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POA Question- selling car
Hi all! I need to sell my mothers car and it is in her name only. I bought it for her a year ago when all was well. I was dumb not to put my name on title when I thought of it at the time. In any case, I need to sell it now, has anyone experienced selling an automobile using a POA? Were there any obstacles or was it not a…
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how do you deal with meanness?
As far back as I can remember (i'm 53 years old) my mom was a negative person and a master manipulator with ability to make others feel guilt (my 3 siblings feel same way). It now seems that the behavior is on steroids and I find I struggle with granting grace and believing that it's the disease and not a calculated…
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My grandma cannot stop singing and refuse eating and drinking
Since last month, my grandmother became obsessed with singing. One day, suddenly she was aggregated and scared of something. There were a few days which were okay. However, now she sings nonsense almost whenever she is awake. The song is made up of her favourite song, her speech, and counting numbers. The first few minutes…
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Need distraction from the calendar
My mom is very bored and doesn’t want to get out much; just sits and stares at the calendar for much of the day. My dad prints out the day’s calendar in the morning before my mom gets up. He circles the day and leaves the rest of the month with important days/activities denoted (grocery shopping, dog wash, nail and hair…
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A tragic story and warning
A 95 year old man residing in an assisted living facility shot and killed one of the workers. The news report provided no details. I would not be surprised if there is a history of dementia or delusions. https://www.kktv.com/2021/02/04/95-year-old-accused-of-shooting-and-killing-assisted-living-employee/ Iris L.
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Exhausted caregiver looking for suggestions and help
My grandmother has lewy body dementia which also alters her vision and it seems like it is rapidly progressing. I have to repeatedly remind my grandmother to eat and take her meds while she chases "people" around the house, as it is mentally draining for both of us. She refuses to eat and shower, she will say she did but I…
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I am an out of state daughter
I am not only looking for ideas to help my mom who is out of state but also to support me. All of this is new to me but she seemed to have been having issues for perhaps a few years. After trying for a couple of years for the doctor to diagnose her he finally did. But I am not sure what "moderately significant" really…
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Severe yet functional
Greetings everyone. My father is 82, was diagnosed with severe Alzheimer's. in July. He is otherwise in good health, passed his driving evaluation, and still lives alone with my help a couple times a week. He is a master at hiding it, but if you drill down on things like paying bills, in the moment he really struggles. I…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/4/21
MAKE OR BREAK YOUR DAY * These verses were today's suggested reading from Sarah Young's book JESUS CALLING: * Psalm 29:11 NKJV “The Lord will give strength to His people; The Lord will bless His people with peace. Numbers 6:24-26 NKJV “The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, And be gracious…
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Indoor visits starting again
Indoor visits started again at my parents’ ALF. 30 minutes, scheduled in advance, during the daytime on a weekday only( due to staffing). Temperature checks and questionnaire. Only two visitors at a time for the entire building. Oddly, I didn’t want to go. I’ve been doing all my parents shopping, paperwork, finances. I’ve…
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Moving LO into AL
Hi - Both of my parents have dementia. Mom has Alzheimer's, Dad has VD. He was recently hospitalized and is going into rehab tomorrow. We have AL set up after he is discharged but may have trouble caring for Mom in the meantime. She has no insight, by the way. Worried about moving her into AL alone, that it will be more of…
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Incessant calling
My father is is progressing fast - and lives with my stepmom. He thinks he still has to go to work (although he is retired), and calls me & my sister incessantly (30-40 calls per day) to confirm that he doesn't have to go to work. We try to calm him and confirm everything is ok. I feel guilty if I can't answer - but it is…
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Do you give in?
My mom is currently at a stage where she is suspecting my father of infidelity (which we know is not true). She wants to tell everyone and anyone and wants to show the world who he is. We've been having a hard time with this and are trying our best to redirect and distract, but she is obsessed with this situation. We are…
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Both parents with dementia, running out of options
Hi all, I'm newly registered but have been reading the posts. My mom (age 85) has ALZ and VD; she was officially diagnosed last summer but we have known for 5-10 years that she's been struggling. My dad (age 88) has a lot of cognitive problems and some dementia from a fall and resulting brain surgery last summer. For the…
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Mom wants to go dancing!!
