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Kind of hurt my feelings when...
my mom forgot who I was (yes, she mixes my adult daughter and I up all the time) but this time, when my Mom looked at me puzzled, after I reminded her that I wasn't my daughter and happened to ask her "who am I." My mother answered that I was her niece. She didn't say which niece but categorized myself as one and she has…
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Alarm vs baby monitor
My father was just diagnosed with a severe heart block, and has been starting with dizziness and hallucinations he reacts to. He's been confined to a wheelchair because he falls when he walks away from his walker, which he does a lot now, and he's getting up at night on his own, mostly, I think, to go to the bathroom. I'm…
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Melatonin?
Anyone supplement their LO meds with melatonin?
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New and needing to vent
Hi everyone. My mom moved in with me in January 2019 after a bout with cancer(breast). At the time we were told that her age (86)could cause Problems with her memory. She was more than capable to handle her daily routines, medicines, doctors appointments etc Additionally my only brother had a seizure(2019) and was…
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Alcohol issues - how to handle?
Mom in MCF keeps calling and saying she needs a credit card so she can order "stuff" - she won't say what she wants to order, just that she wants to be able to get stuff when she wants. The problem is that I'm pretty sure what she wants is alcohol. She can actually have a glass of wine with dinner at MCF, but she has long…
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medical bracelet
I'm about to purchase a medical alert bracelet for my Mom. She is in the moderate stages and went out for a walk alone the other day and couldn't find her way home. I've got my stepdad on board with a bracelet, but am looking for phrases to use with her when I present her with the idea. Thanks in advance!
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Not sleeping at night. What to do?
I would appreciate an advice, My grandma has Alzheimers for more than 4 years already and doesn't walk. She wakes up in the middle of the night probably every 3 nights. She sits up and does nothing. It is dark in the room so she stares in the dark. I see it all on the camera that can see in the dark. So, I call help that I…
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Driving...so frustrated and sad
Hi, My mom was diagnosed last October. At the time she decided to stop driving. And she told everyone that I would not let her drive. Now she has been insistent on driving again. She is calling the DMV to set up a driving exam. She is not a safe driver. My kids, dh, etc refuse to ride with her. The dr will not intervene…
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Mom is Threatening to Kill Herself to Manipulate Me and My Siblings
My 84 yo mother who has VD and has been in MC for a little over 3 years now is bored and is continuing to threaten to kill herself unless she can go home. My siblings and I are aware she is trying to make us feel guilty and to try to manipulate us to get her way (she has been doing this for years). I try to remind her that…
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Need Advice, My aunt is becoming incontinent of bowel.
Hi all, in the morning I am beginning to wake up to my aunts sheets being covered in feces. She’s defecating on herself while she is in bed, she removes her disposable brief and places it in the trash or sometimes the commode and it seems like she just poops away. Any suggestions? Has anyone experienced this?
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old newspapers
My dad is in late middle stages. Sometimes he is within 10 years of now sometimes he is back in his late 20's-30's. When going through some of his boxes I found a bunch of old newspapers, sports sections only. He used to save them. Should I take them to him to look at or would that confuse him even more?
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New and overwhelmed(4)
I’m a disabled 49 year old who started caring for my 78 year old father about two months ago. My 77 year old mom is helping. My dad is waiting to see a neurologist for an official Dx. We believe he is ~mid stage Alzheimer’s, but we live rural and with COVID it has taken months to get referrals and appointments. Hopefully…
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neurologist/sundowners
My step father has been in AL/MC for about a year and a half. He is experiencing sundowners now and feels he needs to go home. Right before covid happened his neurologist appt. had to be cancelled and he hasn't been back. To be honest other than the meds I wasn't sure he needed to go anymore. It didn't help that the doctor…
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Outings from MC
Mom has been in MC for about a month now and was basically homebound for months before that due to not driving + Covid. She seems to finally be settling into the MCF a bit and I'm hoping will be reasonably comfortable within another month or two. Looking ahead, as things are opening up and might be closer to normal over…
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New here and struggling
My mom has mid stage ALZ and my dad has recently dealt with his own issues related to cancer and now the effects of a esophajectomy. He has zero patience for my mom, forgetting to give her meds, and continues to think they can continue without help. I feel like I’m being bounced around trying to get them help in their…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/24/21
With All My Heart * Luke 10:27 New International Version “ He answered, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” Galatians 2:16 NIV “know that a person is not justified by the works of the law, but by faith…
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Refusing to shower
I need some ideas on how to get my LO to shower. I've made the shower too steamy and got accused of stealing her oxygen, to cold and she won't undress, she told me I wanted her to break a hip, (there is a chair in the shower). It has been a month since last shower and I need fresh ideas please! Thank you.
