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Mental illness adult siblings
I’m wondering if any other families are grappling with the added complexity of having a mentally ill sibling incapable of providing adequate care, but dependent financially on a parent with dementia. I had to intervene 6 months ago and remove my mom from an abusive living situation with my brother. Mom had tried to get him…
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Practicing Detachment in Caregiving
Hello, I am the only child/solo caregiver for 91 yr old mother with Dementia/multiple health issues, I am the emotional, hands on, engaged type who does all things to full throttle. This approach does not work when dealing with aging in general and dementia in particular. I have to learn how to detach from the caregiving…
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Setting Boundaries on Home Maintenance
Mom was diagnosed with dementia several months ago, and is in the moderate stages. Her siblings, her doctor and I have all talked with her about AL, but she is digging her heels in and refusing to move. She lives in a big house by herself that requires significant maintenance. Several weeks ago, her TV broke and she was in…
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Anger
Hello everyone.My name is Ashley.I am my grandmother’s caregiver.She has undiagnosed dementia.She has all the signs and symptoms.We actually go next months for diagnosis.I am 35 finishing my degree and I care for her alone.My mom is in a rehabilitation facility because of major mobility issues and I ensure she is taken…
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Struggling with resentment
My mom is still in MC but is really pushing to go back to AL. Because she is on the cusp of needing it, her facility would allow it. She has NPH and has (thank god!) finally agreed to get the surgery. We all agreed that she’ll stay in MC, get the surgery, and we’ll see how things go from there. Here is my challenge: she…
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Managing money
My mom is approximately at level 5 Alz. Her brother who she hangs with every day drives her anywhere she wants to go. My problem; my mom goes to her bank at least 4 days a week. At the bank she will regularly withdraw $50–100 at a time. For example it is 10/20, she has withdrawn $900. How can I stop this action?
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Please Delete
If i could delete my old posts i would please be so kind and delete thanks so much!!
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Moving my folks into my house
My dear mom (DM) has Alzheimer's. My dear dad (DD) is her primary caregiver. They are both in their mid-eighties. We live in the same town, as does my sister and my brother. I assist my DD care for DM, plus a caregiver comes in 3 days a week. Additionally, DM attends a day program 2 days a week. Three years ago, I had my…
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ANGER with ALZ
My mom needs to be on medicine as she has become some irritable and very mean. Calls us names, hits and refuses to go to the doctor. She still drives, remembers quite a bit but forgets with her short term memory (the day, etc). How can you convince someone they need something for their mood?? We cant do a surprise visit…
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What to do after the diagnosis
My dad was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. However, his neurologist said he’s been on the cognitive decline for about 3 years already. Unfortunately, I only started noticing changes in his personality and memory at the beginning of this year. The things that were most noticeable were problems with his short term…
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How to communicate with a parent in denial
Hello! Rather abruptly it has become clear my mom will need to be in MC for at least the immediate short term, or even longer. She had an episode of delirium after attempting to travel solo to a family member, and while she has largely recovered, her baseline is way worse than before this episode. She was released from the…
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need help on how to socialize with my parent
My mom has had Alzheimer's for about 5 yrs now, and symptoms are to the point where my dad is fatigued by the daily routine of caring for her. She can do the basics, but can no longer cook, drive, etc. She has various obsessions (makeup, eye drops, etc) and is always losing things and perhaps throwing them away, to his…
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Practical ideas for dealing with "stolen" toothpaste
My mother moved to AL in late June and has adjusted very well. However, in the last two weeks, she has suddenly become convinced that one of the staff is stealing . . . her toothpaste. I purchased two large tubes just over two weeks ago as I noticed she was getting low. Then a few days ago, she said she needed more…
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Trouble helping my mother
My mom has been diagnosed with dementia for quite some time. She can't communicate with us properly, she can't do anything by herself yet we can't help her with everything since she isn't communicating back to us when we ask her. It's even the basic things like food, she can't give me or any of us an answer that we can…
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Care Taker Under 30
Hello to all! I'm making my first post here to try and gain some insight from people who are in a similar position as I. My mom is not even 60 yet, but she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's (early stage thankfully) back in 2022, so this is all still fairly new as we both adjust to our new realities. It's been quite difficult…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/17/23
*TODAY'S VITAMIN We pray & help people as guided. Jesus taught "everyone" is our neighbor. See Luke 10:30-37 NLT for Jesus' teaching about the Good Samaritan. *I NEED TO REVIEW THIS OFTEN. How about you? 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New Living Translation 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or…
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Do falls exacerbate Alzheimers?
