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Confirmed Alzheimer’s
Been awhile since I updated. Trying to have the life we can have before DH a gets worse. I posted awhile back when he was doing many questionable things. Well we got to a memory care doc and after the full battery of tests, final being a PET scan we have the diagnosis.so now to make the plans while he still can thankfully.…
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Just need to talk to my friends (175)
Jo, I've been having problems, too. Meant to start 175 last night and then this morning but had to water. When I came in didn't feel too well and tablet had to be charged. While it was charging got interested in the men's semifinals at Wimbleton and when it was over Carol called.. Finally got back to the tabket. She said…
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UTI, friends, hearing aides and referral,
Well just an update on dw. I found out Monday that she has a uti, seems kinda odd,they checked her at the er when she was there? Maybe they did a culture at the geripsych? I need to ask more about that. Yesterday another close friend of dw went to visit her. He said she didn't seem medicated? She knew him and continues to…
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Body Language
Hi all, and thanks again for your support and understanding. Every day I read something here that helps me. I am a retired veterinarian and love to study animal behavior. The other evening, my DH had a panic attack, jumped out of bed, and ran out the front door. His face had the look of a trapped wild animal. We had had an…
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How the DW is doing
Yesterday she screamed at her Son then later his wife but Grandson Jon she knew. She also had been yelling at me. At bedtime she was raising hell and got in bed by herself. She usually gets out of bed after a bit and sleeps in front room. She stayed in bed I kept checking camera to see if she made in to front room. When I…
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I can lie about my age!
So, it was a very hot day here in the midwest. I was outside hanging up laundry when DH came out and asked if I needed help. (he offers, but is incapable of actually doing anything that would help). I politely told him thank you but I was doing fine. Then he said that he doesn't like it out here like he did when he was 20,…
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Significance of 58
DH just asked me to “refresh him on the significance of 58.” Hit me hard that he didn’t know the meaning of our 58th wedding anniversary today. (21,170 days of marriage but who is counting.? Ha ha) He frequently tells people we have been married 57 years and it was the best decision he ever made (I agree) ….but today he…
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Needing Advice(1)
Hi all! This is just my second post and I have some questions. First I was wondering if anyone has experience with removing a cell phone from LO. My DH uses his with some difficulty on a regular basis. He has come close to giving out to much information on several occasions that I know of and I would like to limit his use…
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Help Where do I begin
My DH is showing signs of dementia and is paranoid and he says I am seeking to "put him away, like all women do" Now granted I have never mentioned doing anything but trying to protect ourselves from losing everything we have. We do not have a diagnosis yet, our appointment isn't until January 06, 2023, I believe he will…
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Refuses care
My DH will not see a doctor. I am looking into assisted living and discovered you must have a physical to be accepted. Does anyone have suggestions? We live in California. My best guess is that he has frontotemporal dementia.
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New to the Group(4)
Greetings all.I was very glad to find this group. My wife Alzheimer`s & just turned 60 last week. She was diagnosed about 3 years ago & so much has changed over that time. She recognizes a lot of people, but could probably only name 2 or 3. She does not even know the name of our infant grandson. I just got her a GPS watch…
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To Ed
Hello Ed, I hope you are doing as well as possible. I just want you to know you are in my prayers and in my thoughts daily. You are a tremendous blessing to me and so many others. I hope you know that. Please take good care of yourself!
