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Wife pissed off at me
wife pissed off at me , need advice let it go or leave it alone. ??
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Funny, not funny
MIL lost her dentures. She doesn’t realize they’re gone and she’s eating well, so I’m not subjecting her to a visit to the dentist. The staff at her MC is really upset, even though I’ve assured them it’s no biggie. They’ve searched everywhere - they even checked all the other residents’ mouths! I swear sometimes I think…
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Mom was accepted into hospice
it’s rather surreal typing that subject line. I got a call from the hospice agency out of the blue yesterday it has been two months since her first evaluation and they wanted to evaluate her again. I told the first person that called that I wanted to wait two weeks. The AL nurse is on vacation. Two hours later the second…
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Progression from hospitalizations?
My DH has been hospitalized repeatedly this summer for aggression/agitation. After each hospitalization he seems a little worse. He gets better, but not back to where he was. Last Sunday he went from the Geri-psych unit to the ER and then a medical floor with aspiration pneumonia. The doctors say his pneumonia is…
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Circles and circles and circles
I teach elementary school, which means I have circular conversations all day. I have a parent in early stages of degenerative brain disease, which means I go home and have circular conversations. I foresee lots of screaming in my car.
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Respite care services Denver, CO?
Hi- new to this space. My mother was recently diagnosed with beginning stage Alzheimer's and capgras. My father is the primary care partner at the moment and he needs respite. Does anyone know of an assisted living facility in the area that will do short term respite care? Thanks!
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Facebook reel is not appropriate
I’m just going to vent here because I’m sure not going to vent there. If you have Facebook, you know there are public reels that show up on your feed - mostly cute little snippets- gender reveals, military homecomings, new puppies etc. Some middle aged man has been putting up reels of his elderly father with dementia. It’s…
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I Just Don't Care About Work Anymore
As many of you know, we moved from the SF Bay Area about two years ago to a small, rural town far, far north. We thought then that my DW might just have exhaustion from the stress of 17-years as a caregiver for both of her parents who had dementia. I was lucky to get a good job in my field up here, but the rest as a cure…
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Difficult sibling
Mom moved into a mid range $ AL about 6 months ago. I’m her DPOA. For the year prior she lived with my brother. He works and she was alone a lot. The doctor said she should not be left alone anymore. When finding a facility my brother did nothing. Didn’t even visit the place before she moved in. Well I made a big mistake…
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Refusal to go to any kind of DR./No Dementia diagnosis
My mom has had dementia for probably 10 years..ony now getting to late middle stage. She is completely uncooperative with doing anything involving Dr.s (even the dentist) . She throws an absolute fit, and my Dad refuses to just take her anyway. As a result, we have not been able to get her diagnosed, although it's obvious…
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Need to talk to someone
My husband is 73. I did not know about anosognosia and I was so relieved to read about it on this site. We moved to another state 5 years ago (right before COVID) to be closer to our daughter, her husband and our grandson. It has been a rough transition for my husband. COVID kept us from meeting new people and my husband…
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First MC Visit
I haven't been to visit my wife since placing her in the memory care facility on the 22nd. The thought of seeing her fills me with dread. I'm worried about how we'll both handle the emotions, and I fear she might think I'm there to take her home, which would cause her unnecessary pain. The activity director and the rest of…
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Veterans Home
Is there anyone else other me who has Dementia and is on the waiting list to get in to a Veterans home like I am? I'm on the list to get into the new Veterans home near Boston and it is state of the art each veteran has his own bedroom and bathroom.
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Picture telephone
I am looking for a phone for DH to use that can dial by pressing the button with a picture or name on it. I have Spectrum internet phone service (landline). I purchased 2 so far and neither have worked with this. Has anyone had luck with this?
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Memory care Monday
Provided everything goes smoothly, my husband is moving into a memory care facility on Monday. I’ve struggled with this but, as the kind people here always say, safety has to be top priority. This morning my sweet husband, who rarely talks at all and never speaks above a whisper, told me with his full voice, “I’m ok.” He’s…
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A life well lived
DW is 72 and has been on this road for 14 years . 7 years with me as 24/7/365 caretaker. 7 in a memory care facility, It is more than five years since she had the slightest idea who I was and has had little or no cognitive functioning for 4 years. She will swallow food put in her mouth and that is it. She has no other…
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Missing him so much today…
My husband Lonny passed August 12. MY HUSBAND, MY ANGEL. Your Battle is Now Over. No More Pain No More Suffering. I Still Do Not Understand Why This Happened to You. But I Am Proud to Say You Are My Husband, A Great Man, My Soulmate. Now You Are My Angel, So Spread Your Wings Out Wide, Please Wrap Them Around Me Whenever…
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It Begins
After my fathers inital diagnosis little while ago without a tear; today it hit me hard. A distant friend that my parents visited (with prior warning of the situation), spoke of how different my dad was generally and how in ~5yrs since last seeing both my parents the changes in my dad. Denial - for the longest time we've…
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Just need to talk to my friends (199)
September 1 is a good time to begin 199. Hope everyone is having a good Labor Day weekend. I am ready for cooler weather. This Oklahoma summer has not been good. We have had drought, grasshoppers and now army worms.
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Advice on in home behaviors
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to explain to my Dad that he needs to throw his depends away when they are wet vs just leaving them on the floor? Any advice on how my Mom or I can explain this to him and him not get furious at my Mom like he has been any time she asks him something? For example, he has on a depend,…
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Mom not wanting to eat
A lot has happened since my last post. In August, I took my mom to the ER because she was a little off. Found out she had a mild infarct and UTI. She was in rehab for 21 days. In September, my mom fell in the bathroom. I heard a thud, but didn’t know it was her until I heard her wail. Long story short, I took her to the…
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I just want more time.
4 years, 1 month, 1 day. From diagnosis to my husband is gone. I don't know how to process. I want him back. I am not even sure why I am writing this. I feel like I just joined this forum, trying to understand the why. And no, I don't understand. He fought hard. It doesn't make sense. I am sad. I am angry. I am numb. I am…
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depakote as a mood stabilizer instead of atypicals?
Dad's NP at MC calls me to check in from time to time. She has mentioned depakote as a mood stabilizer instead of atypicals due to the black box warnings on atypicals. Dad has been here for almost 4 months. Her concerns for him are related to agitation and irritation - sometimes with another resident and sometimes in…
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Wife has stocks in her name
my wife has some securities in her name, what can be done if you don’t want to sell just now, can you have transfer to my name or what to do??
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Agitation and paranoia
My DH is convinced that I am leaving him for another man. I don’t know where this came from. He is very confused and hallucinating all the time. Now I am also trying to solve non-existent issues that he has imagined. He sees and talks to people in our house all the time. I know we are not supposed to argue or try to use…
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Found out NJ Medicaid requirements
what I was told , everyone different based on funds, but say you own home together when out on Medicaid you change deed to your name saves house all legal can only change deed to a spouse. If say you have $100,000 it’s 50/50 split. You must spend 50 on whatever , pay bills buy car etc, the other 50 is yours to keep.
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Short-term rehab facility vs. home care ?
DH is in the hospital and they want to release him to Short term sub-acute rehab facility. He was in for a fall but he is not seriously hurt - except for the agitation/aggression/anxiety and some balance issues. The hospital won't let him out of bed at all. He begs to come home. The list of facilities available changed…