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Recovery of very elderly LO from broken hip
I would like to hear from other people and what their experiences have been. My extremely elderly LO is in a MC. She was doing well for the instant. I knew there would continue to be ups and downs. She is supposed to use a walker and of course sometimes resisted. Anyway she fell in her room. Probably getting out of bed.…
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65th Anniversary coming up—I need suggestions!
Hello everyone, my parents’ 65th anniversary is coming up in a few months. My dad is in independent living and very social. He would love to see friends to celebrate. My mom is deep into dementia and lives in the same complex in memory care. She can walk, talk and eat well but her memory is gone. She doesn’t know who I am,…
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Mom thinks she still works - she doesn't.
First- THANK YOU for any response. I am the eldest daughter, and my father is the primary caregiver of my Mom who has been officially diagnosed with Amnestic MCI (doc suspects we are heading into early stage AD.) Mom is starting a new trend of getting ready for work each morning and telling my Dad that she is going into…
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Consider what levels of physical care they can provide when looking at MC for the elderly
If you have an elderly LO and are looking at MC make sure you check out under what medical conditions they can stay. Some will not take people in wheelchairs. Some will only take people who can get in and out of the wheelchair with a single assist. But many will allow residents who need more help to stay. At what point…
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Is mom ready for MC? How advanced is her Alzheimer’s?
Hello and thank you for this valuable community. I’m new to these boards and am appreciative of the discussions. I think that my 88yo mother has moderate to advanced Alzheimer’s. I haven’t figured out what stage she is in yet. She lives in AL and can generally care for her personal functions. Her memory is shot. She can…
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Wanting to go home
Hello, My mom was diagnosed with ALZ a year ago. Due to her diagnosis, we relocated her to a memory care center. The center is very nice and has many amenities and I visit weekly. She is high functioning and able to take care of many ADLs herself. She constantly talks about moving home which is unfortunately not an option…
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Nighttime bedwetting
Hi. I am new to this site. My.mom has moderate alzheimers at this point. She has always been very Independent and was always her wish to be as Independent as possible. We have help during thr day but she is alone at night, which was fine til now as she follows her regular routines and we have a camera in her room to…
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In-home memory care
Wondering if anyone knows of in-home memory care or resources for my mother who has early-mid stage Alzheimer’s and is recently widowed. She doesn’t need full-time care yet (and is resistant to it), but my sister’s and I were thinking it would be great to incorporate more routine and maybe someone who could play cards with…
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Chosing a facility
Questions to ask before choosing an assisted living facility (msn.com)
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having a glass of wine with dinner while on Seroquel for dementia hallucinations
My mom is in early ish stage of dementia and started taking the lowest dose fo seroquel twice a day for her delusions. She still has those delusions but they control her a bit less and she's more manageable and acts like herself more often now. I know you're not supposed to have alcohol when youre on Seroquel. My mom is…
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Question about Ongoing Issue with LO
Hello all. My husband and I are caring for his mother who has Dementia. She is having an ongoing issue that we have taken her to multiple doctors for with no real answers. We are wondering if anyone may have experienced similar issues. Our LO says she feels like she has tons of phlegm or saliva in her throat all the time.…
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Need to see Neurologist
Hey all, Dad is showing an uptick in hallucinations/paranoia and delusions. He lives on a memory care floor of a healthcare community. He was seen by the Nurse Practitioner with the physchiatry group last week and started a new med, seroquel. I have requested a urine catch to check for UTI. The floor RN suggested I take…
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Taking care of yourself......
Hello all, So much great information here, and I've learned so much reading all the messages. 99% of the messages talk about the patient, and rightfully so. However, what do you do to take care of yourselves as caretakers? I've served in the military and have seen and dealt with things no person should ever have to deal…
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Dreading today
Hi All- New to this forum. Thanks everyone for being open and offered support. Makes you realize there are so many of us in the same boat. Caring for my homebound/immobile Mother for the past two years. Diagnosis of Dementia/AlzD/Lewy........even the experts can't figure this thing out. Mom took a turn Saturday morning and…
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When to move to long term care/Memory Care?
