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How to deal with anger and emotional outbursts from my mom
Hello. I hope someone has made similar experiences and can share their experiences and how to deal with them. I''m not sure how to handle my mother''s emotional and angry outbursts. Because we live in different countries, I only able to speak with my mom over the phone. I call her every day but I''m at a point where…
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Managing getting up, bathing and breakfasting in a timely way
My husband and I get up at 7 am. However it is often 10 before he is ready to eat as he takes forever to shave, bathe and dress himself. He seems to go into another zone regularly when he is doing any of these things and I often find him just sitting or letting the water run over him for a long time. Any suggestions to get…
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Suggestions for falling
My father is in assisted living. Since moving there, he was diagnosed with cancer (metastatized to his spine) and beyond treatment. He is on hospice cate now. Unfortunately he also has dementia. He’s gotten very weak as of late, to the point where he falls once or twice a day. He just forgets that he can’t get up on his…
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Dementia and leaning
Hi, I was just wondering if anyone has a loved one with dementia that tends to lean to either the left or right when sitting? My mom has been doing this the last couple of weeks and it seems to be getting worse. I did some research online and I found a few things but I was curious to see if anyone else is experiencing…
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New diagnosis(4)
My relative was recently diagnosed with early stage dementia. Can take care of herself but mixes up words. I am the only relative helping her. How many years does early stage last? Does aricept help? Are that alot of side effects?
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Transportation and resisting help
I already limit how much I take MIL out of the house. She uses a walker to get around and is incontinent so she is already stressed she is going to have an accident in public. But, sometimes there are doctors appointments. So getting her from the house to the car is a struggle of her telling me she can’t do it because her…
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Treatment VS Life Quality
Hello! My MIL moved in with us 8 months ago and seems to be progressing/declining with dementia quickly. She has been having various issues and symptoms which the primary care doctor has been diligent about trying to find causes and treatments. Due to all the tests coming back with no answers I just decided today to look…
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Bathing(8)
Hey I am a new caregiver to my 91 yr old mom.She is mid stage Alzheimer's. She is physically in good shape and health. She can take a shower on her own brush hair and teeth and dress herself most times weather appropriate. My question is how do I get her to take a shower. She tells me she took a shower but she is just…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/14/21
WE BELIEVE! WHY? * Genesis 1:1 New International Version "In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth." * Romans 1:20 NIV "For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without…
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Care agency dropped mothers care Help!!
I was getting help for over 3 years with this agency. It started out great. 24 hour care and the day lady was great. Now i am in hell. The agency dropped care after i demanded they hire ladies who can follow the care plan of the nurse and the pt. The ladies all complained of back problems or said they did not want to hurt…
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Help with transferring accounts
Hi everyone, My parents have both been in a downward spiral for a while now, and their accounts are quite a mess, some haven't been accessed in years, some are way overdue, and the list goes on. I've been managing the regular bills for a while now, but frankly this sort of thing was never my strong suit. I'd really like to…
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How to talk to someone with Vascular Dementia -
Greetings - I am a new member, my Dad was diagnosed recently. I live two hours away (my brother is close and is there for Dad when needed) so a lot of my interaction with Dad is on the phone. I try to keep conversations upbeat and positive and not bring up his condition unless he brings it up. I always tell him, I am here…
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Newbie questions
Hi, Folks - I'm a newbie to the forum and to the world of dementia. My mother was diagnosed in January with dementia (no specific type) after an incredibly fast cognitive decline. She was able to host family at her house at Thanksgiving, attend Christmas fairly normally, but since then she has lost so much function. She…
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ALZ Advice to soon to be caregiver
Hi Folks. My dad (92) who has dementia, and his wife (82) really need to make some changes. She knows this and is wanting help to close up their condo (in FL) and move to an assisted living situation, but logistics are too much for her. Is there any help with the actual tasks of moving on from independent living to…
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How long??
Isn’t this always the question? How long for this or that or the other. I am wondering at this point, how long can mom hang in there only drinking a total of one ensure a day? That is only 150 calories. I hate seeing her go through this.... am curious of other peoples experiences with the decline of eating on hospice at…
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Here comes my 19th nervous breakdown...
