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How do we transfer between facilities, if needed?
My mom (advanced dementia) is currently in a small nearby board and care (been there three months), and I'm not sure my Dad and I are happy with the care she's been given. However, the family who owns this location also has another location where there are two other staff members that are really good with Mom (they often…
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Parents
Hello both of my parents have Alzheimers. They are in a memory care facility. I am struggling with this guilt. My dad has had this for at least 10 years. He wanders the streets looking for his deceased father. I had no choice but to lie to him and tell him we were visiting mom. I cannot get over the guilt of doing this it…
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support group for my mom
Hi everyone. New to the site as of today. I am taking care of my 85-year-old mother who has dementia. She forgets short term things, but is very aware of the fact that she’s losing her memory. She’s very angry about it and in denial. I’m reaching out today because she has asked many times If there’s anyone she can talk to…
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Mom has severe dementia
my parents live in Arizona and I live in Massachusetts. Recently my mom was diagnosed with severe dementia. I’ve known for a long time she had dementia but her and my dad were in denial. Since the official diagnosis she cries multiple times a day asking when she will die. I am currently visiting them but will need to…
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New delusions
My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 3 years ago and recently things have progressed rapidly. She now has a delusion that my dad is cheating on her and believes my sister is the woman. She’s been treated for a uti/covid and started seroquel but delusions persist. She sees people that aren’t there too and cries all day.…
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medications & testing
Anyone hear of or had experience with Prozac for dementia? My mom's doctor just ordered it. Also a neurologist diagnosed her with mild cognitive impairment, when her primary doctor says dementia/Alzheimer's. MCI develops into dementia? Maybe I'm making too much out of these 'labels.' Can anyone clarify? What kind of…
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Sometimes I just don’t know if I am doing all I can
My dad is in AL. I visit 5 times a week for an hour to hour and a half. I think people’s questions make me question myself. I don’t take him out of AL. I did not bring him to our home for Thanksgiving. He still every 4 weeks or so asks how long he has to stay where he is. So this part is my fear that if I took him out he…
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Just getting started down the diagnostic path for Mom
Hello! I'm very new to this reality, and am looking for an understanding community. Apologies for the length here, it's my first time opening this up to a discussion board! My mom has had symptoms for several years, and finally agreed to a memory test and initial visit with a neurology specialist (appt was yesterday) - she…
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Trying to Plan Ahead
I have two questions: (1) for those whose parent has more income/assets than Medicaid allows and can be spent down - whose house has already been sold and no $ from it due to its age and condition. Less than $15K in savings…how are you guys paying for memory care in a facility? Husband and I have good incomes, some modest…
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Advice on visiting 'exit-seeking' parent in MC after transitioning from AL (it's complicated)
As I write it is November 20 and my mother with AD has been, first in a hospital and now currently in acute rehab, since November 10, when she fled the building where she was in AL and took a significant fall in the parking lot. My brother and I have been taking turns staying with her at these facilities so as to provide…
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Applying for Aid & Assistance Benefit from VA
Has anyone applied for Aid & Assistance from the VA for their parent? How long did it take for the VA to process the application? Were you able to obtain the A&A benefit while your parent was in memory care, or is it just for nursing home care? Any advice in general? I'm about to assemble an application for my mother, but…
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I am struggling with my mom's situation
Update - First of all, thank you to all who commented! I appreciate the knowledge simply that I am not alone! :) I spoke with my mom's doctor today; my mom does not need hospitalization at this time. My aunt is going to visit daily and assist with med mgmt. Because of the comments, I have contacted and I am waiting on a…
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New to group and need help with any suggestions
I am new to this group and would appreciate your feedback. My 95 year old mother has between MCI to mild dementia and lives in the independent living part of a Retirement Community. She enjoys the social life there and the fact that she can have all of her meals in the dining room. She functions pretty well as she is in a…
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Who do I tell about diagnosis?
My dad who lives with me,was recently diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer's Disease. He is still high functioning, but no short term memory. I am not sure he remembers the diagnosis. When I have mentioned it he becomes very upset. There has been a lot of activity with doctor's appointments, family visits, etc and he has…
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When to move to AL?