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Mean people in Mom's house
Kinda new here, not so sure about this. But here goes. Mom was diagnosed with dementia in 2018 shortly after my Dad passed. I have been her sole caretaker. Boy what a learning curve this journey has been so far! Recently my Mom has started becoming quite emotional, crying jags that rips your heart out. For instance, today…
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Question on getting help
Hi all, It's been a while since I posted, but I have a dilemma I would love to have some input on. My mom’s schedule has changed to where she is staying in bed until about 12pm even though I start waking her at 10:30 am. By the time she gets dressed, goes potty, etc. she does not come out from her room until 1, she won’t…
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New tablet for LO has really helped us, may help you
We all know there can be bumps in the road when it comes to technology and our LOs, especially when they are in AL/MC and visitation is restricted. Our caregiver recommended we buy my mom a Grandpad, which is like a very simplified iPad. I have an app I can use to upload photos to it, call her on it, video call, or text…
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Combative about hygiene
I am taking care of my husband full time and alone since August, when I retired. He was diagnosed with early-onset Alzhemer's in 2014. I don't know stages--what I know is he is healthy and very very very active all day, walking and talking and moving things around the house. He is unable to communicate (though he talks a…
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moving my grandparents
Hi everyone! I am so grateful for this space existing. The best advice comes from those who are walking in my nearly identical shoes. I am considering moving my grandparents closer to me and would love your insight and advice. My grandma is my grandpa's caregiver. She recently told me that she would like to move to be…
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New and trying to find our way.
Hello! I am new here and so far have appreciated reading posts on this forum - thank you all for sharing so openly. This site is not somewhere I thought I'd be posting on in my early 30's... My mother was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's (aged 65). Her neuropsych work-up showed results as anywhere from far below…
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Newbie Sharing Info
Hi All I'm Cate. I am here because my 95 year old gram has Vascular Dementia. She lives in a retirement community with my uncle who is on the spectrum - he is retired and suffers from Asperger Syndrome. My mom and I along with hired caregivers are her main support. My uncle who I adore really isn't in a position to cope…
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Word salad and hot flashes
My LO has random episodes of speaking where the words don’t go together and we have no idea what she is trying to communicate. We have also noticed a lot of the time she will also say that she is hot and take her jacket or top layer off to get cooler. She comes out of it and doesn’t remain feeling warm/hot. She hasn’t had…
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Noises
Just curious does any if your loved ones make loud random noises. Every time my mom sits down or rides in the car she makes these loud yawning sounds and she will do it over and over...some days it drives me crazy.
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Caregivers chat room
I am in the caregivers chat room if anyone wants to join.
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Need advice balancing school, work, and my great grandmother
Hello, I am a 21 year old college student also working full time. Last fall I moved in with my great grandmother to help my grandparents take care of her. For the most part it has been fine, I've had to clean out her fridge and pantry behind her back because she has OCD and becomes very anxious throwing anything…
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Assisted Living dental care
Hello. My Mom is 91 and in an AL facility. I have to handle her bills and stuff as DPOA and health care proxy. She was diagnosed about a year ago with dementia and we had to do the best we could for her before the stress killed us all. The place is very nice but we are depleting her life savings pretty quick after a year…
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cleaning out a life
Need some encouragement--I know that so many of you have gone through this. I am now in the process of cleaning out my parents house to prepare to sell it. Have been putting this off for two years, but cannot avoid it any longer. My mom had a house full of collectibles, glassware--you name it. She knew exactly who gave it…