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Transfer Trama
I thought it might be worth posting this as it will happen to most of us who have to place in a MCF. But what surprised me was it is not just for the pwd it happens to the caregiver and I believe I suffered from having my Dw go to a geripych. I was sick for about 8 days. Some folks have talked about the strategies to help…
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I am very blessed
My heart hurts for so many of you who have to deal with so many more problems than I have. My 85 year old husband wasn't diagnosed formally until last year, and we were told by the neurophysiologist that there were several factors predictive if a slow progression for the disease. I can see changes but he is still fairly…
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How to move on humanely?
DBF has about reached the point where he needs more care than I can give him. He can still dress himself, cook if supervised. He goes down to his shop and putts around for a few hours a day. His sister and I used to keep an eye on him but she recently passed away from cancer. Since then, I've been taking care of him by my…
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I am not sure my wife is coming back this time
My wife had the longest psychotic episode ever, it is still ongoing. It started at 3 in the morning Sunday. She is a text book Jekyll/Hyde behavior. Sweet and loving one minute spitting venom the next. That is what I have been referring to as psychotic episodes is the Hyde part of her behavior. There is no talking or…
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First day in MC
DH was transferred to memory Care from the hospital. He had broken his ankle in 2 places over 2 weeks ago. MC is in the bldg next to our independent living apt. I visited him and was happy that the staff was so welcoming etc. He has trouble getting up out of his recliner. He is wearing a boot. He had to use the bathroom…
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Covid at the geripsych
I was just getting ready to go visit and see the sw,when I got a call, they have positive cases at the unit and my wife is positive with no symptoms. I hung up before asking if they were going to treat her duh. Now I can't get thru. They shut the unit down for 5 to 7 days. They require visitors to be masked and I always…
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Socializing during Covid
DH was diagnosed with MCI last year, we have pretty well kept to ourselves last 2 + years, DH is 84, very few of his friends are alive nearby if any. Last week my daughter & family from England came to visit us after 3 years. I noticed a definite improvement in DH while we socialized with them. During 36 years of marriage,…
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Forum Messaging is on the Fritz
Apparently, no one cares to fix it. Reported twice.
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Suggestions for a GPS Tracker/Watch
Hi Everyone: I am in need of suggestions for a digital watch with gps tracking features. Nothing too fancy as DH has challenges figuring out gadgets. Appreciate your suggestions.
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All mixed up
Nine years ago I retired early to care for my mom, dad, and husband (all in dementia) in two homes two miles apart. Tonight we have four homes amongst us. My mom went to heaven last Christmas. My husband is in memory care sharing a room with who he believes is his wife. My ninety eight year old dad’s house is empty…
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Immobility and Bowel Incontinence
I frequent the boards every day to read and get some advice. But now, I need to ask for help. My DH is immobile, and at the moment can use a sit to stand device to get up from bed and chair. He is only out of bed around five hours a day. I believe he has become bowel incontinent. He didn't know last night that he had…
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Hearing Aids?
My DH was approved for hearing aids last year by the ENT. Trouble is, he loses everything and every day we are on the hunt for something. I am also not sure if hearing better would add another confusion dimension for him. He's at the point where we can barely communicate sine he has trouble processing words and sentences…
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Memory Care- Don't wait to long to place LO
I'm Hoot and I always planned on taking care of DW at home. I hadn't realized how it was taking a toll on me and also on Jan my DW. It's getting so I can't keep Me under control, I try to do the right things but it just doesn't work out. DW is constantly hollering at me and I end up doing the same. Any thing I try to for…
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Is Memory Care A Marketing Term?
