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From Rage to paranoid very hard to deal with...
MY father goes from Rage and aggression to being helpless and paranoid . Open to all suggestions please.
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Being around family seems to make my grandmother's symptoms worse??
My 93 year old grandmother with dementia recently broke her hip and underwent surgery. The recovery process has been excruciating for all of us involved, as her dementia and cognitive impairment has made it so she does not understand what happened, where she is, or what she needs to do to get better. I (25f, granddaughter)…
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Random Episodes of “I can’t breathe”
I have been caring for my Grandmother who is in the later stages of this disease. Several times a week she will say she can’t breathe and gets into a panic, after a few minutes she is fine and doesn’t remember the episode. I’ve tried asking her if she is in pain or anything but I don’t get a response. I’m just curious if…
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Any suggestions on how to handle the constant repetition?
My LO lives with me, so we are together 24/7. I'm finding it harder & harder to not stress when I am asked the same things over & over daily. I try so hard to just calmly repeat my answers. I know this is common issue for everyone and probably no suggestion to help with it, but it just felt good toput it out there .
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Mother calls upset and crying
I apologize in advance for the long post. My mother is in a facility that has all levels of care. She had been in independent living however due to multiple falls, shortly after Covid started, she was put in the nursing center and has been there ever since. She was having a little difficulty with words previous to this but…
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Transportation to MC facility closer to me
I need to move mom to a facility closer to me -- about a 100 mile distance. The facility will send some options for transportation, but thought I would ask here about any recommendations for providers (she'll be coming from the Metro NY area), expected cost, and if there is anything in particular I should ask or expect. We…
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Sudden Dead Weight on Transfers?
Just wondering if others have experienced caring for a person who has always been able to use upper body strength to assist transfers and suddenly doesn't brace, pull or push with their arms. We are also seeing "jelly legs" where he can't bear weight in transfer sitting to standing. We have always used a gait belt to help…
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POA Question- selling car
Hi all! I need to sell my mothers car and it is in her name only. I bought it for her a year ago when all was well. I was dumb not to put my name on title when I thought of it at the time. In any case, I need to sell it now, has anyone experienced selling an automobile using a POA? Were there any obstacles or was it not a…
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how do you deal with meanness?
As far back as I can remember (i'm 53 years old) my mom was a negative person and a master manipulator with ability to make others feel guilt (my 3 siblings feel same way). It now seems that the behavior is on steroids and I find I struggle with granting grace and believing that it's the disease and not a calculated…
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My grandma cannot stop singing and refuse eating and drinking
Since last month, my grandmother became obsessed with singing. One day, suddenly she was aggregated and scared of something. There were a few days which were okay. However, now she sings nonsense almost whenever she is awake. The song is made up of her favourite song, her speech, and counting numbers. The first few minutes…
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Need distraction from the calendar
My mom is very bored and doesn’t want to get out much; just sits and stares at the calendar for much of the day. My dad prints out the day’s calendar in the morning before my mom gets up. He circles the day and leaves the rest of the month with important days/activities denoted (grocery shopping, dog wash, nail and hair…
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A tragic story and warning
A 95 year old man residing in an assisted living facility shot and killed one of the workers. The news report provided no details. I would not be surprised if there is a history of dementia or delusions. https://www.kktv.com/2021/02/04/95-year-old-accused-of-shooting-and-killing-assisted-living-employee/ Iris L.
