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Adult teenager
I barely survived raising my own kids.....now my husband with Alzimers has become a defiant teenager. I am not wired to deal with this!!! Been a really bad day in my household. God give me strength!
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She is gone
My lovely, wonderful, brilliant, public spirited wife died yesterday. She was 73. and had had Alzheimer's for 15 years. I described our journey in these pages and the end was peaceful. I held her hand as her breathing went shallower and shallower and finally stopped . Our two daughters were with us. She was as lovely as…
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Violent spouse with dementia
My D husband gets agitated and so do I and we argue all the time. When I think I am helping I am just aggravating him even more. Just today put on pants backwards and refused to change them He pushed me away and I fell. Lesson learned, let him fail, try to leave for good but tied financially Any one can tell me how to…
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Proof of dementia for MC
Do I have to document that my spouse has dementia to put him in MC facility
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Keeps wanting to go get hair cut
My husband had his hair cut two weeks ago and keeps saying he needs a haircut, should I just let him go again? I remind him that he just went but he doesn't believe me
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The conflicting emotions...
The past two weeks have been a continual decline. My DH is sleeping more each day. A month ago, DH started each day with a quarter mile walk with the walker at sunrise, and we could take car rides and go for wheelchair walks at a local park. Three weeks ago, the anxiety of the car overwhelmed him, so we just did his short…
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What to tell my wife about hiring help
It seems that the time has come for me to hire a home health care worker/companion for my wife. I would estimate she has reached the middle part of stage 5 at this point. I was thinking of having someone come over twice a week to start, for 4 hour visits. I know she will resist—how can I get her to agree—what will I tell…
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Nail cutting
Does anyone have suggestions on how to bet my DW to cut her toe nails? She is not a fan of getting a pedicure.
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Having one disaster after another with my LW
I’m m new at all this since February ‘25. I read the wrong week on my calendar this morning and went took her to her hip doctor and missed a very important EMG test at Mayo Clinic. I’m having trouble keeping up my own health. The diet is suffering too. My LW broke her hip a month ago after developing Foot Drop. So, now I’m…
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Losing his grip
Is it typical for PWD to begin dropping things? My DH can’t seem to hold onto anything anymore. Drinks are especially hard and when he drops them, his clothes need to be changed, floor cleaned. Does anyone have a suggestion for a good adult style sippy cup? I need to do something different and need/welcome your help. Thank…
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Fall Detection Devices?(1)
Hi all. Now I'm looking into fall detection devices. Some of them seem to have all these services I don't need. IF I am running to the store for 45 minutes (which I can still do), I want him to be wearing a device to monitor falls. I do not need a GPS for location (he's not that mobile, doesn't wander, and I'm usually…
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Husband Proofing my home.
I childproofed my home when my kids were little and never in a million years did I think that I would have to do this to protect my lo. I just padlocked the ladder so he can’t climb up on the roof. He’s 73 and too old to be on the roof and his dementia has been costing me thousands of dollars in repairs after he “fixes”…
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Unsure
I think things are progressing or is it me thinking they are. I didn’t know what to do this morning after a volatile night so I had his son come over and take him. I won’t make it until his Dr appointment on Monday. He is starting down the physical abuse path. It’s only been 3 pokes and grabbing my arm but I’m afraid it…
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Curious about spouses Insight
Oddly enough my husband displays significant short term memory loss but continues to be well aware that his mind is failing and this distresses him (of course). He was dx 5 yrs ago. Wondering if it’s better (happier for him & me) when he no longer realizes (lacks insight into) his declining mental status? He gets angry and…
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Auto safety
My wife is in the moderate stages. We were returning from a short trip on the interstate highway at about 70 mph when she opened the passenger door. She was seatbelted and the air pressure from the passing wind kept the door from flying open. But she was fiddling with the door as I was finding a safe place to pull over. My…
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I can’t help this pain I feel
I miss my husband and he’s laying right next to me. About 6 months ago, my husband started forgetting we were married about once a week. Then about 3 months ago he started telling me he doesn’t want to be involved with anyone about once every 1-2 weeks. It doesn’t usually last long but every time I wonder if it will last…
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What stage?
