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It’s happening quickly
My dad’s symptoms are the following: •Can’t hold a conversation. Always asks who we’re talking about. •Doesn’t remember friends & family members •Stumbles sometimes but no falls yet. •Forgot that yogurt goes in fridge. •Did not remember my son in a photo. I’m concerned that he has advanced significantly to another stage,…
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Wondering the stage
Over past 2 weeks lo has been picking poop out of her depends. She also places it in the depends bag with clean depends and in clean baby wipes container and other random places. In IWhat Stage does this occur and is this something people with dementia do??
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Struggling with guilt/unhealthy relationship with parents
My mom is 70 and has dementia…my dad is her primary caregiver but he is also somewhat in denial about how rapidly her condition is progressing (initially she was diagnosed with MCI - Mild Cognitive Impairment - about three years ago, and they are reluctant to get a more current diagnosis). I'm in my early 40s, work…
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Communication help with angry paranoid delusions
Hi, I'm new here. I'm in a somewhat unusual situation in that I live on the25-acre property of a friend with dementia. We've been friends for 40 years. When I moved into the rental cottage up the hill from his house, I could see the signs of short-term memory loss. Since then he's declined a lot especially rapidly in the…
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Bitter Sweet
Today is my LO's last day in her house. She doesn't really understand time any longer so she won't be upset until that moment of clarity and understanding occurs. I've lived with her here in SC for 1 month now. I'm 1000 miles away from my home. I just want to go home to my life and I feel relieved that day is almost here.…
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Mom had dementia, now dad has it.
Hi, my mom passed on about 6 years ago after dealing with early onset Alzheimer's. Now my dad has been diagnosed with it, and I just came here for some support because, although he's not in the advanced stages yet, I'm starting to see changes in his memory. It reminds me of what my mom went through and how I felt when she…
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Concern for parents mom is showing memory loss
My parents still live in thier home. They are able to do thier adls and drive. My dad is 89 and mom is 84. My mom is showing memory loss angry and not able to navigate reading mail and paying bills. I am not sure what to do next week. I have been avoiding getting too involved with Dr appts etc. We work hard on keeping them…
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Dementia vs stage 4 lung cancer - advice needed
For those who have experience being a caregiver for someone who has significant co-morbidities, could you help me understand how to address my MIL’s changing needs? MIL is almost 92. She has had lung cancer for 10 years. The oncologist believes the tumors are very slow growing due to two immunotherapy treatments 7 years…
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Feeling down
Might have to move my mom. Lots of problems at her place. Three more people moved out. She’s deteriorating. Looking at other places, and meeting with the director next week. She went to the ER last Wednesday again (long story, she’s fine) and there was no follow up, except by staff who really do care about her. Their…
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What do I do?
Hello everybody. I'm from São Paulo Brazil. My mon had herpes zoster in her eye last year and had some mental problems afterwards. Her geriatric told me she was in the early stages of Alzheimer, to which I wasn't prepared. She lived by herself and did all on her own. After the herpes, I brought her to live with me. In the…
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First time out
Today I took my mom out for an adventure from her LTC facility. She has been there for 3 weeks and I thought i would see if she could handle going to familiar places with me. Wrong,,, she did not recognize our house which I am glad for, since we just needed to just stop in and drop off the dog. She had no clue this was…
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Looking for tips with sundowning episodes
Hello everyone, very glad to have found this forum. So my mom’s dementia has progressed fairly fast since 2022. For the last month or so her sundowing episodes have been overwhelming. I would appreciate any tips and tricks you can share. Thank you in advance. 🙂🙏🏻
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Grieving my dad
Hello everyone, I'm new here and I hope it's ok for me to post here even though I'm not a caregiver. I'm 24. My dad was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia almost 6 years ago, during the summer between my freshman and sophomore years of college. My parents are both in their early 60s and my mom is my dad's primary…
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Father on a fixed income
My dad is located in CA and is living on a small fixed income (less than $2,000 a month). He has zero savings and I am not in a position to help fiscally or in a position to have him live with me. Trying to find any additional help has been impossible. Does anyone know of organizations that help. He is currently in a…
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Power of Attorney
Hi. I'm new here. My mom is 90 and was diagnosed with vascular dementia about five years ago. The decline had been relatively slow, but getting significantly faster the last few months. I'm wondering about POA. While there's an advanced directive in place, I never thought about POA because 1) I'm the only child, 2) there's…
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Moving MWD To Indiana
Hi! My mom who lives in FL was diagnosed with ALZ in June 2023. It has progressed quickly that by December was confusing me with her deceased sister, missing medications, taking the next morning of meds after every nap, forgetting where my brother & I live etc. She lives alone in FL but has a boyfriend who comes over daily…
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POA and Uncle who is mad and is threatening to change it
Hi everyone. My sister and I are new to taking care of our Uncle who has dementia. My Aunt (his wife of 70 years) died last year. We have started seeing that he is declining. He says he has a million dollars in a bank that consumers can't even have accounts, he just went out and bought a brand NEW truck for 65k in cash and…
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How do I best help Mom, the caregiver?
