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Can I keep it together
Hi all, DW should be placed in MC in the next 6 weeeks if all goes well. Openings etc One day at a time. I'm having a hell of a time with me , I'm suppose to stay calm cool and collected, not to raise my voice and talk in a nice way. DW threw her oatmeal on the floor and I lost it for a bit. The darn* thoughts were there…
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Free resource
I think I've been on these boards intermittently for at least five years. I know I cannot solicit here, so instead I'm simply inviting you to connect with me in order to receive a few free resources including. . . * Connection to a spouse who's been at this for about a decade now. * Subscription (free) to my blog: Simple…
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Just need to talk to my friends (177)
Morning, Works for me, Ron. Seems like you're feeling better. Hope so. Already pretty warm here and usually is supposed to be 100 which makes almost 30 days over 100 this summer.Heat index 105-110. I had noted that we had a calf due today so drove out to check. All was well. I do hope we don't have any while it's so hot.…
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Checking In(3)
I've been away as life has been really busy here. And it has been quite the path up to today. On July 19 we saw our family doctor and he prescribed an antidepressant for DH to help with his suicidal thoughts due to the pain in his arm. As we were trying to keep DH calm he didn't have the opportunity to see how the pain…
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All behavior excusable??
My DH was recently diagnosed with ES AD. His behavior has already been changing. I understand it is not his fault, he cannot help the forgetting and the moodiness. But is there any accountability for behavior and actions? Am I supposed to look the other way and just accept all his behavior? What do I do with feelings of…
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Let Her Cry - Hootie and the Blowfish
This song spoke to me this morning. Hugs to y’all. https://youtu.be/1aVHLL5egRY
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Cela Question?
I've started trying to figure out what our financial future will look like. I have a DPOA, LW and healthcare power of attorney for DH. I realize now, I need to have those for me too. We both have long term care plans which are currently costing me a fortune each month. I'm 68 and DH is 66. I signed up for social security…
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Qualified for hospice; so many emotions
After attempting to deliver a level of care solo, I decided that no mortal should be expected to do, and called a hospice provider for an evaluation. My HWD qualified without question. Someone once said that seeing a train coming at you through that tunnel doesn’t make the impact any less when it hits you. I feel a…
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Brain Paralysis
Lately I get chair locked where I just can't get started. I stall on just about every activity I need to do. Once I am underway I am fine, getting out of the chair is the challenge. In golf if you have too many thoughts before you swing the club you will probably stiffen up and make a mistake. This is called paralysis by…
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What to expect at the Doctor's assessment?
How does this appointment typically go?
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Non-cooperative. What's the next step? I can see it coming.
FDBF has been a little irritable and confused the last couple of days. He doesn't want to pay his bills (including rent/utilities). He wants to live in his travel trailer on his vacant land in the mountains (no utilities). He doesn’t plan on moving until the weather is better. Thankfully, his truck isn't working and he…
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stomach pain basically every day
My DH has Alzheimers along with Parkinsons. He is extremely sensitive to everything it seems. He feels hot then cold all day long. But what I am wondering here is if anyone has had this experience - of past surgeries (in his case, 2 inguinal hernia surgeries) about 6 years ago which has left him (still) with a burning type…
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Lost and overwhelmed spouse
I am new to this site, starting here as I reach out for help. My DH was recently diagnosed with the early stage of Alzheimer’s and while it seems he is still in denial it is very obvious to the rest of us. Situation is unique and extra complicated because we have minor children. I am still working full time and have to. So…
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Endless Grief
It's been over ten years since our first Neurologist examination showed the dying areas of my wife's brain. In the early stages we both grieved our loss. She would fixate on music about loss or fear of loss. We grieved together. For the last few years she has lost any insight, and mostly I grieve alone. What is so hard for…
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One of the first posts that made an impression on me when I joined
https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147540361
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Tomorrow I get a break
I will be out of town for 6-8 hours, don't know if I deserve a break but sure as hell need one. Son's wife will watch her. Son and I have papers to sign at CELA's in Marquette and get more info. on what comes next. After that will stop in at Memory Place in Manistique and get more information. Haven't been able to go…
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Imaginary ailments?
