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Sex
my elderly husband was recently diagnosed with dementia/Alzheimers. He has always looked at porn but lately he has started interacting. He asked one if they could meet up for sex. He sent a picture of his genitals to another. And he has said negative comments about me. We were having sex 2-3 times a week. We’re both 72. I…
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Memory care placement too early
I am checking my mother into a memory care unit tomorrow. My 87-year-old father cares for her today but she’s had so many delusions lately and fixations! She’s become aggressive with him as well. Cognitively it feels too early for her! I’m choosing a respite option so I can potentially move her out if I realize it is too…
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Resentment
I visit mom once a week and take her out to lunch most weeks if the weather is good. Yesterday before we left she told a friend she would not be down for lunch because her daughter was taking her out. The friend made a comment about how lucky she is that she gets to go out so much. Mom replied my son takes me out a lot…
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Crisis of Faith
My DH died on January 7, and I am finding it so hard to believe in "God's will" and all of the other platitudes I am hearing. It is almost impossible for me to attend church, because I am so angry at God. While I am sitting there, hearing all about the goodness and love, I just want to ask - why us? why him? Why didn't we…
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Thinking of moving my mom out of care facility
My mom, 87, is in the later stages of Alzheimer's. She was never formally diagnosed, but it has been at least a decade and probably closer to 15 years since she first started noticing she was having memory issues. Unfortunately her concerns were dismissed as just normal aging memory loss. She lived with my brother until…
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Hallucinations
My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimers last year. He is experiencing quite a few hallucinations nearly all day. Has anyone dealt with this much and if so what did you do? He is aware that what he is seeing is probably not there but is confused because he really sees it. Just wondering if there is any meds out there that…
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Way forward
Hello, I am here to join one of the worst clubs. I’ve been having a hard time lately, especially because my husband has started to accept—without much resistance—that he needs help. That’s not like him. I mentioned adult day care, and he said we should talk about it. He is legally blind and was diagnosed when he was around…
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New to taking care of DH
My DH has been diagnosed for about 1 year. I recently decided to retire to take care of him. It is a lot harder than I thought. I guess my work distracted me from what was really going on at home. He does have the anger and distrust with me. We are going to move closer to family and at first he said no but now agrees. He…
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How to find case/social worker to help
My parents have many health issues, including my father who has dementia. All of my siblings and I live hours away. We have set up in home care, but it was dependent on my mother being there to regulate/direct my father. We have each spent weeks living in our old bedrooms trying to make the in home care work without us. It…
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Vagus Nerve Stimulation Information and Trials
I would like to know who I can contact or where I can find a research trial for my wife using Vagus Nerve Stimulation therapy to treat her dementia condition. Any help would be appreciated. We live in the Cincinnati, Ohio Metro area. Thank you.
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Camera advice
Hi I am caring for my aunt who has Alzheimer's and vascular dementia. I have one family member who is trying to go against everything that we are trying to do for my aunt. I had place cameras in her apt ( common areas only) as well as sensors on her doors to obviously keep her safe. WELL her brother told her about the…
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41 years today
My DW. I’ve never met any of you guys personally. But I feel a friendship with all of you deeper than most people I know. This site has been a lifesaver.
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Do I Have to Accept His Version of Reality?
