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Need help
My husband has Alzheimer’s, he has stopped eating, I’ve offered every thing still doesn’t want to eat, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
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Everything’s falling apart
Today I went to a party at DH’s daycare with him. The occasion was his last day there. Earlier this week, after the last two outings there ended in multiple attempts to leave and general other disruption, everyone agreed that the usefulness of this had run its course. Even after 18 months, DH still has tremendous…
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GOING TO THE SENIOR CENTER
Shortly after my wife died, I went to the senior center to get a tax break. I then volunteered and worked in the kitchen for several years. I have met an awful lot of nice people, including my current wife she was a widow. I also knew her husband for 2 years before he died. The center has so much to offer they have bingo…
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Excessive sleeping
some days my wife will sleep almost 20 hours. Is this common among those with Alzheimer’s?
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toilet mishaps
My DH has beenjust been diagnosed with early Alz but now occasionally misses the toilet at night, which he has never done before. I am less concerned about the clean up aspect of this than I am of the fear that this is a sign of progression. I welcome any and all thoughts about this.
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Incontinence before Dementia - forgetting pads
My Mom was diagnosed with dementia 5 years ago. She was having kidney/bladder/incontinence issues before that. She recently started forgetting to put in a pad. Yesterday she stood and peed while we were having dinner with some friends. She knew she was doing it. She had forgot to put a pad in, but didn't realize it. She's…
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Feeling Sad. Missed you quietly today...
Visited my husband Lonny this week in Memory Care. He's been there 6 months while I have been going through cancer treatment. He slept through lunch and didn't wake up to eat. I just held his hand and talked to him and told him I love him. They have him medicated due to agitation & because he fell the week before and had…
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Mom is free of the monster which is dementia!
On the morning of July 3rd Mom passed peacefully in her sleep. She was in late stage 5 but was still able to dress herself, feed herself and toilet herself, so she was able to stay in her ALF. She had also developed a lower intestinal bleed which could have only been treated by major surgery which we declined. She lost a…
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First time visiting since he was placed in a nursing home
I'm the daughter of a parent with dementia. My father was in the early stages of dementia the last time I saw him. He was losing his ability to speak clearly, stop frequently, and figure out how to express his thoughts or feelings. That was three or four years ago. His illness spiraled since then and became too difficult…
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Sister Financially Abusing Mom
My 54 year old sister is a narcissist and is the primary caregiver for our mom. Although I use caregiver very loosely. My mom has lived with my sister for 6 years now. The first 4 years while she was married. My sister gets paid by in home support services to “take care” of my mom. Help with meals, bathing, doctors appts,…
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Can't go on like this
So today my husband said "f you" to me while we were in the check out line at the grocery. Everyone in earshot heard. How humiliating. I can add grocery shopping to the list of activities we can no longer do together. And he can't be left alone, so. . .
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How to get her to visit a facility and move ?
We need to move her , we found a good facility ,but they want to meet her first and evaluate her ! She will not accept. She live alone in AL facility, has her meds delivered morning and evening She is morning-downing every day , very agitated ,confused them by afternoon totally normal. She eats ,dresses and bathes on her…
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Pill Management
Hi! Any ideas for pill management from the collective brain our there are appreciated! Here's the dilemma. Every morning, I give my 90-year-old mom with MD her six pills. Every morning, she counts them and questions me. Whatever, I expect that. But in doing so and counting them, she invariably loses one, misplaces it, or…
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"Why did we come in here?"
Today we went for a walk in the morning, as we usually do. When we returned home, the title of this post is what DH said to me. "Because it's our home," I said. "We live here. See, here are our two cats. They live here, too." I get asked a lot of questions, but this one kind of gobsmacked me. DH has been lost in time for…
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Finding local support group
Hi, I’m reaching out because I don’t know how to handle my husband‘s denial any longer. He’s 64 years old and will not see a doctor but has had for the past 10 years memory loss to the point of the past year of not knowing where things are or what he spoke of, every single day. I tried to address it with him. He gets angry…
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Alz medication
My Dh was on namenda and was unable to take it . The neurologist put him on Donepezil hcl . Has been taking it for about 2 weeks. Has been incon of stool 2x now. Is this normal at first or is he progressing. Any way he refuses to take it now. We are running out of meds.
