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I am confused on how to handle the situation...sorta long
I am pretty new to this site, and so much information, honestly I am a bit overwhelmed. So here is my deal: My mother is 81 and was diagnosed with VD in April 2020 and determined she was to have 24/7 in home or in facility care. I am the POA and my brother was there during the emergency portion of the crisis but he no…
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Stage 8: Caregiver Recovery
I'm kinda recovering...? I'M CHANGING MY LIFE! (Or at least thinking 'bout it here and there.) https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/i-m-changing-my-life Rando Calrissian - Me and Lando been pulling together some randos for your dementia pleasure. https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/rando-calrissian Thank you. -…
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something for everyone
This woman is new to me but then maybe I am the last to know. Anyway I do think that her presentation is so broad and understandable that you will find something helpful. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ilickabmjww
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Help! Forgetting bathroom skills
Not using toilet bowl-is this result of forgetting what to do? Aides are cleaning up the mess on the bathroom but it is becoming a problem!
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My Dad dealing with 3 generations of Alzheimers.
https://ronaldhogrefe.com/f/a-life-lived-through-the-eyes-of-alzheimer’s
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So tired(1)
My dad died in 2015 of Alz. My husband died in 2018 of FTD. And now my mom is in the grip of dementia. I am emotionally exhausted. Not so much from the caregiving, but from watching people I love go through this torment. Sometimes it is so sad and overwhelming that I just want her to die. Wondering where God’s mercy is.
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Diazepam for Aggression
Hi everyone Relatively new here and was wondering if anyone had experience with a LO taking diazepam for aggression in dementia patients. My gram has vascular dementia and we are looking for some more effective ways to treat her sundowners. She has suffered from it for years. We have managed up to this point with schedule…
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does this type of facility exist?
My wife is somewhere between mild and moderate Alz at this stage, now officially diagnosed. She can take care of hygiene, read, have a conversation, take a walk.... but can't fill some basic needs, like making meals or writing a check. Our situation has been going on for a year or two, and as her only caregiver I'm…
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Please HELP ME.
Im new in this forum, im a single mother of two. My mother is 61 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer, she is actually in Dominican Republic but will be back to life with me here in USA. My main concern is i cant take care of my mom because i work all day in the field. My Mom don't have medical ensure here, and i dont know…
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Katie bar the door!
Today we had a tree trimmer with the electric company work all day trimming our trees growing into the power lines. The noise was horrible! I took Mom back to her room and we put on her Dolly Parton tunes and I gave her a pedicure. When we were done she wanted to wash her hair. Then we had our first watermelon of the year!…
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Is video truth helpful or hurtful for paranoia?
My mother-in-law (86) has lived alone in a big house for the 40 years since her husband died. She has always been strong and self-reliant. Her granddaughter and I are her only close relatives (not counting her two elderly sisters in Japan). I live 15 minutes away; her granddaughter lives far away in another state. A few…
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My 88 yr old Mother keeps calling the POLICE because she thinks I am an Intruder!
My Mom no longer recognizes me and on Thursday when I was making her a sandwich, she called 911 to report an "intruder." The police came and my mom gave them a big story about the "intruder" breaking in and "beating her up." All not true. It was heart-breaking. I showed them my ID, verified I was her daughter, showed that…
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One Day Notice for 24 hour care assistant while in memory care
Greetings, Yesterday we were informed that my mother was too much a liability for escaping in her facility. We were told she had to be moved to a locked facility and until she was we had to provide 24 care at our expense. We found a place to move her in four days. In the meantime the 24 care fees are $700 a day, with a…
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what should you say?
Hi there, Sometime mom will say something strange. Should I just pretend I understand and agree with her? Or should I try to ask more questions to better understand what she is saying and correct her? Because she just said I know you all think I am crazy. And I do not know what to response. thanks. I am new to this.
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Won't drink enough!
How do you get your LO to drink fluids? I am tired of harping on mom to drink. She will ignore the water,juice, or tea in front of her face and keeps getting UTIs.
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Guardian ad Litem has placed my 73yo sister in a NH
In 2017 my sister was declared incompetent and was appointed a guardian. (I live ~1000 miles away). Until about a month ago, she was living independently in a large elderly apartment building, and was receiving services who would bring her medication/food. This became more difficult with COVID. A few weeks ago, she called…
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How to get a diagnosis when person won't go to a specialist and is it imperitive?
