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Early Anger
As I've mentioned before, MRI shows my DW has Microvascular Ischemic Disease. What I'm experiencing from her at this point, besides the forgetfulness & minor confusion is a hair trigger anger, usually directed at me. Is this normal? I've tried to get her to go to talk to someone but refuses. She had a very cold childhood,…
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Heartbroken
I’m sitting here in the early morning barely able to breathe with grief. Tomorrow I’m taking my precious DH to his new home at a beautiful memory care facility. I just pray he’ll have peace and contentment in his new home. If any of you are prayer warriors please just pray that my sweet Tommy is safe and happy. He’s not…
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Sainthood
Looks like my application cannot be filed just yet, because I'm about to whine and complain like crazy. Ha! The way I interact with my DW is so dramatically different than 4 years ago. I take the blame for everything, I am patient to the point of ridiculousness. I sit and watch tv shows without moving for hours on end when…
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To the ER or not?
My DW has an abscess just outside of her private part, I know I can just say it but the contract doctor says that if antibiotics don't work in a couple of days she needs to go to the ER. God I hope not. Waiting hours in the ER with an advanced Alzheimer's wife in full incontinence and hysterics is not something I want to…
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Have I made a mistake?
I'm hoping this will make sense and that someone can help me with my thought process. MY DH, 76, was diagnosed with dementia 13 years ago. It progressed slowly until his back surgery when he was under general anesthesia for 5 hours about 5 yrs ago after which he was never the same - hallucinations, paranoia and nonexistent…
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Strange eating habits
My husband has got to where if he starts snacking on something he will eat until it is all gone. For instance, I bought about 2 lbs of grapes this morning. Husband ate all of them within 2 hours. And I noticed other day, we had a 3 lb bag tangerines. He ate half of them in one day. I finally hid them from him. Is this just…
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Medication
My Dh is in stage 4 alz. 74y/o. Has VD also. Has not been taking his medicine. I set them up for him. He also has a lot of other medical problems. This morning I ask him if needed to remind him( he gets very angry) or does he just not want to take them. He has been like this for about 2 weeks. He said he would let me know…
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Possible cancer diagnosis
My DH has been in memory care for 6 months at stage 5. His recent blood test showed a PSA number high enough (20+) to indicate likely prostate cancer. He is scheduled for a CT scan on Monday and his PCP has recommended he see a urologist. I'm jittery. I understand most prostate cancer, especially at his age (75) is not…
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My partner and her head
Hello there I’m new to this world of TBI and 19 years later I’m faced with my partner who has not been diagnosed yet but I’m seeing some major changes in her behavior especially over the last month and a half. Just a little back story in 2005 she fell down a flight of stairs and cracked her skull had 3 brain bleeds. Fast…
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Family counseling for transition to assisted living for L.O.
Experiencing conflict and resistance from family and spouse, who is in middle stages of dementia. What are the best resources for this.
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Emotions all over the map
I am new to this. DH has EO. We are in the 6th since diagnosis.In the last year he has really declined I am helping him with everything feeding,dressing, it is so difficult watching your spouse of 47 years wither to nothing. I feel like I have been in mourning since day of diagnosis. I feel so alone. I now will have a…
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Medication alarm
I’m looking for a dispenser that will allow pills to be dispensed at a certain time. If the pills are not dispensed, I want a ringer or alarm to ring again and continue to do so until the medication is dispensed. Like the alarm on my cell phone. Any suggestions. Thanks!
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Update
As I posted last week, DH is now in a greipsych unit about thirty miles from here. I haven't gone to see him as I think it would just upset him since he would want me to take him home. They have been very good about keeping me updated. So far, the Dr. has increased his Depakote, taken him off Trazadone and put him on…
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Lonely but longing to be alone…
Hello- New to posting, though I have looked in on others for several years. My DH (age 70) has Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia, heading into moderate stage although not yet problems with ADLs. We have known this was coming (through testing) for around 10 years. Slow progression, so I feel fortunate for that. SO many of…
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Seeking insights about brain autopsy
Hospice called and reminded me to make final arrangements. DW was weighed at 100 pounds, she’s 5’-7”, and this is a drop of nearly 3 pounds from her last weighing. Her aides have reported that she is only eating about 25% of the food offered her. She hasn’t opened her eyes in many weeks that I have seen, but they tell me…
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Over it!
