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Early onset adjustments
A neurologist says my 78yo DH has moderate to severe dementia and prescribed Donepezil (Aricept) to help with memory. His memory has been going on and off for about five years, with the last 18 months more so. He knows he has memory issues but what he doesn't understand is that his personality changes when he is going into…
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Advice for aggression & psychiatric help
I am new here but have been reading some posts hoping to find similar experiences... just before Christmas, my father mistook my mother for an intruder in their home. This was the 3rd time but most aggressive (he did not physically harm her despite the physical threat of it). He was sent to the hospital where it was…
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DW's Hallucinations and behavior getting out of control
My DW's hallucinations of people (including my imaginary Son) in the house that are going to burn the house down are becoming almost constant. We make numerous tours of the house to make sure everything is alright. She constantly wants me to call my imaginary ex-wife (that we tried telling DW took my troubled imaginary Son…
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My mom forgot
My mother is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. And mom forgot that she promised ME the house, not to my brother after her death. How can I remind her?
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Mom is free.
Mom passed away this evening. All of us here at Stumped Town Dementia are grateful that you have accompanied us on this journey. We thank you for bolstering our bravery, picking us up when we fell hard and fast, joining us in laughter, commiserating with us in tears. I have something else to ask of you. If you would be so…
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what would you ask now?
After 1/2 year of waiting, we are finally starting my wife's Memory Program evaluation process this week. I've been making lists of questions, but I wonder if you have any you're glad you asked at this stage - or WISH you'd asked! The whole topic is so broad and new and complicated that it's hard to think clearly about it.…
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Having a hard time(1)
I want to start with, I am new to this. My dad passed a little over 2 years ago and my brother about 3 years ago. Mom moved into assisted living about a month ago. I am charged with selling her condo, and all the associated fun that goes along with that... I am stressing. Little things that mom does set me off. She calls…
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Keep telling my dad he has Alzheimer’s?
I’m wondering if anyone has advice, or has talked to a social worker, about whether it’s best to continue to explain to my dad that he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or not. He is still in the early stages (having lost my mom to Alzheimer’s one year ago, I know he has a long road ahead), and he absolutely cannot believe…
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Question on transitioning caregiving support
Well as we all know with out LO suffering from this disease, most of the time there is no such thing as a long term solution. I have my moms POA and function as one of her caregivers also. She’s currently 96 years of age We’ve been dealing with the disease the past several years but the past year has gotten progressively…
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Medicaid/Medi-Cal or No?
The last time I posted a few months ago, my mother had just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's (having just transitioned from MCI). Many people advised that I speak to an elder care attorney immediately to see if I could get my mom qualified for Medi-Cal (since we live in CA) which I genuinely appreciated. I have since…
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Geriatric Doctor vs. Neurologist - Your experiences
Two years ago when we realized things were not right, we took mom to a neurologist, and got the diagnosis after many tests. One of the impressions I got is that neurologists (or maybe just this one, not trying to stereotype all neuros) are more of "this is what's wrong, there's no cure for this condition, come back for a…
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And the beat goes on...
... specifically, Mom's beat. And frankly we've all gotten to the point where we wish she'd knock it off. We're close... https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/we-re-close p.s. I just read all the comments on my last thread and I am honored that you all would lift a glass when Mom passes. Perhaps this is a new tradition,…
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Finally have diagnosis: bvFTD
Hi all, I have posted a few times through my journey so far. It took me over a year to convince my mom to take my dad for evaluation with his PCP, and even before that, there were a couple of years where I knew something was going wrong, I just didn't know what. His personality was changing a LOT in many different ways.…
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Nursing Home/Memory Care Visitation & COVID
For those with loved ones in a memory care unit or nursing home, are you allowed to visit everyday? Are there still strict rules? Any ease of restrictions for family members that are vaccinated? Thanks in advance for any insight.
