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Geri-psych saga continues with hopeful news
For those if you following our story, after two weeks in a medical bed, my DH with aggression problems was transferred to the hospital’s Geri-psych unit on Monday. I was very pleased because this unit has a good reputation for not discharging patients until they are really ready. I am finding out that my husband’s issue…
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New Group for Middle Aged Caregivers
Please join! Go to the GROUPS tab on the home page or copy & paste this link (sorry that I can’t get the hyperlink to stick!) https://alzconnected.org/group/43-middle-aged-caregivers-support-group
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Frustrated with finding Geriatric care
Three days ago, I called the memory clinic to inquire about practitioner that was scheduled with DH today. The receptionist said there was only 1 geriatric doctor and she only works one day a week. She said the practitioner was very good and could prescribed medications. She would give my DH a short test…. So I decided to…
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memory care
What is exactly memory care? How do you know when it is time? When they don't recognize you anymore? hard to handle?
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Picking up the pieces
where do you start when you don’t know how or where to start? My husband has been my life for 30 years. I just don’t know what to do with myself. I had to place in a MC facility & I just can’t believe it’s been 3 months and I still haven’t left my house except to go visit him everyday.
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Hygiene issues because he hates being wet
For a while, I could get my DH to shower every few days and he had no trouble doing so on his own. I just needed to remind him to use soap and shampoo. A few months ago, he just absolutely refused to go into the shower. He said he didn't need that anymore, it was too small, stuff like that. So I bought some microfiber…
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Anniversary #47
It's our wedding anniversary today. I'm just really sad because nothing about our marriage turned out the way I thought it would. As background, we found out after we placed my DH in MC that he had (seemingly) been unfaithful, was deeply into porn, and even had pictures that may have been illegal (or borderline). Even…
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Feeling like a terrible person!
Yikes do I feel like an idiot! DH 4 years into VD and his short term memory going downhill quickly! I should know I should be aware but duh! I started a new BP med and apparently by mid after my pressure falls. Today it was 70/50 I was feeling drained and told DH I wasn’t feeling well and going to lay down . He came up to…
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When to start considering meds
I know this is a question for the professionals but wanted to get some insight from caregivers on this. At what point should meds be considered? What kind of behaviors are most helped by them? I’m having a more difficult time with DH lately as he progresses but I think it’s more my behavior or reaction that causes the…
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Medication Difficulties
Hello everyone. I can’t say I’m very new here, but this is my first post. I’ve been (what my husband would say is “lurking”) in the background - reading and learning from all of you who have travelled this path before me. Thank you so much for your comments and candor, it’s already made my life better by knowing you’re…
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Just had to share … LOL
My DH just said … something just ran past the chair into the other room. (He has hallucinations quite often, but the Seroquel keeps him calm during the episodes.) Anyway, I responded as usual … maybe it was just my shadow you saw when I walked in the kitchen. He said, “No, something ran in there.” (I got up and…
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Tips for the dreaded move to memory care
I’ve finally made the decision to move my beloved husband to a memory care center. I’m so overwhelmed with grief and just getting through the actual process. Can anyone offer me advice for how you actually get your spouse to the facility and what to tell them. My husband still loves me dearly even though most of the time…
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Blame!
I don’t know if other caregivers have this issue but I am having a tough time handling it. DH with ALZ has mild cognitive impairment with very short memory. Every single time he makes a mistake, he blames me. He recognizes the mistake but seems compelled to make it my fault. I don’t chastise him for his mistakes so, I…
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Impatience
Feeling like a monster, I have no patience today. It’s a rare day with no appointments for DH or crucial business to take care of and I want to do literally nothing for at least a few hours. Feeling guilty and being snippy with DH’s forgetfulness. I want him to just go do his own thing but I know he sees my impatience and…
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Cat Naps
My BF (EOA 45YO) has been taking small naps during the day. When we r watching tv. If he watches it. He will stare out the back window looking at the birds and squirrels. I guess you can say I'm in denial. I don't wanna loose him. I want him to stick with me till we are old and gray. I want plus to have at least one child…
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Love
I've never seen anyone share pictures on here but I really want to share this! My DH had a terrible dream. So our sweet dog, Betsy, cuddled up with him. Made him feel lots better. He is back to sleep 🧡 Life is peaceful at this moment and I am grateful.
