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Misspoke
I am an adult child, visiting my parents for a few weeks, after getting my vaccine shots. This morning I just misspoke with my DF, who has AD. He is now upset, and my mother who came downstairs is upset. I was trying to help a situation and just made it worse. I was upbeat and excited about a possible outing for him with a…
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I am defeated
I feel like a terrible daughter in law. I removed my blind alzheimer's 78 year old mother in law from a covid infested facility in January where she was being nelgected. I've been living in an apartment with her for 83 days and I'm ready to give up. I admit defeat. I tried. I failed. I cannot be a 24/7 caregiver to a blind…
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New to this. Family member needs help but doesn’t want it
My dad has been in the hospital for a month. The drs say he needs guardianship. Somehow he got wind of this. He told me if I did that he would never speak to me again. I’m his only child and my brother died 7 years ago. I am very hurt. I don’t know the right thing to do. I never thought my dad would turn on me like this.
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Update on my dad(3)
I'm finally able to write a little, this has been so hard. For anybody else in a similar position, I hope reading this post might be a little comfort about the paths we follow while trying to do the right thing for our loves ones. In the first week of March Dad started falling a lot. He had fallen very little before that.…
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Parkinsons turned into Vascular Dementia
My mom was diagnosed with parkinsons about 5 years ago and a few years ago we were told she also has vascular dementia. Lot of denying going on by her but I was right there when she was told. She is getting some memory loss now, that is noticed more. She cannot remember what she ate earlier in the day and is now not…
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bedsores(1)
Any recommendation of mattress or chair pad? And topical medications? Everyday there is a new mountain to conquer! Thanks
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Trying to Get Out of Crisis Mode
Hi everyone, This is my first post. I have been reading posts on this forum for the past couple of weeks and have found it so helpful. Thank you all for being here. As brief background: I am the primary caregiver for my mother who is in her early 80s. Although we don't have an official diagnosis yet, I suspect that she is…
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NOTE OF THANK FOR SUPPORTING BIBLE VERSE
THEY WILL KNOW WE ARE CHRISTIANS John 13:35 NIV "By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” * Thank you friends for your support to all of us here by reading Bible Verses and/or by making comments. * Hugs and Christian love to you all! Ronnie (my nickname)
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Aggression and seizures
My DH has an adult onset seizure disorder (NOS) and has also been diagnosed with a dementing disorder -not specified, diagnosed by his neurologist. After his last seizure event, he didn't believe me when I told him I had given him his dose of seizure medicine. He no longer manages his own medication because he takes a pill…
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Glorious moment of joy!
I posted on Saturday because I was having a bad case of the blues. I also spoke of finding moments of joy in this terrible journey and yesterday I had the greatest one yet. My sons play a silly little game amongst themselves of keeping score whenever they tell their Dad "I love you" and get one back. As of yesterday the…
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Trouble facing dad with AD after recent loss of mom with AD
My mom passed two months ago after a hard 4 year battle with mixed dementia and other health problems, including two below-knee amputations from vascular disease. She passed after about two weeks on hospice at home. I have been living down the block from my parents for two years and am so lucky to have in-home caregivers…
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How much water to drink?
I have been doing research. But I found all kinds of information online. From 2.7 liter for women to 1.7 for elderly. Some just say each person is different. Also not sure if the number includes the fruit, soup from lunch/diner. Please share your knowledge related this topic. thanks!
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LO finally says she needs care
After a very long time, almost a year, my LO says they realize they need care. This is finally after being in a home where during covid I could not go visit, was not told the entire story of what was going on. They had fallen and ambulance came, put in hospital and moved to skilled nursing near me, until weeks ago LO still…
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Loved one seeks reassurance for every action
My LO seems to think that she either needs permission or forgiveness for every action she takes. I get multiple phone calls a day. ‘ we used the credit card at the store- is that ok? We went to a restaurant to eat- should we have? ( the director at the ASL is now saying stores and uncrowded restaurants are ok to go do - no…
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input needed - full time caregivers questions
Hi everyone! My parents, brother and I take care full time of my grandmother who is 91. We have for about 6 years. She has advancing (more rapidly now it seems) dementia and we need help. She is now fully incontinent and wears adult diapers. She fights my mom when she is wet and we want to change her and clean her up.…
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What type of help for Alzheimers with no physical issues?