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Father and grandmother triggering one another
Hello, This is my first time posting on here. I've been feeling like I need to reach out to others who know about this situation and I am finally doing it. My father has mild cognitive impairment and my grandmother (his mother) appears to have vascular dementia. My father's personality has changed and his short term memory…
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My Mother is sleeping more and more
My mother who has alzheimer's has been sleeping a lot and today we couldn't get her to wake up and get out of bed. She acknowledged my sisters being there but just couldn't wake up. Has anyone else experience this with a loved one or someone they are caring for? We have spoken to a caregiver for Alzheimer's patients and…
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Dealing with Paranoia
First time posting here. We are at the beginning of this journey. My grandmother has become paranoid since my grandfather died in January. Specifically, she believes that he had bought gold coins for the grandkids before he died. She insists that she saw them after the funeral, but they are gone now. She believes that…
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Private Help
What is the best way to contact aids that work in a hospital and also do it on the side for extra income? thx, ricky.
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Positive Thought 3/4/21
ALL Quotes from: POSITIVE QUOTES FOR EVERY DAY, complied by Patricia Lorenz * FAILING? * "You always pass failure on the way to success."--Mickey Rooney, Actor * me: O.K. so I failed today. I think it is safe to assume we all do and more often than we would like. We have two choices: One, keep dwelling on the failure and…
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drivers license expiring
Mom's license is about to expire. She is in MC and I would switch it to just a state ID, but she still has a leased car in her name (not driving it, but we use it from time to time). Does anyone happen to know if she has to have an active drivers license just because she has a car (she doesn't have access to it and…
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Dementia’s and the vaccine
My LO has Alzheimer’s and VD. Experiences agitation, depression, psychosis, delusions and has meds for these. We’ve made some changes to dosages recently due to agitation increasing. After the second vaccine shot, I am seeing an extreme increase in agitation. Has anyone experienced this? Wondering if it is temporary as…
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Staying in touch from a distance with LO in nursing home
Hello, My grandmother who has Alzheimers/dementia was recently admitted to a nursing home (previously was living with my grandfather who was her caretaker). She lives across the country from me. I want to stay in touch with her. I called and talked to her on the phone a few weeks ago and expected that it would be difficult…
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Is it ok to lie to help your LO?
Hi everyone, My mother is not officially diagnosed (still waiting on the neuropsych evaluation) but we all know what is coming, as its been bad for a while, and seems to be getting worse. She currently has been wandering at night knocking on neighbor's doors looking for my father (she refuses to believe my father is my…
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Hawaii - lack of medical input available
My wife has had Alzheimer's for 5 years, and has reached a stage of crying all day, appearing to be in pain, and getting little to no rest. We have a referral to get a consult at the Cleveland Clinic in Las Vegas, but trying to decide weather the move and plane ride would be more detrimental than helpful has put us at a…
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She Falling; I'm Stressed!
My 77 year old mother lives with me full time. She is in the late stage of Alz. She has a knee that locks on her, vein issues in her legs which make them swell, an internal tremor, and takes medication that makes her dizzy. Despite all of this she doesn't believe anything is wrong with her and she can walk just fine…
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Active dying ain't for sissies...
... and yet, I'm kinda being one. Dementia Dichotomy https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/dementia-dichotomy Huh. Well, how 'bout that? https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/huh-well-how-bout-that Nothing https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/nothing
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Need advice, dealing with BOTH parents now.
Hi Everyone. My Dad (84) has been caring for my Mom (80) for the past 8 years. Like many spouses he is doing everything at home on top of caring for her. Thank God she has been easy to care for. She has become incontinent over the past month. She is wearing depends now. My Dad is in excellent health, keeps busy with a few…
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Today’s parental argument
My step Dad( no diagnosis) berated my mom (mild dementia) today because he heard her talking in her sleep. She was supposedly dreaming about a boyfriend with a certain physical attribute. Mom has no memory of this dream. I don’t think she has a memory of any boyfriend like this. She married my biological father at age 18.…
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Looking for MC resources in NYC
Hi everyone, I just joined the group today. My mother, who is 96 and has advanced dementia, has been cared for in her apartment in NY (I'm in CA) for the past 4 years by a live-in person who manages her care, plus now 24-hour a day aides who come in and take care of her, helping her get to the toilet, making meals and…
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Anyone go back to earlier stage?
My mom has been slowly progressing through this disease and we have been trying to keep track of her behaviors and moods so we can keep tabs on where we think we are and where we think we are going next. Well probably about 3+ weeks ago I would have said she was a late stage 5/early stage 6. We started noticing more…