My Mom was diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer’s a few years ago. She is in her early 70’s and recently moved into her own home near me. Her husband ( my Father) passed away a few months ago so she has had a lot of change lately. Her sister lives with her full time to assist with daily activities. Mom has always been a go…
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Trying to wrap my mind around all this
As I had posted the other day, my mom is rapidly progressing and was put on hospice on Tuesday. That said, when the nurse came and did her evaluation, she stated it could be weeks-month for my mom until passing. Comfort meds are being administered as she has had long time back pain and then pain from her ankle with the…
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Mom won’t go to the doctor
Hello to you all. I am wondering how to convince my mom to go to the doctor. She began showing obvious symptoms in May and has really gone downhill since then. She has seen a PCP but refuses to go to the neurologist . My dad encourages her to go to a neurologist (as suggested by the PCP), but she continues to adamantly…
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New to Forum - Where do I go from here?? So frustrating..
Short version - My mom is borderline dementia and lives alone. We've done all the appointments, been given the tools of what to do to slow progression. My mom is depressed, covid has completely shut off all activities and trips to keep her active. She refuses to take any drugs which neuro has suggested and has refused…
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Where Do I Begin
I am at a complete loss. My mother was diagnosed with Dementia about 3 years ago. After having knee surgery about 2 years ago it has gotten worse. I have heard the anesthesia can sometimes progress the disease. I am at the point of having to decide what to do, is there any assistance as she is on a limited income and…
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Time for nursing home(1)
After 5 months of having my MIL home we’ve decided it’s time for a nursing home. I feel like such a failure. I honestly gave it my all but she’s completely disabled and I have to care for her 24/7 and it started taking its toll on me. I’m 38 with 4 kids (2 I homeschool) and a grand baby(who I keep so my daughter can work).…
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Hearing loss or inability to understand?
We've noticed that MIL has symptoms of hearing loss. She's 82 and has undiagnosed dementia of some sort. In the last 9 months we've noticed a sharp decline in her ability to hear the TV and in-person conversations. It's almost maddening the amount of time we are spending repeating ourselves - between her extreme short term…
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financing 24 hr home care
My mother has mid-stage Alzheimer's and is still living in her home which she absolutely refuses to leave. She's a fall risk, plus she can't see very well, so she needs help with meal preparation. Adult Protective Services has determined that to stay in her home she needs 24 hour home care, which she can't afford. Medicaid…
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Lost and confused(1)
My dad has not been diagnosed with Alz or dem. He has had multiple strokes and 2 hrt attacks previously. He has diabetes(uncontrolled) and has had a tramautic childhood. He will not willingly talk to his doctor about anything. We have no diagnosis and dont understand what is happening. He thinks my mom is having affairs.…
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Tony Bennett's Battle With Alzheimer's
Tony Bennett's Battle With Alzheimer's Disease (aarp.org) A very thoughtful piece in the AARP Magazine.
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Appropriate responses to mom's confusion
My mother is in a nursing home in MI. She has dementia that is getting worse. She knows that I am her adult daughter and that I live in NYC. She knows that my brother is her adult son who lives in the same city that she does with his wife and adult son. However, she also believes that she has other younger children and…
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Is it the meds, or just the late stage progression?
Could use a little insight for those who have been through the late stages with a LO. In last 2 weeks dad has stopped walking, struggles to sit up - so very weak. His vocabulary was limited before, but now it's just gibberish. And his eating has decreased. He's been put on new meds - still in the facility for that, so we…
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Seeking Help for Paranoia-No Diagnosis Yet
My situation with my 67 year-old mother has progressed very rapidly over the last few months. It started out about 4 months ago when my mother began accusing my father of cheating on her. In December, she began to send me "proof" that my dad was cheating, but it was never anything that made any sense or was actual proof of…
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Suggestions for Sundowning and Agitation? Medications?
I am getting stressed out! DH has been Sun-downing for the past several months to the point where he gets into everything, gets agitated, will not sit down and when it comes to bed time he becomes angry. He had a brother, now passed away, who had this issue but his wife did not remember what medications the doctor put him…
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Could my LO completely forget who we are within a week?
I'm new to the forum. Two days ago our family dropped my MIL off at memory care, at the door due to covid. We all felt horrible, as though we were abandoning her. She very bravely walked in with 2 kind employees. We were advised to not call for about a week so she could adjust. They said if she asked about us alot they…
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Mom doesn't recognize Dad
Hi, My mom sundowns, getting increasingly confused and agitated at night (wants to go home, thinks other people are there, etc). The toughest issue is that she often does not recognize my dad. They live together in their house. My brother and I are out of state, and often get frightened calls from either or both of them. I…