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My mom
My mom has LBD...my dad is her main caregiver. Lately she thinks that he is not her husband and where she is living is not her house. (which it is) She keeps asking me if I am going to be taking her back to the other place. I am not sure how to respond to her when she gets this way. Any suggestions?
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Trust is gone..
I'm just kind of thinking about our relationship because it's Valentine's Day. After his outbursts of screaming and throwing objects last week, as well as telling me he's going to "leave me" I'm not sure what to believe. This week is a whole different ball game with multiple requests that I forgive him. I do forgive him…
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move from SNF to memory care
My mom is 92 and about stage 6 with mixed dementia. She went to the hospital a couple weeks ago with a UTI and pneumonia. They admitted her for a few days and she is now in a SNF. I have been caring for her at home until this point, with caregivers coming in while I'm at work. She has definitely lost strength since being…
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Respiratory Help needed - no mist from the nebulizer mask
Forum mates, I am giving DH breathing treatments (nebulizer) around the clock these days *for his asthma*, as often as every 4 hours. Stage 7a is throwing us a curve ball today as he is wheezing mightily, and coughing / choking, then OK to sleep for a while. I can't get the breathing treatment to work well enough today.…
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Planning for the future
My dad has been doing better lately. He is walking more pushing his wheelchair in front of him. Staying awake and watching TV instead of sleeping all the time. His appetite is good. He is more oriented while I'm driving and actually giving me directions on where to go. At the doctor's office, he's speaking up for himself…
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Just joined and new here
Hello...my name is Carolyn, and I have been contemplating joining this forum for a few months now, but have been too numb and grief-stricken to do so. But I thought I would give it a try. My husband (2nd marriage for both of us...he has two grown daughters, and I have no children) was diagnosed with FTD yesterday. He was…
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What specialist does he need?
I am trying to line up an Alzheimer's specialist to evaluate my husband and prescribe/monitor medications. I'm at a loss as to what specialty I should be looking at. Neurologist? Psychologist? Psychiatrist? Neuro-pharmacologist? Is that even a thing? He had a psychiatrist while he was hospitalized, but now it's just his…
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After the ER…
Mom is still having tests preformed to rule out any physical issues but the doctor is pretty sure she has dementia. This happened so quickly! We had noticed symptoms but never connected the dots. She has her own apartment but obviously she’s not able to live on her own anymore. My husband and I have room in our house but…
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New Behavior
My DH has been declining over the last month after he had an episode that could have been a seizure. I wasn't here at the time but he described it as a blankness for about 5 minutes. Since then, he has started openly discussing his dementia/Alzheimers. He said he couldn't remember very much and told me he was scared. I…
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Food Obsession
Have noticed that my husband is obsessed with food and meals. He constantly wants to eat and go out for a meal. He hoovers over family members while they eat making everyone uncomfortable. Always hungry. Thoughts?
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Respiratory Question - Help!
Forum mates, I am giving DH breathing treatments (nebulizer) around the clock these days *for his asthma*, as often as every 4 hours. Stage 7a is throwing us a curve ball today as he is wheezing mightily, and coughing/choking, then OK to sleep for a while. I can't get the breathing treatment to work well enough today. Can…
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for jeanne
Is there now a separate group for FTD and well as newcomers? Would you please post how one gets access to those.
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DH took a nosedive this week.
Thanks to everyone for ideas. DW has lost so much ground this week cognitively and physically. He now cannot walk without assistance. Right now he is laying in bed with soiled clothes and refuses to get up to allow me to change his clothes before bedtime. I have tried everything ! He will not sit up to take his meds either…
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Better Late Than Never
Ok... NOW I completely understand why safety is the #1 concern. I can't make my LO happy. No place will ever be perfect for her or for me. She has a lousy disease that makes reasoning with her impossible, even on her good days. I get it now. (It only took me 6 months)
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Why do some people progress faster than others?