I listened to a recorded presentation from a CELA in Wisconsin, and learned a lot about medical and financial poa’s, as well as financing long term care. She stated that memory care is a marketing term used by the industry to attract patients with dementia and charge extra fees. In Wisconsin at least, it is not a medical…
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Steady state covid Currently 500 deaths a day
Covid has become endemic in the USA the current death toll is about 500 per day for a comparison there are about 67 homicides per day in the USA Alzheimer's patients remain at very high risk https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nvss/vsrr/covid19/excess_deaths.htm
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I think placement could be on the horizon
Well today I was doing a surprise visit to a place that I had seen before, this time its lunch time. Smelled got to see that the common eating area that isn't big enough. And the supper room could seat about 6 max. So some folks ate in the rooms, that's OK though. Plenty of help. Asked about their patient staff ratio, had…
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DW Angry About Having a Caregiver
Hi All: My first post here. My DW is declining rapidly. It is very difficult to deal with her anger. I am trying my 2nd Caregiver today and she is beyond angry. I would full time at home and it is so hard to work and ensure she eats, etc. Ideas on how to have her open to a Caregiver?
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I am at my wits end..........
I have mentioned before that DH constantly insists he needs to go home and find his mother. Home has been sold long ago and his mother has been dead for 10 years..........he has lost his license to drive and keeps insisting he needs the truck keys. In the past I have been able to talk him down but now it's become an all…
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It just occurred to me
We talk quite a bit of memories we have of/with our loved ones. It just occurred to me that when I'm gone, those memories will also be gone. Just like they never happened. That's a sobering thought.
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What stage do you think we are in?
After being home the past couple of months for summer break I've noticed what seems to me to be quite a decline in my DH but am unsure what stage I'd say he was in. Sleeping is my biggest bone. He is constantly waking up in the middle of the night starting around 2am. He gets up and shuffles around the room, looking out…
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Psychotic episode response
My wife woke up at 3 this morning wanting to take all the kids home. There are no kids just me and a dog. Its as if the dog and I look at each other with here a we go again head nod. Like a team that has played and practiced a lot together. She has her job I have mine. There was a time psychotic episodes scared the wits…
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Chronic headache after Covid vaccine
DW has had a headache all day, every day since she got her first Covid shot over a year ago. Has anyone else heard of this?
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Another funny thing my wife said
This morning my wife says all excited "I remembered something today, I forgot what it was but I remembered it !" That line made my day.
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When the time grows near
My Dad's situation was so much different than most of your LO's, as he was in his 90's when diagnosed. He was home with my mother 2 years until he had a heart event. After hospitalization of 10 days he went directly to MC facility, where he stayed for one month before dying. While he had the usual issues with loss of…
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Not sure what to hope for
DH has been in the hospital for a week due to an ankle broken in 2 places. I went to the ER via anbulance this week due to dehydration and anxiety. My nephew and his wife drove 4 hrs to visit. I can tell DH has regressed as when we visited he said he would meet us in the lobby. He knew who I was but had NO IDEA why he is…
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MCI Resources
Hi all. As you may remember, my DH is in the early stages and as of yet, undiagnosed. In researching MCI and early dementia, I came across this helpful website with podcasts and videos about living with MCI. Those of you with LO in early stages might find them helpful. https://www.adrc.wisc.edu/mci
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Another night lost in the ER
I apologize in advance for whining, particularly because I am not up to date on reading posts by others. I know that people are dealing with worse things every day. I got the call from the MCF right after dinner last night that my wife had fallen again. My new instructions after multiple trips to the ER is to call me first…
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Another gem
Part of life in my twilight zone is my wife talking to me about me. I exist in her head as Bill the supervisor at work, Bill the caregiver most of the time, Bill the husband late at night and early in the morning. When I am the caregiver she talks to me about the Bill at work. Or when I'm at work she will talk about Bill…
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New Day New Challenge
Hi everyone. My husband was diagnosed with VD two years ago. Trying to navigate through this has been well interesting. Just when I think I have a handle on things there are always new challenges to face. DH is angry and cannot accept his diagnosis. He just wants to take a pill and make it go away. He is angry at me all…
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New and floundering
Hello. I am new and trying to find my way. My husband is 71, history of a brain injury and family history of vascular dementia. Memory loss has been noted for about two years, but he has been getting worse the last 3-4 months. I have found bills not paid, so I am now trying to figure this out, he has always handled our…