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Mixed messages from medical staff
Kids came from out of state a few days ago to take care of the POA. Their dad refused to sign the papers. Attorney says guardianship is the next step. The visit was very stressful for him. His daughte…
Started by Wilted
Most recent by Bill_2001
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 24, 2022
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Another EOAD cost
I was just recognized in public by a man whose daughter I taught in 2002-2003 (5th grade). He was so excited that he called her on his cell phone to tell her and so she could talk to me. It was touchi…
Started by John1965
Most recent by French
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
13
Aug 24, 2022
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6
Need advise on bedding products
Hi gang. I am apparently entering into the nighttime incontinence phase. Does anyone have advice on mattress protectors, mattress pads, wetness protection, and etc.? I do not see nighttime Depends as …
Started by RobertsBrown
Most recent by LizG55
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 24, 2022
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When/how to stop them from driving
My DH was recently diagnosed with ES AD. The doc said to look for problems with cooking, driving, and getting lost or disoriented as signs for the transition into the middle phase. The doc said this c…
Started by Jella417
Most recent by [Deleted User]
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 24, 2022
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We saw the CELA
We got all the paperwork done, now to a place. The one I was interested in has covid ,Sign was on the door Covid postive We left. Tomorrow I start looking and hoping to find a opening for my wife. Hav…
Started by Hoot619
Most recent by jmlarue
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
9
Aug 23, 2022
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10
Downsizing and moving out of state--need suggestions please
I have recently come to the conclusion that we can no longer remain in our big old house on an acre lot in Nebraska. We need to move to our second home in Florida to be close to our son and his family…
Started by Laurie1282
Most recent by ThisLife
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
14
Aug 23, 2022
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9
Facing reality
I’ve been in denial! As the days go by and I see my husband slowly changing I cannot hold onto that Hope I once had. Reading through the posts I am now aware that a tough road is ahead and there is no…
Started by JC5
Most recent by Ed1937
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
10
Aug 23, 2022
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9
Football Season
DH is an avid football fan and has always followed college and pro football games on TV. I should have realized he was declining last year when he had trouble remember the names of the teams. So far t…
Started by saltom
Most recent by Donr
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 23, 2022
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9
Can I keep it together
Hi all, DW should be placed in MC in the next 6 weeeks if all goes well. Openings etc One day at a time. I'm having a hell of a time with me , I'm suppose to stay calm cool and collected, not to raise…
Started by Hoot619
Most recent by Hoot619
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 23, 2022
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Free resource
I think I've been on these boards intermittently for at least five years. I know I cannot solicit here, so instead I'm simply inviting you to connect with me in order to receive a few free resources i…
Started by Pathfinder52
Most recent by Pathfinder52
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
11
Aug 23, 2022
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Just need to talk to my friends (177)
Morning, Works for me, Ron. Seems like you're feeling better. Hope so. Already pretty warm here and usually is supposed to be 100 which makes almost 30 days over 100 this summer.Heat index 105-110. I …
Started by Lorita
Most recent by Lorita
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 23, 2022
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Checking In(3)
I've been away as life has been really busy here. And it has been quite the path up to today. On July 19 we saw our family doctor and he prescribed an antidepressant for DH to help with his suicidal t…
Started by AnnMB
Most recent by Hoot619
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
9
Aug 23, 2022
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All behavior excusable??
My DH was recently diagnosed with ES AD. His behavior has already been changing. I understand it is not his fault, he cannot help the forgetting and the moodiness. But is there any accountability for …
Started by Jella417
Most recent by Iris L.
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 23, 2022
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Let Her Cry - Hootie and the Blowfish
This song spoke to me this morning. Hugs to y’all. https://youtu.be/1aVHLL5egRY
Started by MaryG123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
8
Aug 23, 2022
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Cela Question?
I've started trying to figure out what our financial future will look like. I have a DPOA, LW and healthcare power of attorney for DH. I realize now, I need to have those for me too. We both have long…
Started by Faith,Hope,Love
Most recent by pennyloafer2
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
8
Aug 23, 2022
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Qualified for hospice; so many emotions
After attempting to deliver a level of care solo, I decided that no mortal should be expected to do, and called a hospice provider for an evaluation. My HWD qualified without question. Someone once sa…
Started by Lynne D
Most recent by Just Bill
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
10
Aug 22, 2022
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Brain Paralysis
Lately I get chair locked where I just can't get started. I stall on just about every activity I need to do. Once I am underway I am fine, getting out of the chair is the challenge. In golf if you hav…
