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Determining "Stages"
Caring for my DH will be made easier if I can determine where he is in his progression. I noticed that many of the posts mention "Stage 3" or "Stage 6". I am not familiar with this staging technique. On the Alzheimer Assoc website there are three stages mentioned. Can someone help me understand the difference? Thanks for a…
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DW realized her memory loss
My DW had the realization that she has a memory problem. Her two children confirmed it to her. Whether she accepts it or not remains to be seen. She has always called me a liar when I told her that she has become forgetful.
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Update on Memory Care transition
My DH has been in MC now for 34 days. He continues to have delusions about his safety and mine, but I have found that he starts down that path if I am with him too long and there are no outside activities going on. So for now what is working is coming for scheduled walks and bus rides on Tues. and Thursday, and taking him…
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How to treat impending trauma?
Alzheimer's seems to take the whole family down. What are the ways to avoid that? I've been watching self-help videos about treating trauma. The videos I've come across address past trauma and how it impacts your physical and mental well-being. But what about those of us who are walking towards trauma? We're in the midst…
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Why do they have to be so angry?
My husband has had alzy for 4 years. He is so verbally abusive to me. Like telling me I'm fat, I'm not good enough. He loves to see me get mad when he says these things. I use to talk back, however that doesn't work. So now I don't respond. Is this normal?
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new skills
Today, I learned a new technique to get DW to change into clean clothes without a conflict. It feels good to be successful and to have learned something new and useful. The awful part of this is that whatever I learned that will work today,probably won't work tomorrow. It feels like the reward for success is decline and…
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Contact Alzheimer's hotline
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Unbelievable rage
Last night we argued about sleeping in his jeans I asked him wouldn't you be more comfortable if he took them off Hours later he raged downstairs and told me to get out of the house He said he was going to call the police I had to leave for my safety slept in a hotel But let down my guard and went home Now I wish I just…
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Anosognosia, alcohol and dementia
DH has AL and small vessel disease. I was thinking that he was living in denial but I'm pretty sure that is is anosognosia. Having said that and my pointing out to him that alcohol will destroy more brain cells, he still has a glass of wine every night, sometimes two and a margarita if we go out. He is borderline dementia.…
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Showering
DH is late stage 5 and into 6. Limited vision and quite unsteady. We have a shower with a built in bench, but to get into the shower he has to step over the border that goes around the floor. I am considering a remodel, but am interested in tips and practical suggestions on getting the shower done overall. Do you both get…
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Frozen in time for a minute
I would appreciate any insight into this issue. My DH and I returned from a night flight Portland Oregon to Philadelphia, PA after seeing family for a week. Two days later he awoke around 7am as usual talking about going for a bike ride. Suddenly his body seemed to freeze, arms in mid-air for about a minute. He was staring…
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I am forgetting, too
I usually am very organized, but with the stress of a DH with dementia, I am forgetting appts, lose things, and run around and getting nothing done. I know it is because of the caretaking, and am the ONLY caretaker because family has turned away from us because they just don't want to deal with this private hell
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Phantom Pain
I was just wondering if your loved ones with dementia experience phantom pains. My DH has been complaining of his thigh hurting for a few weeks. No visible signs of anything. I thought maybe a pulled muscle but after a few weeks it did not go away. He doesn't do anything physical activity except walk and that is only one…
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To My Fellow Warriors
This journey is the worst, yet we all get up, stiffen our spines and get back at taking good care of our LOs. We get irritable, cry, depressed, exhausted, and we still get up and take good care of our LOs. We put our needs second to make sure our LOs are safe and comfortable and get up the next day and do it again.…
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Struggling
My DH gets belligerent when I tell him No. We have a rodent problem in our subdivision and I’ve had to hire an exterminator to place bait traps in our fenced yard as I’ve explained to my DH that he cannot let the dogs out. And there are kill traps set in our shed that must remain closed. I just came out of the bathroom and…
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Lost partial denture - what about eating?
My wife lost her partial (upper only) dentures. It's been about 10 hours now. She has had new partial made but she can't get them for at least another week. The center she goes to has the dentist on Fridays only. I have several teeth missing, both top and bottom, and it doesn't bother me to eating soft or hard food. I do…
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Medication control
I have a delemia. HWD can no longer be in charge of taking his main pain med. He forgets when he takes it then takes more. I have started controlling the med bottle and omg it'd causing so much stress for him. I put his daily dosage out for him and as of late he's becoming more hostile and defiant. Name calling too. I hate…
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Waking up multiple times a night very agitated and confusedted
I read many posts about spouses sleeping many hours at night and daytime sleepiness. My husband was prescribed trazadone, 150 mg, to help him sleep. It does help him sleep, falls asleep in 5 min or less but only for a 2-3 hrs. He moans and groans then startles awake, appearing scared or confused. When i ask what's wrong he…
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Question severe difficulty walking.
My DH has started shuffling when walking. His ability to walk has severely declined rather rapidly in the last few months. His gate is unstable snd takes baby steps. If anyone can share their experience. I am not sure what to do and if there is any help or therapy. Is this part of the Disease? Thanks for sharing.
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Speech and Language Referral
My DH has AD and Logopenic Aphasia. Last summer his neurologist (in a Memory and Cognition Clinic) referred him for a speech and language evaluation, and after a 2 session lengthy assessment we were basically told that the aphasia was too far progressed for her interventions and it would just be frustrating for him. She…
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The Unexpected Journey 8/26 on abc
https://abcnews.go.com/amp/GMA/Culture/emma-heming-willis-bruce-willis-diane-sawyer-interview/story?id=124616534
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Neighbor Gave my Mom A Cat...
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Two weeks in
My husband was diagnosed with dementia two weeks ago. He is on anti-seizure medication. The insurance continues to deny the doctor's request for a special Pet Scan. I am just beginning and with his denial that he has dementia and the problems with the insurance company, I don't know if I can do this. I have stage 4 cancer…
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Life expectancy
Hello. My husband received a diagnosis of early onset alzheimers. He has lots of questions, one which is about life expectancy. Reading between 4 years to 20. How long after diagnosis do people with early onset alzheiners need more care.
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Moving Day is tomorrow.
I have been with my loved one since July of 2019. Luis was diagnosed in August of 2023 with early onset alzheimerz stage 4/5 at the age of 44. This has been a long journey. I longed for the days to have a normal life. I knew the day would come when he would have to go into a facility of some sort. Well tomorrow is the day.…
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My own irritability as a caregiver
my DH has Alz, early to mid stage. My mood is so up and down in this caregiver role. I can feel very irritable, and angry with his responses. Other days I’m able to cope. I don’t like myself when I get so negative and can’t seem to let it go. I don’t take it out on him but I’m sure it shows. Any suggestions how to stop…
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Have no support
Once I reached out to family and friends about DH , they avoid me like a disease. Now I am fully isolated and am constantly apologizing for him or arguing with him.
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Need to leave right now
I cannot do this anymore Suicidal must take care of myself Any insight
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Agitated Spouse
My wife has Alzheimer’s and on occasion feels that she has appointments (like hair or nails or something like that). Wants to call to cancel appointment. These are places from over 30 years ago. In another state. I try to let make her think I’ve already cancelled the appointment and sometimes thus works. Other times she…
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APS
Today a very nice lady showed up at our door, Adult Protective Services 🙄I knew they were called because my LO drove the car . He took the DMV test, they passed him, much to my dismay, and I sold his car but he wants to drive if it’s just down the street! I’m a hard No, he took her test and got 25 out of 30. Mild cognitive…