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Update on dementia friendly movies
I previously posted about the successful pilot program here in little Saline MI called a Friendly Day at the Movies. It’s for persons living with dementia, their caregivers, family and friends. We show classic movies (Singing In The Rain, Mamma Mia, Easter Parade) with soft light and sound and no hard rules—we encourage…
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My Mom Flipped Out in a Drive Thru - Venting
I'm caring for my mother who is in her 80s and has been diagnosed with AD. She was discharged three weeks ago from a physical medicine rehab after a fall with a fractured arm. Prior to this, she was living at home alone with some assistance. Beginning a week ago, my mom doesn't remember who I am more often than not, which…
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Palliative Care - UPDATE
My mother is 90 y/o and I (her daughter) have been living with her since June 2022. She has been showing signs of dementia since her husband (my father) passed away from dementia in Jan. 2019. I think the trauma of living with him (long story - mistakes were made by her & my sister) accelerated her condition to where we…
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The Long Goodbye
I have been keeping a journal, at the suggestion of my doctor. She also suggested that I share some or all of my journal entries to anybody I think might benefit or gain some insight into my experience. So I thought I would share today's journal entry with all of you. I feel that you will definitely relate. MARCH 8,…
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2 Years in MC
Hi my friends. I've been away for a while, reading here now and again, but trying to find a way to continue through this life. Sometimes being here is just overwhelming. Sometimes it's just what I need. Yesterday DH "celebrated" 2 years in his MC facility, just a few weeks after he turned 60. He no long has any awareness…
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New here
Hi, my name is Debbie and my husband, Bill, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2019.The signs were there sooner but I didn't recognize it. His mom died with Alzheimer's at age74. We've only been married for 10 years. This a second marriage for both of us after being single for over 20 years. Bill is 81 and me 70 in April.…
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DH placed this week-ups and downs
My DH went to memory care on Monday-my daughter and I brought him in. He was fairly confused about what was happening when we left, but seemed okay. Monday night the memory care staff called me, and said he was agitated and had barricaded the door to the kitchen. I got on the phone with him and was able to calm him down.…
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Need to ensure Mom takes her meds
My Mom is on an antibiotic and needs to take it twice a day. She was forgetting so I got her the med-elert pill dispenser. She took the pills out, but dropped one dose on the floor and left it there. She took the evening dose out, but left it on the counter. she told me that she’s positive she took her pills. I’m not sure…
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Guilt
I feel so guilty that I don't get along with my mom.
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PET results
I’d love input on my DH PET results. My DH is 53 and we’ve been trying to figure out what is going on with him for more than a year. We finally got an appt at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville last month, which was great. The doc had him do an MRI, ECG, EEG, extensive blood panels, and a PET MRI. I haven’t been able to get a…
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MC Journey - Nightmare
I'm not going into all the details. Placed H on 9/1. He has continued to physically grab staff when being redirected away from a female resident he is fixated on. Medical group that provides service at the facility upped one medication and added another. Then increased both again. In January Facility Director and MC…
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Picked her up for the afternoon
When I walked in she wasn't in the common areas like normal so I checked her room. She was lying in bed but not asleep. When I walked in she was so happy to see me she started crying. We hugged and kissed and then I took her out of MC for the afternoon. She was so happy to be with me. We got hamburgers and a chocolate…
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Hi! Newbie Here
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2019 but we didn’t move him until just this last summer; it took four years for my mom to get on board. Today when we went and saw them my dad didn’t know me and that was so hard. How do you deal with it? What’s worse is he looked so sad and I know things change day to day for them…
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Memory Care vs Nursing Home
My mom is in Memory Care. It is becoming more difficult because her anxiety is increasing and not managed well. Trying to decide if we need to move her for more daily support. Can you help me understand the difference between Memory Care vs Nursing Home. I’d like to get her a sitter but it seems too expensive.
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DH now cannot walk
Home health care nurse told me that DH must be supervised all the time. With just the two of us, prior to his latest decline, he could at least go with me to the store, Mass errands - the beach etc. I sm trying to keep him safely at home, but how will I run basic errands? Walk the dog etc and keep Him safe. The problem is…
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Calming meds for anxiety?