My MIL with Alzheimers fell recently, about 2 weeks ago. We found her on the floor by her bed and she had been there for hours. She could not get herself up. Nothing was broken, she was just embarrassed and mad at herself. She also had Covid at this time. She has recovered nicely from Covid but her depression and dementia…
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How can I make my questions easier to understand?
My grandfather has AD and has not been answering my questions properly as of late. One time we were out at a restaurant having some soup. I helped him take a quick sip of his soup and asked him whether it was too hot. He replied stating that it was delicious and that he wanted to have some more. Thinking that he meant that…
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Behavior: Taking items not hers
My mom is in MC unit and has been taking things from other resident rooms. Anyone else have this issue? What are they doing to manage the behavior?
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It's time for placement in a facility. How do I start?
Hi. I am not sure I have chosen the correct category, but here goes. It is time to place my wife's aunt in some kind of long-term care facility. She has been diagnosed with vertebrobasilar and carotid insufficiencies and she is an amputee. She is 88 years hold, and otherwise in pretty good health. She is getting much more…
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Moving dad to memory care in 5 days
Hi everyone. I posted here a few weeks ago and the responses were so helpful. I am moving my dad to MC in just a few days and I could use some encouragement. He is moving from his home of almost 40 years. I set up the apartment and it looks really nice. The facility is beautiful and all of the staff I’ve interacted with…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 9/29/23
*Friends, as always, thank you for your comments. May God bless each one of you. Ronnie FAITH OR SINK Matthew 14:30-31 New King James Version But when he saw that the wind was boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink he cried out, saying, “Lord, save me!” And immediately Jesus stretched out His hand and caught him,…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/14/23
FORGET THE PAST & PRESS ON Philippians 3:12-14 New Living Translation “I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. 13 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I…
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Cellulitis - Wound Care or Dermatologist
Hi, I need some help here. I don't know which doctor to take my dad to - Wound Care doctor or Dermatologist. I have an appointment on Friday, but maybe I should call his primary, but I don't know if they would see him that quickly. I want to get him on antibiotics quickly. We are treating it with neosporin and it hasn't…
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Incontinent tips?
Hi family---any methods to help with avoiding toilet accidents? We have been taking Mom at least every hour to the bathroom. she asks "where is the bathroom" as she doesn't remember where it is. We have a lighted toilet bowl that draws attention. I say have a seat, nice n clean. We "standby" for assistance. We have some…
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Struggling with how he is cared for...
Hi all, My father is 75, and has had dementia for several years now. I am fortunate as he is still pleasant to be around, wants to help and remembers who I am. What I am struggling with is how my Step Mother is caring for him. I feel that she has given up, doesn't engage with him and just tries to get through the day. I…
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Ok thanks for the info. Now what do we do??
What a horrific disease this is. An absolute living death for them - and us. This is my first post & :s I know I'm not alone here, but, in short, what about both elderly parents with dementia? Mom is clearly the worst with her irrational anger, confusion, and waning self care. Dad's forgetfulness and confusion are…
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Hip surgery and dementia
I am looking for feedback from anyone who’s had a LO go through hip surgery in a mid to late stage dementia and what the outcome was. I need to make a decision for my 79 yr old mom who has been walking (with walker) on a broken hip for months. She was fully ambulatory prior to the fall & loved to walk & dance. It was…