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End of a Chapter
My DH, passed away Dec. 9, in his sleep, by my side. There was no indication that anything was different that night. I am numb.
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Urination
Oh my...we are having our living room completely remodeled so had painting done and all pictures off the walls in living room and hallway etc. I put some of the pictures on the floor in our bedroom as paintings etc will go back on the walls once our new furniture comes. We had several cloth designs from Viet Nam which we…
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Tracking Device(2)
My wife’s home care nurse suggested I obtain a GPS tracking device for her to wear if she ever leaves the house on her own so that me or the authorities can find her. The device should also have fall detection. Anybody heard of such a gadget? She also suggested that I obtain an alz med-alert bracelet for her with name,…
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Sorry I have forgotten
You may think I am talking about my partner who has Alzheimer ? But no, I talk about his son ! Today I had to leave at 5am for a phD defense in the south of France. Everything was organized. My son was at home this night and had to leave after 8am, the first caregiver arrives at 8am and manages the morning routine and the…
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Does anyone have experience with bidets
I'm seriously considering a bidet. My wife told me she would not use one, but it might be worth a try. Does anyone have a LO who never used one before dementia? How did it go? Which one do you have, and what are the pros and cons? I know we need a heated bidet, and a warm wash that is consistently warm.
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vent: the trail of turds
Last evening, I came down with a fever. I told DH that I needed to rest. He was fairly annoyed that I would not be waiting on him hand and foot. But I felt rest was best. At 3:30 am, DH decided it was time to get up. We got up and I got him coffee and a smoke. He was annoyed his programs were not on yet. I explained that I…
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Non verbal behavior
Hi, new to this site. My loving partner of 41 years was officially diagnosed with dementia 09/21 while in the hospital due to alcohol induced pancreatitis. He also has Sundowners and it was explained to me that he used alcohol to calm himself down. We have just started the dementia journey as he has had a high level…
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Some days(1)
Some days this is how How I think of Alzheimer's Photo by DW Rhinos are vegetarians They kill critters they can't eat.
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To get tested or not?
I had my husband tested by his primary doctor (he didn't know I asked). She told me he did pretty good, then in his patient portal she diagnosed MCI. I have seen others tested who did well when it was obvious there was a problem. He was very upset after the appointment and said he would never get another "brain test"…
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Just need to talk to my friends (160)
Hi, Hated to start a new part of the thread when the discussion on EMV, CMV, Covid, the new variant and so many other things were going so good. But, it's past time so losing posts will begin to happen more frequently. Dr. Fauci has been on almost all of the news shows this morning - he seems a bit worried about the new…
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Does your MC facility hand feed your LO?
DH needs more than just a little assistance eating. Sometimes he has to be hand fed the entire meal. This has been going on for 4 weeks now. The MC staff have told me that they can't technically feed residents, just assist. However, they are feeding him breakfast. Otherwise, I'm going in twice/day to feed him lunch and…
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I recommend the following
I don’t like to recommend things that I can not prove. But after taking these for every long time they have been safe. I also believe they are helping along with the other drugs I take. No one will ever know if this combination works but I did a lot of studding and many do agree that there is some possibility. The ways I…
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How to determine when no longer advisable to leave LO alone
I have been wanting to present this topic to the group for several days to get your input. I thought I still had time. I would leave for an hour or 2 to do errands, visit a friend, etc, always leaving a note on where I am, when I will be back and my cell number. Today was to be a picnic with a friend for 2 hours. After…
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Mourning what this disease has taken
Does anyone else have days when you are almost immobilized by sadness? DH still lives at home but it is like being alone. The only thing he seems to enjoy is eating. Other than that he sleeps. Today I am angry and sad. Does anyone else ever feel like this
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Awakened this morning
At 6:30 this morning my husband, who usually sleeps in until at least 9, woke me up to tell me I must get up and get dressed. Still sleepy, I asked him why. He replied that it was time to go home and if I didn’t hurry we’d miss our flight. He was so sure of his words that I spoke carefully, even though we certainly were…
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Loss of bowel/bladder control.
This is no easy topic. A taboo subject ingrained in my brain, but here goes. Our sanitary issues have changed very very fast. What was an occasional skid mark job turned into a daily attendant job with me having to persuade my gal to let me clean her backside. This is obviously invasive, and she quite reasonably does not…
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ability to judge temperature
Has anyone had a concern regarding your LO being able to judge temperature? With the house warm, plenty of clothing and blankets my LO complained of being cold this morning around 5 pm. I did numerous things to warm him. His body felt comfortably warm to me, not hot. He was not feverish. After a while, I suggested we get…
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I should have known better
My wife simply can't understand that we only have one dog. She is always asking about the others. This morning she asked me where the dog was. I told her she was laying on the floor right in front of us. But that wasn't the dog she was looking for. Then she called "Layla", "Gracie". I told her Layla died 5 1/2 years ago.…
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This has become real
My husband has had some form of dementia for the past two and a half years. I have been slowly getting my ducks in a row, contacting the Alzheimer’s society, getting him assessed by the city for future placement in a mc facility. She came yesterday, she asked my husband all these questions about his health and his life.…
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I hope our members are OK
These tornadoes were devastating for a lot of people. Hopefully all of our members are OK, and they were not too impacted by them.
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Holiday Brownies
I made Brownies for DW with red and green sugar crystals.
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Vascular Dementia??
People say that defining what type of dementia doesn’t matter, but it does to me. It doesn’t change what they have, but, for me, it just makes it easier to understand what the future may hold. The life expectancy for someone with vascular dementia is less than someone with AD. Though our neurologist cannot diagnosis…
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No Sleep(3)
Any suggestions on how to move to the guest room? My DH is up and down all night. He either wanders around or goes to the bathroom and often just thinks he has to pee every hour on the hour. (I know, I am lucky that he thinks he has to pee and isn't peeing in the bed). Every time his feet hit the ground, I wake up and…
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Do you send Christmas cards??
The thread All I Want For Christmas prompted this thread. We always sent cards, sometimes with a carefully worded letter that we always hoped was informing and not bragging. After becoming empty nesters and then grandparents, we sent picture cards. (Yeah, guess we were bragging on the grandkids!) DH went to MC last year in…
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So they don't want to bathe?
Just a few tips for you. When someone with dementia REFUSES to bathe [try this]
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To Army Vet and Last Dance
And to everyone else in stage 8. I am fast approaching the 1 yr anniversary (Jan 23). and I find myself shuffeling through the motions of the holiday. You guys are not alone and neither am I. I can't say that I've had visitations but there have been a few dreams where he felt so very real to me and thankfully he appeared…
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Feeling guilty(3)
I am having a very hard coping. I’m a Type A person to say the least- always running at top speed. My husband who was recently diagnosed has always been on the slow side but now it takes him a very long time to do many things. I’m impatient and then I feel awful. I’m looking for a support group in the Bethesda, MD area.
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Early Onset(2)
Can I just say I'm sick of everyone deciding that DH can't have dementia because he's too young? It even goes as far as a new psychiatrist who said maybe it is pseudodementia, due to depression. Seriously, pseudodementia doesn't get to stage 6 with atrophy in the brain. Pseudodementia doesn't get to the point where you…
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Geripsychs & meds; venting, advice welcome
Some may recall my DH, stage6, who’s been docile and compliant, started exploding in anger and saying he saw me doing bad things with strange men, and/or just about any man DH noticed. His rages were extreme, and scary. His PCP tested and ruled out a UTI and other things. Getting those tests back took a couple days. In the…
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Aromatherapy
Have u tried aromatherapy for dementia/ Alzheimer’s? If so. Which oils helped in dementia/ memory issues?