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Eye Doctor Visit
I think my dh's eyesight has gotten a lot worse than his current eye glasses can help with. Any suggestions about how to handle a visit to an eye doctor and/or how to find one that is comfortable with dementia patients? He's in late stage 5 with strong aphasia, stiff body and hard of hearing. He will be a handful.
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the nightmare of respite
Sorry, I need to vent to my hive before I take someones head off. My DH is in stage 7 and on hospice. I am having family from out of state come to visit. I was so excited. I was going to put him in respite care for the week. Picked out a spot that was suppose to be one of the best in the city. Friday morning comes to drop…
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Memory Care transition
Well it has been 2.5 weeks since my DH has been in memory care. Prior to this, he spent 3.5 weeks in the hospital. The first couple of days he was there, I literally slept like a log. My bed didn't even look like i had moved a muscle. But as the days wear on I'm finding my big old house so quiet. It's sad. The facility is…
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My husband is in the hospital
After struggling with my husband’s escalating agitation for 10 days at home, I took him to the ER Wednesday night. It was the worst night of my life. The minute they put a wristband on him, he ripped it off and all hell broke loose. We were bustled into a locked room in 30 seconds. For the next seven hours, they knocked…
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Memantine
My husband’s doctor recommended Memantine. (He called in the Rx, but I have yet to pick it up….) Has anyone had any success/issues with it? I saw a post from a few years ago that didn’t sound promising from the few responses that I read. I am wondering if anyone has any other experiences to share.
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We Moved—WISE OR NOT?
My first post to the forum was last October. I asked about the moving to be near family after an Alzheimer’s diagnosis. I was seeking stories of others who did. After much thought, I made the decision to move near our daughter and son in law. It was a three states away move. I say “I” made the decision because my DH is no…
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Legs giving out
DH fell in the bathroom— he’s on blood thinners and I was told months ago by doc and visiting nurse that if he falls he needs to go to the hospital to check there are no blood clots. So here we are. I called an ambulance because i could barely get him up and knew I couldn’t get him to a car service safely (I don’t drive)……
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DH diagnosed with Dementia
I am new here. My DH was diagnosed with early dementia last year and I am looking to make connections and find support from people who are in the same situation. I love my DH so much and reassure him that I will remain by his side, but he will make comments such as "I hate being like this and you don't deserve this!" and…
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Disability vs Social Security at 62
DH, 61 yo, has multiple health issues. He does not have a diagnosis of dementia but has some cognitive issues. MR Venogram done in May for another issue shows microvascular ischemic changes, supratentorial white matter, and mild global parenchymal volume loss. So nothing definitive for dementia changes. However, his health…
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Updating trust while DH is still able to consent
After reading various posts here, I realize time os of the essence to make changes we've talked about for years but never got around to doing. DH is in the early stages, still able to comprehend, give input and give consent. There is no CELA in my town. Closest one is 75 miles away but there are several trust attorneys…
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Have a plan!
can some list,for those who have no idea, what exactly should be in “The Plan” moving forward
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I don't think I can do this anymore...
My husband is so rude, mean and nasty I feel like I don't want to take care of him anymore. He has had 4 meltdowns already today…which all end in him degrading me in every way imaginable. He complains constantly about me having access to his finances (god knows I wish I didn't have to),but he can't handle even the simplest…
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Shocking decline since May and now COVID
Has anyone seen their spouse rapidly decline in a short period of time? Since May, my DH has become extremely confused, constantly packs his clothes, hallucinates and is hardly audible. He was diagnosed with COVID on Sept. 1, hospitalized on Sept. 2. He is still in the hospital and he cannot understand what is asked of…
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MCI and severe sleep apnea
my husband just finished testing (mri,blood,cardiac,cognitive). No unusual findings, doctors are leaning towards MCI. My only thought to make sense of all this since he has no underlying health issues is his sleep apnea which we have just started to address 3 weeks ago with sleep studies and cpac. does anyone have any…
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The trap we get into
DH has been waking me up several times a night. I hit my limit at 7. So when he went back to sleep Sunday morning I decided no more sleeping during the day when he kept me up all night and told him so. I told him to get up as we were going to church.He told me to go without him. I said no and I was going to be very noisy.…
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Ideas for Social Interactions and Activies?
