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What's new pussycats?
New year! Same dementia! But who cares? We've been dementia-up-to some things! What's new pussycats? https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/dementia_update
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wife is now two people
Looking for diversion tactics to help me deal with my husband who thinks there are two Pats in his life. His wife who has gone and his caregiver. Both are the same person. ME.he gets agitated when he doesn't know where his wife is. Wants me to leave so Pat can come home. He is kind and very grateful as has been his way all…
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Dad has Late Stage Alzheimer's and is in Rehab
Im new here! My dad was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's (October 2020) He was living at home with a care giver during the day. He fell the Sunday before Thanksgiving and broke his hip, had to have hip replacement surgery and we had him sent to rehab. The Monday after rehab I was visiting him and 30 mins after I left he…
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Gun access
When my LO got the diagnosis we locked up all the guns and ammunition. Suddenly my LO has started asking about the key. He wants to get out the 22. I have acted like I forgot he asked hoping he would forget. What do I do. My families best idea is to blame it on the Dr. Will that work?
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Lucidity - Questioning disease b/c of medication
Greetings, My LO, was diagnosed with Dementia June 2017. Last year around November the sudden drastic decline happened. Incontinence, agitation, sun downing, aggressiveness, verbal abuse, hallucinations, accusations of her money being stolen grew more intense. We started her off on Risperidone .25 mg as needed. I met with…
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drugs(1)
Interesting read. Unfortunately no info on where to get the education to care w/o some drug help nor how to find the time to learn. https://www.drugs.com/news/why-dementia-patients-getting-risky-psychiatric-92206.html
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Changes I've noticed.
Parents were here in December for a visit. Mom uses a walker now and does really well with it where space permits. When she can't use the walker she reaches out for furniture, walls and doors to lean on. She used to sleep for long periods of time. That was always the norm for her, even before Alz. She will say she is tired…
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Hospice?(4)
I took my 77 year old mother, who is in late stage Alzheimer's, today and the neurologist said she could give us a hospice referral. This is not because my mother is dying within two weeks (what you think hospice is for) but because she has fallen down twice, starting to choke when eating or drinking, and needs 24/7…
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Night time delusions/hallucinations-how to convince LO they're in bed?
sometimes Mom sleeps through the night and sometimes she's up every hour or so wanting to get home from wherever she is (thinks she is) How do you deal with convincining your LO they are at home and in bed?? Of course to her she is in her car, outside, in an office building, etc and describes what she sees and that is HER…
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I may have COVID. What do I do?
I am the sole caregiver for my parents and I have a fever of 100.1, runny nose, cough, fatigue - a lot of the symptoms of COVID. What do I do if I test positive? Who will care for my parents if I have COVID?
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How to care for a person who wasn't a kind person to begin with....
I reside in a rural area that does not have access to support services so I am thankful for this venue to ask for help. My "mother" (I refer to her by her first name as she has not earned the title of "mother") lives with us as she has no resources of her own and no other family to care for her. She alienated all extended…
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Technology
My mother keeps trying to log in to FB, her email, etc and is constantly blaming the internet company and/fb for her troubles. She calls me asking for help. I live just a little over an hour away, not that far. But she has been hitting the wrong keys when she is trying to log in. When/how do you need to approach the…
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Sick and tired and feeling guilty
I am feeling terrible. From the time I was a small child my father has always had a liking for telling "off color" stories, usually ending with women exposing themselves to him or having sex with multiple men. He is always blameless in these tall tales. Now that his filters are damaged, he does this all the time. He has…
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Mother has forgotten her diagnosis
I am a relatively new caretaker. My mother was initially diagnosed with Alzheimer's in October by her primary care doctor. Her overall health was in a terrible state at the time due to her long time neglect of her own health while she cared for my grandmother who also has Alzheimer's. All of her children live several…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/14/21
ZEST & JOY OF LIFE, A Choice! * 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 New King James Version * “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” * Quote: “How does one have enthusiasm in his life? It is as simple as this: Cultivate the ability to love living. Love the…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/9/21
GOD’S TRUTH Psalm 100 NKJ A Song of Praise for the Lord’s Faithfulness to His People A Psalm of Thanksgiving. “100 Make a joyful shout to the Lord, all you lands! 2 Serve the Lord with gladness; Come before His presence with singing. 3 Know that the Lord, He is God; It is He who has made us, and not we ourselves; We are…
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Medicine unlikely to be used properly
I took Mom to the GYN last Thursday for a repeat issue regarding an irritated outside area. The doctor prescribed a hydrocortisone cream to be used once daily at bedtime on the affected area for 14 days. She and the doctor went over this for umpteen times before we left the doctors office. She and I discussed it on a…
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Delirium - it's a thing? Who knew?
