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Just need support
I just joined this forum and am so glad I found it. My mom is 90 and was diagnosed with ALZ 3.5 years ago. It has been a slow but steady decline. We moved her closer to us before her diagnosis to a senior facility with IL, AL, MC & SN. She started in IL and moved to AL about a year ago when she was having trouble with her…
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Help! Handling hyper chatter..?!
Hello, brave caregiver! This issue is hardly the worst thing that Dementia has to offer, but I can’t seem to find communication tips that cover it! I don’t know how how to talk to, or even around, my dad! He and my mom (87 & 86) are together in memory care. Her dementia appears pretty minor, but my dad has no short term…
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caring for mom
My mom is 84 i am not sure what stage she is in because i am not sure where to go to find this out. Her doctor does not listen so i went to the nurse practitioner. She had a CT and it shows damage to the brain in the areas of the strokes and some calcification at the base of the brain. the nurse practitioner did say it was…
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Bible Study to Lift You Up 5/20/23
GOD IS HIGHER. WE CAN TRUST HIM. Isaiah 55:9 New Living Translation 9 For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. me: Sometimes we kinda understand why some things in our lives have happened, and other times we scratch our heads and say,…
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my father with dementia is still CEO of his company; looking for advice
Hi, I have a tricky situation and feeling lost about what to do. My father founded a company and he has been running it for over 20 yeas. He has developed dementia over the past few years. As of now, his symptoms are: Consistently doesn’t know where he is (such as which town or state or even if he is in his own home) He…
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Parent won’t let anyone touch her
My mom won’t let no one touch her she has Alzheimer’s and it progressing she urinating on her self and won’t let staff change her or bedding my n my sister are help in caring for her it’s a battle getting her to change room smells all time like urine where burnt out staff wants to help but she won’t let them She use to be…
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Anyone in a similar situation? Parent w/ anxiety, depression, benzo & alcohol addiction, MCI
My mom (69) lives with my sister & sister's husband. Her mental health issues have been escalating over the years, rising sharply after she was laid off and pandemic hit. When short term memory issues became very evident, we started attending all her medical appointments and pushing for neuro assessments. Here's what we…
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When siblings do not help
Hi, I have a mother who was just recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I have 2 other siblings, but they do not move unless I remind them. I am annoyed and frustrated. What can I say or do for them to help out?
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Anger in young onset
My LO has young onset, lately she has been more agitated if she has to wait for anything. Waiting in the car in drive thru, waiting for me to pick her up. I mean just minutes and she is Furious. And it's hours to calm her back down. I don't understand what the trigger is. Any ideas, suggestions.
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Can't be satisfied
In the past 6 months my mom has moved 4 times, the last being just 3 weeks ago, and she is already desperate to move again. She is currently in assisted living and feels she can live in her own apartment/home, which she is unable to manage. We are at a complete loss how to calm her down and encourage her to find peace and…
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Asking "I want to go home"
Hello, I recently started to care for my mother-in-law she is recovering from a stroke and has mid stage dementia. We relocated her from another state as she can no longer live alone. She asks about going home every hour it seems like. I try to change the topic and divert the conversation and it works for a couple minutes.…
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Introducing myself
Hello. I am brand new to the group. My mother was diagnosed with demential in November of last year. She lives in South Africa and I live in California and I haven't been able to visit yet due to an injury I have. She is well taken care of and is in good spirits most of the time; I FaceTime with her most days. I am mostly…
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Refusal to walk into home
MIL was moved out of town out of her home into a condo closer to 2 sons. Lately, Every time she is returned back to her condo from church, hairdresser or even a walk she refuses to go in and says that it is not her home. It can take 20 minutes to get her to walk in the door. She has 24 hour live in care Once inside she is…
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Delusions with aggressiveness
what actions should I take when my mom wakes at night and is screaming at me for beating her up or steeling her car? Of course I am not really doing either of these awful things. Advice please
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Early dementia in my mother living with us affecting me, my husband and son
Hi everyone, I am struggling to say the least. It is thought my mom has dementia, specifically behavioral variant FTD. It has been a whirlwind because she moved in with us and we didn't know she had this and figured it out along the way. She has annoying behaviors and even though my son and husband know it, they get…
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New to this Site
I'm Katie and this is my first post on this site. My story is that my dad started having early dementia right before March of 2020 when the pandemic began. When I found out that he was diagnosed, I felt my world just fell apart. In the beginning, he was functioning and was independent. When he retired in April of 2020,…
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Lost trust
My MIL & I have always had a good relationship, but in her ALZ-driven paranoia, she now no longer trusts me to take care of her (thinks we are stealing her things, messing with her phone, etc.). She wants to move back to her home about a mile from us (has been living with us for 7 months), but it's not really practical.…
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My 83 yrs old Mother in Law has Severe Sciatica Any help in here re pain management in ALZ patients?
