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My Mom Won't Eat
My mom has stopped eating even though she is able to still move around, bathe and dress herself and do some light housework. My dad is still alive and helps her around the house. Her weight has dropped to 75 pounds (she was about 115 most of her life) and she has lost 10 pounds in July 2022. She always was very weight…
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Qualifications for POA
I'm looking at maybe becoming POA over my parents. But I have a mental disorder and am disabled. Can I still be qualified for POA? I think if I'm able to do that, it might look like I am not too disabled as I am and my disability can be questioned and I will lose my SSDI. I am medically and mentally stable now, but that's…
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Keeping an eye on mom
Mom, 82, is showing more signs of her dementia. She is already stressed out trying to take care of dad who also has dementia. Her memory is getting worse. She can't drive anymore because she don't remember where she wants to go. She misplaces things all the time. Today she forgot her keys and would have locked herself out…
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New here, looking for support
My mom has been on a steady cognitive decline over the past 2 years after a big fall and some medications she was placed on. We have not been given the diagnosis of Dementia due to the fact that she will not get tested and gets extremely angry when it is suggested. (She has always had anger issues and does not let anyone…
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Not taking tablets
My mom has dementia. Unless someone is with her, she misses her tablets. Is a pill box a good idea? Or do we need to get a carer to come and supervise.
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Completely Overwhelmed!!
There’s so much I don’t even know where to start! My mom’s heath issues started in 2019. She was diagnosed with CHF and we have been to ER a hand full of times for that. Now she has stage III kidney disease. I’m assuming do to the meds she takes for her heart condition what I gather from the cardiologist. My 12 year older…
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Mom Laughed at not remembering
I am just remembering a recent exchange I had with MIL. She said I am having trouble remembering things. I told that's okay, we are here to help you. Then she said there is something I need to ask you. I said what is it? She said I don't remember!! And we all laughed. I hope I don't offend anyone...sometimes laughter is a…
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Borderline dementia
Hello, I'm new here and thankful to find some support. I take care of my father who lives with me. He has had dementia symptoms for the two years he has lived with me, so his dr. suggested an evaluation. He had an occupational therapy driving test which said he was fine to drive and a Neuroquant MRI which showed brain…
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How do I hide away important papers?
When locking away important papers, what do you tell your loved one? I care for my mom. Three years ago pre-diagnosis, we made a go-bag together, including all the most important documents out of her filing cabinet. Since then, far down the Alzheimer's road now, she needs to look through that bag about once a month. She…
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Caregiving mixed with trauma from parents’ marriage
My parents have been unhappily married for four decades. Essentially, they hate each other, which I view as a foundational trauma of my life—that they remain married I mean. My mother has what seems to be stage 6 dementia and right now, by necessity, my father is the primary caretaker. He’s worked hard at being patient and…
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Dementia hereditary?
Since both my parents have dementia, am I a high risk of getting dementia too? Also, I heard mental illness can increase chance of getting dementia. I take mood stabilizers, lamictal, and lithium. My psychiatrist said lithium can reduce chance of dementia. Plus I have MCI due to drug induced Parkinson's but the offending…
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Slip Sliding Away
My dad seems to be moving into another slide. Last week when we went to the doctor with him, he turned and looked at me and didn't know who I was. I took it rather well with him, I just said it's (my name). And then he knew. Today, he told me he didn't know where he was. He doesn't know he is in his own apartment. He…
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Hello - My Story
Hello! I had been to the ALZ website before looking for support groups and just saw this discussion community! How wonderful because I was having trouble with trying to attend a group. My story - DH is an only child. My FIL just passed away 8 months ago, leaving my MIL. DH and I didn't quite realize the extent to which FIL…
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Another Question: Medication
My Mom again is in the early stages of vascular dementia: she is fearful to take the prescribed dementia medication from her doctor and I have finally gotten her to start taking it. It is to be taken in the evening and makes her nauseous… how proactive and assertive should I be with her taking this medication?
