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scavenger hunt
I seem to spend a lot of time tracking down things DW has "lost". Prime suspect #1 is DW's eyeglasses. DW panics that she's lost her glasses and says she's desperate and can't see without them. She only needs them for distance, not close vision, so she takes them off a lot. I got her an "eyeglass chain", but DW decided she…
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JUST NEED SOME PRAYERS UPDATE 12/5/23
My heart is breaking. I had to drop my DH off at a Memory Care facility today. We fibbed that we were taking him to lunch. I had to leave without saying goodbye. I have been his caregiver since he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's-Posterior Cortical Atrophy 2 years ago. Recently I was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive cancer…
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and so it begins. . .
My DW is wetting the bed and her clothes nightly now. Have absorbent pads down under the fitted sheet but I have to change her clothes and the bedsheets every morning now. She gets hysterical, screaming and yelling at me to leave her alone but the hysterics are every morning for the last year or two now anyway. She's…
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Advise on When to Retire
My 58 year old husband was recently diagnosed with EO AD and will likely go on LTD next summer. We are in good shape financially and his insurance will cover us until he is 65 at the employee rate (not COBRA). I am 61 and was planning on working until 65 but am now wondering if I should quit early so we can do some of the…
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Traveling with Spouse
My Dh was diagnosed with early onset AD on April 2022. I would love to take him to back to his favorite city - New Orleans for Christmas He is about stage 5 -early 6. Trying to decide if this a good idea or not. I have to keep him safe. - he does get lost our home sometimes. Any travel tips for staying in s hotel? AirBNB…
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Pedicure tips
This morning DH complained about a hole in his sock hurting him. I told him to take it off and gave him another. With the sock off, I was stunned at how long his toenails have grown. Up until recently, he was keeping up with this himself. That ship has apparently sailed... a while ago, while I wasn't looking. So tomorrow…
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Pets and Dementia
My DW and I have always had pets -- cats and dogs. Our old, sweet last cat and our old dog passed away from cancer a couple of years before we moved and we haven't replaced them. I miss having pet energy in the house and now my DW doesn't really want them. She says she doesn't want to have to take care of them, as if…
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Caring for my wife who may be near the end.
I am having a very tough time dealing with what might be the end for my dear wife of over 36 years. How does one cope. We are both members of a faith community, but it is still too hard. Any ideas>
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New to hospice & have questions about your experiences
Hi All, DH is at home with me, and just qualified for hospice after an in-home assessment. I don’t believe he is in his final 6 months. For those in Stage 7 (or Stage 8) and have used hospice, how long has your LO been on it? Is it hard to requalify after the initial 90 days and every time thereafter? The hospice company…
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New member Alzh_Dem2
Recopied: My husband has dementia. He turned 90 yrs in July. Presently he can still take care of his personal needs. He doesn't drive anymore and in the past few yrs I have become responsible for most of our finances. He uses his tablet for updating himself on the news every morning with coffee. He uses the phone to order…
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Neurologist visit questions
I am bringing my DH to a new neurologist tmrw. He is in the early stage of Alzheimer’s, and has already been evaluated by a neuropsych. Any suggestions on questions to ask, tests that should be done (CT scan suggested), other advice?
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Our anniversary was yesterday. . .
I din't even bother to say "Happy Anniversary!", get her flowers, a card anything. The day just came and went like all others. If I would've gave her flowers, she would be asking where they came from every few minutes until I finally have to put them out of sight. She hasn't recognized our marriage in two or three years so…
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Younger onset, or forthcoming Alzheimer's at later date?
Symptoms with start dates. Some dates are guesses because I only began paying attention to symptoms this year (2023): 2023: Difficulty judging distances. Think I stopped the PWD from jumping in front of cars coming from two directions recently. The look on the PWD's face indicated they were going to try to cross a street…
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Article on Positive Experience With Placement
The Attached article is one caregivers positive experience with placement. I can relate to much of what he is writing about from my experience at my wife’s MC. I have gotten to know many of the other residents and have had a lot of positive interaction with them. https://flip.it/gYJ2Tp
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Interventions
DH recently diagnosed with AD. Not formally staged but it looks to me that he is mild with one moderate trait. I have received numerous suggestions for interventions, some confusing, some depressing. I am interested in exploring possible interventions from those of you with the actual experience. Thank you
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Best Housing Options Moving Forward After Diagnosis
Hello, I am new and this is my first post. My wife, the love of my life, was diagnosed with early onset 2 days ago in Quito Ecuador. We are retired, me 62/she 56 bilingual hispanic, from Alaska to the coast of Ecuador. We lived the dream for almost 2 years on the beach which is really awesome. I plan on moving back to USA…
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TISSUES RECOMMENDED: Heartfelt Commercial Beautifully Done Re Alz's
Perhaps not entirely realistic for many, but heartfelt and meaningful; beautifully done in its own way and meaning. Done with input from Alz Assn.: https://www.yahoo.com/news/finance/news/tears-streaming-down-face-chevy-003621454.html J.