Hello, I’m new to this forum and wanted to know if anyone has had experience with when/if to move a parent from independent living to assisted living? My mom is in IL right now and her Alzheimer’s is advancing, but she can still do many things for herself. She has pretty severe anxiety and I’m worried that moving her to an…
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Im struggling...
I feel like I'm drowning... I am my dad's caretaker. He has vd. I am grieving my life I left in Texas that I left in Feb. 2022 to take care of my dad in CA. I am having trouble just functioning day to day.
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Siblings in denial
Sorry, here again, So anyone else experiencing vast differences between you and your siblings as parents walk their way through Dementia? For the most part I know how to take care of myself. Still, I am astounded at how differently we perceive my father in law's needs and what is to me, common sense. My mom had her phone…
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How Do You Know When They Really Cannot Be Left Alone?
Hi, all. I don't get on here much. Two jobs and caregiver for my Mom after I moved in with her last year. I worry about finding out the hard way that she shouldn't be left alone any longer. She is really good at covering up for her weaknesses and I feel she is still at the stage where she does not want to worry me. How…
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Transition from hospital
Hi. My mom has been in the hospital for two weeks with Covid and cellulitis. Thankfully she has recovered from both problems and is medically cleared for discharge. Prior to admission, she was living in AL but waiting for a room in MC at the same facility. A room is assigned but the current resident is waiting for an open…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/27/23
THE LORD, THE GOOD SHEPHERD Ezekiel 34:15-16 New Living Translation 15 I myself will tend my sheep and give them a place to lie down in peace, says the Sovereign Lord. 16 I will search for my lost ones who strayed away, and I will bring them safely home again. I will bandage the injured and strengthen the weak... JESUS,…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 11/11/23
CARE FOR OTHERS IS CARE FOR THE LORD! Matthew 25:31-40 New Living Translation The Final Judgment 31 “But when the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit upon his glorious throne. 32 All the nations will be gathered in his presence, and he will separate the people as a shepherd…
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How to get MIL to accept in home care?
My MIL was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year. She has always run everything for the family, and has a very strong personality, so it is extremely difficult to get her to accept any help. She is on several medications, but frequently has fits of rage. She also has been the main caregiver for my wheel-chair-bound FIL. He…
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Reality
Logically I know that my mom's processing skills are very poor, and confirmed by neuropsych testing. However I continue to find myself in the situation of explaining why... (why she can't shower without supervision, why she needs help getting dressed, why we are managing her money for her, why we prepare her meals, why she…
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Looking for in home care
Hello This is my first post. My dad passed away recently and I have become my moms primary care giver. I am looking for an individual to help me care for my mom in her home. I have been given many resources for agencies but was hoping to find an alternative. Any advice?
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How Do I Cope to be a better DIL and Spouse?
Intellectually I can understand why my MIL wants to go home and can never seem to get there. She is increasingly unhappy with us here (since we moved in with her in July, at her sisters' pleas we come RIGHT NOW). We've been able to add some respite days for the benefit of all of us through a grant that ends in about a…
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What am I doing wrong?
My mother has had MCI for several years which is slowly progressing. I decided to move her from her home in the East to California. the goal was too fine and assisted living place near us. she has been living with us for 3 months and I have no motivation to find assisted living places. We have arguments everyday and I feel…
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Toileting *TMI*
Hello everyone, my name is Claire, and I’m taking care of my mother who has early onset Alzheimer’s. She’s been diagnosed for almost 4 years now, showing symptoms for about 6-7, and has been living with me for the past 2 years so that I can care for her. I’ve been trying to put off placing her in a MCF for as long as…
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Suspected dementia: need advice
Hello! Brand new to this. Please know I'm grateful for your help. -Relocated 93 YO Mom (and elderly dog) from Florida house to indep. living near me in WA, Jan 2023. Very indep. woman; very stressful for her. -Since then, I've noticed STM loss and taken over bills. Also big changes: she has stopped her voracious reading;…