Looking at the charts, I recognize all of my LO’s symptoms and her progression through the stages of Alzheimer’s/dementia. However, I feel like her progression has been much faster than what I imagined. I know she was probably farther along than I thought when I got involved 2.5 years ago but it’s been a pretty rapid…
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How to make the move to memory care
Hi - I'm new here. My father, 84, has Alzheimer's but is still living at home with my mother, who is now nearly blind and has health issues of her own. She has been looking after him, and trying to cope with his decline for quite some time. They've been together for over 60 years, and she has always relied on him and feels…
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How Long
I'm sitting in the neuropsychologist office, having sat through the first set of questions to my DW for what I imagine will be her last evaluation to get a diagnosis. Like I need one -- she couldn't tell the Dr. what month or day it is, she can't drive or work her phone, and her speech is more halting and her ability to…
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Haladol?
My mom was diagnosed with mild to moderate AD/VD two years ago. In July of 2022 she fell in the parking lot and fractured her pelvis prompting a move to assisted living. Her dementia progressed pretty quickly after her fall and move. She started thinking her stuffed dog was real and that it died. She cried for days over…
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This made me sad
One of mom’s friends at her AL gave her a small journal to write in. The friend is a recent widow too and thought it would help mom. She’s had it a week. I read it a couple days ago. She makes notes about her day and her thoughts. What made me sad 1) she notes the most basic things that happen 2) sometimes she writes on…
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Now I get the no reasoning at times! This is funny
A couple of times this last couple of weeks my wife has peep but not flushed, so I go inside and ask her why you’re not flushing ! She says I didn’t pee! I said but there’s paper and pee in bowl , she says I didn’t do it, now she’s mad. I say sorry maybe I peed and wiped. Now forsure no more correcting
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Facility Responsibility for Resident Security
My mom is in a memory care facility in NJ. My Dad is in independent living within the same facility. One of the other memory care residents is further along in his disease than my mom is. He is coming into my mom's room often times yelling at her to get out of his house. He has not been violent but very loud and…
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DW Assaulted by MCF Employee
Has anyone on here experienced the physical assault and battery of their LO by a MCF employee? My LO was assaulted by an employee resulting in a serious injury and hospitalization. The assault was caught on security cameras. When police reviewed the video evidence the employee was arrested. I'm heartbroken and angry and…
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Respite
So my MIL is going to spend the next 5 day in mc so we can rest. I honestly don't think she'll make it. She's so withdrawn not sure she'll know she's in a different place but it's gotta happen. Thankful hospice could help with this much needed respite. We need to rest our backs.
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Hospice
Hello can someone please explain to me, if the decision to put a LO on hospice is a major decision and should it be discussed with all family members before treatment?
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Super charged backlash
I'm caring for my DH at home. He is mobile but I don't trust him to walk without losing his balance so I do assist him. For the most part, I move him out of his chair for meals and bedtime. I can get him to the car so I am able to attend to chores while he stays in the car. All of that is fine on most days. However, at…
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O.T. - the history of dogs
Since I know there are a lot of dog lovers here, this is an interesting article. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-wolf-became-dog/#Close%20encounters
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Anxiety(3)
My mother has extreme anxiety before Dr's appts. One time we decided to take her to her appointment 2 hours early, so that she finally understood it was too early. She has another appt in a few days, and I am already dreading it. She doesn't have a good concept of time, anymore. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
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Jury duty
Oh my goodness!!! My name is Patty I have heart disease, very close to needing a heart transplant. My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2019 and I am struggling with unbelievable issues. I was denied disability because I'll bite my lip and this has depleted my mom's bank account to the point we now have a negative…
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possibly transitioning to next stage?
Hi friends, It feels late at night even though it's 7:30PM here. Wanted to check-in about the kookiness we've had going on today. Some catch-up from the last couple of weeks: my dad might be starting to struggle with eating/using his hands. More confusion about how to do things (take pills, drink from straw). As he's…
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sad
Mom: "I'm Mary. Who are you" How the heck do you know when to put your Mom who has dementia in assisted living or memory care. I'm struggling here.