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Fiblets or Truth Telling & Distraction Techniques?
Hi, I was a frequent reader of these discussions a few years ago but found a smaller group that felt a little closer. They have ended the Kinto app/group and so I return here. When I first started reading, I heard a lot about “fiblets” or the little lies that people tell to their person to avoid confrontation or agitation.…
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ALSP support group
My mom was DX with ALSP it’s a rare/genetic for of Alzheimer.. I was wondering if there was any type of support groups even virtual support groups that anybody has or has gone through that could help me. I love to join a support group, but I don’t know where to start, Can guide me?
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The move to AL
We moved mom from my brothers house to AL Sunday. He let her do all the packing, which wasn’t much. Using the suggested packing list from the facility (very basic, toilet paper, hand soap..) he had mom pick out everything she thought she would need at the store. Based on that you can probably imagine how it went. I got to…
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Anxiety Medications for Alzheimer's Patient
My wife (76) is at an advanced stage of Alzheimer's. She suffers from extreme anxiety and yet no medication seems to help. So, my question is: Is there a stage in the progression of Alzheimer's at which no anxiety medication is effective?
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Mom's Alzheimers and wanting to go home
My mom is 77 and was diagnosed almost 3 years ago with Alzheimers. She has been steadily declining the past three years. She was born in Romania; and has been in the country for 50+ years. She keeps saying she wants to go home; I tell her she is home and she says this is not her home. I tell her we cannot travel because…
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Articept
My mother just started to take it. What should I expect to see with these med?
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Memory Care update
After a bunch of problems at my mom’s MC (staff turnover, two ER trips in 3 months, her constant complaints about the place), I looked at two other places. One owned by the same company, overlapping staff, bigger, more beautiful, and a friend’s moms had moved there, but not as good of a location. I met with current MC…
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Sundowning and agitation
Can anyone help me with suggestions to help this. My husband hasn't slept through the night in 9ver 3 yrs. He is up/down, up/down all might ling. He goes in the bathroom at least 15x a night. He's now on Flowmaster which helps during the day but he claims he doesn't actually pee every tome he goes to the bathroom. It's…
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Flew home and found mom in self neglect
I am the youngest of 7, and my mother’s only girl. I’m the favorite and so I have the best relationship with her. My mom is 74, and I noticed something was wrong last year when she was showing some short term memory loss, not answering her phone, and making excuses to not fly to Colorado to visit her kids. Saying she was…
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I'm new here..
Hello everyone! I'm new to this website. I've been feeling very alone with my mothers diagnosis. We never really been to close even though I wanted to be. She also has bipolar. It's just been hard and it's difficult to fine people who understand. I feel very alone in this.
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I need help
Hi I’m really having trouble coping with my mother.She’s been forgetting a lot lately and repeating herself. I try to remind her of something’s she can’t remember but she gets upset at me. I talk to my children about it and she gets angry because she doesn’t want everyone to no her business. I tell her that those are my…
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Mom with Vascular Dementia
My late 70s mom has been diagnosed with VD. She is also a diabetic. Her short term memory is terrible, sitting and does not talk, sleeps a lot, personality change, cries, depressed, pain (real or real to her), unstable when gets up and falls often. Does VD progress like ALZ until total loss of memory? I find it strange…
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Moving home
So, I’m moving back home to help out. I’m an only child and my dad is having trouble taking care of my mom on his own. She fell at the beginning of this year and broke her foot and her shoulder. I ended up taking FMLA to help through her healing. I’m hoping that moving home will help me feel less exhausted. I went back to…
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Just need to vent
After more than six months two doctor recommendations and a letter of incompetence I have finally convinced my brother it time to move mom to AL. She lives with him and is home alone while he is at work. I have the DPOA but it’s hard to do things without my brother on board when he lives with her. My SIL was the DPOA for…
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Getting The POA Enacted
Hi, I just wanted to know if anyone has had the POA enacted and what that process looks like if you're already the POA. My grandmother is getting worse, but she might not want to go to a care facility at the end of this year. I let her doctor know I'm the POA and I'd like to get it enacted in case we have to put her in a…
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Suggestions are appreciated
My Dad has Alzheimer’s and my mom has just been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer.she has been feeling ok until last week and is in hospital now. My Dad always wants to be with my Mom(agreat love story), but he is quite advanced. I have brought him to see her the past two days but yesterday was such a bad day for him,and I’m…
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Transitions into Memory Care..