At what stage does someone (husband in this case) lose interest in absolutely everything? He used to like to watch TV, especially westerns, but he has no interest in that anymore. He was never a reader, no hobbies at all. He had seemed better for a while, no sundowning or wanting to "go home." But that has all started…
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Possessed Look
Hi all, Lately, as my DW drifts deeper into her dementia, I've seen a kind of wild look in her eyes and she definitely does not look like she's seeing me at all in those moments. It's a bit disconcerting when it happens and I can only imagine what's bringing her to that space. The poor thing. Anyone else have this with…
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Caring for an 8 year old
My wife is 84 and is in ALZ Stage 5 with a few Stage 6 symptoms. This past year has been a steep decline. It's amazing what she can no longer do. It's not just memory (which is a serious issue), but she can no longer understand simple instructions and can no longer do most anything without close supervision. She doesn't…
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Refuses to see DR
My DH refuses to go to next DR appt and I can't force him DR wants to do lumbar puncture but he is too agitated to go thru with procedure as they want him there for four hours. This procedure may not shed any light on his condition, his cognition has been steadily worse and this is supposed to diagnose NPH. I asked DR to…
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Stage 7a- need to know if possible to keep them home
My 78 DH has Aliz and dx 2017 MC, he is progressing has anyone kept their LO home until the end. He is still going to day care 3 days a week ,will be 2 years in Oct. When is Hospice available ? I have been doing everything myself, he has had no showers since Jan but he lets me wash him . Bladder incontinent some BM ,…
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How to motivate your AD spouse to do things that will help her.
My AD spouse isn’t self-motivated. I have made dot papers for her to complete with her name, address, phone number… I am continually helping her navigate her phone and texting… I am helping everyday to work the tv remote… she was a music director so I have enlarged music for her to sing with(words only)… I write our day’s…
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New to the group
Hi everyone. I’m new to this group and have been reading so many heartbreaking stories. My husband is 71 and was diagnosed 2 years ago with FTD. We moved him to a memory care facility a month ago. He’s very restless at night and rearranges furniture in the commons area, removes artwork from walls, takes things from other…
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Eating stuff
My DW is in stage 5/6 of Alzheimer's. Lately she has been eating all kinds of things. She ate all of her toothpaste from the tube, orange and lemon peels and whole tomatoes like an apple. Has anyone else seen this?
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Stepping in on finances
Hello, My DH was diagnosed about 1 1/2 year ago. With meds (Donepezil), he seemed to be on an even keel for about six months, we upped the dosage some, but he is now declining again. We mostly keep our finances separate. I have begun to worry that he will spend on extraneous things (he recently placed an order for a new…
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Service dog
UPDATE 8/1/25: it’s been about 15 months since my post about looking into getting a service dog for my wife. Today, we received an invitation offering us a trained service dog from EENP! My wife is at a stage in her diagnosis where she can still drive and has just mild cognitive impairment. So now is the best time for her…
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I've been away for a while and need to talk
Since I was last on this site, we moved to a smaller townhouse 1 1/2 away from that awful town. He did ok with the move. I'll just skip to now. he had 2 seizures a month ago in which the hospital labeled as "fainting" yet put him on antiseizure meds. he is going to get an ultrasound on his carotid artery, then and EEG. he…
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Great News on Treatment Advance
This made my day! This will not cure my DH, but it gives me great hope for my children and grandchildren. Medical research matters! Thank you to the devoted scientists at Harvard who have been working on this for ten years. Hopefully, tes5ing will commence very shortly.…
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How do you assess your spouse
My Dh is c/o light headless and chest discomfort. Im retired nurse so I've done all the steps. BP is fine heartrate is fine no further symptoms. Up walking around like nothing wrong. Was at er last week for back pain. Found nothing that would cause it. Given his meds for BP baby aspirin. Will cont to monitor him,but it…
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Dealing with my feelings of resentment
I'm married to a man who was verbally abusive to me during the first 10-15 years of our marriage. When I tried to leave, he begged me to stay. I regret staying, expecially because of my children. We've now been married 40 years and we really don't have what I would call a close relationship. I had to pull away when he was…