Is it possible for a PWD to have imaginary ailments? I took my DH to the VA on Friday. The first of four appointments was an eye exam at 8 am. In the waiting room he declared he had chest pains on the left side and was having a heart attack. Immediately we were escorted to the VA emergency room. We spent the rest of the…
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I am a mess
DH after breaking his ankle was in the hospital for 2 weeks and 2 days. Last Wed. I moved him to Memory Care in the bldg next to our independent living apt. 4 hrs after he was transferred from the hospital he fell trying to get out of his recliner trying to get to the bathroom. Now I got a call at 7:45 am that he fell out…
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This is so off topic, you probably should just skip it
Three nights ago, I went to a baseball game in Chicago with three of our kids, two sons and a daughter. Whenever I would have the game on TV, my wife would say how she wanted to go to another game. There was no way I could possibly take her. Well, for the first two innings, I did not enjoy it, thinking about my wife. I…
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How to approach conservatorship/guardianship
I spoke with an attorney today regarding my FDBF (of 12 years) and his increasing inability to handle his affairs. She suggested having a conference call with his kids (who live in another state) to discuss starting the process of conservatorship & guardianship. They would like me to continue to take care of their dad…
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In over my head
My mom had been 'ok' - moderate vascular dementia, but functioning reasonably well with help. Unfortunate family conflict has destroyed pur support network, so I'm trying my best to keep things going. Tonight, forvthe first time, mom became very agitated & paranoid about her medication, including accusing me of hiding it…
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Caring for DH is different from caring for other LOs
I have some experience in caring for PWD, as I had POA and responsibility for both my mother and my aunt at the end of their lives. And I know some of the things to expect. We had a magic stove at my mom's house that was always broken when I or another caregiver wasn't there (We flipped the breaker when we left them alone)…
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Feed back on seroquel ?
My wife's neurologist got back to us and prescribed the lowest dose of seroquel one in the morning and one at night. I would appreciate any feedback from anyone who has experience with this drug. Right now she takes lamotrigine and effexor in the morning and aricept and ambien at night. We are way past memory loss and…
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Now it can't happen, and I'm afraid of Dec. 28
This was from three years ago, and I still wanted it to happen. https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147549185
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our turn for covid
Got an email last Monday that there were three cases on the MC unit and today my partner tested positive. They are NOT forthcoming about how many other cases are there but I know of at least one other, and there are cases in the AL side also. They are going to give her Paxlovid if she tolerates it but IDK if it will make…
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Question for the medical folks about covid
So my dw was tested on Tuesday Aug 16th with covid but no symptoms, Wednesday she had a fever 99.7, Thursday she was pale and washed out? When do they start counting the days for her to be released? Just wanting to be sure I understand how this works. Thanks in advance, I haven't called yet for today's update. Waiting on a…
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Missing posts(1)
I noticed that Jo said part of her posts were gone. I just checked the thread where people post pics of their LOs, and it said the last post was on Friday, August 19, 2022 9:51 PM. But when I looked at the thread, the last post that showed up was on August 17 at 12:10 AM. So almost 3 days of posts were gone. It has been…
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Where Am I?(1)
That's what DH asked me yesterday afternoon. We were sitting in the living room when he said he wanted to tell me what was happening to him. He pointed to his head and said he was blocked; he couldn't remember things. He said he was having trouble recognizing people and know who they are. I nodded and let him continue…
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Making bloney sandwiches
Having a hell of a time with meat grinder, won't grind. Did you know that the darn thing won't grind if you don't have cutter in it. Hope this makes you smile, a lot of us need too!! Hoot
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Spitting mad
I have been working on getting my dh placed. He is still independent with ADLs, but increasingly disorganized. I'm still working, so I'm concerned for him when he's home and when he's out. I found the place I want to put him, and I think they're very good. But trying to get information from the intake person is like…