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Seeking Support and Advice in a Challenging Situation
Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out to this community to share my experiences and hopefully gain some insights from those who may have faced similar challenges. I currently live with my parents, pooling our resources as we navigate financial difficulties. My father, who is in his 80s, is likely dealing with dementia or…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/20/24
WORKING FOR PEACE Psalm 4:8 NLT "In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, O Lord, will keep me safe." Matthew 5:9 NLT Jesus' Words "God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God." THINK ABOUT THIS Do you lose peace often? If so... What tends to make you lose peace? Have you…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/20/24
WORKING FOR PEACE Psalm 4:8 NLT "In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, O Lord, will keep me safe." Matthew 5:9 NLT Jesus' Words "God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God." THINK ABOUT THIS Do you lose peace often? If so... What tends to make you lose peace? Have you…
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Bible Verse to Lift You up 10/20/24
WORKING FOR PEACE Psalm 4:8 NLT "In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, O Lord, will keep me safe." Matthew 5:9 NLT Jesus' Words "God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God." THINK ABOUT THIS Do you lose peace often? If so... What tends to make you lose peace? Have you…
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DH doesn’t think we are married
my DH with vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s doesn’t recognize our home as his, doesn’t think we are married and has moved into a different bedroom. He tells me he’s not comfortable here and needs to move. Is it time for MC?
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Legal and Financial Transition
MY DH is in early stages of dementia, but I can see it accelerating. We need to shift responsibilities to me and also to our adult son. Though we own our assets and make decisions jointly, and it was he who insisted we revisit (together) our wills recently (thank goodness) DH has held the legal/financial reins for over 40…
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Mother making serious allegations
We took my 78 year-old mother of a family trip with us. The trip went well and she seemed to have a really nice time. My mother lives with my sister where she is able to take a van to a day program during the week in the city and come to our house in the suburbs with us on the weekends. Yesterday evening she told us that…
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Sundowner
My wife has advanced dementia. 2 months ago she fell down from the top stair and suffered a TBI. She is in pretty bad shape. Physically she's not bad. Mentally equal to a 4-5 year old. She is 63. The hardest part of the day is 3:00. When sundown starts she gets desperate thinking she's done something wrong. Nobody loves…
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Open Discussions with your LO in early Cognitive Impairment
My LO and I were married 25 years ago. She was, and still is, a vibrant, beautiful, and active woman with almost childlike enthusiasm to learn new things. LO is a passionate Christian, a strong conservative, and a woman who never leaves the house without being meticulously made up and dressed. She was never comfortable…
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Seroquel too strong?
The doc recently prescribed it. My DW is small framed, which is perhaps a factor. But the first day she took it at breakfast - wham! - she fell asleep 2 hours later, woke up for 2 hours, then out (hard) again. I called the physician, said cut the pill in half tomorrow. I will try it but am still worried this will be too…
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My dear husband has left me
My dear husband died Friday morning, with me by his side, in his bed at memory care. The seven weeks leading up to this were probably the worst of both of our lives. I took him to the hospital on August 14 after two weeks of trying to deal with his spiraling agitation at home. Five days into that hospital stay, he stopped…
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MIL moved in without warning, without a plan
Hi - I'm new here - and I'm feeling so everwhelmed. So my MIL has lived alone for the past 20 years- the past 5 she has been declining- we unplugged her stove- put a lock on the door so she couldn't go downstairs - etc. My husband is a procrastinator - we finally went to a lawyer last week (as for years his mother told him…
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Health Insurance Considerations
My mother has Stage 6 ALZ and is in MC in hospice care. My brother holds her DPOA, and we three siblings all hold the healthcare POA, able to act individually. We consult often about her care and make major decisions jointly with no disagreements. My mother's current Medicare Advantage Plan is being discontinued, and my…
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And another question - this one about being able to judge the heat of water
My DH takes showers with help from me. Yesterday I realized he didn't have any towels, and I left him in the shower to go get some. When I came back (in probably 2 minutes) the bathroom was completely steamed up, and I stuck my hand in the water and it was so hot!!!! He used to take tepid showers because he hated hot…
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Right?
