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Should I move my dad out of assisted memory care and into nursing home
We moved my dad into an assisted memory care facility over two years ago in a city 25 miles away from home. He seems content there and gets along well with the staff. Lately, we (his family) have been disappointed in some of the care he has received and feel he is not as safe as he once seemed to be. We are also concerned…
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Diagnosis needed ASAP
My dad is showing signs of dementia. He forgets things so quickly. He’s very short-tempered. This has been going on for years. He’s in denial. His mom passed away in 2011. She suffered from Alzheimer’s. How do I go about getting him some help? Do I reach out to his doctor?
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memory care to nursing home
Advice please: I have my dad in a memory care facility that is about 1 hr and 20 min. round trip. Not terrible but I'm only able to visit usually once a week. When I placed him there it was for the activities and people to talk to. That was 2 years ago. At this time he doesn't participate in any activities nor does he…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/4/24
COURAGE Genesis 1:1 NIV “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Joshua 1:9 NKJV “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Jeremiah 31:3 NIV “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you…
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how to deal with mom not knowing me
My mom sometimes knows me, sometimes no. She knows my siblings & my children. But not me. I don't know why. How do others deal with a parent not knowing you? I'm trying to wrap my head around it, be happy to be whoever she thinks I am. How do you that? Just with time?
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Mom having symptoms
My mom is 68 and has been having a difficult time. She's not diagnosed nor has she seen a doctor. But she misplaces things constantly, forgets things more, has trouble with sleep, anger and has had shifting behavior. My father has seen it as well. I'm worried and don't want to step on toes. I'm not sure what it is, and I'm…
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Home Health
Are there at home help programs for early stages of Alzheimers
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How do we have the initial conversation
My FIL has been diagnosed with dementia and we have seen a decline in his appearance and his appetite. How do we approach the subject with him? We are new to this, looking for any advice with the understanding that everyone is different. Thanks in advance.
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Adult Foster Care
I’m in Massachusetts caring for LO with Alzheimer’s full time. He’s got Medicaid and is almost approved for Adult Foster Care (AFC) which means I’d be paid a non-taxable stipend to care for him. He was evaluated as needing level II care which means he needs help with two or more ADLs and behavioral supervision. Please…
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Cycling behaviors
My 91 year old father takes care of my 93 year old mother with dementia. For the past few weeks every afternoon at about 3:00 she starts a cycle of behaviors. First, she talks for 30 minutes, not making any real sense. Then she gathers some clothes and other items and tries to leave. At this point she doesn't recognize my…
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Thank You for Caring.
CAREGIVERS WHO REALLY CARE tend to be the best people among us, and they never regret their sacrifice of love and care. Thank you!
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Hard time swallowing pills
My mom is in the last stages of Alzhiemer. Taking care of her 24/7 for the last 7 years! Recently within last 2 months she has shown difficulty swallowing pills. When I crush the ones I could and mix them with puddings or applesauce or yogurt, she still recognizes the bitter taste of the medicines and spits them out!…
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Mom thinks I’m wearing a mask
Hi all! For the past few months my mom has made comments about how I am not her daughter although I look like her. She has made comments about me wearing such a good mask because I look so much like her daughter. She also says that her daughter hates her and does not want to be around her so I cannot be her daughter when I…
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Mom turning against me
Hello all, I'm taking care of my 86 year old mother, who has Alzheimer's. I've been caring for her for a little over 1.5 years now, and she lives with me in my home. Luckily I work from home, so I can be with her 24x7 I've had to take over all facets of her life, such as medicines, financial, etc.. but she can still get…
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To correct or not....?
