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The simplest decision is too much
Mom may or may not have a UTI. Hospice ordered her an antibiotic. She’s been on hospice for 5 days. Due to cognitive decline. Today was another sad day for me. She called me at 11. Basically it seemed to me that she was looking to be told what to do. So I told her to get dressed and go to the AL dining hall. Lunch would be…
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Selling my Dad's car without the Title in CA
We need to sell my dad's car, now that he is in an AL/ MC facility. I have the POA, but not able to find or access the Title ("Pink Slip" as we call it in CA). Any suggestions on how to do this through the DMV?
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Echocardiogram scheduled-how to get him through it
My DH sees a cardiologist regularly. This time we had a little trouble with the EKG - when they put the stickers on his chest, he complained vehemently about how cold they were, how he was going to leave, etc. I managed to calm him down and we got through that. Next he usually gets an echocardiogram so we scheduled that…
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Bath tub conversion
Seeking comments from those who've converted the traditional bath tub to a walk in tub vs. a walk in shower. Thank you
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/27/24
Dear Caregiver, there are many verses here, so my suggestion: Read a bit now, pray and think about it, and come back later to read a bit more. It is always worthwhile rereading and meditating on familiar verses especially these about love. You give up and do so much because you choose to help someone who needs you. That is…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/27/24
Dear Caregiver, there are many verses here, so my suggestion: Read a bit now, pray and think about it, and come back later to read a bit more. It is always worthwhile rereading and meditating on familiar verses especially these about love. You give up and do so much because you choose to help someone who needs you. That is…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/27/24
Dear Caregiver, there are many verses here, so my suggestion: Read a bit now, pray and think about it, and come back later to read a bit more. It is always worthwhile rereading and meditating on familiar verses especially these about love. You give up and do so much because you choose to help someone who needs you. That is…
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Mom's MC Facility has been without a haircutting person for months
Does anybody in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area know of a mobile service or someone willing to cut hair at a MC facility? I don't know why it's so hard for them to find somebody but they've been looking for months now to fill the need since the other Stylist left.
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going without mom to Social Security for request replacement card
Dear friends, tomorrow I am going in person to the Social Security office to request a replacement Social Security card for my mom. In the process of requesting the appointment the algorithm stated I would need "medical certification" why my mom could not present herself. Also, I am my mother's power of attorney; I do have…
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Refusing help
My mother-in-law has been independant all her life. She's been dx with Alzheimers, is 87 years old and very suspicious/paranoid a majority of her life. What do we do if she starts refusing help and refuses assisted living?
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I am very sick with covid DW also infected. Help with ER visit
my DW has rapid Demetia, she is in late stage. Which is challenging enough, trying desperately to get some respite relief which I have been granted 12 hours a mont( which are now cancelled due to the Fact, we both now have Covid… DW doesn’t have the severity of symptoms as I do. I am trying to get to the hospital ASAP for…
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I just miss my mom
I am going to be 36 tomorrow, and my mom has been in memory care for about 6 days. I am a little devastated because I miss her. It is also devastating because she didn't sleep at all the first 4 or 5 days in memory care and when I went to visit her she looked HORRIBLE. Her face looked drastically different and it looked…
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diagnosis meaning?
My husband was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment secondary to Early Onset Alzheimers. I am unsure if that means he has Early Onset Alzheimer's and if I should apply for SSDI under the Compassionate Allowance, or if he is Mild Cognitive Impaired.
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Caregiver of DW 24/7 for almost 2 years w
The most amazing perfect woman has Severe Rapid Dementia, diagnosed officially September 2024. When we bot( refuted early from our careers, we owned businesses together, so being together has been wonderful… well, until truly these last 6-8 months. I stepped down for. My latest BUSIENSS as CEO, June of 2023. After noticing…
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new
Hi, I thought I sent a message but I don't know how to see it. After I post this will I be able to easily see the responses? My sister was diagnosed with Alzheimer's/Dementia last June after a PET scan. We finally have the follow-up appointment with her doctor Nov 7th. How does the doctor determine what stage/level my…
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Disposable Underwear who are NOT incontinent but leave 'skid marks'
Have any of you found a disposable pull-up underwear for a females (dementia elders) who are NOT incontinent but who leave 'fecal skid marks' due to memory decline? This female elder doesn't remember if she wiped or not. She also doesn't see well nor has the dexterity to remove all debris. Incontinence pullups are slightly…
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Any experience with Rexulti?