My DH was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. His mother passed away 30 years ago after a long difficult battle with dementia, and he is depressed about his diagnosis given his previous involvement in his mother's care. He was managing pretty well with the original 2024 diagnosis of mild cognitive impairment, but this…
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Bad visits are just so disappointing
I would say about 1/3 of my visits to see my parent in the hospital are very poor though I shouldn't complain because she is never mad at me which is a blessing. It's just so disappointing to have a terrible visit because the drive is terrible, a geriatric psychiatric unit is just not an easy place to be even a well run…
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Durable POA
My mom and stepdad have a document titled durable power of attorney. However, in the document itself, it says that one of them have to die for the other to have the power. Both parents have dementia. Does the fact that it’s a durable pile attorney give the secondary power of attorney’s access
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My mom has EOAD… need advice/support
Hi People, I have never had the courage to ask this question of the health professionals, I feel disloyal even asking it, and every time I have to verbalise my family’s situation, I burst into tears, but here goes. My mom was diagnosed almost 4 years ago at 46 years old during my freshman year of college, she still lives…
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Regarding donepezil and memantine
DW was prescribed donepezil and memanine upon her diagnosis several years back. My understanding is that this is a pretty common drug regiment for those diagnosed with ALZ. DW is in stage 6 and it is quite the effort to get her to take her pills each day. My question for those whose PWD used either or both of these drugs.…
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Cross country move advice
We are moving to NC to be closer to family. DH has a cognitive disorder, likely VD from 3 previous strokes. His memory is surprisingly good but executive function skills are compromised by vascular disease. I've decided to move us from CA to NC, a very daunting task given 40 yrs of accumulated possessions. I've been going…
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Early Onset Alzheimer's at 49
Hello, I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's in October at the age of 49. I've had the the test and it does show I have one variance of the APOE/4 gene and the only kind of Alzheimer's we have my family is on my mom's side and they were diagnosed in their middle to late '70s. This is just been a shock I knew…
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Patient care
Hey guys im new here but j have been working with dementia patients for almost while now. However last year i took a full time caregiving shift and would like to know if anyone else has or is experiencing this. So its two caregivers, when the morning caregiver leaves and i come in my patient starts asking for sweets and…
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How to handle hurtful lies
How do I handle my mother making up extremely hurtful lies about people? I can handle lies about minor things but she will say her car was "stolen from her" (my best friend's son bought it). She also told me that my cousin couldn't have children because she'd had an abortion in the past. When I ask how she knows this, she…
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Help needed - dealing with delusions
My Mom is 91 y/o, living alone, with dementia/Alz. She is convinced that her neighbor is getting into her condo and "ruining my Mom's Life!" Anything that is missing, marked or newly noticed by my Mom is her neighbor's doing. Over time, we have added 3 deadbolts on her front door and a motion camera in her foyer (which has…
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Grupo de apoyo, dónde encontrarlo y cómo unirme
Hola, mi mamá tiene Alzheimer y bueno ha resultado ena enfermedad bastante desafiante. Pensé que me estaba preparando lo suficiente, pero realmente entre la teoría y la práctica hay definitivamente un componente emocional que no tenía contemplado. Me gustaría poder formar parte de algún grupo virtual que tenga reuniones…
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Dad newly diagnosed
hello everyone! My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last September 2025. He’s still very functional on his own, but I’m definitely noticing changes. One big question I have is is it common for people with Alzheimer’s to withdraw socially? My dad has never been one to be outgoing at family events but lately he leaves…
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It was a great day, until it wasn't
The majority of the day was exceptional. I took my DW out for breakfast and she ate well. We returned home shortly thereafter. We then relaxed and talked for a bit. Her mother is coming up to visit in a week and that cheers her up. We talked about her last job, which she excelled at. Truly, she did. She worked for Kirkland…
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Infusion Treatments Leqembi vs Kisunla which is better treatment?
My dad was recently diagnosed with mild Alzheimers. His doctors selected him to be a good candidate for Leqembi and Kisunla. Has anybody gone through the infusion treatment? Can someone give their best opinion on this topic? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Anosognosia, suggestions?
My mom moved into AL yesterday and is slowly realizing that most people around her have some kind of ailment. She is so annoyed by all the attention from the nursing staff and is saying things like “They’re acting like I am here for a medical reason” and “What have you got me into?” I know you can’t rationalize with…
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Hello, I'm New Here
I signed up here last December, but I haven't made any posts yet. Thank you for all of the posts so many of you have made! My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and cerebral amyloid angiopathy (CAA) in November of 2025. He had symptoms starting in 2020, and was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment at that time.…
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Has anyone used out-of-pocket AD biomarker blood tests (p-tau217, amyloid blood test)
Posting on behalf of a family in Virginia dealing with a frustrating situation. My friend's father is showing clear functional decline in daily life — the family has noticed definite changes — but his screaning test(maybe MoCA?) came back normal. Because of that result, his doctor is refusing to order further workup like…
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Wife Slow to Move her Mom
My FIL passed away at the beginning of January. He was the sole caretaker for my MIL. They live in a very rural area. He never had her officially diagnosed. Now my wife and I are living with my MIL who according to her PCP has moderate to advanced dementia. As you all know, some days are just infuriating. She will obsess…