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Struggling at work
Hi, I have not been diagnosed with EO but have a lot of symptoms. (I am 61) I had neuropsych testing 2 years ago and was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment. I feel like things are getting worse so I scheduled a second neuropsych evaluation in August. Has anyone here gone from MCI to Dementia? Has anyone been…
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Scared and Sad
:'( I am new to this site. I was recently diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI). I am a 51 year old woman. I have been married to the love of my life for over 25 years. We have a 23 year old daughter. This diagnosis has become devastating news to our family. I am scared, angry, sad, and unsure about what is…
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Recommend an audiobook for a new caregiver?
My mom has recently been diagnosed and my dad is the primary caregiver, though I'm assisting with everything from getting her to appointments to matching them with information to providing care and visits as often as possible. I'd like to buy my dad an audiobook to listen to about dementia. Does anyone have a…
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Where do I Start?
I need to figure out where to start. I’ve got to have some extended “me” time. He drives me crazy with repeated questions, IPhone issues, wet pants, confusion, deliriums, pacing, rubbing his hands, running interference with his truck (I don’t let him drive) and scammers. My life is exhausting. I’m falling into the abyss…
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When I'm away, Dad doesn't feed Mom
My Mom has pretty advanced dementia, Dad less advanced, I live with them to take care of them. Mom would stay in bed and not eat if I didn't feed her; Dad can get himself some simple food like cereal and ice cream; I make or buy them both real food. I tried to hire in-home care for Mom a few months ago, but Dad chased away…
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Refusal to take meds
My mother, who lives in a memory care facility, has been increasingly resistant to taking her meds (she has six or seven meds she takes, divided between after breakfast and bedtime). What are some strategies for dealing with this? The nurses at her facility have some success in bargaining with her, but that seems to have…
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Dental problems
My DH who is in stage 6/7 has been having problems with his teeth for at least a year. He has several front teeth that have decay and lost a crown several months ago that the dentist was not able to replace because of decay underneath it. He said he would likely need about 7 teeth pulled. The dentist said he was unlikely…
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I've had ALZ for several years. I'm tired of the misinformation
I'm new to this organization and this forum. But I'm not new to Alzheimer's. I have been struggling for about 4 years now and looking back I was struggling before that with a variety of things. Speech is off, balance is off, sometimes I can't slow my brain down and sometimes I can't get it going, understanding people when…
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Fun Night
So I woke up at 12 midnight to hearing my DH walking around in his bedroom. I was having trouble getting to sleep so I decided to ignore it (maybe it will stop lol) - big mistake. Finally, I got up and went into his bedroom to find his bed totally full of all of his clothing, along with his jewelry box, shaving kit, shaver…
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Korsakoff Dementia
Is anyone in here caring for a spouse that has Korsakoff dementia? I have so many questions
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Physical therapy vs Occupational therapy ?
Good morning all. My DH had his first physical therapy spot yesterday. My DH wanted me there for the intro , I was, adding info when he wasn't able to recall time frames of events. When the physical exercise began he wasn't able to follow her verbal directions and kept apologizing. The therapist said it's okay, you've just…
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Dad's anger and my mental well-being
Hello, I am beginning to wonder if my visits with dad do more harm than good. He really wants to go home. The demands increase and intensify. I end up just having to figure out ways to excuse myself so he doesn't escalate more. Agitation and pacing have already been concerns for the nurse practitioner at his memory care…
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Weight loss
My wife Jenny has been losing weight. 6 months ago she weighed 183 lbs today she weighs 151. She had started eating less and less but the last month or so seems the weight loss has sped up. She gets unstabled if she walks very far but can walk. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's almost 4 years ago. My question; what should…
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Trouble finding caregiving help
My husband has early-onset Alzheimer's that has progressed to moderate stage. He doesn't need help with personal care yet but he has difficulty communicating, can no longer drive and can't operate the coffeemaker, microwave, TV, etc. He's still cognitively very aware but finally agreed to let someone come in to help…