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Camera in memory care
Does anyone have a recommendation for a good camera to place inside of a memory care room? My father's MC allows for it - but wondering which brand works best? Thank you!
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Rehashing the past
My husband has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and is taking medication for it, ong with lots of other meds. Tonight he wanted to rehash my past dating and sexual encounters because he just "wants us to be honest." We have been married almost 40 years. He was recounting boyfriends I had before him and what he…
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Hot water
My wife has EO and almost without fail, We go to the gym and workout every M-W-F. The hot water heater was not working this morning at our place. My wife would not go to the gym today because she was worried that the hot water would be out there too. After trying to convince her that the two hot water sources were not in…
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Meeting with CELA/Irrevocable trust?
At my son's request, we met yesterday with the CELA who prepared our DPOA documents about two years ago. My son was hoping that my DH (who has been extremely uncooperative) could be compelled to accept care under this document, which was not the case, the lawyer told us, because "dementia is not a mental illness" and those…
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Just need to talk to my friends (190)
I typed a long post on comments and then couldn't find a way to post it. So I'll try this. I won't type much - just to see if it works. Ron, so sorry about Little Bit. I know how you feel. I know he has been a lot of company to you through your caregiving time - his memories will always be with you just as the memories of…
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New format
Maybe I'm too old for all of this. Makes me wonder why change was needed. Seems like caregivers have enough on their plate without having to learn something new in order to find answers to their questions. I agree with the others who commented about the new format - if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Just my opinion and I…
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Hospice question(4)
I've read many post where a lot have been on hospice a couple of years. A friend told me her father with dementia was on hospice for over 4 years. I thought life expectancy had to be around 6 months in order to qualify. Has anyone here had hospice for LO over 2 years? At my husband's last (PCP) doctor visit, doctor…
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Questions n
How do I get to the Spouse and caregivers forum to read posts?
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I need input on a different topic
I have a son who is mildly mentally handicapped. About four or five years ago, he tried to commit suicide by loading a rifle in a gun shop, then shooting himself in the head. The bullet grazed his head, and he was arrested. He was court ordered into a state hospital, and spent more than a year there. Long story short, he…
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Loss of brain function with new alz. meds?
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seroquel and ativan
Hospice has put DH on Seroquel and ativan to help with his nighttime wanderings in memory Care. That seems to have helped but he seems very drowsy. He had been walking the halls for hrs at night. Anyone else have their loved on these meds? This is my first post on the new format for this forum.
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wish I knew when future would begin again
I'm so bored with changing diapers, and bringing my DH food that he may or may not eat. He will go for days not eating much at all then he will spend a day eating everything in sight. I know Hospice told me there would be ups and downs but I am tired of it. He can't get out of bed and yesterday he stopped talking. Vascular…
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The Lost Years
It has been over six months since I wrote The Cavalry Is Not Coming, and I am happy that my message was able to bring a measure of clarity and peace to so many of you. That message summarized my experience with the fact that we are alone in this ordeal: No one is really coming to help us, the medical community is…
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What Alzheimers leaves
This is a piece of paper it looks blank but if you look in the middle you'll see a mark going down the page. That is the mark that my dw made with a ball point pen when she got super frustrated. She would bear down with all her might and gouge the note book. It usually ruined the pen and the note book. I needed some paper…
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Just need to talk to my friends (189)
Morning, Thought it was about time to start a new segment of our thread. Sounds like it's a gloomy, cold day everywhere. I know it is here - it's cold and the north wind is blowing. The girls were down around the house this morning drinking clean water and grazing some. Saw two of the tiny babies and talked to them. Good…
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What is a friend?
We all know how friends seem to disappear when dementia hits. But what are friends? At my age, just about all of my friends have moved away or they died. There was a young couple who moved into the house behind ours, back around 1973. They are still there, while I have moved 3 times since then. Occasionally I will run into…
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How to reconnect with a member
When someone figures out how to reconnect (private message with) with another member, please post instructions. I didn't see instructions for that, hopefully we still have that option.
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Communication frustration
My partner stumbled and fell a couple of weeks ago trying to close a curtain in the MC dining area. She got right up and wasn't apparently hurt, and they did call me at the time; we decided to just watch her. But since then her back had been hurting more, and she is staying in bed more and continues to isolate in her room.…
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Hasn't been
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Crushed, Butterfly Wings, Cinsababe, abc123
I used our horrid search function for hunt up Cinsababe’s last post. As near as I can tell, it’s been over a year since we have heard from her. The last post I saw had concerns about her DH’s aggressive behavior. Butterfly Wings had replied to that post. I think BW disappeared from our forums in the summer of 2022. Then…
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a Poem--- Pearls at dawn
I was in a Poetry mood this morning inspired by the memory of waking up with DW still wearing her pearls. Pearls at Dawn I love to think of ladies’ pearls From dowagers to teen age girls They come from oysters large and small White or colored, love them all A pearl necklace around the neck At weddings or the discotheque…
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The Velveteen Rabbit
When we were married, almost 44 years ago, the priest added this reading to our wedding ceremony from a children’s book, “The Velveteen Rabbit” by Margery Williams. My sister read it at the ceremony. I happened to come across it on the internet and was thinking how much of a deeper meaning it has now. "What is REAL?"…
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Neither Married Nor Single
My daughter suggested I might want to read this book. I'm glad she did. It is the story of a professional couple in Vancouver, Canada and how they found out about and dealt with her Alzheimer's diagnosis. I read the first chapter in the online preview pages and immediately ordered a copy. For anyone interested it is…
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You need to read this NOW
I expect this to be much better than the last one. She offered a free 5 day course 2 or 3 years ago, which I took her up on. I thought it was excellent. https://www.dementiacareclass.com/product-launch-landing-page1646772803737
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I am not ready for this
I’m a private person. Regret doing this. Not continuing.
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Re: new platform
If there are threads that you want to refer back to, be aware that bookmarks from the current platform probably will not work on the new platform. Also, you will not be able to search for a particular thread by date, because the archived threads will all have the same date, or close to the same date. This is how it…
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Just Want to Hug Him One More Time
I have not posted nor read much on this forum the last three weeks as DH was in a new MC center and I was staying away from visiting for two weeks so he could get acclimated. I talked to him once on the phone and he was happily singing "The Rain in Spain" with one of the caregivers. I was about to call and ask if I could…
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Imposter syndrome
DH finally was able to have CT of head completed last week and it shows no mass, lesion or bleed, no midline shift, grey-white matter differentation normal, ventricles clear, symmetrical and normal in size, no hydrocephalus, no abnormal intracranial enhancements, mild carotid artery stenosis – an essentially normal CT. It…
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So stressed
Here’s what’s happened: 10/14 DH is independent. Drives, cooks, etc. 10/15 DH in geripsych for one month 11/15-1/5 DH in MC. Develops UTI. Becomes incontinent and has extreme aphasia. 1/13-1/30 DH in hospital. 1/30-3/9 DH in different geripsych where I was told he was the most difficult patient they’ve had. My options were…
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Lilly clinical trial
Saw an ad on TV soliciting participants for a trial of a new AD med. DW said "I wonder if that might help me" so I went on line and signed her up. We'll see how it goes.