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Seroquel
Okay, got the 25 mg prescription. I guess it's best to take at night?
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Gross behaviors ?
So random and maybe not such a big thing, but I am having difficulty accepting some of DH behaviors that I find downright gross! Scratching his head and then wiping off the flakes all over himself, kitchen table, floor! Using a tissue and leaving it on the counter or end table! Or not using a tissue but his finger and…
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Hallmark holiday fatigue
Not sure if this is a rant or a vent or just a sadness. I’m not normally very susceptible to Hallmark holidays, but Valentines is getting to me this year. I think it’s because my partner’s birthday is also fast approaching in early March, and any talk of it makes her cry- she will be 83, her mother died at 83, and so if I…
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I Took Credit
At our neurologist appt on Friday, the Dr. was so impressed by the way I was handling my DH when he keep looking at me that she said she could use my skills. My DH said she’s available to start tomorrow (haha smart alec). And then he proceeded to tell her how hard I was to live with. He told me on the way home, she was OK…
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Seroquel(8)
I have a question about Seroquel. My husband is starting to sundown. Everyday around 4 he thinks he is at work and needs help fixing something. So far I have been able to redirect him. Sometimes I can say that I have to make dinner and I will help him later. I realize that this won’t work forever and the delusions will get…
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Nightmares
I read that nightmares go along with this disease. My DH has been having nightmares that he acts out to the degree that I've had to move to a different room. He had one last night that woke me up with his screaming. I ran to the room and called his name. When I did he yelled "He's got a gun." I called his name again and he…
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Memory care timing
I know this has been discussed many times. I want to do what is best for my wife, she is I think early stage 6. I am considering moving her to memory care and I think she would go to "memory rehab" willingly. We have been married for 49 years but the last 20 have not been good. She is not really a lot of work. She sleeps…
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How Much to Tell
I am an 82 yo caregiver for my 84 yo DH who was diagnosed with dementia by a neurologist in 2023 and I estimate is now in stage 5. He was just diagnosed yesterday with pulmonary fibrosis, but seems already to have forgotten most if not all of the doctor's visit. The mean survival time for this is 2-3 years, and DH also has…
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cat burglar
So DH is in stage 6 and has a tendency to wander at night. He tries to go to work,( he was a milkman for over 40 years). He has gathered random stuff and bring it outside leaving it on the sidewalk. So, I have bought door stop alarms for the front and back doors. They not only stop the door from opening, but set off an…
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Resistant to testing and willing to see a Neurologist
My DW had some serious medial issues in 2019-2022 timeframe. At the time, we thought it was related to multiple UTIs and Duloxitine that had be prescribed for her. She got lost driving a couple of times, forgot what day it was, and peridocially who I was. We saw a doctor who started treating her UTIs and a Neurologist who…
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SEPARATED for years from spouse - now has EO ALZ Dementia at 64
Anyone out there dealing with this? I'm investigating for my BF who overwhelmed. There is so much material for caring spouses, but not for former partners The situation: She lives alone, (just retired) is not close to her siblings, has no best friend. One adult daughter nearby. She and my BF have been separated for years,…
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How's Jo C and Son doing, also M1
Got on here again to find out how my friends are doing! And I mean friends, just like the other fellowship I belong to. Also Toolbeltexpert after his loss. I care a lot about everybody on here. Made sweet and sour chicken Sunday from scratch, turned out the best yet. At 81 years old I'm doing pretty good. To the newer…
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What does Medicade actually take care of when it comes time to need them???
If Medicade steps in what do they take care of financially? This is concerning to me.
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BladderInfection: how to capture urine
I think my loved one has a bladder infection. She is double incontinent and unable to urinate in toilet. Doctor won't give prescription without a test first. I heard there is a pad to place in pull ups. Anyone know of this product or another way? She is so agitated.
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Deja vu symptoms
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Can you determine by behavior what type of dementia your loved one has?
