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Free at last - Update
Life really does go on. More than two years later. See comments at the very end. There were many comments when posted in 2019. Posted: Monday, February 11, 2019 10:29 PM Sue is finally FREE. She passed away peacefully during the night. Alzheimer’s might have won in the end but I choose to remember the beautiful, caring,…
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Opinions on speaking publicly about PWD
I've struggled since my mom's diagnosis about whether it's proper to discuss her condition publicly, like on my personal social media. I have not done so as I've felt like maybe it wasn't the right thing to do. But then, its such a huge part of my life and sometimes I want to talk about it. I'm curious what your thoughts…
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Putting Dad in hospice
Well, the unimaginable has finally happened, my father was put in hospice yesterday. It's not that I ever thought he (or I) were immune to death or the indignities of decline, but for the past ten years I've been dealing with the dementias of my parents on a very intimate, daily basis. Up early, give meds, rush around…
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Mom tosses out things she can't identify
Has anyone else experienced this with their LO? My mom tosses out things she can't identify. Bottles of shampoo, lotion, boxes of cereal, bags of Depends, etc. Every day I'm fishing stuff out of the trash.
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Searching for a facility in Dayton area
I am new to all this so apologies if this isn’t the right forum for this question. I don’t know what type of dementia/Alzheimer’s my father has but he has declined rapidly in the last 6 weeks. We went from my mother who is very frail and physically unsteady was able to take care of my father to combative and physically…
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broken hip, what to do
Hi, I have been reading these message boards for the past 10 months or so. It would not be an exaggeration to say you all have saved my sanity over the past months. In early 2020 my mom had a car accident that made clear the amount of cognitive decline she was experiencing. She was in Alabama and I in Virginia; I moved her…
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Benadryl (diphenhydramine) dementia link
My mom took Benadryl nightly for almost 20 years to help her sleep. She took 25mg per night for most of those years, then upped the dose to 50mg before she’d stopped taking it altogether in 2016 (at my urging). My mom had started showing MCI in 2010, very subtle - but when looking back I recall seeing some changes. There…
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Breaking the News
Hi, I am looking for advice on how I break the news to my mom, 73 and in the advanced moderate stages of AD, that is is time to move out of her home of 43 years and leave her loving companion dog of 7 years? I would like to move my mom closer to where I live, and into a MCF. I know that losing her dog will be devastating…
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FIL progressing. Activity suggestions welcome.
My FIL is experiencing more memory loss and lives less in the present. He is generally very accommodating and gentle, which helps me tremendously. He is often uncomfortable with confusion. Sometimes, I think he does not know who I am exactly, but that I belong here. With my mother with dementia, I was able to create…
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ALZ for 6 yrs, newly diagnosed with Parkinson's. Is it LBD?
My mom has lived with us for 11 yrs, diagnosed with ALZ almost 6 yrs ago. The hand tremors started last summer, pill rolling of the thumbs started last fall. She was diagnosed with Parkinson's yesterday. She was also put on meds a few years ago for incontinence and swallowing issues that we now believe could be early…
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Hi! I'm new here.
While my mother doesn't have a formal diagnosis, she has mild cognitive impairment, severe hearing loss even with hearing aids, and delayed processing of information coming into her brain. The audiologist said that she hears about 50% of what's said to her. I literally say everything four times before she gets it and then…
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Guilt(16)
Hi folks, I'm new here. My mom has vascular dementia and mobility issues, both of which progressed so much last year that in December, I moved her into Memory Care. I feel guilty about so many things. She needs a level of care I simply can't give her. She doesn't understand and wants to go home. Phone calls are always with…
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New member - Pregabalin
Hi I am sort of new here - infrequent I guess. My elderly mom is a dementia sufferer(mixed dementia) and we are managing her care between family and caregiving support. She's been exhibiting aggressive behavior on a more regular basis and our doctor recommended an additional medication, pregabalin, which we know little…
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1st post - advice re doctor appointment
Hello everyone. This is my first post, but I have been reading these discussion boards for several years, and have learned so much about dementia. I feel like I know you all. I found the site in 2016 when my dad was in late stage 7 alzheimers and my stepmom had to place him in memory care. I'll say right up front that I…
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Is this dad with a little alzheimers or alzheimers with a little dad?
