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Couples counseling during memory loss
Has anyone out there gone to couples counseling in the early stages of your loved one’s mental decline? I have a counselor myself but my DH and I hope and trust a counselor knowledgeable about memory issues and how it affects a marital relationship would help us navigate emotional communications. Of course, this can happen…
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DH approved for in home hospice services
Hello , Just a quick update. Hospice nurse arrived this morning with one of the social workers who was here yesterday. several hours of intake and info. MOLST, etc. Bob is now enrolled, and i'm feeling a lot of support. They are scheduling a home health aide to come once a week for some adl and personal care, volunteers…
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sometimes an angel can appear when you least expect it
Hello everyone, A few months back i needed some home repairs done, These were important issues but not big jobs, and it was difficult to find a contractor. FInally through friends i was able to engage a very nice guy to help me. He did the repairs, and then some, could see that my husband wasn't well, and put other things…
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44 Year Old Husband Diagnosed With Dementia Did Not Recognize Early Symptoms
Very well written; https://www.telegraph.co.uk/health-fitness/mind/alzheimers-dementia-husband-symptoms-didnt-know-about/ J.
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Refusing to eat, drink or take meds, eyeing me with suspicion
OK... Husband showed some improvement on Wednesday, and after refusing to go to the lab for specimen delivery and more bloodwork {to see if UTI was cleared}, finally cooperated once we were at the hospital. However, he began to refuse food, ate a little, was reluctant to drink fluids. Finally had some ice cream. This is…
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Deciding to place DH in Memory Care
I am 69, my DH is 78. He was diagnosed in 2019, but, as with most of us, symptoms started a few years before. His mother was also victim of this horrible disease and I was the main family member who cared for her before she could no longer live at home. Deciding to have her go live somewhere safe was much easier as I/we…
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How to deal with partner's denial
My life partner has cognitive and physical decline. Has fallen 3 times in 2 weeks. Refuses to do PT. Complains that I am "making" him do drs appts. We have a sailboat that I got into the water and the slip (a function he has done alone over the last 36 years). He thinks he can put on the sails, a memory from a better time,…
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Curtail spending
So my husband has been spending about 90.00 a day on groceries. There are only two of us, so obviously this is overkill. I’ve already put limits on his ATM. I know he shops out of boredom and to feel like he is doing something for the household. But, we are bleeding money.
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Off Topic - the lighter side of life
At 85 years of age, I became a new daddy. This is the first one I've successfully raised from an egg. She'll be headed to Mexico before long. My g-grandaughter named her Kaylee.
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Surprise ability today
So for months now my DH has not been able to push the right buttons to run our dishwasher and if he chooses to help with dishes he doesn’t even put the dishes in the dishwasher but rather washes and dries them by hand. It’s as though he doesn’t remember we even have a dishwasher. So this morning he not only puts the dishes…
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Night Sweats (Every Night)
My 85 year old DH was diagnosed three years ago with Alzheimer. Other than not remembering 5 minutes ago, he is doing well; still easygoing and volunteering at a local garden where he has been volunteering for at least 16 years. He grew up on a farm and has retained ability to plant, harvest vegetables, and other tasks.…
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GPS Tracking(2)
I just joined this group tonight and so glad I did. My DH is still in the short term memory loss stage but I think things are changing a bit. He loves to go for walks and will do anywhere between 4-7 miles a day. We have 5 acres with an empty field of 11 acres on one side but we have a high school right next door to us.…
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I used to pity my DW, but anymore I envy her.