Hi, when music, diversion, soft textures, fresh air•••golf kart ride etc won't comfort Mom's agitation, sundowners type intense anxiety. Are there any prescribed medications that work well in anyone out there's situations Thank you
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Dealing with inlaws
Dear friends, I want to write this because it burdens me immensely. My Sib in laws have a very different way of dealing with Dad's dementia. I hate to keep saying 'they are in denial" because first of all, I am not a diagnostician or psychologist. Who am I to say why they make the choices they make? Dad has a 'companion'…
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Depression and suicidal thoughts
My dad, 88 with VD, has been telling me, his daughter, and my mom and his doctor that he doesn't want to wear a catheter anymore and if he dies, he won't care. He reluctantly endured the insertion of another catheter but when he came home, he went straight to bed and seemed so depressed and deflated. I saw in his medical…
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Lost Parent
Hi everyone, I am new on here. I recently lost my Mom to Mixed Dementia (AD/VD). I have been fluctuating between anger and crying. I find satisfaction in expressing anger to the particular individuals in the medical system (mainly doctors and nurses) who I feel failed my Mom and me. I understand systems are currently…
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Can he move back home from Memory Care?
My husband went to a memory care facility 10 days ago after a health crisis pushed him over the edge mentally. He was so agitated and delusional that I couldn't take care of him. He never slept, often wandered the house with his eyes half-open talking nonsense syllables. I visited him for the first time yesterday and he is…
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Selling their home
My dad was dx with vascular dementia approximately 2 years ago and we quickly found out that my stepmom was unable to care for him. She has had severe diabetes for years and I knew there was some other issues but she presented very well. In October - she was taken by ambulance to the ER and within days was dx with brittle…
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Caring for my father in law
Hello all I am caring for my father in law, who has dementia possible Alz. It's not easy and l feel like l'm alone in this. I'm the one who does his laundry, cleans the house, and washes him up. When l try to say something all I get are guilt trips. I gave up a full time job that l love to go part time, so l could stop…
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Funny, but not funny
As some of you know I am caring for my father in law. Well l was cleaning the downstairs bathroom, when l hear from the bathroom some gagging noises coming from the kitchen. I come running into the kitchen asking him if he was alright and he shakes his head no. I look in his hand to find that he drank some of the spicy…
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Of all things I didn't need (for a chagrined chuckle)
Sheesh. If my life weren't complicated enough, today i discovered that I have a new but unwanted farm resident: a beaver!!! He or she (or both) is cutting trees by our farm pond and attempting to dam the spillway. Unfortunately there's no such thing as a humane beaver trap, and he's picked a very inopportune place to set…
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Hallucinations
Good afternoon, thank you for allowing me to join your group. My mother has been seeing "people" in her house. She is convinced I have let the people in. She becomes very angry and accusatory, I can defuse most situations, this one I cannot. I made the mistake of saying "nobody was here" Then she says I am calling her…
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personhood
My DW has lately become obsessed with what I'll call "personhood". We have different last names, so no "Mr. and Mrs. ...". Mail (to use one example) get addressed to us using each of our names. She interprets many simple things as though they're failures to recognize her as an individual. Examples: We got a mailing from…
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Dad passed away overnight
I got the call this morning. Dad passed away in his sleep. Hospice, the AL nurse and everyone was surprised because he has a good day yesterday. No services planned until Mom passes. Now we deal with her confused reactions to it all. She’s responding appropriately right now.
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Retired and can't be alone with my wife in house
We have out lived friends. Wife is mobile but we have nowhere to go. My wife could come with me and not be left alone. I need at this stage somewhere to go to socialize for a few hours a day. I need to be with people. Family is not an option. I can't believe there aren't daily social groups. I have to keep her at home as…
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Post from new caregivers group
@MyMomAlice wrote this post in the new caregivers group and I moved it here so members with similar experiences can chime in. MyMomAlice She/her/hers / Ella Unconfirmed, Member Posts: 1 Member 2:21PM Options Hi! I am a caregiver for my Mom 77 who lives an hour and a half away. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in January…
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Candor vs Burdening
My mom is in the moderate stage but seems to be declining a little more rapidly now. I live in a different state so my dad is the primary caretaker and I visit when I can which is monthly. I'm already grieving the loss of who she was and our relationship. I'm worried one day I'll visit and she won't recognize me. I've made…