Transitions are hard. Change is hard. Especially when there are enough thoughtful moments interwoven in the confusion….
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I’m 19 and don’t know what to do
My dad is 68 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about a month ago. this was not a surprise, I started encouraging my mom to talk to him over a year ago but it still feels real all of a sudden. I see him a couple times a week and each time he’s losing more of himself and I just don’t know what to do to support him and my…
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New drained and confused.
My mom is 84 and moderate stage.i am an only child and she move into our home nearly a year ago. I have severe anxiety over her diagnosis. Some days you can't even see symptoms and other days whew! Obvious noticeable. So some days I think diagnosis is wrong and other days I know. It's a heck of a Rollercoaster. It's so…
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Time for outside help but what kind?
My mom has dementia & is 95. She was diagnosed 3 years ago & moved in with me & my sister. I am not new to caregiving, my husband was chronically ill for 10 years & the last 2 in a hospital bed in our living room. We have always thought ourselves blessed that we both are able to work from home & care for her. My sister…
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I’m at an impasse
I am extremely frustrated! My dad refuses to comply with the doctor’s referral to see a neurologist. He’s taking memantine, which is for dementia and is in denial. My brother and sister have their own families and issues. I’m the one that’s closest geographically to my parents, so it all has fallen on my lap. However,…
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Suspected Alzheimer’s/dementia
My mom is 57. She is forgetting the answers to questions five minutes after they’re answered and forgetting what store we bought something at when we were there the day before. She didn’t remember making a decision about travel plans until I reminded her of the decision and told her why. She feels like it’s nothing. I’m…
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Not Sure How To Cope Or What To Say
Hi everyone! I'm looking for some advice from the collective brain out there. My mom's dementia had been fairly slow to progress over the last several years….until she turned 90 a few weeks ago! For some reason, it seems like it triggered something, though I'm sure it's just a coincidence. She's suddenly having moments…
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Help with "story" to get Mom to MC this Thursday
Taking Mom to MC this Thursday. She does not know about it. I see no positive to telling her about it beforehand. She is certain she is fully capable, but she is not. It is well past time for her to have 24 hour care. All of us are still working so cannot provide the 24/7 care she needs. My problem is how I'm going to get…
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Won't answer the phone
Hi Everyone - My mom is in assisted living, my Dad moved into AL in February of 2023 and then my Mom followed him in April of 2023. It wasn't safe for her alone. My Dad is in advance stages of Alzheimer's and hospice has been on the case for close to a year now. He's doing well in AL. My mom suffered a TIA last month and…
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In Home Respite Care
I am the sole caregiver of my soon to be 98 year old mother, who was diagnosed with dementia 14 years ago. As I'm sure most of you are/have been in the same situation, I've been unable to attend major family events (births, graduations, funerals, parties, etc.). Over the years I have contacted many…
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So Many Emotions
It's finally happening. I'm leaving my mom tomorrow after brunch. I'm driving 1000 miles back to my home. I'll have been gone a measly 6 weeks but it seems like a year. I can't wait to get back to my life. I'm terrified, so so sad, and feeling very remorseful. I'm also looking forward to a break from the responsibilities.…
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I believe my mother may have Alzheimer’s.
My dad is 82 and in good health. My mom is 77 and my dad and I believe she has Alzheimer’s. She will not leave the house and refuses to see a doctor. She sleeps throughout the day and gets up around 7-8pm. She argues with my dad and blames him for everything she’s feeling. This goes on almost every night until 4-5 am. She…
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The move to Memory Care....'Hotel California'
The move had to be made. That doesn't make it any easier.
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Seeing the end but not
I’m such a mixed bag of emotions. My father is the most resilient man I know, and I mean very resilient. Every time the docs have said he won’t overcome, he does, whether it’s walking post stroke, body self healing brain bleeds, malignant stomach tumor that was supposed to be the end within a matter of months but never…