Hi everyone, I'm new here. My 72 YO mother has been diagnosed with MCI/probable early stage dementia. While she can still generally care for herself (she lives alone and cleans/grocery shops/cooks for herself, although I take care of all her finances, medical care needs and any and all tech/mechanical logistics). She's…
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Memory Care Resources
Hi, I’m new here and feeling overwhelmed with trying to narrow down the good memory care facilities. Are there any trusted resources to help me with this? I want to get a leg up on it, and I have seen people mentioning needing to get on a waiting list. My mom seems to be stage 5, and maybe heading into stage 6. Thank you…
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New to group - medications?
Hi, My mother has early onset Alzheimer’s and she is not on any medication. Should we be asking her doctor for medication to slow symptoms? We are going to buy a Vielight helmet for photobiomodulation therapy at home as well as I plan to take her to receive hyperbaric oxygen therapy weekly. She’s also taking mold binders…
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Tired of explaining
I'm really tired after my mom's first week in memory care. She is doing ok there but I had a lot of things to handle in addition to her move, so a bit wiped out here. How do you handle questions and suggestions from concerned people in your LO's life who don't have enough contact to be realistic about the situation? I am…
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Visiting LO at Nursing Home
I am struggling with seeing my Mom at the nursing home. I usually go once a week. The past couple of months it's been less. She is in the late stages, doesn't talk, losing all her teeth, bedridden, can't walk, feed herself, always tired, sometimes stares out into the distance, shakes, and doesn't know what's going on or…
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No memory loss
My mother started hearing alarms at night last summer. Then she started smelling things, hearing music, and now has delusions at night. Her memory is excellent and she thinks these delusions she has at night are real. She has had a few during the day but mostly during the night. Has anyone heard of anything similar? Thank…
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Chemical sedation?
My dad (77) has Alzheimer's and is now in a VA-supported nursing home after a number of scary hospitalizations left us with no real alternatives. Recently I was visiting and found him sound asleep. I waited for over 30 minutes, making some noise here and there but he didn't wake. Eventually I went out to talk to one of the…
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Income After Being in a Home
Good evening everyone, My mom had been receiving retirement income monthly from SSA prior to being in a home. What happens now that she is in one? Can I use her future deposits for a prepaid funeral? Does it just keep depositing into her bank? Does it stop? An update: The home told us no family visits for a couple of weeks…
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Only child, always the enemy
Hi, New here! My husband and I moved my mom in with us about 6 weeks ago because we and her physician agreed that she couldn't live independently anymore. Her dementia is not advanced but she was forgetting to eat and take meds and falling. We created a bedroom (in our dining room) and set up our living room as a sitting…
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So sad the time has come
Hi. I have posted on here a few times. My heart is breaking; it is time we are going to be placing my Dad (w/ALZ), into MC. He is in the hospital (several states away, in my hometown/State, from where I live) with pneumonia. He is recovering and feeling better, but still confused, today. My mom, just had surgery a little…
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Overwhelmed….Just a bag of emotions
Hello everyone. This is my very first time ever posting on anything on any platform, but I’m certainly not above, asking for insight/advice for someone like me who is new to this. My mother is a 62-year-old woman who has officially been diagnosed with dementia two months ago. What we have learned is, my mother is actually…
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POA
I'm trying to get my mom to appoint POA to either my nephew or me. How can I convince her? Does she have to be present with us to see the CELA for approval? It has been difficult to discuss the urgency and necessity for POA. I am disabled and am on Medicaid. Can I still be able to have financial POA without affecting my…
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Their reality
I understand that the “reality” of the dementia patient shouldn’t be questioned. For example, if they ask where their spouse is (passed away) you can just tell them s/he is out shopping, or something. But this reality my sister is experiencing is too shocking and mean spirited to go along with. She said her stepdaughter…
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Searching for a at home caregiver (6 hrs a week) for Denver
Hi-My mother has early ALZ and is presently being taking care of my by my competent brother and father, but they need support! I am a long-distance helper trying to find a great caregiver to come support 3-6 hrs a week but having trouble navigating the millions of options and would love a referral. Does anyone have someone…
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Hi
How was you all able to take your mom or dad to the doctor for there appointments because I am having a hard time.