Honestly, as my beloved enters the near end of her AD, I sometimes envy her her mental loss. Mentation is that of a 2 year old, but as those of us here know, that is never a crisp analogy. She seems happy most of the time-laughs, talks to her dolls and anamatronic cats. I don't even remember what "happy" felt like. She has…
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Hell week...a cold hard reality check
Hello fellow travelers, My DH and I have been trudging long in stage 6. Ive been adapting, reinventing, reading old and new posts for guidance. But I truly wasn't prepared for the drastic turn of events that took place last week. DH had another UTI, and the culture showed a resistant form of strep. He was very weak, and…
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Anger issues
Will I have to tiptoe around my conversations for a long time so my husband doesn't have a meltdown? He told me recently that he has to walk on eggshells so he doesn't make me mad. What?!? I should have been the one saying that. What stage is this? Does he put himself in my shoes? Is there anyone out there going through…
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VA Website For Geriatrics And Extended Care
Posted by another Member, SDianeL, on the Caregivers Forum: https://alzconnected.org/discussion/66301/va-website-for-geriatrics-extended-care#latest
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Tracking wandering spouses
Anyone using "tiles" or the newer electronic tracking tags for safety and tracking when they go missing?
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Wandering help?
My DH has EO Alzheimers. We are in the 6th year since his diagnosis. We are "managing" life so far. I have some church friends who come sit with him a few hours a week. I can't ask them to do more. I work full time; I HAVE to work....for Insurance, to pay the rent and eat!!! I got a short term grant which helped pay for…
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Anosognosia - How to Help When They Don't Know They're Ill
Sharing this article again. https://dailycaring.com/6-ways-to-help-someone-who-doesnt-know-theyre-ill-anosognosia-in-dementia/
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DH thinks he should get a job
This afternoon DH turned to me and said “I need to get a job.” I asked him why he felt that was necessary, and he said he needs to keep busy and we need the income. It’s certainly true that he likes to stay busy, but we don’t need any extra income—we retired 15 years ago from the federal government and each have a…
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Just catching up
I went with my 2 daughters their husbands and 5 grandchildren to the beach for a week. We had a fabulous time . My 4 year old granddaughter with a disability stunned us all by swimming across a pool and back. I could not do that at 4!!!I had my own condo and they shared a large one. As my heritage is northern Irish and…
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I need help
I dearly want to travel and visit my new grandbaby in California. I had given up traveling with my husband, who is probably stage six with Alzheimer’s, because it was so very disruptive to him. But he’s in a different stage now. He no longer shadows me everywhere I go, and he no longer has the intense anxiety/delusions…
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What to do?
My wife was diagnosed with early onset 8 years ago. I have been caring for her and have been retired for 4 years. The issues are plenty, but it comes down to what seems to be total dependence on me and doing all she can to alienate my family and friends and to interfere with any hobbies or pastimes I enjoy. She wakes from…
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What a day!
DH hasn’t driven in six weeks (since his first cataract surgery). His car needed inspection this month. It’s 19 years old and not in the best shape, so I thought this was the perfect time to get rid of it. I made arrangements with the mechanic who services our car for him to call DH and say the car did not pass. perfect…
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Veterans Website for Geriatrics & Extended Care Resources
Found this link today and it's very helpful if you have a Veteran who has memory loss. It also has some educational videos for caregivers. I read a report by the NIH that Veterans exposed to Agent Orange have a 50% more chance of having Alzheimer's or Dementia. Although it's not on the presumptive list, you can file a…
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Public restrooms
DH has mixed dementia with FTD being his main diagnosis. Up until very recently, he has been able to perform his bathrooming needs on his own. This weekend we made the 4 hour trip to visit our daughter, which involves at least 2 or 3 stops to use the restroom. I can no longer pull up to the rest area and assume he can run…
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lack of interest in travel, activities, old hobbies
My husband stopped wanting to travel several years ago. Now, he doesn't even want to go to a cabin we built in the mountains. How do others cope with this? I feel like I'm destined for a life that is not really living anymore.
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Sandy's Anniversary
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Hung out with my new friend depression for a day.
My wife's symptoms are escalating faster than my tiny brain can keep up with. I have also realized this is going to go on and on for a long , long time. It won't be over any time soon. Every morning I wrestle with keeping depression at bay. I use discipline, work, meditation, exercise, golf, and stoic thoughts to keep the…