds with melatonin?
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New and needing to vent
Hi everyone. My mom moved in with me in January 2019 after a bout with cancer(breast). At the time we were told that her age (86)could cause Problems with her memory. She was more than capable to handle her daily routines, medicines, doctors appointments etc Additionally my only brother had a seizure(2019) and was…
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Alcohol issues - how to handle?
Mom in MCF keeps calling and saying she needs a credit card so she can order "stuff" - she won't say what she wants to order, just that she wants to be able to get stuff when she wants. The problem is that I'm pretty sure what she wants is alcohol. She can actually have a glass of wine with dinner at MCF, but she has long…
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medical bracelet
I'm about to purchase a medical alert bracelet for my Mom. She is in the moderate stages and went out for a walk alone the other day and couldn't find her way home. I've got my stepdad on board with a bracelet, but am looking for phrases to use with her when I present her with the idea. Thanks in advance!
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Not sleeping at night. What to do?
I would appreciate an advice, My grandma has Alzheimers for more than 4 years already and doesn't walk. She wakes up in the middle of the night probably every 3 nights. She sits up and does nothing. It is dark in the room so she stares in the dark. I see it all on the camera that can see in the dark. So, I call help that I…
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Driving...so frustrated and sad
Hi, My mom was diagnosed last October. At the time she decided to stop driving. And she told everyone that I would not let her drive. Now she has been insistent on driving again. She is calling the DMV to set up a driving exam. She is not a safe driver. My kids, dh, etc refuse to ride with her. The dr will not intervene…
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Mom is Threatening to Kill Herself to Manipulate Me and My Siblings
My 84 yo mother who has VD and has been in MC for a little over 3 years now is bored and is continuing to threaten to kill herself unless she can go home. My siblings and I are aware she is trying to make us feel guilty and to try to manipulate us to get her way (she has been doing this for years). I try to remind her that…