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Exhausted caregiver looking for suggestions and help
My grandmother has lewy body dementia which also alters her vision and it seems like it is rapidly progressing. I have to repeatedly remind my grandmother to eat and take her meds while she chases "people" around the house, as it is mentally draining for both of us. She refuses to eat and shower, she will say she did but I…
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I am an out of state daughter
I am not only looking for ideas to help my mom who is out of state but also to support me. All of this is new to me but she seemed to have been having issues for perhaps a few years. After trying for a couple of years for the doctor to diagnose her he finally did. But I am not sure what "moderately significant" really…
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Severe yet functional
Greetings everyone. My father is 82, was diagnosed with severe Alzheimer's. in July. He is otherwise in good health, passed his driving evaluation, and still lives alone with my help a couple times a week. He is a master at hiding it, but if you drill down on things like paying bills, in the moment he really struggles. I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/4/21
MAKE OR BREAK YOUR DAY * These verses were today's suggested reading from Sarah Young's book JESUS CALLING: * Psalm 29:11 NKJV “The Lord will give strength to His people; The Lord will bless His people with peace. Numbers 6:24-26 NKJV “The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, And be gracious…
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Indoor visits starting again
Indoor visits started again at my parents’ ALF. 30 minutes, scheduled in advance, during the daytime on a weekday only( due to staffing). Temperature checks and questionnaire. Only two visitors at a time for the entire building. Oddly, I didn’t want to go. I’ve been doing all my parents shopping, paperwork, finances. I’ve…
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Moving LO into AL
Hi - Both of my parents have dementia. Mom has Alzheimer's, Dad has VD. He was recently hospitalized and is going into rehab tomorrow. We have AL set up after he is discharged but may have trouble caring for Mom in the meantime. She has no insight, by the way. Worried about moving her into AL alone, that it will be more of…
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Incessant calling
My father is is progressing fast - and lives with my stepmom. He thinks he still has to go to work (although he is retired), and calls me & my sister incessantly (30-40 calls per day) to confirm that he doesn't have to go to work. We try to calm him and confirm everything is ok. I feel guilty if I can't answer - but it is…
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Do you give in?
My mom is currently at a stage where she is suspecting my father of infidelity (which we know is not true). She wants to tell everyone and anyone and wants to show the world who he is. We've been having a hard time with this and are trying our best to redirect and distract, but she is obsessed with this situation. We are…
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Both parents with dementia, running out of options
Hi all, I'm newly registered but have been reading the posts. My mom (age 85) has ALZ and VD; she was officially diagnosed last summer but we have known for 5-10 years that she's been struggling. My dad (age 88) has a lot of cognitive problems and some dementia from a fall and resulting brain surgery last summer. For the…
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Mom wants to go dancing!!
My Mom was diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer’s a few years ago. She is in her early 70’s and recently moved into her own home near me. Her husband ( my Father) passed away a few months ago so she has had a lot of change lately. Her sister lives with her full time to assist with daily activities. Mom has always been a go…
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Trying to wrap my mind around all this
As I had posted the other day, my mom is rapidly progressing and was put on hospice on Tuesday. That said, when the nurse came and did her evaluation, she stated it could be weeks-month for my mom until passing. Comfort meds are being administered as she has had long time back pain and then pain from her ankle with the…
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Mom won’t go to the doctor
Hello to you all. I am wondering how to convince my mom to go to the doctor. She began showing obvious symptoms in May and has really gone downhill since then. She has seen a PCP but refuses to go to the neurologist . My dad encourages her to go to a neurologist (as suggested by the PCP), but she continues to adamantly…
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New to Forum - Where do I go from here?? So frustrating..
Short version - My mom is borderline dementia and lives alone. We've done all the appointments, been given the tools of what to do to slow progression. My mom is depressed, covid has completely shut off all activities and trips to keep her active. She refuses to take any drugs which neuro has suggested and has refused…
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Where Do I Begin
I am at a complete loss. My mother was diagnosed with Dementia about 3 years ago. After having knee surgery about 2 years ago it has gotten worse. I have heard the anesthesia can sometimes progress the disease. I am at the point of having to decide what to do, is there any assistance as she is on a limited income and…
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Time for nursing home(1)
After 5 months of having my MIL home we’ve decided it’s time for a nursing home. I feel like such a failure. I honestly gave it my all but she’s completely disabled and I have to care for her 24/7 and it started taking its toll on me. I’m 38 with 4 kids (2 I homeschool) and a grand baby(who I keep so my daughter can work).…
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Hearing loss or inability to understand?
We've noticed that MIL has symptoms of hearing loss. She's 82 and has undiagnosed dementia of some sort. In the last 9 months we've noticed a sharp decline in her ability to hear the TV and in-person conversations. It's almost maddening the amount of time we are spending repeating ourselves - between her extreme short term…
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financing 24 hr home care
My mother has mid-stage Alzheimer's and is still living in her home which she absolutely refuses to leave. She's a fall risk, plus she can't see very well, so she needs help with meal preparation. Adult Protective Services has determined that to stay in her home she needs 24 hour home care, which she can't afford. Medicaid…
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Lost and confused(1)
My dad has not been diagnosed with Alz or dem. He has had multiple strokes and 2 hrt attacks previously. He has diabetes(uncontrolled) and has had a tramautic childhood. He will not willingly talk to his doctor about anything. We have no diagnosis and dont understand what is happening. He thinks my mom is having affairs.…