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ButterflyWings
Just checking in to see how you are doing. I know you had some challenging past few weeks. Hope everything is ok with you all.
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How to deal with the anger?(1)
I'm 59 and my mother hasn't been mad at me since I was a teenager. I've dealt with so much anger the past month including being cussed out. I try to remind myself it's not her, it's the disease. I just don't know where to go from here. I took her keys away about a month ago, which is really what started all this anger. The…
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The Unknowns
My dad was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment in May of 2022. I'm the Medical POA for both of my parents. I take my dad to mostly all of his appointments so that I know exactly what is going on. I have a younger family of my own with a husband that works from home (most of the time). I feel a bit overwhelmed lately.…
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What is humane?
When I was in the middle of the chaos it was hard to think straight. I'm a firm believer in hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. My parents prepared their wills, POAs and DNRs many years in advance. They told their kids their wishes and reaffirmed them with every serious health threat. But "quality of life"…
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Surviving death
I have not been on in a long time. I just wanted to reach out to those who may remember me as Teresa99. My DH passed 2 days ago. My heart is broken. I thought it would be easier as we have been at this a long time.
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Camera for Memory Care
My dad is in memory care, and believe he is having problems with a resident who wanders coming into his room uninvited during the day (which my dad does not like), but worse, also at night. I'm 90% sure this happened at least once, and am concerned that it is still happening. Of course, since he has Alzheimer's, I realize…
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Constant Talking
Hi all. It's been awhile since I have posted, but am always online reading your similar stories and bountiful help. I was wondering of anyone has a LO with mid-stage Alz who talks CONSTANTLY. My mom has been babbling continuously since she got up this morning. It's like her thoughts are coming out of her mouth. She talks…
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How to prepare for move to MC
Hi all. I found a really lovely MC for my mom and will be moving her in three weeks. I think she may adjust well since she really likes to be social, but she has made it clear that she doesn’t want to go to MC. She does want some freedom and to be able to do things in her own so I’m thinking I can use this to my advantage.…
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Is it time for Memory Care?
My mom is 74 and has been living in an Enhanced Independent living community for about 4 years. The medical team gives her am/pm medicine and they escort her to meals and remind her to shower but that’s about it. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2014. The doctor recently told me she’s been in need of 24/7 supervision…
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Substance abuse
My DH was diagnosed with EO Alzheimer's in 2020, caused by peripheral vascular disease, over 50 years of cigarette smoking and numerous years of alcoholism. Right now he is very capable of caring for himself and other than being moody, forgetting and misplacing things he does okay. My concern is he has been a chronic…
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When moving LO to AL Causes MORE Stress, Not Less
Hello caregivers - A somewhat lengthy post, apologies - My Dad (currently 85 years old) was my mom's (currently 86 years old w mixed dementia) primary caretaker at home for about 3 years after she had a stroke. He could no longer do it as she's very mobile and active. Therefore, was getting herself into trouble at home and…
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Applying for medicaid before a move to a different state in USA
How to do this?
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Suddenly Becoming a Caretaker, in isolation, very scared
Hello, I am desperate I recently moved from the US to Japan to help my very healthy (never been to the hospital) grandma take care of my grandfather with dementia. In my short stay here, its become pretty apparent that my grandma can not take care of him even with my help, but shes been extremely stubborn, trying to prove…
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Intro... this will be long
It all started when the pandemic hit. Wait, back up. My Dad died on Christmas Eve of 2014 and my mom hasn't been "right" since. I begged for her to get counseling, get out of the house, DO anything, but to no avail. Okay, Pandemic. She's due for a colonoscopy but no one is doing elective procedures. But she buys her…
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Financial management softward/process input
Hey, y'all. I am POA and manage my Mom 86 and my early-onset age 62 brother's money matters. I pay all the bills, etc, as well as our own personal finances. I want to keep all 3 "household" financial matters completely separate. I'm great at admin stuff but thought I'd ask if anyone is using some awesome software / apps to…
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Alzheimer's Spouse in ICU
My mother has alzheimers and it's a new diagnosis (fall 2021), so we are all still learning. My father was put into the ICU yesterday and I know it's thrown all of our worlds upside down. My dad is her primary caregiver too. What suggestions can anyone share for helping my mom cope through all of this uncertainty and…