I’m wondering how some of you provide socialing opportunities and activities for your LO? Prior to diagnosis, our lives in a small town revolved around food and drink: dinners out, bbq’s, etc. Now these activities are too much for DH, though he still wants to do them. He’s been a craft beer aficionado for a very long time.…
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Difficult and lonely
I had a friend disable DH truck. He went berserk. He is still upset after 7 days of trying to get me to have it fixed. Now he is upset over some scam. All his cards are locked. Our retirement money was moved to a brokerage firm. Thank goodness. I took him to the bank to withdraw cash, he randomly walked into a bankers…
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Reluctance to get further tests
My wife has a recommendation from her primary Dr for a brain scan and further diagnosis by a psychiatrist/gerintologist. What are my next steps?
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Does occupational therapy help
DH in early to middle stage ALZ. There is another neurologist nearby that offers occupational therapy for dementia as part of their treatment. It is a hassle to change doctors, but if having DH do some kind of therapy that would slow the progression I would make the effort. At home, he plays Sudoku for several hours a day…
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Iris L
Iris, I found your life story absolutely fascinating. If others want to read it, it can be found on Lorita's thread at the end on the page 4. https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147558954 Thank you for sharing it!
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Ricardo
Richard we are all at: Just need to talk to my friends (199). just look for that heading and you will be back with us.
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Why is this so very hard?
This was hard to write and undoubtedly hard to read, so if you're not up for it go back and pick another thread. For context my DW is late stage 7e and 73 years old. She very rarely opens her eyes and even when she is not quite asleep, she looks like she is. My DW's usual aide was upset this morning. While moving her…
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toddler grandchild - advice?
My wife has been in MC for 2 months; she is adjusting well, making friends there, participating with activities, and is loved by the staff for her infectious high energy, and her eager engagement with the other residents. It can be hard for me to visit sometimes, because she wants to come with me when I leave. I tell a…
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How to deal with NEW personality traits
I am new to the site. There is 15 years difference in my husband and I. He is 75. In late May, I noticed some disturbing habits he was beginning. DH is fully functioning except for the urges and impulses he can't control. It is disturbing and I feel like I got on an apology tour a few times a week. I love my DH but he is…
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Does DH really have AD? He seems so normal.
DH has seen the neurologist and had brain scan, EEG, verbal and visual test and has been Wdiagonosed with AD, but 99% of the time he seems so normal. I begin to feel like I made a mountain out of a mole hill. For years, he has been saying, " Oh, you know what I mean." About a month ago, he peed all over the bathroom floor…
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I feel like Alice going down the rabbit hole.
I am totally new here. First-day actually. Here goes…. My husband has shown signs of Early Alz. for quite a few years, but I didn't realize what it was until about 2 years ago. He has been on medication and forgets things we just talked about but then he will tell me the store I need is down the street on the left. He will…
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sleeping 15 hour or more a night, falling asleep during the day.
Dear Alz-connected friends: I'm back because my DH is now sleeping well more that 12 hours at night and falling asleep in front of the TV. I thought he was in mid-stage VD, but this behavior is increasing now. He is MY Caretaker, so I am now caring for him. He fell backwards in the kitchen this afternoon after getting out…
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She Wants to Help
From what I read my wife is in Alzheimer's Stage 4. She is in good health and wants to help with everything. Problem is, she doesn't know how to do anything. Worst time is in the kitchen while I'm preparing dinner. She is everywhere, asking what she can do. It's driving me nuts. It would be so much easier if she would go…
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Just Vetting!
I just need to vent a little in order to keep my sanity! Our Holliday weekend was like a rollercoaster. My DW gets up as a friend, has breakfast and soon afterwards turns agitated and starts her daily trash talk to me. “shut up, come on, leave me alone, etc.” I then sit next to her and watch Hallmark movies for a couple of…
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No conversation
Is this part of this awful disease? It’s been 3 days and very little if any conversations occur between us. DH , with VD, will most times respond to questions but to have a conversation is non existent! I’m beginning to feel I’m living alone. He wanted to work on a puzzle so I bought one, encourage him to work on it with…