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Help with transferring accounts
Hi everyone, My parents have both been in a downward spiral for a while now, and their accounts are quite a mess, some haven't been accessed in years, some are way overdue, and the list goes on. I've been managing the regular bills for a while now, but frankly this sort of thing was never my strong suit. I'd really like to…
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How to talk to someone with Vascular Dementia -
Greetings - I am a new member, my Dad was diagnosed recently. I live two hours away (my brother is close and is there for Dad when needed) so a lot of my interaction with Dad is on the phone. I try to keep conversations upbeat and positive and not bring up his condition unless he brings it up. I always tell him, I am here…
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Newbie questions
Hi, Folks - I'm a newbie to the forum and to the world of dementia. My mother was diagnosed in January with dementia (no specific type) after an incredibly fast cognitive decline. She was able to host family at her house at Thanksgiving, attend Christmas fairly normally, but since then she has lost so much function. She…
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ALZ Advice to soon to be caregiver
Hi Folks. My dad (92) who has dementia, and his wife (82) really need to make some changes. She knows this and is wanting help to close up their condo (in FL) and move to an assisted living situation, but logistics are too much for her. Is there any help with the actual tasks of moving on from independent living to…
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How long??
Isn’t this always the question? How long for this or that or the other. I am wondering at this point, how long can mom hang in there only drinking a total of one ensure a day? That is only 150 calories. I hate seeing her go through this.... am curious of other peoples experiences with the decline of eating on hospice at…
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Here comes my 19th nervous breakdown...
I'm the designated, default caregiver for my mom who was recently diagnosed. They told me what she has, but little else. I have no idea what it feels like in her head, and I expect her to to interact with me like she did just a year ago. She's only 84, and things have been moving very quickly with her loss of cognitive…
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Feeling guilty about being annoyed.
12 calls from LO today. 8 yesterday. 3 each Monday and Tuesday. Numerous voicemails as I ignored several calls today( see below). Numerous calls from me to the PCP and GYN. 3 round trips ( hour each time) to the ASL in 3 days. They are still not allowed to run non essential errands without risking quarantine and testing.…
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I think my mom is near the end
My mom is no longer walking and sleeps most of the time. When a PWD becomes bedridden, about how long is it before the inevitable happens? She is on hospice now.
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Mental/Brain Exercises that help?
My father just got an official diagnosis of Alzheimers. Dr would not assess a stage but he's still pretty independent, short term memory is bad, but functions well. Are there any type of brain games/exercises etc that help try to keep the brain sharp? I mentioned it to the Doctor and he pretty much said its a waste of…
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Caregiver daily log
I met with an elderly law attorney and was advised to start a log showing everything I do for my mom. She said this is necessary to prepare a personal care agreement and is required potentially to show medicaid, if ever needed. Apparently, this should be done right away in the event a 5 year look back occurs. So my…
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Learning to finally educate myself to give better care
Caregiving to a 68 year old woman that is family. I have some experience but not enough to give the best care to her. I would love to take care of her better and myself. Guess I'm asking for classes to take near league city also or online and accredited I do not care if it cost as long as it awards a license or degree to…
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What if it’s my fault...