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VA Benefits - Staring into the Abyss
Just to be clear, I'm posting this information as forewarning for others - not to ask for ideas or sympathy. At this point in the struggle to find help caring for my DH with vascular dementia and a side order of dangerous psychotic behavior, I am clinging to a ledge and staring into the abyss. The emotional and physical…
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Abusive Narcissist Now Obviously Has Dementia/Alzheimers
TIL: My grandfather is and has always been abusive towards my grandmother and is escalating as his symptoms get worse. He doesn't have a diagnosis because my grandmother has 50 years of Stockholm Syndrome and does absolutely everything for him. We're struggling to keep up through the abuse and my mother's (their only…
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NYC Area: Recommendations for caregiving
Hi Everyone, My father lives in Brooklyn, NY. He currently has 24/7 live-in help. The aide, however, can't lift him out of bed on her own, so he's bedbound for most of the time. I'm looking for an organization/agency that can send help during the week for a few hours a day to assist my father's aide with cooking, cleaning,…
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The NAC Protocol - Dark to Light
I’m making this post because something has come to my attention. I’m talking about a cure to many age related ailments, with ramifications far beyond anything we thought possible. The brain of an alzheimer’s sufferer is infected with mold. Autopsies have been done and fungus is ALWAYS present in the brain. This is the big…
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Neighbor Has Alz Need HELP!
You all gave wonderful advice when my mother, who had Alzhimers, lived with me. Now, I need advice about my next door neighbor. My neighbor is in her late 60s and has Alzheimer's. She has started roaming the neighborhood and recently I saw her take mail out of one neighbor's mailbox and take it home with her. Today, she…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 8/16/22
JESUS IS THE VINE GOD THOUGHT: John 15:5 NIV “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” VICTORY THOUGHT: A close relationship with Jesus enables me to please and serve Him. POWER PRAYER: Come into my heart, Lord Jesus, remain with me…
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Toilet troubles-flushing Depends
Hi all, My Mom has Alzheimer's and is primarily cared for by my dad, who is healthy & active, but also 80 years old. Recently, Mom has started flushing her Depends underwear. My Dad and brother had to spend a good part of the day today digging up pipes to clear the plumbing line....for the second time in a month. I've been…
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Guidance on Tooth Extraction and Sedation or General Anethesia in SF Bay Area
I'm brand new to the caregivers forum. I called the support line and they suggested I post something here to get some peer feedback. Has anyone needed to have their parent have dental extractions. My 84 year old mother needs a few extracted in a few different sessions. Actually several teeth have fallen out and many have…
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Dad falls because he thinks he can walk
Hello, all, and thank you for welcoming me to this forum. I've only posted one question so far, but the answers and sense of community have been incredibly helpful. I've got another challenge that I'm wondering if anyone else has dealt with and hopefully found a solution, even temporary. Dad had a stroke in November. He is…
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Haven't posted in awhile - looking for encouragement
I haven't made the time to post in a while. Just busy-ing myself riding the ebbs and flows of Mom's dementia as her 24/7 caregiver and only child. Just when I think we have sailed into a good period (ie., sundowning not as severe, delusions decreased, sleeping through the night) then we hit an iceberg (ie., UTI, not…
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Please answer two beginner questions
Hi, My questions: 1. at what point can someone not live alone? 2. Who can make her not live alone? 3. OR - who can answer these questions? The internet websites I've looked at are very wishy-washy on answers through searches. She has strong ongoing delusions, hallucinations, and confabulations. Cannot pay bills, use a…
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Some memories can be retrieved
There was a study a few years ago (albeit in mice) that memories were not permanently lost they simply could not be retrieved. Memories retrieved in mutant ‘Alzheimer’s’ mice Study suggests that patients with Alzheimer's disease can still form memories, raising hopes of new treatments.…
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Tucson area caregivers: recommendations please!
Dear Caregivers, My sister and I are in the process of moving our mother to Tucson where my sister lives. We have been looking at memory care assisted living facilities. There are a lot! My mom has two small dogs, who are the most important thing in her life right now. We really want to let her keep one or both of them as…
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What I would ask myself if I could go back in time
Are you really prepared to care for someone who has the mind of a child and the body of an elderly person? Are you ready to deal with someone who will have fits, rages, and is uncooperative- that you cannot change or discipline?