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Be Careful about Moving
A little over a year ago, my DH and I were living in South Carolina. My husband started exhibiting symptoms of dementia, but I just didn't realize how far along he was. He insisted that he wanted to move back to NJ where he would be near his brother and other family. I gave in and agreed, and it has been a disaster. His…
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My turn to announce, stage 8 has begun
My wife Judy passed away tonight. She had a heart attack and is with Jesus now. It all seems surreal. This morning I looked at her as I woke her and for some reason I thought that I would have to face her death, little did I know this would be that day. I even wrote it down tonight when I got home. I guess writing it down…
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How do you not take delusions personally
I know I should not take delusions personally, but I am having a hard time with that. My wife has delusions of me having an affair with our 18 year old granddaughter. We have 4 kids and this granddaughter is the daughter of the only one of our kids that is being supportive. Anytime I mention having any association with my…
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Delusions of an affair
My husband began to weep uncontrollably because of thinking someone had died over and over again. Acknowledging that he felt that way and that the person was okay helped a lot. But it happened time after time. Getting some medication helped and he doesn't have those hallucinations anymore. Leah
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2 possible symptoms: Social withdrawal and hoarding, question about?
Hi-- My first question is about a social withdrawal symptom: I can count 22 people - family and friends - who my person has intentionally offended over the last few years. In some instances to try to keep them from staying in our house as vacation guests. We have typically stayed in other family members' homes, sleeping in…
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Worried about Friend - Caregiver —
She finally has him in a care facility. But, everyday visits , worried about increasing costs, not taking care of herself . I believe she may run out of money — she’s about 70. We get het to some friend ‘’gatherings’’. ?? Advice please .
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Bidet humor
I love to watch comedy videos to lighten my stress. Hope someone else can enjoy this (non-dementia) bidet humor! 😁 https://youtu.be/bTL8w6ZfBAs?si=uDp5KhLRJjAbKBlo
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How to handle inappropriate urination
My 74-year old DH is in mid-stage Alzheimers. Recently he has started peeing in odd places -- a wastebasket, the garage floor, the sunroom floor, etc. A diaper isn't really an option because it's not like he can't control it, he just doesn't limit it to the toilet. I've removed most things that might be inviting targets…
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Am I going crazy...
For the past 3 weeks my DH has been sleeping all day long. He hasn't been eating and has lost a lot of weight. He was diagnosed with Dementia about 6 years ago. If he gets up, it is usually about 5 pm and he rarely gets dressed. BUT now, for the last two days, he has gotten up around 3 pm and gets dressed? He has actually…
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New to this group
My husband is 69. He has late stage Alzheimer’s. He is currently obsessed with his clothes. So much so that I am unable to change the subject. He becomes argumentative. I try to distract him but it’s not working. I am working with neurologist, a Nurse Practitioner (psych), VA case manager and his primary are physician. I’m…
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How to respond...
We invited some friends to come over to see our Christmas decorations (my DH wants to invite everyone over!). It was a husband and wife and one of two couples who are our closest friends. A few days after they were here, DH suddenly says that she was being a b** and he doesn't want her to come over anymore. I don't know…
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Jo C. thinking of you today
I'm thinking of your today @Jo C. I hope your hospitalization yields some answers and a plan forward for a better quality of life for you. I also hope David continues to improve. Loop us in when you feel up to it. HB
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Just Need Some Prayers update 12/1/2023
UPDATE - MY PET Scan showed the cancer has not spread in my body but still have the MRI to see if it spread to my brain. I'll take the good news. Port goes in Monday. Sadly, Tuesday I will drop my DH off at a Memory Care facility for a 30 day respite care so they can evaluate him and if he does well they will accept him…