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Help! Cannot get my 190lb husbsnd into his hospital bef
any ideas? He is stage 6 snd can barely walk. Tonight he is sitting in his wheelchair snd will not let me assist him into his hospitsl bed at home. What do I do? Any ideas? He is double incontinent and is sitting soiled clothes. Do I call Parsmefics for lift assist?
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different MC for different stages
I am exploring MC facilities and right now looking at the more elaborate ones that say they have various activities (and many do). My question is this: if you place your person in one facility and then a year later they have deteriorated to the point where they basically sit and do nothing, or worse, are bed ridden, can…
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First Post- Introducing Myself
Hi Everyone- I'm posting for the first time. Thanks all for being here! My wife has had a long and slow onset of AD symptoms over the past 8 to 10 years or so. It's hard to know if some of the odd behaviours 10 years ago were due to the AD, but I sort of think so. Over these years I've discussed my concern over her memory…
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Looking for a good elder care attorney in Long Beach
Hello, I am looking for a good, reasonably priced Elder Care Attorney so that I can be the POA and MPOA for my LO. We were trying to get his POA and MPOA notarized but, he got confused and forgot why he was there, so, the APS were called on us. We were called by them to let us know that that is what has happened. The…
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If I had only known
If I had only known when we went to bed on January 18th that that was the last night we would ever sleep in the same bed, I would have cuddled up as close to him as I could and held him close. Instead, I slept on my side of the bed and he slept on his. Oh we said , "I love you" like always but if I had known, I would have…
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Just need to talk to my friends (197)
It's been a hot, humid day in Oklahoma. We reached about 97 with heat index of 100 with more hot days to fo!low. Summer in Oklahoma is not always pleasant because of the humifity. I know the temperatures were higher when I was growing up but humidity was lower. They built Lake Eufaula which raised it and now this area is…
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Rough Night
Thursday night turned from a peaceful evening into a crisis when the MC called and said DH was banging on the doors with his fists, yelling, and hitting the doors with his walker trying to exit the unit. They said he was going to hurt someone so they were sending him to the ER. That was a little after 6:00 PM. I had just…
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Tough times
So, to add to all that is going on in our lives, our 12 year old dog has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. He has just a couple of days to live. DH, who has already had such a hard time is asking such weird questions. Where are the other adults at dinner (it's only the two of us)? Where are the other dogs (we only have…
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Straw that broke this camel’s back!
I came home today and found my BF (with MCI) had done some laundry. 7 items on a medium load. He does this frequently. A trivial thing in the world of dementia. Many caregivers would envy a situation like that. I’m ashamed to say I lost it. I told him he has to move back to his condo. He is able to do all of his daily…
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Rapid onset Alzheimer’s
I’ve only heard of Rapid Onset Alzheimer’s once. Can anyone tell me if there are guidelines or timelines it follows. My DH was diagnosed two years ago and seems to constantly be on a downward slope. I keep thinking there will be a plateau but he hasn’t found one yet.
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New and dealing with early onset
I have been noticing small struggles over the past few years and definitely increase in anxiety as well. Early Onset is genetic in his family so we both knew he had a 50/50 chance. We talked about it and decided since we weren’t having children (married in our 40’s), we decided not to have him tested because what would we…
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Incontinence issues
My DH has had incontinence issues in the last couple of months. He soiled his pants twice. Today he was outside working in the yard and suddenly said, “I pooped”. I was shocked. Both of the other times we were walking out in the woods and he couldn’t make it home but he told me he had to go. This time he didn’t even…
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Geriatric appointment concern
My DH PCP sent a referral for a geriatric appointment after I discussed my concerns about my DH mild cognitive impairment and the care we are not getting from the neurologist. My DH is not having any specific issues now except short term memory. His neurologist previously said he will not be able to help with any psychotic…