Hi, this is my first time on this site and posting. My mom has been experiencing memory issues for more than a year and recently has starting having delusions about her neighbor and calls me nightly to ask where the kids are. She often thinks she is watching someone's kids or she thinks her adult sons are young and are…
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Advice needed(7)
Hi, My mom was diagnosed two years ago, although I feel like I saw slight shifts to personality and memory years ago. It’s easy to chalk it up to old age although she’s only now 74. My dad was the primary caregiver but he died unexpectedly last June. We moved my mom across country to be close to us. Rough couple of months…
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Can’t do this without you!
To all of you fellow posters and lurkers too It’s been a day of conflicts with my LO and my step-dad and conflicts elsewhere in our virtual lives. I just wanted to tell you how grateful I am that you all lend me your ear when I need to vent and you all type your advice when I need help and am lost and confused. I may not…
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just joined & trying to find connections
Hey everyone, my name is Virginia and I just joined this site. My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in 2017 and she has been through 2 different research and medication trials. Throughout her diagnosis and progression my dad was her partner in everything. But last year, my dad contracted Covid-19 and passed away. She…
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update and proper introdiction
Hello, I posted a few weeks ago that my mom had broken her hip and I was not sure what to do next. I received so many supportive replies, thank you to you all. I wanted to post a proper introduction and an update on my mom. In 2019, I was aware something was wrong. my mom lived alone and I lived about 500 miles away. I…
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how to pee in bed? female
Hi there, I am new to the forum. Mom had a stroke and diagnosed with dementia last month. It is hard to move her out of bed and take her to the bathroom. Just wondering is there anything she can use to pee in the bed at night. Thanks!!
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First time commenting
Hi My name is Vonnie. I am taking care of my mother in law. Lately she has be having both the TV and the radio both up quite loud at the same time. Is this common? The doctors say she has Alzheimer's and all of this is overwhelming. It has been encouraging to read your comments and solutions.
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End of life preparation
My husband died 16 years ago. He has 2 brothers that live in Florida (we r in WV). So Since that time I have cared for their mother. I have known for at least 10yrs something wasn’t right. She gave away at least $30,000 to some scam in Jamaica. I finally had her diagnosed about 5 yrs ago. She lived next door. I fed,…
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Please help, need advice on aggression
My mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s at age 58. She is now 62, and is in the advanced stages. She resides in the memory care unit of an assisted living community, and I was just notified that she cannot stay there. She is refusing medication, so not taking it impacts her behavior, and she’s now become…
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New Magazine Created for People with Dementia-Related Illness
Hello all -- I've been caring for my Aunt who was diagnosed with EOAD in 2016. She had always been a voracious reader and enjoys magazines. I noticed early on in her illness that traditional magazines were becoming too difficult for her to access, but she would carry them around with her anyways. This wasn't an issue, but…
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COVID VascularD Face-touching concnerns / I am at a complete loss
I've been staying with my mother and my grandfather for a few weeks and there are 2 major issues going on for me and I am at a complete loss of what to do. The first is about my grandfather's dementia itself, and the second is about my mother, his caregiver. My Grandpa, 82, has vascular dementia. It is now at the point…
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feeling very guilty admitting mom to nh
my mom has alzheimers, had left the stove on, fallen etc. She was in the hospital after Thanksgiving with an ulcer and had several bad episodes with her alzheimers. they told us she could not longer stay by herself, she moved to live with her sister. She has been in the hospital 3 times and is now having what the doctor…
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Not sundowning, sunUPing
My wife was diagnosed 4½ years ago. Sometimes she displays the symptoms of sundowning, except that she does so in the morning, not the evening. She will start out the day confused, then exhibit clarity as the morning progresses. Sometimes she displays a strange form of shadowing. Instead of following me, she walks in front…
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First Time Posting(1)
Hello, my name is Kim. My mother was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's when I was 10. I have been a primary caregiver to her for half of my life now. My parents are immigrants from Germany, so the only people that take care of her are my father, my older brother and myself. However, her relationship with my brother…