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For the eagle watchers
I know some of you like to view the bald eagle couple in Big Bear via camera. Ms Jackie and Mr Shadow now are nesting two eggs. The gestation period is about 38 days. I don't have a link but the camera can be found on YouTube. Iris
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Cocked the hammer on placement. . .
but haven't pulled the trigger yet. I am putting a 2800.00 deposit to hold a small private room for my DW but I have 30 days to change my mind and get a complet refund of the deposit. Move in date is Feb 1, 5800.00 per for higest level of care. Seems like good place with staff that know what they are doing. There goes our…
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Need to vent after DH Neurologist appointment
My DH had his 2nd appointment today and a waste of time. After nine months, my DH memory has worsen. I listed things I see that have changed. While he still has some good things going for himself, he is showing some decline. The neurologist again diagnosed him with MCI. I requested a pet scan. The neurologist said he sees…
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New symptom - at least for me snd DH
I was wondering if anyone experienced this. In the middle of the night DH started fighting “someone” and unintentionally hit me. He did not hurt me at all. I woke him up snd said he had a very strange experience and told me he was truly sorry. DH is stage 6. Is he acting out a dream? I am not afraid bout it would help me…
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"Blank" Episode
My DH was diagnosed with MCI concerning Alzheimer's in May of 2021. Everything leans to Alzheimer's (familial history, temporal and parietal lobe atrophy, etc). I would guess he was early to mid stage 4. Yesterday, he had an episode where he said he was "blank" for what seemed about 5 minutes. He said he wasn't dizzy or…
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Frustrated with both VA and private insurance
Sorry if this is long, but this is mostly a vent. DH was diagnosed 18 months ago by the VA. The VA neuropsych never put his test results into their system and no one can retrieve it. Multiple doctors within the VA system have requested the test results from the doctor and these requests have all been ignored. He did get a…
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meds
Please chat with your pharmacist and go online to a site like drug.com before giving your loved one anything. When you check for interactions be certain to include all supplements.
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Thank you for caring.
CAREGIVERS WHO REALLY CARE tend to be the best people among us, and they never regret their sacrifice of love and care. Thank you!
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Newly diagnosed DH
I'm not sure what resources are available to me. I know that there is so much that I need to do, but don't know where to begin.
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Embarrassed, hurting, angry, sad
We’ve been married for 55 1/2 years now. And every one of those years my DH has had a sex addiction. I didn’t know it until many years into the marriage. We had two small girls when it all came to the surface. For a lot of reasons that would take a lifetime to tell you, I chose to stay in the relationship. So here we are…
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Not funny part 2
Sorry I’m beating a dead horse but this “friend “ did it again. This morning another email from him telling my DH that he would be back Sunday and this is a direct quote “ I will be back on Sunday, when sister gives me my car keys back” This guy is 65 and has cancer. Of course now my DH is in an uproar and driving is now…
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Early Onset Advice?
This is my very first post and I have a tendency to be verbose, so, sorry for that if you are in a hurry to get to my point. Pretty much all of it is my point. I'm hoping someone will recognize a pattern in all these details and have some targeted advice for me. I'm going down with MDW at this point and it is getting ugly.…
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Like The Good Ol' Days
Before she moved to memory care, I enjoyed taking DW to the movies, though it was sometimes challenging. The darkness scared her, the sound blasted her, and she didn’t always “follow the rules”. One time, as the tension rose in the lead-up to the shoot-out in The Magnificent Seven, my sweetheart just said loud and clear,…
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Home Safety Checklist
...and a link to other safety topics and tips. Posted in the Caregivers forum as well.
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Christmas tree still up!
I'm sure the neighbors are wondering why we haven't taken it down. We had several light-up decorations up over Christmas and my DH took it upon himself to turn them on in the morning and turn them off at night. He took this task very seriously and I was concerned when Christmas was over that he might be upset taking them…
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I don't know how to deal with this
I've dealt with memory lapses before, but I don't know how to deal with this one. DW has basically lost all memory of at least yesterday and today. She says she hasn't seen me in days and says I should just tell her if I want a divorce. I could provide witnesses that saw her and me together at least today, and I could…
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Don't think I can do it
I have a move in date of Feb 1 for my DW's placement. The closer it gets the more apprehension I have about it. I feel as if I have a second wind and can care for her a while longer, maybe one more year, I'm falling into a routine cleaning her each morning because every morning is a mess but it's no longer a big deal to me…
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CELA or Attorney Practicing Elder Law
Is there any significance to hiring a CELA over an Attorney that advertises they practice elder law but is not designated as a CELA?
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Had to share
Yesterday dh was asked “how many children do you have “ his response “300 and working on one more “! Gotta love those numbers!
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When can i go home
Just cant get past the i want to go home issue. Every night is has become our conversation. She wants to know when we are going home, i try and deflect it but she keeps coming back to it, this is so depressing. She wants something we cant do and i cant stop her from talking about it and if i ignore it she is mad at me all…
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Won't Shower
Even though this was not a bit funny when it happened, I thought I would share it with all of you. My DH refuses to bathe - no showers or baths for that big man. He was fastidious prior to his dementia and would be appalled to know he's doing this. Last night I got him ready for bed, then walked him to the bathroom to use…
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It’s Just Not Funny
I just have to vent and this forum is it. It’s therapeutic to type or write for me. This neighbor had surgery last week and my DH and him are friends. Not go to the ballpark friends but they did meet for coffee on Sundays occasionally. He sent an email to my DH asking him to get his mail and check on the garbage cans if he…
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Scripts for MC move
I’m looking for advice on what kind of stories you all have used to tell your LOs why they are moving to MC. My Care Manager advises me to make up a reason, and share this script with the MC staff, with friends and family who will visit my DW, and use it whenever I visit. Besides the dread of lying to my wife of 48 years,…
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Chosing a facility
Questions to ask before choosing an assisted living facility (msn.com)
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Newbie
Hello folks, I am 64. The man of my life (62) had started showing memory short term memory loss over the last 9/10 months . Both his parents suffered from a dementia at the time of their passing. He finally noticed enough that he agreed to get tested we’re just starting with the GP short term, memory test.After the test ,…
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Mr Toad and the Chocolate
It’s been a long time since I posted here. I am in the 16th year of the journey with my wife, now in hospice at the Memory Care Center. Her words are long gone, she’s on soft food, and her light-up-the-room smile flashes on much less often. But the person I have loved for half a century is still…the person I still and…
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My DH is losing ground, but I am not sure if it is because we moved.
My DH and I have moved twice in a little over a year. The first time we moved to a single family home to be near his brother. something my DH was sure would solve all of his problems. That was a total disaster, and as soon as the golf season was over, my DH was so depressed and anxious he couldn't leave the house. I knew…
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Lequimbe
Hello. I'm new to the group and I'm hoping for advice and information as I navigate this new life with my LO. A year ago at 59, he was diagnosed with MCI. This has been going on for four years now, and in the last six months it seems to be progressing quickly. The dr wants to start him on Lequinbe but he hasn't had a…
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Certified Elder Lawyer
Does anyone have any suggestions on what questions I should ask when I meet with the Elder Lawyer? I plan on asking about Wills, trusts, Power of Attorney, and protecting assets. I am sure there is more I should ask or be worried about that I do not know.
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Hiring caregiver on my own
I'm looking for input on hiring a caregiver. I have tentatively identified a candidate experienced in Alz caregiving and used by people I vaguely know. I was told the candidate is "dependable and nothing was ever missing." It was a very brief conversation with that one reference and I want to dig to see if there are…