I have posted how my 90-year old mother is now hospitalized. She was diagnosed with vascular dementia August 2020. Starting on Christmas day, she got super agitated at MC. Lots of daily delusions going on, culminating in full-on hallucinations about a train wreck she could see out the window. On Jan 1 when she was sent to…
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Only a few months in...
But, I feel so darn* lonely. I want love and support but don’t ask, Covid sucks. Some people will ask how things are but then say, “ oh my gosh, I know right???” Very few people get this, like really get it. You learn who friends are so fast.... just feeling like pitiful pearl tonight. Wanted to whine a little.
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Warning about Driving
This is why persons with dementia shouldn't drive: An elderly man from Eastham, MA died this week. He went for a drive to the library, which he did regularly. But this time, he parked the car and didn't go into the library. He left the parking lot (seen on security cameras) and headed down a path towards a pond. After…
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Things to Do for Mom with Early Onset
Hey everyone! My mom just got diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimers, she's only 50 years old. She still knows whats going on so she is very very sad, cries a lot and is bored. I was wondering if there are some activities others like her like to do? Since she still knows what's going on, She doesn't like how she can't do…
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Nothing is enough!
My mom is in moderate to late stage dementia. Overall healthy, with many of the same issues you are all dealing with - but for the most part, with meds, manageable. It is my sister that I am worried about, she is Mom’s full time companion, but she is burnt out. She is showing signs of early onset, but it could be stress. I…
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Sudden deterioration in memory and change in demeanor
Is it common for someone with Alz/dementia to have memory suddenly decline significantly? My Mom (96) has a show she LOVES to watch on TV - loves to the point that we have recorded every episode on her DVR and replay them continually. She talks about the star (local vet), wants to meet him, wants to see his clinic, etc.…
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Choking(3)
My 77 year old mother lives with me full time and has late state (I assume) dementia. We are seeing her neurologist tomorrow and I want to go armed with information so I can help mom. What have you experienced with your LO choking? In the past 6 months she's had about 7 choking incidents where we have to give her the…
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Psychological Effects of Hoarding, Clutter, Disorganization
I've spoke on hoarding before, it seems easier to talk about than to take action and rectify. This is a house (4 floors, garage, yard) full of STUFF! I found the best approach is to tackle a project (room or space) at a time, while my mom is sleeping. The more I clear out the more it seems there is to do. Today, I cleared…
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Shifting Mom's Understanding of her Being in AL
Hi all, Mom has now lived in AL for 7 months and overall her adjustment has been great. She's made friends, participates in many activities, loves her room, and is very happy there. The problem is that her understanding of being in AL is to be safe from Covid. She thinks that she moved there temporarily to live in a covid…
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End of life stage for dad
I’ve been by my dad side threw this long journey of Alzheimer’s... In the beginning it wasn’t that bad but I would come see him daily at future care in md and notice small things but wasn’t that bad... over time he been bed bound had strokes his leg is contracted poor circulation of blood flow to the leg they believe it…
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Incontinence supplies covered by insurance?
Hello, My mother resides in memory care in an assisted living facility. The facility offers an Incontinence supplies package but the prices are very marked up. We provide them with supplies that we order from amazon. The costs really add up, does anyone know if incontinence supplies are covered by insurance for those who…
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Stimulation Activities
I am new to the site. Mom was diagnosed in 2015. Dad has been her primary caregiver until November. We have encouraged dad to accept help for years. Dad is now unable to care for himself or mom. They have lived in their home for over 50 years and now have full time care. The caregiver is amazing. She is caring for every…
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Anyone in queens ny area want to form a virtual support group?
I already posted in other forums so you may know about my mother. My mother is 84 and diagnosed with dimensia three years ago. I am her son. She seems to be progressing in the disease. I am scared of what i am told of the disease progression. I pay to have a team of ladies to help me. I do not have the physical presence of…