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Hello M1
Hello M; been thinking of you and wondering how you are and how things are going for you. Are you working in a professional status at this point? How are things going with the property - that is a LOT of area to cover. I also wondered if the hired "friend" has begun entering the picture for your Partner yet and if so, how…
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A story about a lost dog
Our grandson, Phil, and his family came to see us. He said his dog got out, and they thought someone picked him up. He had been missing for about 6 months, when while driving, he saw the dog roaming the streets. He stopped, and called the dog by name. The dog came running to him, and he opened the car door for the dog to…
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Weekend Admission Through VA Hospital Emergency Room
Friday evening brought another round of scary hallucinations and violent aggression from my DH. Incidents like this had happened 4 or 5 times over the past 2 weeks, where DH has lashed out at me with broad, open-hand slaps directed at my face and head. I've managed to duck and dodge to avoid any real injury. I'd been…
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Screaming and Wailing In Dementia Patients
Excellent: Does NOT happen with all person with dementia, but for those with such a problem issue: Good scholarly articles on Screaming and Wailing in Dementia Patients http://www.stacommunications.com/customcomm/Back-issue_pages/AD_Review/adPDFs/january2004/11.pdf…
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First few caregiver steps
My DW was just diagnosed two weeks ago. We are both 76. She is at this time the Susan I know and love with the exception of the short term memory issues. She just started Aricept and it seems to have provided an alertness and sharpness in her behavior. If it is not that med, I'll gladly take any improvements at this time…
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14 months since my DH passed
The last time I was on this site is right before my DH passed. I had posted something right before he passed and some people were just rude and the post was closed. It's been a very long 14 months. Before he passed I thought life after his passing was going to be much different than it is. It is very lonely and boring. Due…
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Clinical Stages of Alzheimer’s for us newbies
Most of you know this, and I see your references to your LO’s stages, but I’m still learning, and thought others might find this information helpful as well. There is a detailed explanation of symptoms at each stage, as well as the usual/expected time line for progression. It looks like I’d better take advantage of the…
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Frustration!
This is my first post and I’m embarrassed. My DH was diagnosed with MCI 2 1/2 years ago and AD in the spring. Every day is frustrating but today I just can’t hold it together. I am so angry!!! He is not as severe as a lot of the people that are spoken of on this forum. Today I don’t know where to turn so I am posting. He…
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Caregiver 101 - things that help me
Hi gang, The previous occupant of this house put a deep wash sink in the laundry room. This gets use every day, and I could not live without it. If you are not in need of one yet, I am sorry to report that you will be. I recommend you get one installed before you need it. Washcloths are a must. My gal used to clean houses…
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Why did you say that?
About a month ago my wife and I were out at an local event. While we were there a gentleman approached us and introduced himself. As he shook my hand I introduced myself. He then went to shake DW hand. DW just stood there looking at him not saying a word (DW for the most part is non-verbal). So I intervened by saying,…
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dreading each day
My situation is not as bad as many others but I feel very dejected about life in general. My DH sleeps on and off most of the day and after I put him to bed around 11 pm he is up several times during the night attempting to make coffee and eat his breakfast roll. I hate to put him on a sleep med because I worry this would…
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New invitations for connections?
Within the last few weeks I have received requests from two individuals to be "friends" here. Neither one of these have had any posts that I could find. I do not accept invitations from people if I have no idea who they are or what their motives are. Have any of you received requests like that?
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LO slumping over in bed
what is the best device to keep LO from slumping over in bed
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Question for the group(1)
Has anyone ever written a letter to their lo in mcf? When I visited the Geripyhc unit Thursday she had a paper hanging out of her pocket which I asked if I could see it, dw had written 2 letters which were Identical to me asking why I wasn't coming home. I want write something that will let her know I am ok and that the…
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I Miss A Real Wife
Did that title grab your attention? This will be a somewhat long, therapeutic post. I have been married to my dear wife for 26 years, with nearly seven of those years in the dementia/caregiving scenario. Fully one quarter of my marriage has been overshadowed by dementia. I miss having a real wife. We had just 19 years…
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I don't know if I can do this(1)
I had a care team meeting today. Everything is going according to schedule, they are giving her 1000mg of depakote, 10 mg lexapro. She hasn't needed any melatonin for sleep. She got 9 hrs sleep yesterday. The blood level of the depakote is 29. She sometimes joins in the group and sometimes not. She is bull headed and when…
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DW is screaming a lot, talking very loud
She has been doing this for the last month and getting louder. Are there meds to give her here in Michigan that a primary Doc can give her. On another note we have a Take Five program here in the UP of Michigan. Take her there and drop her off for 5 hours. I only wish that I would have used it when I first heard about it.…
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Comcast is out!!
After about 15 or so years with Comcast, I finally am getting rid of it. I'll easily save $100.00 a month, even after streaming services. Now maybe we can eat, or we can get medications.