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Talking to strangers online
I am new to this group and am taking care of my dad who has mild to moderate alzheimers....I had to move in with him to help take care of him but I still work full time. My problem is that lately had been talking to several different woman online from social media or dating sites.. . I know he is lonely but I don't know…
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Support Group My Mother & I Can Attend
My mother is at the early stages of dementia and it is getting more difficult. Is there a support group I can attend with her to teach us both how to cope. When I step in to help further her, she gets very frustrated... and later understands she needs help. She often tells me the doctor's are wrong, so maybe if she learns…
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New to mothers ALZ
Hello - I'm Erik and I have been holding so much emotion inside since my mom's formal diagnosis of ALZ. My family lived a very tumultuous life as a child leading to my parents always living a part. My mom went onto 3 ex-husbands in search of love, while raising 3 boys on her own. She found her prince of 20 years who is a…
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New here- multiple questions
I have many questions regarding my mother and her decline. Should I start separate threads for each issue or just include it all in one post? Thanks for any advice. Once I have an idea of the best way to use this forum, I'll share my questions.
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Want to connect with others whose parents have long-term mental health issues
I'm new here and looking to connect with people who are caring for parents with long-term mental health issues. My mother was finally diagnosed with co-occurring AD and clinical depression after a suicide attempt in December 2021. However, she has a long history of untreated mental health problems. Her depression and…
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2nd guessing decisions while caregiving
Hi everyone happy Sunday. I have had a whirlwind and just need to vent. Any thoughts/ideas welcome. 1) Mom is cleared for shunt surgery Thursday (two x almost not cleared last week: A1c was high, which through new medication and diet we miraculously lowered enough in 2 months; cardiologist had concerns re hypertension).…
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Mom is 64, living with dementia and becoming more shut-off
My mom is 64 and has dementia. Recently, we moved her out of her condo and into an independent living community. Problem is, she's focusing on the fact that she is 15-20 years younger than most of the people living there. She's become more insular and cut-off because of this. She does not want to be around old people is…
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Too Much
I moved into mom’s home to care for her 2 1/2 years ago. I gave up my career!!!! This caregiving business is HARD and not too pleasant at times. Alzheimers Association offers some support groups, but not too many. Are there any support groups that are not thru the association? Are there any free groups, activities that I…
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Drastic Change in Posture
Hi all! My mom is 70 and I am her 27 yo daughter/caregiver. Over the summer we placed her in a memory care unit due to her FTD getting worse. Last month, within a week her posture drastically changed. She is hunched over and she is unable to move her head up (her chin is touching her chest). She was just evaluated by a…
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Mom with dementia
My 81 year old mom was diagnosed with dementia about a year ago. It just recently just got really bad really fast. I live about an hour away and help a lot with stuff but can't be there every day. I'm having a tough time getting her to take her meds & getting her to remember things. Does anyone have any ideas. Sticky…
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Geriatric Physician Recommendations in Florissant or West County St. Louis
My mom and dad have had the same doctor for 20 years. My mom is having trouble caring for my dad who is showing signs of dementia. Their doctor yeais dismissive of my mom's concerns, and even suggested we just drop my dad off at the ER if he becomes too much for her to handle. Is there a doctor that anyone in this group…
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Help mom with Alzheimer’s
My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in March of this year and she still will not acknowledge the diagnosis she she is convinced there is a conspiracy with all the doctors and me her only daughter that we are out to get her my moms GP has had her drivers license revoked and blames the doctor and me for that and anyone…
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I already feel better!
My mom was diagnosed with the early onset of dementia in 2015 (65) but didn’t tell anyone. She responds with, “who doesn’t have memory issues as they age” or “I took my THC gummy before the Dr and that’s why I couldn’t draw the numbers on the clock”! Let me go back to June ‘23 when she was living alone and my son received…
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Strange behavior
Hi, I’m not sure if this is related to my moms dementia, but I’m noticing some strange things that she is doing. For example I found a lot of folded toilet paper everywhere in her drawers and in between her clothes. We noticed we were running out of toilet paper vey fast too. Not sure that it’s about and if certain…
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Prepaid Caregiver(s) Card?
I'm new to this community and hoping you can share any resources that are out there. My parents have multiple caregivers and I am looking for one prepaid, reloadable card that can be used by multiple caregivers (no name attached) on behalf of my parents. The caregivers buy groceries, lunch, medicine etc. at different…
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Mom was diagnosed when I was 21. Anyone else out there like me?
I’d love to connect with those of us whose parents got an early-onset diagnosis while you were / are in your 20s. My mom died 3 weeks ago after an 8 years battle with the disease and I feel so out of place in support groups with folks who at their youngest got the news while they were in their mid to late 30s.