Hi all - Dad was diagnosed several years ago but lead a relatively normal and independent life until a couple of months ago, when some pretty serious med mismanagement landed him in the hospital. He is now in an assisted living apartment and has spent most of the last month and a half trying to regain control of everything…
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quality of care or close to family?
Hi, My mother lives alone in Maine with AD, she recently scored a 9/30 on her MOCA. We have a caregiver coming to the house 5 days a week from 1-7pm, and then I drive up on the weekends to care for her. She has lots of friends who check on her, and take her out for walks regularly. The decision on where or when to move her…
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Hospice(22)
My mom has been in hospice (at home) for 5 months. I'm starting to have some issues with the hospice she's in. For example, the doctor has only came to see her once in 5 months, constant staff changes (we have had a new nurse every month since she's been in hospice), and I feel like they're not being honest with me. I have…
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Fibbed to Dad about doctor - ok?
My Dad ( not yet diagnosed) has previously scheduled CT scans of neck and lungs at his cancer center this week, Called his family doctor and asked if they could get the cancer doctor to add a head CT scan to it because my Dad has been making up stuff along with dizziness and showing paranoia and poor judgement.…
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When to move back home and in with my parents
I'm in need of some advice. I am wondering when it is time to move back in to take care of my parent who have suffering with ES dementia. They are still able to cook and take care of the daily living needs But she starting to increase on forgetting the little things like moving items and not remembering where she put them…
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Mom diagnosed literally 4 days ago
Hi Everyone, I don't even really know where to start with all this. The diagnosis was not a total shock - my sisters and I could tell my mom was not how she used to be for a while now. Us having to repeat something we literally just said, Mom really not remembering much of anything, dwindling daily routine as far as…
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Early onset adjustments
A neurologist says my 78yo DH has moderate to severe dementia and prescribed Donepezil (Aricept) to help with memory. His memory has been going on and off for about five years, with the last 18 months more so. He knows he has memory issues but what he doesn't understand is that his personality changes when he is going into…
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Advice for aggression & psychiatric help
I am new here but have been reading some posts hoping to find similar experiences... just before Christmas, my father mistook my mother for an intruder in their home. This was the 3rd time but most aggressive (he did not physically harm her despite the physical threat of it). He was sent to the hospital where it was…
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DW's Hallucinations and behavior getting out of control
My DW's hallucinations of people (including my imaginary Son) in the house that are going to burn the house down are becoming almost constant. We make numerous tours of the house to make sure everything is alright. She constantly wants me to call my imaginary ex-wife (that we tried telling DW took my troubled imaginary Son…
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My mom forgot
My mother is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. And mom forgot that she promised ME the house, not to my brother after her death. How can I remind her?
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Mom is free.
Mom passed away this evening. All of us here at Stumped Town Dementia are grateful that you have accompanied us on this journey. We thank you for bolstering our bravery, picking us up when we fell hard and fast, joining us in laughter, commiserating with us in tears. I have something else to ask of you. If you would be so…
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what would you ask now?
After 1/2 year of waiting, we are finally starting my wife's Memory Program evaluation process this week. I've been making lists of questions, but I wonder if you have any you're glad you asked at this stage - or WISH you'd asked! The whole topic is so broad and new and complicated that it's hard to think clearly about it.…
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Having a hard time(1)
I want to start with, I am new to this. My dad passed a little over 2 years ago and my brother about 3 years ago. Mom moved into assisted living about a month ago. I am charged with selling her condo, and all the associated fun that goes along with that... I am stressing. Little things that mom does set me off. She calls…
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Keep telling my dad he has Alzheimer’s?
I’m wondering if anyone has advice, or has talked to a social worker, about whether it’s best to continue to explain to my dad that he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or not. He is still in the early stages (having lost my mom to Alzheimer’s one year ago, I know he has a long road ahead), and he absolutely cannot believe…
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Question on transitioning caregiving support
Well as we all know with out LO suffering from this disease, most of the time there is no such thing as a long term solution. I have my moms POA and function as one of her caregivers also. She’s currently 96 years of age We’ve been dealing with the disease the past several years but the past year has gotten progressively…
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Medicaid/Medi-Cal or No?
The last time I posted a few months ago, my mother had just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's (having just transitioned from MCI). Many people advised that I speak to an elder care attorney immediately to see if I could get my mom qualified for Medi-Cal (since we live in CA) which I genuinely appreciated. I have since…