I am new to the support community. My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2022. She is now in an Assisted Living near me. She is always wanting to have these deep conversations with me about her living situation but never really comprehends what I tell her. She keeps referring to the Assisted living as "school" and…
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DW having paranoia about someone trying to kill her
My DW is having paranoia about someone trying to kill her. This has sprung up a couple of days ago. She 'talks' with an imaginary friend either through listening to him or by 'reading' his messages on the table top/pants leg/t-shirt/etc. This friend has recently told her that she needed to leave the house immediately as…
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Self care while caretaking - no guilt
It’s been 2.5 years of hell since my dad passed, my mom progressed and I became her caregiver, her move to AL, then MC, and she is finally safe with a plan of care. She has been in her MC for 4 months For the past 3 days, I have been on vacation in a warm and beautiful place with my best friend and we’ll be here for 6 more…
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What to do with someone that is obsessing with worms and bugs
My mother is obsessing over worms and bugs being in her and all over the floor. I am unsure how to handle this. Can someone please help me?
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Caring out of obligation. Love is gone.
I grew up thinking my mom and I were close. Sure we had our issues, and we got into major fights a few times a year, but I was always convinced it was my fault and she was a Saint to deal with me. It wasn't until around the time she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 8 yrs ago that it was brought to my attention my mom was a…
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undiagnosed parent
Hi there - This is my first time at any board or group. I've joined because neither me or my sister know what to do or how to move forward. My mother is 72 and physically very healthy, but I think that she has dementia, some form of Alzheimer's, or paranoia, or a combination. For the past two years or so she has been very…
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What do I do next?
Hi everyone. I’m new to this forum and I am finding it so so helpful. My mom was diagnosed with dementia in 2017 but was already underway. She refused to take the test to let us know if it was Alzheimer’s or not and didn’t even tell anybody. We found out in 2019 when my dad had several strokes and was hospitalized. She was…
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Tips for dealing with some issues I am having with my FIL (85)
Hello, I am primary caregiver during the day for my father-in-law who has been dealing with memory issues 10 years, diagnosed with Alzheimers 2 years ago. And Jennifer previous post about this being hard is on point. I am getting frustrated bc he can't control his bladder at night and I am washing sheets every day. He is…
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New to This
My mom (58) was recently diagnosed towards the end of 2023. We have been noticing memory things here and there for a while but she always was in denial and refused to get checked out. Last summer, my siblings and I realized her bills had stopped being paid. Then she got fired from her job unexpectedly for forgetting…
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Finding balance while managing guilt.
My mom is heavily dependent on me. Even though my mother is living in a AL, she expects and asks to see me everyday. I try to see her as much as I can as I know seeing me comforts her but I am having trouble balancing everything. In addition to caring for her, I also am trying to maintain my own household, care for my…
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Unconditional vs Obligation
The apple certainly doesn't fall far from the tree. I simply can't cope with caring for her personal challenges and then all of the other incidentals- bills, wills and care for example. I've been managing her bills, finances, doctors visits, care for 5+ years. Has it been easy, no. Has it been emotionally manageable, yes.…
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Moving Mom to Memory Care tomorrow
My mom was diagnosed almost 6 years ago with early onset Alz at the age of 59. Tomorrow, I am moving her into memory care. I am telling her a therapeutic fib that her house is getting work done so she has to stay in an apartment for awhile. I think this will suffice. I am so sad and anxious. Any advice?
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Getting HIPPA Access
How do you get HIPPA access when the person with dementia doesn't want you to have it? Right now, her sister is the only person she allows to go with her to her doctor visits. However, both her sister and my husband have medical POA's and he also has a regular POA. My husband and I moved in with her to care for her in July…
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Memory care transition and selling the house
Hi everyone. I’m new to this forum and I am finding it so so helpful. My dad was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment in 2021 and it has gotten progressively worse. His new diagnosis is VD. He is 76 and in very good physical health. My mom passed in 2020 after an extended health struggle, and my brother moved in and…
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Is this usual?
Is it usual for a doctor not to tell the patient that they have Alzheimer’s? My mom has not been told her diagnosis. I understand that it may cause depression or a feeling of hopelessness, but I truly think my mom needs to know why she is forgetting things and losing the ability to care for herself. Thoughts?