It's been over 3 weeks since sciatica took her to the ER. Not much help from docs. Just Lots of drugs. No in home nurse provided. We're on our own. She forgets she had a heavy med just 5 minutes earlier and is always screaming for more. Because her pain is always new pain, even if it improves we often dont know it cause to…
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Vent: I can't handle how rude the disease is to my father
Vent: Just got back from a Mother's Day visit. Mom (LO, moderate dementia) was sweet as ever to me, my husband, and our dog, but many times when my Dad (primary) speaks, the dementia makes some rude, snappish comment at him. Whenever I try to have a discussion with Dad that can't include Mom—conversations I try to have…
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Did my mom have sex with a caregiver?
My mom has been in AL for 5 months now. Yesterday she told me that she had sexual intercourse with one of her male caregivers. There were lots of holes in her story and she couldn't answer some of my questions. My brother and I feel fairly certain that it didn't really happen, but how do we process this and get resolution?…
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Oh so new !
So 2018 my mom was diagnosed with Late stage Alz. He husband (stepfather) of 40 years. Started stealing money from my mom. I caught him red handed. With that he took them both to Florida were they have been snow-birds for 20plus years. They left at the start of COVID. He discounted phones, we lost all communications with…
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Internet Access
My mother is in Level 3 middle stage dementia. Long before her diagnosis, she had spending/hoarding issues... why purchase one of something, when you can buy a case (then forget and purchase another case)?. She claimed she was being a prepper, but her memory loss was often the reason for recurring purchases. After…
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How to know when it's time for MC
My husband and I have been caring for my dad since Sept 2020, and lately he doesn't do anything but sit and stare into space. He thinks he's watching TV when it isn't on. I've tried a lot of things but they only engage him for a few minutes. Even with our respite caregivers all he wants to do is sit and watch TV but he…
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Managed debit card?
Curious to know if anyone has found a debit card option that allows for limits managed by someone (me). For instance, Chase First Banking is a debit card for kids, but it's limited to ages 6-17. Does such a thing exist for an elder parent that could be managed by the child—setting limits on where and how much the…
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This is MY home
My mother was diagnosed with ALZ in 2018. She came to live with me in IN at the end of last year. Prior to that, she had lived with my sister in NJ for 15+ years. She owned her own home briefly before that and we lived with her parents when I was young. She is often mumbling/whispering but I cannot tell what she is saying.…
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Took my mom but the new digs
Caring for my wife with advanced Alzheimer's and my mom with moderate dementia. Took my mom by the very nice MC and she hates me. Stopped to get something to drink but she won't sit with us. She is trying to escape.
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Newbie
I'm one of the new kids here. My mom has had memory issues it seems like forever. She "retired" at 49 due to MS. She is now 76. My stepfather (85) has Parkinson's. Mom was given a neuro-memory test last year. Dr said without a new scan she can't give her memory loss 100% name, but 97% sure Alzheimer's it's name. I'm…
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Mom won’t come home from friends
My mother is in middle stage Alzheimer’s. Her friend wanted her to come over for a sleepover with another two friends that they went to college with. Before leaving, my mother was being difficult and angry because I wouldn’t let her do certain things because of safety reasons. I thought it would do her good to be around…
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Recommendations for AL facilities in either NY or FL?
Has anyone move a family member into an AL in the Citrus County area of FL or Orange County area of NY? Both would work for my parents who are just about ready to give up living in their own independent apartment. Hoping someone on this forum can recommend a place they have dealt with personally as online reviews are a…
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Helping Dad
So I’m just getting home from driving 45 minutes each way to diffuse an argument between my parents. Mom has dementia and dad is doing his best, but loses patience and gets upset with her when she gets confused. This leads to fighting, but then she can’t convey why they’re arguing she just knows she’s upset. I’m unable to…