I just want someone to tell me I’m right (yes I’m venting about family and MC staff). My guiding principle is “if it doesn’t bother her, don’t fix it”. MIL recently lost her upper dentures but she doesn’t realize it and doesn’t miss them. No action needed. What do I hear from MC staff? I should get her fitted for a new…
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hair trigger verbal aggression
I only see my parents a few times a year due to living 12 hrs apart. We are always excited to see my dad but not my mother as much. During the visit we try to do as much as we can for her to make the visit "smooth" however the moment she starts to get overwhelmed she snaps at her grandchildren. The grandchildren are…
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Parent with Early Onset Alzheimer's
Hi, I'm looking for a support group specifically for adult children of parents with early onset alzheimers. My mother is in her mid-60s and was diagnosed a couple years ago. As she is beginning to decline more and more I want to connect with others in a similar set of circumstances. Most people I speak with are dealing…
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Is a diagnosis of any benefit?
Just left the third neurologist we've seen in the past year. Background: Last year Oct 2023 my husband was having problem with executive functions. He walked our neighborhood several times a day, went shopping with me, but easily surrendered his drivers license, and all control of our finances to me. This Oct 2024, he…
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Just venting
I know most of you have been through this, just need to let some of it out. How do you deal with all the negative and getting angry at the least thing. Maybe angry is the wrong word. Dh can't stand the dogs to bark or the least little wait or what he precedes as not the way it should be. I'm always wrong or it's my fault.…
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Moderate Sedation with MCI
I’m 51 and scored in the MCI range on a recent cognitive screening when I told a neurologist I felt like I had memory issues. The cause is still being determined. Initial blood tests show it’s likely not Alzheimer’s, though I still have an MRI and sleep eeg. That said, my mother has Alzheimer’s, as likely my paternal…
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Just looking for some support
For the past two years my partner and I have taken in his mother who has Alzheimer's and her partner who has dementia. He has since gone to a nursing home but my partner's mother is still at our house. She's in the late 6th stage of Alzheimer's. She has serious incontinence issues on a daily basis and is reliant on us for…
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Vascular Dementia
MIL was finally able to get into a neurologist and had an EEG and MRI. Also had a memory test and scored 6/30. When met with the NP who was sharing the results of the testing, she said her brain was smaller but that was due to her age (86). She told her that the EEG was fine but that she had some white spots on her MRI of…
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Traumatic Head Injury and Rapid Decline
Several months ago, my DW was assaulted by an employee at her MCF. The attack resulted in serious injury to her head and a couple of weeks in the hospital. Prior to the injury DW could perform all Activities of Daily Living quite well. I was able to take her out of the facility for dinner and rides around town. To be sure,…
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Following our Request
Mom moved in Sept 8th, she has moderate dementia, almost no short term memory, long term is pretty good, last 11 years or so are fuzzy. She was mild to moderate until she got a UTI and low sodium and was hospitalized for 3 weeks, now she's fully moderate. It's difficult because she can remember how to use the chair to get…
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Early incontinence question
I would appreciate a little counsel. My DW with is still pretty self sufficient. She was diagnosed about a three years ago. She has had just three accidents over the past few months. She also has anosognosia and doesn't have a clue why she's had the urinary accidents. Each time she's had an episode it was when we were…
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New to the forum, and sooo many questions
I've been reading through many of the forums and getting familiar with topics. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's several years ago; we moved him and my mom to Colorado because two of us four children live here, and we could tag-team their care. They moved into an AL facility near us; mom died of Norovirus within a year…
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The essence of living in limbo
So my son and his fiancee are planning a destination wedding in the spring. This ought to be unadulterated happiness....but honestly, my first thought is how much easier it would be if my partner is gone before then, how much more I could enjoy it if I didn't have to worry about getting back. And of course I feel guilty…
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Humor me and tell me I am not a bad daughter
Mom is safe and settling new place. She actually likes it most days. I go 3-4 times a week. My car is at the shop, a friend is visiting this weekend, and I want a break. Will be 4-5 days depending when car is ready, but truthfully I really just want a break. I called the place and they said they would tell her, and others,…