My DH has been diagnosed with mild to moderate unspecified dementia. He is definitely in the moderate stages right now. He is hypersexualized, always grabbing at me and wanting sex. He is also accusing me of infidelity, and today I found him searching through my phone for evidence. Of course, there is no evidence, but even…
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Alzheimer's is revealing the dark underbelly of my husband's psyche
At times it seems the Alzheimer's has taken all the good parts of my husband's soul and left him with his (formerly hidden) demons of low self esteem that I recognize from the dark side of spending 50 + years of my life with him. These days he is certain people are excluding him or ignoring him or don't like him and he…
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Wife resistant to outside caregiver
My wife is in the moderate stage of AD- increasing confusion, impaired memory and judgment, needs some assistance with meds, etc. I am her full time caregiver and would like to bring in an aide 1-2 times per week for companion, light housekeeping, and my need to get out for short periods. She is adamant and triggers easily…
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Man of few words, but when he speaks its a doozy
So, my beloved is mainly non-verbal these days. Aphasia sneaked up on us in the last year or 2 I guess, until the noticeable decline/progression was suddenly a deafening silence. Not that long ago it seems I was saying (to myself), "aarghh would you please STOP talking just for a minute?!" How I miss those days sometimes…
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Need help and advice for incontinence
Hello Everyone! what was once in a while, is now non stop urinary incontinence. Using overnight padded underwear - did not work. At least the brand I am using. I fear the ADS will kick him out again as they bringing it to my attention. I am checking all his meds go this side effect. Thought it could be the Lexi pro. But it…
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Life is just one endless round of show and tell
Hello, fellow travelers. I am posting about something that I'm dealing with that I have not seen posts about before. DH was Dxd 6/21; I estimate him as mid-stage 5 now. In the early days post-diagnosis, he scribbled furiously in little notebooks, trying to hold onto names and memories of things (he was a physician). Now,…
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Doesn’t know I’m his wife?!?
Hi all - new to this - need help in a lot Of ways but the one thing I want to know how to deal with is answering the question my husband has frequently “where is my wife? How can I contact her!” I’m his wife of 54’years and tell him that but not doesn’t seem to matter?
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night time wanderings. How do you handle it?
Last night my husband got up 11 times between 2am and 6am, turned on all the lights each time, tried to get dressed, moved random things around the house. By the 7th time I was in an absolute rage. It doesn't matter if I'm kind or angry, sensible or insistent, the behavior just continues and good grief I need some sleep!…
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He did it again and I lost my cool.
My DH has been showing signs of anger and agitation pretty frequently around the issue of driving. As background, we took his car away about a year ago, and I'm so afraid he'll try to drive mine that I'm literally sleeping with the keys under my pillow, and showering with them in the drawer in the bathroom. He insisted…
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My Big Mouth
My need to occasionally beat myself is here again! Lucky me and you all. Since I moved my DW to her dream home from the Bay Area to a remote fishing village, I've really struggled with her family completely ignoring her. They claim to be a super close family and she's the oldest of 6. The youngest sister basically controls…
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Dementia and sleep apnea
Do any of your loved ones have sleep apnea? I know untreated apnea increases risk of dementia and that the general recommendation is that cpaps continue to be used for PWD to improve sleep. DH is somewhere in stage 4. He always wore it religiously. All of a sudden he is having trouble tolerating the mask. I always suggest…
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Driving
So, was not driving at all, letting me drive while we waited for an OT driving eval… he passed, no idea how, he couldn’t even fill out the forms. Anyway, now it is a foot race to the car and a couple flat out arguments, where I say I dot. Want to go any more. he checks to see that he knows where is wallet and keys are…
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Refusing/protesting care from family members: what now?
I have been having more and more trouble with DH and anger and agitation. Yesterday he had a "meltdown" involving throwing objects around the room. It was awful for me. I was both frightened and angry myself. He's also had an episode where he turned something on (the self-clean feature, I think) on the range and called me…
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More on bogus scientific papers
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2024/feb/03/the-situation-has-become-appalling-fake-scientific-papers-push-research-credibility-to-crisis-point
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New to this site and Alz/Dementia info
My husband was just diagnosed with Mild Late Onset Alzheimer's w/Dementia with Mood Disturbance (depression/anxiety). I've been a mess, exhausted, frustrated, angry, then sad, isolate, alone... I'm in Los Angeles, CA and just hoping to reach out to anyone who could talk with me about all of this. Thank you!