I am new to this message board. I don't know what type of help to get for my mom. She is 86, in great physical shape, but has Alzheimer's and her short term memory is going. She will forget important things I said earlier in our conversations, even just 5 minutes prior. She is in Independent Living and still drives. When I…
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Australia National Dementia Helpline
Description The National Dementia Helpline is an Australia-wide telephone information and support service for people with dementia, their carers, families and friends. Health professionals and service providers, community organisations and people concerned about memory loss can also contact the helpline. Services provided…
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Normal
Hi, good morning. Just needing some feedback or see if anyone else deals with your LO'S acting "normal" around certain people. My mom is 92 in good physical health. She is slowing down alot walking is getting more difficult. I would say she is in late mid stage Alzheimer's her short term memory is gone. She has a caregiver…
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Timing Placement
Hi, I am new to this site and so glad I found it. My Father died from dementia in 2015 and my Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in 2016. He was 76 when he died, she is 77 now. We placed my Dad in a nursing home after he became a wandering and fall risk and was combative with in home caregivers. We later realized we…
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New to the board - Need to vent -long read
My mom has come to live with me temporarily until we can find a more permanent solution. We lost my Dad, her husband and my brother within a month of each other. I have another sibling who chooses not to be involved and I am left holding the bag. The original agreement was that we would take mom (who is diagnosed with Lewy…
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Holiday blues(2)
I am not having a good morning even though my DH is still peacefully sleeping. Tomorrow is Easter and I know in my heart it will be the last one I ever have with him. Even with the remote possibility of him still physically with us I envision him in a zombie like state lying in bed. He is very advanced but not yet…
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Dad was sent to psychiatric hospital
Got a call from hospital where they told me Dad hit one of the residents today. They are sending him to psychiatric hospital to adjust his meds. Probably to sedate him. Nursing home said they would take him back if he is better with meds. He is already in 9 seroquil a day. He has never hit anyone in his whole life. I know…
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The doctor said it’s time to call in hospice
It’s been a rough few weeks. My mil has taken a pretty dramatic decline. Waiting on UA results. We saw the dr today. He told me that it’s time to call hospice. We got home and she brought out her favorite dress she keeps in a bag and told me that it’s for when she dies. I was able to video chat with my best friends that…
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My stepmother has alzheimers and my dad seems to be overwhelmed
I'm not sure exactly what year my stepmother was diagnosed with early stage alzheimers. I was in the military, eventually got out and went to work for federal government, so I've only seen my parents on holidays or vacation. I came home one week in 2019 and noticed that she kept telling me the same story every 5 or so…
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Family Problems
My mom has AL and now lives with my family. My dad passed away about 6 yrs ago. I have a brother but he hasn't talked to my mom or I for over a year. My mom is declining and was diagnosed with AL just after my brother stopped talking to her. He doesn't even know what my mom is going through. My mom doesn't want to talk to…
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Sibling of Alzheimer patients
I have two sisters and both of them have been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I'm looking for someone to share how it's been going for them as a sibling. Both of my sisters have loving husbands there to care for them but I feel and know that I have to be careful not to step on their toes. I want to help them but not overstep…
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Recommendation - Cleaning Service in Clearwater
Hi - I'm new to the board and am looking for some recommendations for a local/trusted cleaning service that can clean my parents' home every other week or so. Dad can use some help caring for Mom and as many of you can relate to - they're not convinced they need the help. I am not local to Florida right now and could use a…
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Newly Diagnosed but won’t accept help
I had a feeling that something was wrong with my dad for awhile, but he refused to go to the doctors to get himself checked out which I am seeing is a theme with many patients. Luckily, disability had set up a doctors appointment with a memory care physician which we forced him to go to. The report pointed towards…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/2/21
PRAISE THE LAMB OF GOD! From the shadow of the cross, we Thank You Jesus for Your Great Love and Sacrifice for us. * John 19:30 New International Version * "When he had received the drink, Jesus said, 'It is finished.' With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit." * Let us praise the Lord. Thank Him for loving us…
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dealing with emotions/depression
Hi, I'm Melissa, a divorced 56 year old who takes care of my 92 year old mom who has alzheimers. I do not live with her, she lives with my 91-year-old dad who is amazingly healthy but still very limited in the care he can provide for her. My dad doesn't drive so I have to do a lot for both of them. We have a paid daytime…