I'm the designated, default caregiver for my mom who was recently diagnosed. They told me what she has, but little else. I have no idea what it feels like in her head, and I expect her to to interact with me like she did just a year ago. She's only 84, and things have been moving very quickly with her loss of cognitive…
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Feeling guilty about being annoyed.
12 calls from LO today. 8 yesterday. 3 each Monday and Tuesday. Numerous voicemails as I ignored several calls today( see below). Numerous calls from me to the PCP and GYN. 3 round trips ( hour each time) to the ASL in 3 days. They are still not allowed to run non essential errands without risking quarantine and testing.…
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I think my mom is near the end
My mom is no longer walking and sleeps most of the time. When a PWD becomes bedridden, about how long is it before the inevitable happens? She is on hospice now.
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Mental/Brain Exercises that help?
My father just got an official diagnosis of Alzheimers. Dr would not assess a stage but he's still pretty independent, short term memory is bad, but functions well. Are there any type of brain games/exercises etc that help try to keep the brain sharp? I mentioned it to the Doctor and he pretty much said its a waste of…
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Caregiver daily log
I met with an elderly law attorney and was advised to start a log showing everything I do for my mom. She said this is necessary to prepare a personal care agreement and is required potentially to show medicaid, if ever needed. Apparently, this should be done right away in the event a 5 year look back occurs. So my…
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Learning to finally educate myself to give better care
Caregiving to a 68 year old woman that is family. I have some experience but not enough to give the best care to her. I would love to take care of her better and myself. Guess I'm asking for classes to take near league city also or online and accredited I do not care if it cost as long as it awards a license or degree to…
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What if it’s my fault...
I had all the best intentions when I decided (along with my brother) to move mom close to me. We moved all her belongings, well most of them, into the house behind mine in June. My brother lives in another state. She had no family or nearby friends left in her our home town even though she lived in the same home for 55…
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Caregiver Depression(1)
I've been in a slump making thing's kinda rough 'round here. Caregiver depression has been slowly eaten away at me... Apathy & Despair: A Dementia Affair https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/apathy-despair-dementia "C'mon" she said and took my hand. https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/dementia_sorrow
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What to do?(8)
Long story short, my mom wasn’t being taken care of at home. Diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2019. SD in denial, still letting mom take her own meds and handle her own personal care. He fired CG after 10 days so I moved mom in with me. Over a month now and have no financial help, mom can’t tell me anything anymore-no idea…
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Advice and caregiver support needed
Ive been caring for my dad for 3yrs now and ive had to learn as i go but now things are becoming more difficult and i need advice on showering help its becoming a battle and any help i can get really. im an only child so nobody else can help and my mom died in 2004 so personally i have nobody as all other family related to…
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When to enlist in-home care
My mother has been diagnosed with early onset of Alzheimer's. When I speak to her she appears sometimes to be confused and her sense of logical thought is impaired. She forgets common words and cannot remember basic things such as where I live or where she lives. Due to Covid, my father who is her primary caregiver and…
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Hello New to forum
hello all. New to the forum. I am searching for resources and support. My Father (86) has Alzheimer's. Noticed a decline about 3 years ago. Got a diagnosis about 18 months ago. He has been pretty self sufficient up to last summer when I had to move in to be more pro active and help him. I am now a live-in caregiver and it…
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Mom realizes she in decline and cry
My mom is at the stage where she is fully aware of the decline and cries about it. She will repeat herself and ask what time an event is constantly. She is in an independent living facility that has additional care as it's needed. I don't know if I should correct her when she's wrong or just let it go since she doesn't…
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Anxiety associated with hallucinations
My mother is in final stages of Alzheimer's. She just recently became bed-bound (cannot stand or walk anymore) and just yesterday had to have a catheter. We have hospice care involved. For the last few weeks, every waking minute she has sundowners and has a lot of anxiety associated with the things/people she is 'seeing'.…
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undiagnosed but suspected with early symptoms
Good Morning - how do you know the symptoms are related to cognition as opposed to continued ADD? I feel like I am always questioning my own judgment about whether or not my DH is getting worse or I am over reacting. He is only 54 but had a TBI when he was 43. He never regained his full executive functioning. I feel like I…