Started by Just Bill
Most recent by rlpete
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
11
Aug 22, 2022
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What to expect at the Doctor's assessment?
How does this appointment typically go?
Started by Wilted
Most recent by Quilting brings calm
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
9
Aug 22, 2022
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1
Non-cooperative. What's the next step? I can see it coming.
FDBF has been a little irritable and confused the last couple of days. He doesn't want to pay his bills (including rent/utilities). He wants to live in his travel trailer on his vacant land in the mou…
Started by Wilted
Most recent by JJAz
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
13
Aug 22, 2022
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14
stomach pain basically every day
My DH has Alzheimers along with Parkinsons. He is extremely sensitive to everything it seems. He feels hot then cold all day long. But what I am wondering here is if anyone has had this experience - o…
Started by Belldream
Most recent by Jo C.
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
11
Aug 22, 2022
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5
Lost and overwhelmed spouse
I am new to this site, starting here as I reach out for help. My DH was recently diagnosed with the early stage of Alzheimer’s and while it seems he is still in denial it is very obvious to the rest o…
Started by Jella417
Most recent by Pat1618
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
10
Aug 22, 2022
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Endless Grief
It's been over ten years since our first Neurologist examination showed the dying areas of my wife's brain. In the early stages we both grieved our loss. She would fixate on music about loss or fear o…
Started by RobertsBrown
Most recent by Paris20
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 22, 2022
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One of the first posts that made an impression on me when I joined
https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147540361
Started by Ed1937
Most recent by TyZay
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
10
Aug 22, 2022
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Tomorrow I get a break
I will be out of town for 6-8 hours, don't know if I deserve a break but sure as hell need one. Son's wife will watch her. Son and I have papers to sign at CELA's in Marquette and get more info. on wh…
Started by Hoot619
Most recent by Joe C.
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
8
Aug 21, 2022
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2
Imaginary ailments?
Is it possible for a PWD to have imaginary ailments? I took my DH to the VA on Friday. The first of four appointments was an eye exam at 8 am. In the waiting room he declared he had chest pains on the…
Started by Soul Mate
Most recent by Jo C.
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 21, 2022
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I am a mess
DH after breaking his ankle was in the hospital for 2 weeks and 2 days. Last Wed. I moved him to Memory Care in the bldg next to our independent living apt. 4 hrs after he was transferred from the hos…
Started by Elshack
Most recent by abc123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
9
Aug 21, 2022
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4
This is so off topic, you probably should just skip it
Three nights ago, I went to a baseball game in Chicago with three of our kids, two sons and a daughter. Whenever I would have the game on TV, my wife would say how she wanted to go to another game. Th…
Started by Ed1937
Most recent by abc123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
8
Aug 21, 2022
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How to approach conservatorship/guardianship
I spoke with an attorney today regarding my FDBF (of 12 years) and his increasing inability to handle his affairs. She suggested having a conference call with his kids (who live in another state) to d…
Started by Wilted
Most recent by Wilted
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 21, 2022
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In over my head
My mom had been 'ok' - moderate vascular dementia, but functioning reasonably well with help. Unfortunate family conflict has destroyed pur support network, so I'm trying my best to keep things going.…
Started by Hope65
Most recent by Jella417
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 21, 2022
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Caring for DH is different from caring for other LOs
I have some experience in caring for PWD, as I had POA and responsibility for both my mother and my aunt at the end of their lives. And I know some of the things to expect. We had a magic stove at my …
Started by Annen1014
Most recent by Davegrant
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
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Aug 21, 2022
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Commonly Used Abbreviations

DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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Caring For a Spouse or Partner

Caring For a Spouse or Partner

Mixed messages from medical staff

Another EOAD cost

Need advise on bedding products

When/how to stop them from driving

We saw the CELA

Downsizing and moving out of state--need suggestions please

Facing reality

Football Season

Can I keep it together

Free resource

Just need to talk to my friends (177)

Checking In(3)

All behavior excusable??

Let Her Cry - Hootie and the Blowfish

Cela Question?

Qualified for hospice; so many emotions

Brain Paralysis

What to expect at the Doctor's assessment?

Non-cooperative. What's the next step? I can see it coming.

stomach pain basically every day

Lost and overwhelmed spouse

Endless Grief

One of the first posts that made an impression on me when I joined

Tomorrow I get a break

Imaginary ailments?

I am a mess

This is so off topic, you probably should just skip it

How to approach conservatorship/guardianship

In over my head

Caring for DH is different from caring for other LOs

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