I had all the best intentions when I decided (along with my brother) to move mom close to me. We moved all her belongings, well most of them, into the house behind mine in June. My brother lives in another state. She had no family or nearby friends left in her our home town even though she lived in the same home for 55…
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Caregiver Depression(1)
I've been in a slump making thing's kinda rough 'round here. Caregiver depression has been slowly eaten away at me... Apathy & Despair: A Dementia Affair https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/apathy-despair-dementia "C'mon" she said and took my hand. https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/dementia_sorrow
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What to do?(8)
Long story short, my mom wasn’t being taken care of at home. Diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2019. SD in denial, still letting mom take her own meds and handle her own personal care. He fired CG after 10 days so I moved mom in with me. Over a month now and have no financial help, mom can’t tell me anything anymore-no idea…
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Advice and caregiver support needed
Ive been caring for my dad for 3yrs now and ive had to learn as i go but now things are becoming more difficult and i need advice on showering help its becoming a battle and any help i can get really. im an only child so nobody else can help and my mom died in 2004 so personally i have nobody as all other family related to…
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When to enlist in-home care
My mother has been diagnosed with early onset of Alzheimer's. When I speak to her she appears sometimes to be confused and her sense of logical thought is impaired. She forgets common words and cannot remember basic things such as where I live or where she lives. Due to Covid, my father who is her primary caregiver and…
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Hello New to forum
hello all. New to the forum. I am searching for resources and support. My Father (86) has Alzheimer's. Noticed a decline about 3 years ago. Got a diagnosis about 18 months ago. He has been pretty self sufficient up to last summer when I had to move in to be more pro active and help him. I am now a live-in caregiver and it…
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Mom realizes she in decline and cry
My mom is at the stage where she is fully aware of the decline and cries about it. She will repeat herself and ask what time an event is constantly. She is in an independent living facility that has additional care as it's needed. I don't know if I should correct her when she's wrong or just let it go since she doesn't…
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Anxiety associated with hallucinations
My mother is in final stages of Alzheimer's. She just recently became bed-bound (cannot stand or walk anymore) and just yesterday had to have a catheter. We have hospice care involved. For the last few weeks, every waking minute she has sundowners and has a lot of anxiety associated with the things/people she is 'seeing'.…
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undiagnosed but suspected with early symptoms
Good Morning - how do you know the symptoms are related to cognition as opposed to continued ADD? I feel like I am always questioning my own judgment about whether or not my DH is getting worse or I am over reacting. He is only 54 but had a TBI when he was 43. He never regained his full executive functioning. I feel like I…
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Is this the beginning?
Hi everyone, My mom is almost 67 and recently moved in with us from another state in August. She retired from a very busy job at that time. Since moving in I thought she seemed depressed (there are alot of family issues) so I suggested she go and talk to someone which she agreed to. I then noticed she was very negative or…
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Overwhelmed and new here
My 85 year old mother has Alzheimers. She lives with her 80 year old husband (not my dad) who works 5 days/week so she is alone from roughly 8:30 am to 5:00 pm. About a month ago I got a call from her husband stating my mom no longer wanted to do the things they normally do, and he suggested some in home care was…
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Learned to find my voice
The long story: For years while mom's been in denial I've been sneaking around trying to get things done. Without a break since summer 2019 as full time PCA for mom in the home braking point was reached end of December 2020. The short story: I finally mustered up courage to speak my experiences and observations to mom's…
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How soon to tell dad we are moving him to AL
My 990-year-old dad has a diagnosis of VD and I have been his sole caregiver since my mother died 15 months ago. He lives in a condo near me and I have kept him there because of COVID, knowing that I would either have to get in-home care or move him to AL at some point. That time has now come. His delusions are increasing,…
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Not sure what to do(2)
I am new to this site. My mother was diagnosed with Dementia in Oct. 2020. I am watching her condition worsen but am grateful that she is still able to do somethings on her own. I am more concerned about my father. My parents have been married for 50+ years. My father is in denial about her condition and is resisting help…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/8/21
LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE! * Psalm 119:47 NKJV "And I will delight myself in Your commandments, Which I love." * Matthew 11:30 NKJV "For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” * me: God's commands are not given to make us suffer. Remember, Jesus our Lord said, His burden for us is light. Since He created us and wants a close…
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Challenges
Hi all, new here. My MIL is in the middle stage of Alzheimer's and lives with us. She's routinely confused, sundowns daily has been aggressive/combative 2x with my daughter and me and, she hallucinates and suffers from delusions regularly. During the day, most days, we have a good relationship. She's pleasant, kind, funny,…
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Dementia and Finances
Hello everyone. I have been silently lurking a few months but decided to finally bite the bullet and post. I will save the introduction and back story for a later day, if that is ok. I am emotionally zonked and it is too much right now. My mom has an unspecified dementia diagnosis - likely AD but will need imaging or more…
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Should I bring her home?
Hello, I'm new to this forum and new to my wife being in memory care. We have been married for 21 years, both widowed after 40 years. It has been a wonderful 21 years but dementia came into our lives in 2015 and has slowly taken over. From what I read she would be in stage four now. I have been her sole caregiver until…
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furnishing MC room
moving mom in soon and need to furnish, decorate, etc. She has limited mobility and, at this stage, biggest issues are confusion and exec function/working memory issues. She is generally oriented to time (month and year) and recognizes people (but might forget a name). Any advice for things that might be particularly…