DH has been getting more delusional and agitated. Doc suggested a switch from olanzapine to rexulti. Wondered if there is any experience with rexulti out there. I know every PWD is different but would still like to hear about experiences with this med. Also what dose at what time of day? Doc suggested a cutback reducing…
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Early Onset AZ Newbie
I’m new to this community. I am (51F) taking care of my dear husband (56M) who was diagnosed at the beginning of January of this year with mid-stage early onset Alzheimer’s dementia. There were signs starting about 3 years ago that I just didn’t associate with dementia, and I (mentally) kick myself for not realizing…
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When does PWD stop voting?
I have seen previous discussions of spouses assisting in varying capacities (sometimes total, wink wink) with early/mail-in voting process. In my state it clearly says POA is not permitted to vote for someone else and I respect that. I have a gentle conversation with DW and she can answer yes/no questions like do you want…
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Day care for Alzheimer’s mom
I live in Corona Ca, I take care of my mom in stage 5/6 Alzheimer’s. I’m trying to find a place to take my mom for the day to socialize and do fun activities but I haven’t found anything in the internet. Maybe someone knows a place? Thank you
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New person, first post - Trying to be the rock
To say I'm frustrated would be an understatement - my dad was finally diagnosed with dementia/alzheimers along with anxiety, depression, and OCD/fixation. We could sort of see signs of something not being quite right with him a year or so ago and I had to push my mom to get testing done. The first specialist they were…
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Humor from my PWD
Me: are you sleeping? Her (with eyes closed) yes I am. Me: and talking too! Her: (eyes still closed) I’m talking and sleeping. I have many talents.
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Exhausted and Frustrated
Hello!! I am new to the site. My mom and sister are caring for my dad with dementia-I live in another state. My dad often “loses” my mom during the day and gets very upset and my mom and sister spend countless hours trying to console him and help him “find” her. It is exhausting and increasing in frequency. He also has to…
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Fair Hearing
Hello everybody! I have a fair hearing coming up on November 7th for myself to be enrolled in the CDPAP program, and I am quite anxious about it. I applied for the CDPAP program last year as I can't work due to being a full time care giver for my mother, and while the state declared that we were eligible for it, my…
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I Need HELP!
Hello, I am new here and living with and caring for my almost 82 yo mother with Alzheimer’s /Dementia. For the last month/weeks (this week especially) has been increasingly agitated, angry, verbally abusive, wondering off and PHYSICALLY aggressive. I spoke with her doctor who suggested a UTI and started her on antibiotics…
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Today's question
I have not been to see my mom in about ten days, due to my husband being quite ill in the hospital ... and work, and child care ... finally made it over to see her today. She smiled sweetly and asked me, "where is your mother?" I have to admit, I was stumped for a minute. She repeated the question. I touched her hand and…
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Hospice to Stage 8 in 35 Days
I'm heartbroken at the loss of my LO. He took his last breath at 5.15 am today while I held him in my arms. I am thankful I was able to keep my promise to keep him home until the end. It was gut wrenching to watch the life leave him. I guess we all know the day will come to let them go but I thought we would have more…
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New here
Thought I would introduce myself to the community and glad I found it. DW was diagnosed recently with AD after a lengthy and somewhat frustrating medical journey. She’s 55 and pretty far along as far as the scales go-in the 6’s. Anyone have any insight into the awareness of the disease. She seems pretty aware of what’s…
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What is the best incontinence brief for men?
I know this has been asked before, but we are just now dealing with urinary incontinence with my DH. He is in memory care, but the product they use is chafing the inside of his thighs, not to mention that it also doesn't work very well. I would prefer to provide him with something comfortable and effective. Thank you all…
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Attempted suicide and does not remember
She attempted suicide this morning with a knife , struggling with staff, they sent her off to a mental hospital and now she does not remember … Anybody experienced that ? Wondering if Alzheimer alone is causing this or another form of dementia or mental illness