Hello~ first post. My parents both turned 80 and Dad was officially diagnosed with stage 5 Alzheimer’s dementia the same week. His progression through early stages was very slow~ we’ve noticed little things for seven or so years~ but he had COVID in January, and the big slide began… I live 90 minutes away from them with my…
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Catheter
My dad, 88, with VD, has an indwelling catheter due to inability to void due to enlarged prostate. He refuses to take meds for enlarged prostate. Lately he's been asking the urologist to discontinue the catheter. He didn't want to wear it for the rest of his life. I understand it is very uncomfortable and painful. He asked…
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Mom is hitting; is it reasonable to expect an action plan?
I'm new here, struggling to find some info so any help is appreciated! - also, sorry for how long this is. Last fall, my sister and I convinced our dad to put Mom in memory care. She's advanced enough that she can't manage personal hygiene or communicate her needs effectively. Mom has this fun thing where she often has…
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Feeding tube - Resource that's helping me discern this - (Catholic perspective)
Hello ALZ Connected, I've received much love and support over the years from ALZ Connected and ALZ specialists that I thought I would share a resource with you all. Since I'm Catholic this post is from the Catholic perspective. I think it could benefit anyone though going through deciding what's right, or not right, when…
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Activities for PWD
Anyone have ideas to help keep PWD active and engaged with something to do? I'm sure it depends on the stage. When I'm able to make a weekday, daytime visit to mom's MC, I sometimes find her sitting among the group that is doing an activity, but she is rarely participating in it. I have gotten her to do things like…
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Tough Decision
I’ve posted a lot about mom’s move to MC and how amazing her facility handled things. She’s been there since August and it’s been hard (as expected), but mostly positive. Of course she says she wants to leave sometimes but I think everyone feels that. Now, it turns out the former director - who left shortly before my mom…
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Brand New to This- Mom will NOT go to the Dr. but she's definitely developing dementia.
I'm going to have to care for my 83 yr old mom without an official diagnosis, but her mom died of Alzheimer's and now my mom is heartbreakingly losing her grasp on memory, reality and her own personality. My mom has been my rock my whole life and is such a generous loving soul. Sometimes I don't know who she is when she…
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Vascular dementia, alcohol abuse, presenting well around others and friends who tell her she's fine.
I am taking care of my 74 yr old aunt who has vascular dementia (middle stages) and suffers from alcohol abuse. I moved her 1yr ago from STL to SFO and got her an apt where my 77yr old father stays with her for company. She had been having falls regularly in STL and when I moved her she had just had 12 staples remove from…
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Mom long distance
Hello, I'm new here, my mom was diagnosed with dementia a year ago, and has been on aricept ever since. She seems almost back to normal. Almost that is. She got this diagnosis after a head injury. Could she have possibly been misdiagnosed?
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Assets
I'm trying to determine what kind of assets are considered income for my parents to qualify for Medicaid and Long term care. I've been calling around for services for my parents when the time comes.
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Losing Drivers License
My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in Sept and the doctor sent a letter to the DMV to suspend her drivers license. She's had an MRI, a Fit To Drive exam and an in office exam and they all indicate that the diagnosis is correct. She is adamant that she is ok to drive and refuses to give up her keys, her car or driving. My…
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All Alone...Only in her mind
The feeling of being alone with only her confused thoughts can be terrifying….. #JoyInAlzheimer's simplebender.com
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VOICES
Hello , I'm not really sure how to deal with the voices my mom hears all the time , I have been entertaining it by telling her they cant hurt her and that I wont let anyone near her ? Am I doing the right thing ? I just don't want to create confusion by telling her they all-in her head should I dismissed it ? She gets mad…