I am in the worst mood today and I just can't shake it! I am so angry, and just sick and tired! I don't want to do anything. I am so unmotivated. I just want to lay in bed. I don't want to talk or smile or even try. I am trying so hard to get past it! I am wasting my whole day 😢
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Death watch
I think my partner has given up and is starting to actively die. She sleeps the vast majority of the time, will wake up briefly to eat now and then if I feed her (makes no effort to feed herself that I’ve seen). She must get up a little bit at times that I’m not there because things are still moved around in her room a…
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Are my feelings normal?
My DH is in mid-stage 6 of Alzheimer's disease. We've had a wonderful 22-year marriage. My emotions and attitudes towards him these days are all over the place. When he is ornery, refuses to take a bath or swallow his pills/eat his meals, accuses me of controlling his life, twists my wrist because he is mad at me (only…
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maybe just a late night vent??
I think I may have finally snapped. I called my son this morning to come over and try to help calm my wife. For over a week now, she has been telling me everything is hers, and if I don’t leave, she will call the police. She doesn’t know who I am and insists I get out.” I know this will sound super selfish, but for those…
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New normal
This is my first post. I’m 54 yrs old caring for my DH who has EO. We are three years into his diagnosis. He has been told many times he has Alzheimer’s by the drs but each time is like the first time. I’m scared of what the future holds. He is definitely not the same person. Mood swings are the biggest struggle right now.…
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I guess it's really time
My husband has FTD with delusions and hallucintaions. He thinks I'm different people throughout the day. He is disoriented and never knows where he is. Several times a week he wants to ride around in the car to go "home" or to the office. Twice last week we rode around for hours until he finally got tired and agreed to go…
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Butterfly wings
Just thinking of you and realized i haven't seen a post from you this week. Hope you are okay.
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FIRST TIME PARTICIPANT: My AAIC code did not work.
All last week I tried to log into ALZ.org online to view sessions, but the staff wasn’t answering emails during the conference and is now in vacation until the 12th of August. Can anyone explain to me how to use the code I was provided to log in online? I learned today from a YouTube presentation that the videos only…
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Early stage, waiting for the other shoe to drop
DH was recently diagnosed with ES Alz. Looking back, there were definite signs 5-6 years ago. A few weeks ago, he totally missed the toilet in the middle of the night, twice. Since then, nothing. Lots of good advice from this group on that. Most of the time, he seems perfectly normal, except for his choice of word…
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Life in the Alzheimer's Warehouse
Good morning Dear Friends. I sometimes find it helpful to write down my thoughts. I am sharing what I wrote this morning in hopes that it will offer a perspective that while we don't have control over our situation, we can and do choose what we think of each day. Let's all fight with every fiber of our beings to stay out…
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Short Film: A Marriage to Remember
Lovely. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZu51MnqfF4
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Scared and unsure
Iam so new to all this I apologize I just don’t know where to turn. My husband is showing signs of memory loss and it’s scary. I’ve got him to go to his pcp but I have no idea what is ahead. Iam having anxiety attacks and can’t seem to function well myself. This is a hell. I am just reaching out because I have no one to…
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No signs (I don't think) but had father and grandmother die with the disease
Hello- I'm new to this forum. Today's paper had a very interesting article about the new testing which is becoming available for early onset of the disease. I'm 57, healthy and I eat properly and exercise 5-6 times weekly. I'm retired so I don't have the "stresses" of a job. I recall my dad being concerned about not…
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Medication Reminder App Suggestions
Today was one of those "I cried, he whistled" days. He was really upset at something I did because it wasn't the way he wanted it. It really hurt my feelings, and he went on like nothing happened. Only to find out, he did not take his meds for yesterday afternoon, this morning, or this afternoon. Even though I try to…
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Introducing myself.......
Hello everyone, Like many others, I've been lurking on this site on and off for months. It has been both knowledgeable and comforting to have you all as a resource. Thank you. I no longer feel alone. I am caretaker of my DH of almost 30 years. His symptoms have gotten progressively worse over the past 3 years. Same old…